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Q: omg i am sooooo sad this weekend i found out that my sister mardi passed away in child birth and the baby didn't survive either. then i came home and found out that my boyfriend almost got drunk off his ass this weekend. and i'm worried cause i lost my uncle in a car accident cause of driving while he was drunk. i just don't want to lose joe he means the world to me and i love him and i'm not afraid to admitt it anymore i thought i didn't love him but i do. i just don't want to feel alone anymore what should i do about joe and what should i tell my parents they don't even know yet????

okay, first off
your parents dont know what
about
Joe? his drinking? your sister (god i hope not)

talk to him
tell him what you feel about his drinking

and i am so terribly sorry about your sister. My older sister just had a baby, and the entire time she was pregnant i had nightmares about that. I cant imagine it really happening.

Good job not resorting to drinking to feel better! I wish you all the luck in the world with Joe, and let Mardi & her baby Rest In Peace

Q: Ok, the sad truth is that I have TONS of clothes...tons of cute tops and lots of pants..but I can never put an outfit together nor do I EVER feel like I have anything worth wearing. Does anyone have any tips on how I can "whittle" down my wardrobe so i look stylish yet don't have so much clothes that i dont pay attention to

find a consignment store near you
you pick out the clothes you dont want, or whatever
bag it all up
and take it to the store
get an account
you give them the clothes, once they sell it, they give you money for it

you get rid of the excess, and get money
to get more, or whatever else you want!

:)

Q: What exactly is SoHo? In a book I'm reading they talked about it a little bit. I know it's a place in New York, but what exactly is it? Is it like NYC's version of Deep Ellum in Dallas?

It is South of Houston Street
North of it is the Village
amazing shopping in both :)

(no idea what the dallas thingy is)

:)

Q: I'm looking for monogologues the use in competition at with my Thespian troupe at the District and (hopefully!) state level next year. I need two contrasting monoglougues.

This year, I could not find good ones in time. I had my heart set on Rosencrantz's 'box' monologue from Ros. and Guil. are Dead, but I had a hell of a time finding something good to contrast with that. I'm not trying to gloat or anything here, but I can do outlandish comedy really well, but I've also played roles like Biff in Death of a Salesman, and the kind of psychotic as well.

If you have any experience with this sort of thing at all, please give me some advice. I think I'd have a very good chance at going far with it if I found the right material.

savage love has AMAZING monoglogues. They are really deep and sad. So find something really fun to contrast it, and you should be good.

:)

Q: ok, i go to swimteam during the summer, but i started my period. what tricks can i do-besides a tampon-to prevent blood from coming out? i've tried panty liners already...

sorry hun, but im (pretty sure) only tampons can help
cause it obsorbs blood before it gets out of the body

Q: this kid that i've been hanging out with went out with one of my so called friends. and like she's been supposvedly calling me a slut and stuff. and like i don't know if he asks me out if i should date him or not ..we kissed last night ..and he's always like flirting with me and kissing my cheek and telling me to kiss his ..but idk if i should do that to her or not. they've also been apart for more than 5 months. help?! :(

if you like him, go out with him
you arent close to the girl, so dont worry about it
if you were close, you should ask if she would be hurt
but this girl sounds like a brat, so dont even sweat it

good luck with the boy toy :)

Q: Hey i was wondering what does a day pass to the spa usually include? Because i want the whole package like the whole deal i want the massage, facial, pedicure, manicure etc. And i was wondering what that would be called? Would it be included in just the day pass to the spa? Thanks i'll rate 5s!

it depends where
go to the website of where you wanna go, and if there is a FAQ or something go to it
look around the site and im sure the question will be answered there

have a great day at the spa! :)

Q: my friend erin wants me to make her a new sn, but im not too good at those. so can anybody think of an sn THAT HAS erin in it? like i thought about DarinErin but that was kind of cheesy

need more info bout the friend

:)

k
well, i think DarinErin is good
but maybe
ErinTheDarin
CarinErin
TearinTheErin

??
im not good w/ the ones that rhyme

Q: Okay, i went to new jeresy shore like 1 week ago, and i got badly sunburnt. So my skin is peeling really badly. i tryed aloe of all kinds, and its not stopping. what can i do to get it to stop. ill rate ;]

the skin is sopposes to peal when you get a burn
that is how it heals
aloe just stops the pain of the burn
its gonna peal so like new skin can form or something
gross, i know, but its gonna happen
like, a snake
or something...

:)

Q: Okay, this is kind of gross, but I mean, I really need help, and fast. You see, we've had a long history of breast cancer in my family, and my aunt died of it 2 years ago.

Well, I was taking a shower today, and I got out to dry myself off. I noticed that my chest hurt really bad, and I looked down, and saw this huge lump on the side of my nipple. I felt it and it felt like this huge ball underneath my skin. It hurts realy, really bad. I know that your breasts already hurt if you touch 'em, but this was just like excrusiating pain.

So I have a few questions.
1. Can you get breast cancer at 14 years old? (I just turned 14 on may 30th.)
2. Does anyone else have this?
3. If not, should I get it checked out?
4. If I do need to get it checked out, how should I tell my Mom?

I'm like, really scared. I hope its nothing, but I don't know who to ask. My Mom's not here, and when she does get here, she'll have 3 friends with her. Please help me ASAP!

tell your mother as soon as you can! even if she has friends, say mom, i need to talk to you NOW in private! especially if you have the history of it. Insist on getting it checked, even if your mother doesnt think it is serious

Good luck, and i hope it turns out to be nothing! keep me posted so i know you are all right! :)

Q: I got my first kiss from this guy the other day, and it was so weird. Are you supposed to kiss with your mouth open pretty wide? He like leaned it, got my upper lip, then got the skin between my nose and upper lip all wet. It was really gross and ackward, I haven't kissed much before, so I was wondering is that how your supposed to kiss? If not, please tell me how! ( And I already read the myjellybean.com thing so please don't link me to that! )

ha. okay, first, all first kisses are akward, mine was a lot worse (i will not go into detail, just know, it was bad )
there is no one way to kiss, or right way or whatever

just whatever feels right.
but, if you feel you need help, go to B&N or Borders and get the book
"Kissing : Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About One of Life's Sweetest Pleasures"
its by Andrea Demirjian

good read :)

Q: my name is Rachel and iam a 17 year old girl and my dad died when I was 12 and sometimes I still find myself upset about it and it makes my grades go down when iam really upset how can I get over my dad's death?

you will never get over it
ever
my older sister and i have different dads
her dad died right after her 15th b-day (on my 9th b-day, but not the point)
that was 5 years ago
look at old pictures of you too
write down what you rember about him or stuff you did together
make a box of pictures, old movies, what you wrote about him, and keep it in your room
remeber him
talk to your mom about him
if it effects your school work so drastically and that doesnt work, maybe talk to a school consoluer person (not a shrink, im not saying you are crazy)
but my sister talked to one for a while, and it made her feel a lot better she said

remeber him always, there will be days you are sad and upset, and that is perfectly fine. On those days, pull out that box.

I hope that helps hun! :)

Q: ok there is this friend (who is a guy and i am a girl) and he is so funny! but latley he has been calling me so we can hang out. And he keeps on saying on how much me loves me. I think he means it in a friend way but im not sure. And I had a dream when me and him were going out and it did not freak me out. Do you think i like as more then a friend or not? Anyone who can answer this is amazing!!!! I would love help!

just having a dream doesnt mean you like him
when someone says his name, do you smile without relizing
do you think about him when he isnt around
when the phone rings, do you hope its him
when the pop up thing on AIM comes up, do you quickly look, to see if its him?

if yes, then you like the boy :)
and it kinda seems like he likes you too :)

Q: Ok, So I am 13 years old and since May 2005, I have found myself madly in love with no other than a 20 year old McDonalds worker. He has started to open up a little more in the past couple of months, and he gives me lots of hugs, flirts, and shows all the "signs" of love back. Yet he has never told me. This week we are supposed to go to the movies. My question is, Should I open up and tell him I love him or should I just wait until he does?

i believe you love him
but i also believe that you need to stop this right now regardless
like everyone else has said, it is illegal, as well as unsafe
I am 14, my older sister is 20
I couldnt imagine her getting with any of my friends, or me being with any of hers.
It is just creepy.

If anything happens, it is compeletly illegal, and he will go to jail for rape, even if you want it.

Q: WELL....nothing really did happen but..I dont know...I did tell him I liked him but that was when he had a gf..and yea I dont know

okay, well, i think that you really just need to talk to him alone and be like "i dont know what happened with us, i liked you before you had a girlfriend, i dont know if you knew that or not, but i thought you should know. And i hope it isnt too late and that we could at least be friends right now, because it hurts that we went from being so close to being nothing for no reason"

plus, boys suck :)

hope that helps, if you need anymore, just lemmy know :)

Q: Ok.Well the problem is My step brother and sister.One is 7 and the other is 4.They are Way out of control i think.They act alot more hyper then they should and its to the point where i dont even wanna be home anymore.It has gotten bad.I dont even feel at home here because they get away with everything,they could probably even get away with murder!I tell my mom all the time she needs to do something because they are too hyper but she seems to not think so.They have reuined My life.And im 8 months pregnant so im close to having a baby girl and i dont want to be around them acting the way they do especially with her! Any advice on what i can do,i cant handle them anymore! :-(

my mom has been dating this guy
he is 14 years younger then her (he is 30)
yet, acts like he is still 13
and he has a 8 year old son
who cant tie his shoes and poo's himself on a daily basis (im not joking)

you could A) lock yourself in your room
B) go to your friends as much as possible
C) (hopefully) spend time at your dads house?

Also, you should ask your mom for just the two of you to go out to dinner and talk about it. Dont attack her. Just say, "i know they are little kids, but they are still hyperactive! It is crazy!" not rudely at all.

And try and remeber, they are little kids, they will be completly hyper, and since they are step siblings to you, they must be step to your mother as well, who may think "they arent mine, i cant do anything about it"

hope i helped, if you need to talk more, just send me a message :)

Q: Well ever since 7th grade this one boy been looking at me and talked to me alot.one time we talked on the phone for bout 3 hours!!!3 days in a row.Then we went to the movies, he came to house 5 times. He asked me if we wanted to hangout today.and would sit by me to talk.but now he has a gf and he became a huge jerk.I DONT MISS HIM I MISS WHO I THOUGHT HE WAS.I ve cried over him so mayn times and he doesnt even know it.All i want to know if he liked me....did he??

any boy that spends that much time with you definatly liked you

try and talked to him, unless he is a complete fake, that boy is still in there some where

say "i like you, a lot. And i thought you did too, but now im not so sure, i know you have a girlfriend now and everything, but i dont know why you had to become such a jerk."

Maybe he really liked you, but since nothing ever happened, didnt know if you liked him back?

Did anything happen? Did you ever tell him you liked him?

Respond and i might be able to help a lil more

:)

Q: Hey my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my cousin and I get along really well,but my cousin Tiffany is only 13 and is only 100 pounds and she is 5 foot and 1inches tall and complains about being fat all the time and now she's going on a diet to try to lose 10 pounds is this anorexia Iam getting really worried about her.I try to tell her she isn't fat,but she dosn't belive me what should I do?please help.

it isnt
yet
but it could be
keep an eye on her for now, and if she is getting too skinny, she may get mad at you, but talk to her parents, seriously
its better her mad at you now then her being very very sick later in life

i am 14, 5'3 and 130, and i always thought i was huge till i did my BMI

http://nhlbisupport.com/bmi/

tell her to go to that site and do it
i hope she relizes then she isnt fat at all

hope i helped! :)

Q: 15/f

when i was like 12, i would spend all the time that i could with my mom. i would actually hang up on some other friends on the phone to hang out with her. when i turned about 14, my mother maybe thought that i favored my friends over her (not true) but w/e. she probably just thought it was weird i wanted to go out with them and not want myself to be seen in the mall w/ her and stuff. but you know, that was normal like a year-two years ago. but she believed after that that there was only one way to get to a teenager. it was to talk to her/him in like foul language and get into AIM and myspace and all that. i guess its kind of cool my mom likes myspace, but not to the extreme she takes it. she goes on there at 6:00 in the morning to check if i have any comments. i never get to see when i have new comments and stuff because she looks at them first. she even responds to them! i think that is crazy and is insane and i don't know what else, but she can't just talk for me on myspace! its just wrong! i'm not saying it for any reason other than i like MY words to come out of MY mouth and not anybody else's. that really isn't the only way that she can through to me, and she KNOWS that i like her better than my friends because i don't really have any friends, well girl-friends that is. i only have one. the rest of my friends are guys, because i just get along better with them because i'm not in competition with them and we don't get jealous of each other and stuff. so, really, why does she get this way? i don't want to get into fights with her anymore..... does anyone have any words of wisdom that can help me here? thank you in advance

change your password on myspace/AIM/AOL and whatever else you have
and dont let her know what it is
make your own section on your computer (if you can) with your own password
also, if you wanna freak her out, try and get into it
be like "omg mom! we should so totally say im at like a party or something, so then everyone thinks im really cool! and maybe we should tell girls that i have this really hot bf that i hook up with all the time so they get even more jealous!"
reverse her thinking

anyway, i hope it helps... :)

Q: ok well i want to no how long do i have to walk a day to loose weight? and can u tell me how long to walk and how much weight i will lose
thankx i rate 5s

it depends how fast you walk
and how much weight you wanna loose
i would say walk about 25-35 minutes should be good to keep you in shape

hope i helped :)

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Hey! I'm Em, my friend Tori got one of these, so i decided to check it out, and got OBBESSED! i am always giving my friends advice, so please, ask away, and i will do my best to help!