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Q: Hi its Lissa...okay i well i got my progress report in the mail today and iim failing 3 classes and passing 3 (those aint that great either) and i told my mom and now shes all pissed like REALLY pissed she calls every 2 minutes n yells at me and she's like 'WHAT THE HELL!' n we have to go to my aunts funeral tomorrow at 11 am and now she's saying i can't go because of my grades, isn't that gay? shes my AUNT! and she's also like your not going into drivers ed and never getting a car EVER if u dont get all good grades and blah blah blah its really pissing me off i even started crying. im doing better now, i turn in most of my work im just not that smart and she expects me to be all smart and shit when im not...she keeps bugging me about it and im so annoyed...and thats just on the phone what the hell am i gonna do when she gets home from work!? she knows my 'situation' or she should cuz when school started i was really depressed and suicidal and everything was messed up, now im on anti depression medicine so im doing better and trying harder in school. my counselor even told me not to be so hard on myself i have a lot goin on and idk what to do about this...sorry this is long but ah..what do i do? thanks so much!!!

When shes home, she'll get easily mad. So do everything you can(clean your room, bathroom, do all your chores, homework etc.) so she doesnt get mad at you. I'm sure she'll let you go to the funeral, she'll forget about saying you couldent go. And keep turning your work and and study for those tests and try to pass all your classes for your report card. Hope I helped.

Q: Where can i get monologues from movies like Legally Blonde 2?

http://www.whysanity.net/monos/ ~Go there it has any movie you can imagine-even has legally blonde 1 and 2

Q: I recently started liking my friend, "Ray". We were hanging out a couple weeks ago & we were flirting a lot. Then we kissed.. Twice. The next day, I talked to him & he admitted that he has a girlfriend! Does this make me a slut, because I didn't know that he was cheating on his girlfriend!

Nope your not a slut, a slut is someone who does guys she doesnt even know and stuff. So dont worry about it, just dont tell anyone and yeah your friend ray, is a jerk for doing that.

Q: I've noticed lately that a lot of guys have started liking me. It doesn't really faze me, but today this guy came up to me & said that his friend thought I was cute. I said I was flattered & asked to meet him. The poor guy was too shy to talk to me! I feel kind of bad because I could have easily just walked over there & talked to him. Should I ask him out?

You dont know him yet. Go up to him, talk to him, maybe hang out as friends for a while. And if you like him, and he likes you too..then sure ask him out! But you have to wait and get to know the person better.

Q: umm theres this guy that likes me alot and he is def. not my type...... but my friends tell him i lik him bc they feel bad for him... But i dont like him... Im going icekating on my birthday and soo is he.... he is giving me this real diamond ring and asking me out... what should i do?

Before he asks you out, tell him that hes a nice guy, but you dont want to go out with him. Because he doesnt wanna be embarassed at your party. Hope I helped!

Q: ok my first home-coming..im goin with my friend..well call him bob..well anyways me and bob are pretty good friends and i jus asked him.. but anyways..do i have to get him a garter?(o by tha way..7th grade)and im not even sure bout the hole mum thing..i think hes gunna get me one..but i kinda dont wunna get a garter for him cuz its only 7th grade...help!! the dance is friday!!

Yeah your right its only 7th grade, you dont need anything, just go and have fun:D!

Q: I'm not sure how to explain this. But my eyes hurt very badly. It feels like, you use the eye muscles to keep your eyes open, right? When I close my eyes, it feels like the muscles aren't relaxed, and it feels like my eyes are still open and it hurts. I can't even sleep at night because of this feeling. A few things, I spend A LOT of time on the computer. I have glasses that I am supposed to use for reading, but I can read perfectly and I don't use them. My eyes aren't red and they don't itch. Should I go to the eye doctor, or the doctor, or what? Anything I should try?

I'm on the computer a lot, too and sometimes my eyes would hurt at night cuz they were tired. But yes, you should go to an eye doctor and they usally put all this medicine in your eyes. Cut back on your internet time too.

Q: Ok I am a 13 year old girl and I like this boy at school, and he likes me to but only as a friend. He thinks he's to young to be my boyfriend but I realy realy like him and I want him to be my boyfriend, what should I do??

Just be friends with him. He said he doesnt like you as a girlfriend, but maybe he'll change his mind. So just be friends for now, and flirt..and see what happens!

Q: Ok i have a sister who is a 13 months apart and she drives me crazy...i am so nice to her i let her wear my clothes and i do favors for her but she is just a brat to me any ideas on how to like make her not be such a brat? i dont know she like finds out things about me from my EX and she knows everything and like she wants to tell the world and its quiet annoying....uhhh yeah so any ideas...?

Talk to her, tell her you love her but some of the stuff she does really annoys you. And ask her not to say stuff because you dont want anyone to know..She could be doing this just to get attention from you, so try hanging out with her more often so she doesnt act like abrat all the time.

Q: ok i found out that my friend masturbated not that she told me or anitthin. but the thing is shes christian is that against the christian religion?also can the gynos find out if you masturbate. im like worried for her.cause if its against the christian religion i dont think her mom would like to know.thanks in advance

Yes, its againt the christian religion.
It says somewhere in 1st Corinthians that your sinning against the body of Christ cuz you know your not your own body..just tell her to read 1st corinthians. But everyone sins, she can just ask for forgiveness you kno?

Q: well i have this prob with the boy im goin oout with ...we've beem goin out for about 5 days now..or more...but the thing is that he never calls me and ..he always has me callin him...im not afard to ask him why its just i dont know how .....so plz help me

Well instead of asking him why he doesnt, be like "Hey, can you call me today" and if he doesnt call then ask him why hes not calling. Maybe he thinks he doesnt need to call cuz u'll call him.

Q: ok heres the deal i'm 14 and theres this girl that i like.. we've been going out on and off for about two years now,, i just recently dumped her for something i found out she didn't do .. and to get to the point.. all her friends tell me she likes me and shes trying to like someone else but its not working cause she likes me so much... but heres the thing she just let this guy go down her shirt, and we hung out once and she just ignored me for this other guy.. what do i do

Talk to her. If you want to go out with her, ask her if she still likes you and if she would wanna go out with you. If she still has feelings for you, ask her out. If not, theres other girls:D Hope I helped!

Q: I've been trying to loose some weight. I know i'm not fat, but i'd just like to loose a few pounds. I started last week, and it went pretty well, but i've decided that this week i'm just not going to diet but start up again next week. I know i shouldn't but i have my reasons. But ever since i've been on this diet, all my friends ever do is hound me about it and make fun of me! they always steal my food and count the calories in it, and everytime i tell them to just stop getting involved with this, they tell me to just listen... they laugh at me and count my calories and tell me how fat i'm gunna get, and it's really really annoying and being on a diet is difficult enough since i have a terrible sweet tooth, but they make it worse. I've tried many times to tell them that it's not their place to hound me about what i'm eating, but they don't listen to me and make a big deal out of everything. I have no idea what to do and they're making this really difficult for me. any ideas what to do? sorry it's so long.

I would yell at them. tell them you can eat what you want, because its your food and your life! I would be so pissed off at my "friends" if they did that to me..just yell at them and ignore them..dont talk to them..their jerks..Eat what you want, when you want and dont listen to them!

Q: i'm trying 2 put a pic on my column but its 2 big! how can i put 1 on there by making it smaller? thanx!

By using your paint program, click file..then open up your pic and re-size it.

Q: ok well this is kind of wierd/hard to explain i guess. my ADOPTED sister got married the first of this month. we adopted her when she was about 23 or 24. odd I know, its a very long story lol. anyways yea she got married the first of this month and the guy has 3 kids and one of them is a boy. hes my age and i like him alot, i have no clue why but i do. she knows and the rest of the kids know and so does my so called " step brother in law " so yea so yea i have no clue what to do. I know he would never like me but i swear i cant get him off my mind. But i mean I would feel so freaking wierd dating my " sisters " step son! Hes not really friendly ya know. Lol, he doesnt talk to me at all. And hes in trouble alot, he sneaks out of the house and stuff. I cant talk to him because im so shy. I turn red when someone says something about him. But like I dont mean hes mean like " Get away from me " or anything. But around me and stuff he isnt talkative. So yea do you guys know what I should do? I dont get to see him often because hes harldy ever home. But like I dont think I could talk to him. So any ideas?? Thanks, If you need more explaination tell me. Also I hardly know him. Lol

If you feel weird about dating him, then just be friends. If you go to the same school, you could call him and be like "Did you get your report card?" or ask him what classes he has...but when you do get to see him, talk to him! Just think, you'll be friends with the guy your like, in love with! haha good luck!

Q: A friend of mine and i went to the movies the other night, and as were pulling up, i see the guy i like standing next to a car down the lot. I was getting all excited when he stood up, and then i saw what he was holding, and i was repulsed. In one hand, he was holding a lit joint, and in the other, a half empty bottle of vodka. I had no idea he did these things!! And i have my values..i try not to associate with ppl who do harm to themselves in such ways. Even though his lifestyle goes against my beliefs, i cant seem to get over my feelings for him. I just dont how to do it. How do i 4get this guy?

It takes time, you'll find another guy to like soon! And he'll be better times 5. And just think about what he does! Gross huh? Yup..nasty..

Q: i dont exactly have a question...but i just need someone to talk to and just for anyone to give me advice...i am a Freshman..im 14 im in a relationship. and i've been stressing alot of skool lately!!...its just that im failing 2 of my classes rite now!. its just that my 2 teachers give out TOO much assignments and its just stressing me bcause i dont do it! my sister says i need to learn how 2 manage my time! and i told her its not bkuz of cheerleading...(because im always @ praktice or @ a game) and well i just dont know! somebody help!!

Right when you get home from school, do what you need to do (shower, eat) and start doing homework. Whenever you have free time do your work. Ask your teachers if there is any extra credit you could do, to raise up those grades. Study for tests, and all that good stuff. Hope I helped..

Q: Me n my gf have started having sex, and were both cool with it, but i keep worrying about here getting pregnant, even though we use a condom.

Well, if your so worried then dont have sex. But if you dont want that lol, just ask her if she can use birth control so your extra safe.

Q: well u see i have this friend and we always get into fights about the stupidist things ever and one time we got in a fight and she asked me a pastense question and when i tried to anwser she got really mad and was sayind things like why do u always bring suff up form the past were talking about this fight noy ones that have happened in the past when i tried telling her the i was only anwsering her question she would not listin! what do i do?

It seems that shes trying to start fights. When you talk to her, and she brings up something you think if you answer, she'll get mad..dont answer it. or just ignore her cuz trying to make fights with friends isint cool

Q: I am 47 been married 2 1/2 years and for the first time I have never been so much in love, just recently about 6 months ago it seems like I have to beg for attention from my husband not sexual attention even though that department is not like it used to be but I want the hugging, cuddling, holding hands, kissing just to be close. I just do not what to do anymore, I am tired of trying and crying and the funny thing is 7 months ago I weighed 200 lbs and decided I was going to lose it on my own so I got really motivated and lost 60 lbs. I went from a size 18 to a 6 and I thought things between us both in the bedroom and out would change, I was wrong I jst need some good sound advice. Thank you taking the time to read my question. Bonnie

Even though I'm only 14 and all, and I dont know what your going through, I just want to put my 2 cents in. You need to talk to him, sit him down somewhere and tell him everything you want to say. And dont let him interupt you, when your done then he can ask the questions and all..You need to tell him that your miserable and ask him whats going wrong between you two. Hopefully you can figure everything out.