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Q: In a week will be my first day of a new school, so i want my skin to look good. I have a severe acne problem, its all over my face. the dermatoogist gave me retin-a micro and benzaclin and a sulfur wash but its just not working. i rele want clear skin or atleast clear enough toput make up over it by when school starts. any tips or natural remedes?

I used to have the SAME porblem don't worry. What I do is just go out and get sun on it no sunscreen or anything cuz that makes it worse but just let it burn and after a while of doing this is gets a lot better!! Good luck!!

Q: i just found out my boyfriend is gay...this is so weird...what do i do? i still love him a lot and just "being friends" would be really awkward ...im so confused!

Well the best thing you could do for him is support him. I think it's hard enough for him to have to tell you because this is all probably harder for him. It's understandable that you love him still, but maybe try to love him like a brother. (if you know what I mean) Don't lose him as a friend just because he's gay. Good Luck!

Q: Okay, my basketball team ALWAYS loses.... except for once. Yeah we suck. But what should I do?

Haha. Well as long as your having fun with your teamates, thats all that counts. Good luck in future games!!

Q: I just moved to a new school and I'm finding it really hard to make some friends (i'm in 9th). and it just gets really lonley on the weekends because I don't like do anything. And my friends from my old school, I don't talk to them anymore. I don't know if there is any advice you can give me (besides that whole join a sport because I am doing a sport in the spring) and join a club because I am already in some and they arent very helpful with meeting people. Any advice??

Well I would go out there an introduce yourself to differant people. Go see if there are any people in your school who seem to be in the same situation as you, or somebody that doesn't have a lot of friends. Don't be afraid of what people say about them though because you never know what they're really like until you go and really get to know them. Good Luck!

Q: I am not racest at all..but I have a problem..Okay well I have a really good friend..hes black..im white..I have liked him for about a month now..I really like him..hes all I think about! I found out a week ago that he liked me and wanted to go out with me..he even wrote the sweetest peom ever about me..I cant go out with him because my mom would flip if i went out with a black person..she just doesnt believe in black and white..and neither do some of my friends..It just wouldnt work..I really like this kid and I need to get over him! what should I do?! please help...

I think you should go out with him anyways. Forget what everyone else says, if you love him and care about him, you should see what happens. You guys both really like each other so you should be able to get past all this. OR you could always just keep it a secret. I think its wrong NOT to go out with him. Good Luck and tell me what happens!!

Q: Okay during the summer i lost my virginity to this guy, well tonite i went over to his house and we are like best friends now but i miss him and i really want him.. it makes me sad to see him cuz he is always talking to girls and never talks to me about what happened should i tell him how i feel or not

I would tell him how you feel. It sounds to me as if he may like you to, and he is making you jealous. ;-) Well, give it a try. What do you got to lose? Good Luck!!

Q: im so nervous around my b/f cuz i never know what to say! any ideas? thank you!

Just be yourself!! He feel in love with that!

Q: I know that I might sound a little jealous or over protective but just put yourself in my shoes for a minute.... Ok my boyfriend cheated on me a couple weeks ago and I gave him another chance, but I can't trust him anymore, Well tonite he is goin over to his ex-girlfriends house to help her with her "homework", i am really worried and I am also scared.. I was messing around and asked him if I said it was ok if he would do something with his ex and he said hell ya and I said well im not giving you permission. But do you really think that is going to stop him? Any ways i am really confused.. if you help me I will definetly rate you!! thanks

You have every right to be worried!! I think that's great that you gave him another chance and he should seriously get with it and taken that for a warning. Talk to him and tell him that if you catch him doing things or even there that he's doing things with another girl, then your calling it quits. Good Luck!!

Q: My husband and I are in our mid-40's with no children and have just completed building a second home (our dream home) on a lake near the mountains. It is a one bedroom house that took almost 4 years of our lives to build and every penny we could scrape together.

My husband has friends from out of the area that want to "freeload" on us...and he thinks it is great! The more the merrier and the bigger the party!

His friends are all married and all have many children. They want to come up in groups and stay with us. This past weekend several families camped at a campground a few miles away, but "stayed" at our place the entire weekend...the only thing they did at the campground was sleep (and thank goodness for that).

When they entere the house to use the bathroom, or whatever, they would go through drawers and look behind closet doors.

I do not want these people in our house, much less there when we are not there.

Please give me advise on how to get my husband to understand my position.

These folks are nice I suppose, but they all drink a lot (even in front of children) and influence my husband to do the same, to miss church and to ignore business calls when they are around. We are professionals, they all have 8 to 5 jobs with little to no responsibilities and not a lot of income.

My husband wants to give them a key and the code to the burgular alarm system.

We are headed straight for a divorce, I am afraid without help...and he refuses to see a counselor, although I did spend several months last year in counseling alone.

Thank you for any advise you can share with me.

Try sitting him down and talking to him. Tell him exactly what you typed here. He should understand and if he doesn't then I think a divorce would be best for you. Talk to his friends too and tell them that you would like a little privacy with your husband and aren't really getting what you need with them around all the time. I hope I helped and Good Luck!!

Q: ok i do alot of modeling. ever since i was little ppl told me i should b a model. im like 5'5 and 98 pounds. im not anorexic even tho ppl think i am but i dont care lol. well i spend alot of time modeling and im really tired n dont have alot of time but i dont want to cut back. should i cut back and model a little less or should i just deal with it? thanx much

Well try taking a little break from modeling and se how that works out. If nothing seems to change then I guess you should go back to modeling and deal with it. But if it seems to help then cut back and only do it every so often.

Q: Theres this girl. We were dating for a year( i know thats preety sad) Now i want to break up with her. How do i brake up with someone without hurting their feelings?

Well theres no way to not hurt her feelings but just tell her that you still want to be friends and you hope it wont effect your friendship. If she really cares about you, she should be understanding.

Q: Last year I was cool nd evry1 kne who I waz but this year ppl r callin me by my friends name bcuz she looks xactly like me now, she died her hair my color has almost the same style as mine the same face the same frame nd etc. I kno i should b flattered but im not I want my life back! Ive told her this many times but she doesnt get it! Wut should I do?

Well, this may be a little dirastic but, you could always change your looks to how she looked and she how she reacts. If she says that you aren copying her looks then say, "Nope sorry. You don't look like this." This should knock some sense into her "blonde heart". Good Luck and tell me how things go!

Q: i went out wit this kid for 5 months nd i was like totally in love wit him but his best friend who im pretty tight wit that hes feelin this otha chick so i dumped that bitch on the curve! i was really pissed.. but that was in june nd' ive gone out wit like two otha ppl since (nutin serious) but im still madly in love wit him.. when eva i see him in school we dont even talk no more like at all.. we jus walk right passed each otha. but he says that hes still feelin me when i talked to him once the whole time since the beginning of september. some people jus tell me to talk bout otha guys when im near him to like one of mah friends to get him pissed but i dont htink that'll work.. wat do you think i should do??? o ya im 15!!!!!

Well don't make things worse by making him jealous. Just try talking to him (IM works the best if you have it, if not the phone) and say that you want to be friends with him. You have to start out as friends first then work your way up the ladder to a girlfriend. When you guys have been friends for a while, start to tell him that you haven't really gotten over him yet and you want to try things again. Good Luck!!

Q: hey

i really want to become a vegetarian, but i dont know the right way to do it. i dont wanna be a vegan because i love milk and cheese wayy too much. but is just not eating meats the right way to do it so i'll still be healthy? i'll still eat eggs and stuff, but if i just dont eat meats will i be okay? any vegetarians here would be greatly apprecied!

-i rate-

That's how I went about it. The only things I wouldn't eat were red meat, such as steak and hamburger. Stuff like that. It worked for a while but then I gave in to my Papa's bacon. :-( LoL. Well, good Luck with it!!

Q: This might be a stupid question, but how do you know when you're in love with someone? How does it feel?

Trust me hun, when the right guy comes, you will definately know. LoL. Good Luck!!

Q: hi. there are like 10 guys that want me right now... and its kool n all but if i break up w/ my bf or whatever.. next period someone asks me out and then after that someone else does like if they didnt no that the first person did. i like all of them! they are all soo hott lol but i mean i alwaysssss have a bf and never have a chance to b single and sometimes u just need to b single ya no. i dont want to hurt there feeling or have them not like me anymore.
what should i do?
lol thanx!

Well... I think it's kinda obvious. Just say no to them all. :-\ I hope that helped. Good Luck

Q: Ok.. Im 14.. and I really love my boyfriend.. well.. last night.. we were talkin for a REALLY long time on the phone.. and he proposed to me. Its was really cute the way he did it. I of course said yes cause im so much in love with him.

What im wondering tho is: Do u think it can work out.. hes 16 and im 14... and also... do u think im too young to be engaged?

Well, legally you have to be 18 in order to get married, and if you are under age you need your parents permission. Talk to your parents about it and see what they have to say. Personally, I think you are a little to young. When you are in your teens, that's when you are suppossed to be going out with a bunch of dif ppl to see what kinds of guys you want for a husband, and what kinds you don't. You shouldn't rush things because if guys are really into each other, then you will end up staying together long enough to be engaged without having to worry if you are too young. Good Luck and tell me how it goes!!

Q: I have this ex-boyfriend who is now one of my best friends and we tell each other everything. He has told me, many times, how he's in love with me and wants me back. I don't feel the same way at all and get annoyed with his attempts to win me back. The real problem is, it seems everytime he gets a new girlfriend, I become very attracted to him again. I guess it's because 'you want what you can't have?' He says he doesn't even like these girls, but just wants someone to be with since he can't have me. I just can't believe myself when I fall for him only when he's with someone and it drives me crazy. What should I do? I really like him now but I know when he finds out, dumps his girlfriend, I won't feel the same!

Well if I were you I would try going out with him again. See how you feel because it sounds like you do like him. If, when you are going out, you don't feel like you love him then call it quits and try to get over him. Good Luck!!

Q: I have a problem with not eating right. im afraid that in the future i may gain a lot of wait. I need to go on a small healthy diet. Not to lose weight, but just to eat right. Does anyone have any helpful suggestions on how i should go about this?

Well, I went vegitarian for about three months and I lost like 10-15 pounds. I don't think that was good or anything so I would just stay away from the chips and fast foods. Eat bananas and apples for snacks and have mixed nuts whenever you have an urge for fatning foods. Good Luck!!

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Hey guys! My name is Leah and I am 15 years old. I'm from Maine where it's always beautiful but for some reason, everyone here wants to leave it. I love playing basketball and just hangin out with my friends whenever I can. I am the advice giver in my group of friends and I always help them out with whatever it is they may need. When I get older I want to be a phyciatrist and have a huskey named Isabella. I don't know why but I do. If you have a problem, I am here for you and wont judge you at all. I never pass up on a question passed to me so don't be shy. I've been through a lot in the past 15 years and I'm sure I will be able to answer a majority of you guys' questions. Hit me up and don't forget to live for the moment. It's the most important thing you can do.