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how do you know when someone is depressed? how is it it possible he'll end up psychotic? (link)
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When a person is clinically depressed he or she doesn't become psychotic. That's not part of this particular mental illness. Chronic despair, sadness, inability to function is part of depression.
If a person is psychotic it's almost always another type of mental health issue ie: bipolar, schizophrenia etc. They need to be delusional, hear voices, have grandiose ideas, think they're GOD like, see what isn't there. That's psychotic.
If you're thinking of psychotic as being violent and something out of the movies it's not exactly close to that with most who have mental health issues. If you're depressed or mentally ill if you aren't a violent person to start with or have dangerous traits you won't no matter how ill you become.
The thing is a person may have depression and an undercurrent a different illness that brings forth being psychotic or violent. But depression itself doesn't lead to that. Having been through the mental health system I'm reasonably confident in telling you that.
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Recently my PS3 has been fine but ever since I installed a game called damnation the sound has been jumping. But here is the strange part Blu-Rays work perfectly but its only when I watch DVD's that it starts jumping. I watched DVDs prior to installing the game and its only when I installed Damnation(AKA Shite) that it started jumping anyone have any ideas. ps I checked the HDMI cables, I have 2 so I tried one and then the other but they both work fine except it still jumps. Any advice given would be extremely helpful :) (link)
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Call the following number for Sony Technical Support with PS3 1-800-345-SONY MON-SAT 6:00am-8:00pm PST SUN 7:00am-6:30pm PST in America. There's also numbers for other countries if you go to Sony's site.
That leads me to my next point. If you go to www.sony.com and click Playstation 3 from the top a new PS3 site opens and you have options to get online tech support or info from fact sheets.
I'm not sure what causes this problem but I would have to think it's a faulty part if the rest of the Blu-Ray and game system sound works. I know Sony can repair these things but not the cost or how long it takes or where to take it. I'm confident that they can tell you if you call the 1-800 number.
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I'm graduating high school in june 2011. I can't choose between majoring in nursing or fashion merchandising. I know thats a big difference but I see good things in both. I love fashion and am really interested in the business on the other hand I feel like I should help people in life and being a nurse would do that. The only problem with nursing is I don't know if I could deal with wounds and stuff like that but I also no it's a good career with many job opportunities for sure. I just don't know! What do you guys think? or offer any info on nursing and fashion if you have any too :)
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You need to look at it realistically. It's harder to have a career in fashion than it is in nursing. Even with the best marks, portfolio, education and internship nothing is a given re: making a living from it alone.
With nursing you have a ton of options available and demand for people with that kind of training as you are a specialist. Granted right now the medical field is flooded with nursing graduates and the economy bad but by the time you graduate you should be fine.
As far as wounds go I'm sure it's a part of the gig that isn't pleasant. However, after you encounter one scenario over and over and practice treating people you'll almost become numb to it. I think that's the only way doctors can function and not let things bother them.
If your life's ambition is to help people who need help or can't help themselves sometimes than it's a no brainer about nursing. You really can't affect and help countless numbers of people by designing a clothing collection.
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hey, before i say anything.....im am NOT a poser...i just neeed guidence. I am the only girl in MY WHOLE GRADE who is desses like me.I honestly HATE labels...but im seemed to be known as the "emo girl". Instead if refusing it and fighting back, i just accepted it, to cause less trouble and other stuff. That sorta made it worse. Everyone started calling me a poser...and i dont copy anyone thou. I am my own person...but i really need help and guidence...so how do you be emo in middle school without looking like a poser.. (btw i need GUIDENCE, not to copy..) (link)
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Just be. If they don't like you based on how you dress or normally act then screw 'em. They have to deal with that on their own and miss out knowing you.
Dress how you want, walk, chew gum etc. how you want and your real friends and those worth knowing won't care.
You would be a "poser" only if you went from your normal style to something so not who you are. You haven't done that and if you did it would make things worse.
Accept yourself as you are. In a few years you won't know half of them nor will what they thought or still do of you be relevant. Just be who you are if that's emo fine.
Apparently they haven't been watching carefully as you aren't out to impress by being who you are and only are a poser if you do the opposite. Someone should fetch them a dictionary.
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My best friend and I made a bet over football.. Whoever won, would get to throw pie and like cake batter and other messy things at the loser, and totally mess them up. The agreement was, the loser has to wear their best clothes, which we both picked out at the beginning. This sounded great.... Except I lost, lol. The dress I chose as my best is really gorgeous and elegant, and I have to wear that along with matching heels and accessories. Should I back out? I don't want to look like a wuss but I don't want my nice dress to be ruined. (link)
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Nobody can make you hold up your end of the bargain. You would look bad for backing out. Here's what to do. Tell them your mother knows you lost the bet.
She wants you to keep that dress for family functions and will outright kill you if you mess it up or have it destroyed. Seeing as you can't dry clean it or not without a lot of trouble and $ don't do that.
Offer them a choice of a few other outfits that aren't of importance to you anymore that may be semi-formal that you can do without wearing again.
In the future be sure not to make any kind of bet with anyone if the consequences are something you truly can't deal with if you lost.
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Hi! So my mom started a new business on a business site called 'Etsy':
http://www.etsy.com/shop/SentimentsShoppe?ga_search_query=sentiment+&ga_search_type=seller_usernames
It's all about different types of jars with little notes inside. there are one's for friends, boyfriends, the holidays, ones to personalize, scriptures, and the like. She's had it up for only a month now but she's really generating some interest. She's been working on it for so long and so hard, and it's everything to her, so I wanted to surprise her with something special for Christmas. I thought it would be amazing if I could get her a little spot on a tv station to talk about her product. She did it before with a different business, but the contact found her I believe.
So my main question: How do I contact someone about my mom getting a little segment to talk about her product? I don't know who to contact or what t say and really need some help. I want to make this work for my mom! Thank you so much, you don't know what it means. Happy Holidays (link)
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The TV news programs generally expect you to pay $$$ for a spot on their station. It's not free. You could however, get the station's number and ask for the newsroom or news director and "pitch" a story idea and give a web site link to see if they want to do a piece on it.
Actually, it's best that you get the person's name and e-mail and do it that way so they can see all the info.
Another thing is that cable-access (channel 10 or regional channel) that your cable provider operates is best. They usually have morning shows she could be on as a guest or in need of sponsors and support. Find out.
Also, I know you want this to be a gift but if you are dealing with media professionals and someone else's business on your own as a kid a screw up can hurt it and her as there's delicate ways of doing business there. Randomly calling, e-mailing everyone can backfire unless you know how to be a professional. I'm saying this based on experience.
Anything related to someone else's business especially if it's their "everything" and "baby" should have their backing before you approach anyone as a representative.
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What do I say to my aunt who's constantly bothering her to ADD HER ON FACEBOOK and to ACCEPT HER INVITE?
I'm not one of those girls who accepts anyone and has like 10000 friends. I have 300 of my closets friends and frankly, she a mean lady who's always picking on me and I cna't get away because she comes over sometimes and she's coming over tomorrow and she'll be bugging me about it. I obviously don't want to say, "because I don't like you and you're a bitch," well i do but no what what family is family. (link)
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In this case talk to your mother or father whomever is directly related to her. Tell them that you dislike this aunt as all she has ever done is pick on you if that's the truth.
Tell them that she won't leave you alone on Facebook and you do not wish her to have access to your friends list or profile. That is your right. It's for school friends.
If she truly wants to be your friend tell her to apply all that desire to real-life. Should you be rude to an adult? No, well er, sometimes.
If an adult constantly picks on you and won't leave you alone you have a right no matter what happens afterward to stand up for yourself. Tell her how you truly feel.
I think your parents should let you speak to her or write a Facebook e-mail message of which they approve and see first that A)This profile is for school friends and private conversations between them and B)If you want to be my friend and have a meaningful friendship please do so in person because we feel strongly that you pick on me without reason.
You can do that or just do what everyone else does by ignoring her and denying the request until she gets it to go away or go through Facebook's settings for your account and add this aunt to people you want to block and they'll never be able to contact you again or read your profile. I think she will get the message.
But the fact that she wants desperately to be added means something. She doesn't HATE you. Perhaps her picking on you is her way of thinking it's helpful or normal. Either way talking to her may get you farther than you think.
You can also use Facebook settings to approve a friend but give them limited access to your profile with only picture, name, interests and friends and other stuff blacked out to them. It's your Facebook so you alone should decide who is or isn't to see it.
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I got my 5 weeker and one grade wasn't very pleasant. It was a 65 in (SS) Social Studies...enriched. My mom's favorite subject that she expects glorious grades out of. She and my brother said i could do it, when i know i couldn't. I struggle with SS alone, i knew i couldn't do enriched. Anyways it's been a few weeks and i know i've been slacking but not as much as i thought. My teacher brought me aside saying that my grade was between a 52-57. I was devistated! I can't raise my garde and the report card comes out in two days...one day before my birthday. My parents are going to K-I-L-L ME! How do i tell my parents about my grade? How do i keep them from yelling at me? How do i get better grades in a hard subject? (link)
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Did you ever ask for help? You should have but there's not much you can do now. The grade will come out in two days but that's not the end of the world.
Tell this teacher that you should never have been admitted to her class in the first place. Tell her you had tons of trouble with even the basic level course. Tell her that your parents are gung-ho on this course but you knew you couldn't hack it.
You never admitted to the teacher and tried to make something work that was over your head. Ask the teacher instead of failing you could she please give you an Incomplete so you can learn and do all the material and pass later?
If she understands your fear of asking for help and has empathy she might just do that instead of giving you a non-passing grade. She has all day to fix it tomorrow but still don't count on this.
All you can do is give the report card to your parents, let them say or do what they feel is appropriate and know that you tried despite the fact the course was above your head. I doubt it will screw up your birthday either.
All they can do is be disappointed or yell and that's it. They should have listened to you about your discomfort in signing up. They aren't blameless either for that.
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My house is filled with clutter (hey, I bet part of exercising could be cleaning it!) but even without the clutter it's small.
I don't live in the best area, either, so going for runs, though I love running, wouldn't be the safest bet.
I have no room for a workout machine, or to do exercise videos, barely even to dance to music. Going to a gym where other people can see me seems awkward (I have issues with being stared at, kinda a shybird here.)
BUT, even with all that, I'd really like to get some cardio into my routine. How can I do that with these conditions?
All answers appreciated. :)
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Have you tried Wii-Fit? It actually will help you. It has aerobics, cardio, balance, running and other exercises you do in front of any TV. Do that for 90 minutes and then add long walks or jogging and you'll lose pounds and be fit in the end.
I also recommend if you have the cash to join a self-defense center preferably kick-boxing where you do a ton of kicking and punching drills, sparring etc. and do 3 classes a week of 90 mins.
That will get the pounds off you faster than anything I know and help with cardio and other fitness aspects.
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okay so ive been with my boyfriend for a year now and i always think about sex but im scared that if i lose my virginity before marriage then i will go to hell.. is that true? btw im roman catholic (link)
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If that were so nearly everyone would be going there in a flash. I value religious and cultural views but this whole going to hell thing is a scare tactic or twisting of scriptures.
I'm reasonably sure that GOD is a loving GOD that doesn't turn his back on people or condemn them for mistakes or choices. You connection with him won't be severed or weakened if you have sex now or later. There's no connection. Your religious beliefs won't be altered either.
Ultimately, the decision lies with you and what you feel ready for and your personal comfort. You may want to investigate other religions or Christian sects if this is what is being taught to you in church.
I may stir up controversy with this but the going to hell thing is an opinion and not really factual.
There's a lot of superstition and odd views in most organized religions that gets passed down to people.
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jejejeje thankss.
but too bad i didnt got the job.
how sad :( (link)
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There's always tomorrow. You never know what may come your way in terms of employment or anything else.
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I am suffering from bipolar disorder. I cannot concentrate on one thing. Because at one moment i feel that it is a very good thing and i get very much interested and the next minute i get bored from that thing and get least interested in that thing. I want to stop that task at that time and want to do something different. The same thing happens with that task also and evenually i keep bouncing from one task to the other, be it studies or any other thing, any thought. It goes with money, girls, internet, everything. For example, At once i get interested in making money, i make many plans of making money, read as many articles as i can, and am very very interested. Then after few minutes i get bored and come to the conclusion that making money is not a good thing or is a very boring thing. Then i go making girlfriends. Same thing happens with it. Eventually i waste my time doing nothing worthwhile. Please help. (link)
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Have you been diagnosed bipolar by a psychiatrist? If not none of what you are telling me has anything to do with the disease.
You aren't delusional, aren't in crisis, don't have rapid mood swings or grandiose ideas or strange visions. Nor do you think you rule the world or are running the world. You never mentioned belief in telepathic skills or anything amiss.
When it comes to loss of interest in damn near everything or only fleeting interest that's a concern. It could be part of depression or other mental health concern and need to be dealt with by a professional.
If you have bipolar and have been diagnosed it's a pretty big red flag to deal with immediately by telling your doctor. If you haven't been diagnosed with bipolar or any other mental health issue it's possible that you have severe attention span difficulty.
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I have this "friend". We are constantly having fights and this time was the last straw for me. The other times I just tried to forget the past, which kind of worked. But not anymore. I finally called it quits.
But I keep thinking about him. My heart says be friends but my head says don't be. I know he is a mean, competitve jerk but I keep thinking about him.
What do I do?!?! (link)
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Even in these types of friendships there exists several good qualities in the other person to keep it going. That's what keeps bringing you back as well as clashing.
You're kind of opposites on certain things but alike on others because you are cut from the same cloth.
If you want to be friends with him deep down than continue it. Don't continue the friendship until you discuss everything that has gone wrong with it first. Work through those issues and you'll be fine. If he screws up again then leave.
For now you have to talk to him directly about what is bothering you and his social skills or lack thereof and his ability to be a competitive jerk. Maybe he'll get it if you lay it out to him.
Some people however, are the way that they are and self-serving, egotistical jerks and you can't fix it. You have to ask yourself if he and the friendship are too far gone that way.
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i need hellppp and i dont know what i do
i work at a place that i realllly enjoy and i love all my coworkers. i've been working here for about a month but last week i got offered a job at another place where this guy that i have always liked works. We have always been friends but never anything more, and i was really excited to work with him and see him alot more. But the job is really boring and pays alot less. its not about the money but for so many other reasons i want to stay at my first job but everytime i think im going to turn down the second, i see the guy and imagine how fun it would be working with him, i dont know what to do, should i stay at the job that i love? or quit and work with the guy who i have always had a crush on??? (link)
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You have already stated that the second job position is boring and indicated through that assertion that you wouldn't have a good time of things.
It's a total unknown. Furthermore, you would only be doing it for a guy who may not have the same interest in you as you do in him.
STICK to the job you have and making better wages there. That part is a no-brainer. If you like the guy see him at school and find another way at starting a relationship. That's the best way to do things sensibly.
If you took the other job you likely won't do well at it and will have lost better wages over a guy. You may find that you don't like working with him either or if you had a relationship that went bust difficult to work in the same environment.
Most employers don't want employees married or in relationships working in the same place for that reason. I say keep your work and anything with this crush separate and pursue it outside of your working environment.
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Hey there,
Well this may seem a bit silly, but I was wondering if I could perhaps be bipolar? My friends and family have "jokingly" mentioned that I might be.... Here are some of my "symptoms". I get really happy and excited for no reason and then other times I get into this mood, when I dont want to talk to anyone; I get so irratable and mean to everyone for no reason. I also get depresed randomly for a whole day. Then the next day Im REALLY REALLY happy and excited. This cycle constantly repeats itself. Sometimes I get so excited that I cant even sleep. I just lie awake daydreaming. My friends also pointed out to me that I dont have "controll" over my emotions. I get excited when I should be sad and vice versa.
What do you think?
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ADDITIONAL: You Never mentioned this was CONSTANT before now. In that case have your parents keep an eye on you and if concerned take you to see an ER doctor who will put you on to a psychiatrist. But... It looks as though this is all normal to me having been through it.
ORIGINAL:
I'm no doctor but I would say you are a normal teenager. I can say that as I regrettably have the disease you've written in about.
Bipolar disorder is when you have grandiose ideas, visions and delusions colliding with your normal life turning it upside down and inside out. It's pure hell to be brutally honest. That's called mania.
And you don't come back down from that easily as it requires MONTHS of hospitalization and medication and then you get your life back gradually.
During this you'll have rapid cycles of absolute euphoria to deep depression where not only do you feel useless, depressed etc. but could pose harm to yourself if not hospitalized temporarily.
If you just feel down now and again or in a funk that's normal unless it seems to always occur. Getting happy and excited is okay unless you're off the charts like I stated before with euphoria or feeling omnipotent. What you describe is normal teenage stuff.
As far as daydreaming goes it hasn't anything to do with bipolar either. Self-control and emotions is a concern as with bipolar or pre-bipolar comes total inability to control them and decision making over anything is out the window.
That's hypomania. By itself it's not dangerous. It just means you're very hyper and decisions aren't sound but when bipolar it's dangerous.
Basically, unless you think you are GOD or someone of that status that controls everyone in the universe you're fine. If you aren't having grandiose ideas or visions of things nobody else can see or understand you're fine.
If your moods normally change like you stated that's fine too. It's only if it's a constant thing that cycles back and forth. If you are thinking you can communicate through TV, telepathically, in secret code with world leaders you're in crisis or headed. That's what most bipolar people think they experience until medication corrects it.
Also rapid speaking and thoughts going through your head non-stop like a freight-train and inability to sleep or have a sense of time and date or even where you are is another part of it.
I'm willing to bet you're fine because if you weren't a lot of people would be starting to question your health by now. It's something that can and does catch you by surprise but in some rare cases it's blatantly obvious.
As far as you're concerned you're a normal kid who daydreams and gets emotional sometimes. That's not a disease.
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my bf dumped me because i wouldn't say i love him...its a long story but the short of it is that a while back a guy really hurt me and ever since then i've dated lots of guys, but never loved them. its never been a problem before even for this guy i dated 7 months. but he is obsessed with me and he knew about how i am but randomly it got brought up and yea..were done now. since then i just cant stop crying over it and i never cry..i'm so hurt and i don't know what to do. i need advice a.s.a.p cause just writing this is making me cry again:( (link)
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If you don't feel something in your heart than you shouldn't say it as it lacks conviction and honesty. You KNOW that so you couldn't just say it. Perhaps this relationship of 7 months was never on stable ground.
He shouldn't be leaving you over something like this when you told him the reason. he should have known and not to get hurt because of your past and people burning you. Pledging love and outright devotion to someone isn't to be done lightly.
When you say "obsessed" is it an unnatural thing that made you feel uncomfortable inside? If so than maybe its for the best as none of this sounds remotely healthy.
It may take awhile to get over the feelings associated with breaking up but I'm sure there's bound to be the RIGHT guy walking into your life sooner or later that's a better fit for you as this guy if "obsessed" or "in to you" would respect that you couldn't say those words even if it hurt his feelings a bit. Don't fret over him or this. It all will pass and be ironed out.
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I am a graduating high school student. During my elementary, I graduated as a valedictorian. that is why My parents are expecting me to do good in school and get good grades. Now, I got a grade of 77 in calculus and if they'll learn about it, they would surely be mad at me. I don't know what to do. I love my parents and I did my best but I'm not really good in math. I could not let them down... Please give me advice on what to do/say and perhaps some good study habits in Math because I think it might help. (link)
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A 77% mark is NOTHING to sneeze at. Absolutely nothing. It's above average and in a subject they know you aren't good in. If you worked your butt off for it than that's all that matters.
You tried your very best and can't do more than that. Even if you had a tutor it's too late in the game to make it any higher. Your parents wold be too unreasonable if they applied pressure and didn't like that mark. Don't worry about it.
You may want to be valedictorian but grades alone doesn't influence that. They look at character the most. Even then with all the graduates there will be you can't predict their choice. Your odds regardless of grades of losing out is high.
It's not the end of the world if you don't get chosen even if your parents act like it. It often goes to the student who never campaigned or showed interest in it anyways. It won't affect your future or ability to get into X, Y or Z school.
Like I said, if any parent launched a tirade against a kid over a 77% grade in any subject they need their head checked as that's a really good mark.
If they did that than they're giving you too much pressure and setting things up for you to be too wound up. This is what makes you unfocused and unable to do anything related to that or other subjects without fear.
Accept the 77% and don't worry about the rest as really all that matters is that you tried hard. After June of this year nobody will care what you got as you moved on to better things.
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Well i like my guy friend named Chris. WE are in dance club together and he has a broken leg. My not so close friend Terra got mad because he was wearing my Pimp necklace. WE got out of class for two days this week to do random stuff. And he didn't take the elevator so I had to help him up the stairs. LOt of touching there. THere is a huge party this weekend and I wonder if he will go with me please give advice. And we hug and stuff but in a friend way.
THanks!
WE are 14 (link)
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It would seem that your friend has jealousy issues and likes the guy. That's not really your problem as she hasn't declared this or indicated it in any fashion. You might have to deal with her feelings later though so choose if this is worthwhile.
If you want him to go to said party just tell him so and so invited you and that you had nobody to go with. Ask if he would be interested in going and see what happens. He must have some interest in you because nobody on crutches goes out of their way to avoid an elevator just to be assisted by you. Think about it. They really wouldn't.
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I am 15 years old. Ever since I can remember, I have been unhappy - including my early childhood, which was filled by drunk and uncaring parents. I was sexually abused by my step brother for 2 years, and when I tried to tell my parents, they threatened to send me to a therapy session for 'false memories.' I grew up a quiet and introverted child, and I could never change my ways. I have always been filled with this guilt, sadness, and hatred, which led to me wanting to commit suicide. I hate speaking about my past. However, I want to learn how to open up and let people in - to trust them. I want to not worry about what they might think and to just move on. How do I do that? (link)
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The first thing you should do when it comes to opening up is know that what you endured is NOT your fault nor should you feel guilty or want to harm yourself over it.
Death isn't an answer and no matter how HUGE a problem may seem it always gets better in time. Next, you should have professional help from a psychiatrist to help you with these memories, your parents and moving forward.
Tell the doctor exactly what you told us about the abuse, memories, parents and being threatened with being sent away or to therapy for having "False Memories" against others.
He/she will do a real number on them for that. Also, no information unless you have harmed others/yourself will ever be released to them or others.
You need to go to an emergency room actually and tell the people there that you're filled with guilt, anger, sadness, hatred and an overwhelming feeling that you should kill yourself.
What they'll do is introduce you to a psychiatrist who will start treating you on the spot, provide medication for depression or otherwise and get you to where you need to be to have a quality life in time.
If they think you're a threat to your own well-being they can temporarily hold you for 72 hrs or as long as necessary to successfully handle this.
It's not such a bad thing to stay there until you show signs of being better. They make sure you're in the safest environment to heal and not want to hurt yourself.
There's a lot of NORMAL people just like you there and a few who will return to normal with their help so it's not at all like what you may be visualizing.
It's the best move to seek professional help as you need it to handle this issue that won't go away otherwise or improve.
As far as what others think play this card close to your vest. Nobody needs to know anything and or should be on a case by case needs to know basis. Nobody outside of the doctor would ever need to discuss this with you or know your past. You control this.
If anyone ever found out and said something which isn't likely tell them "That's a personal issue that I don't discuss with others."
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I really like my best friend. He's funny, smart, cute, nice, everything! But I'm not really sure how to tell him. I'm not really a person that likes her feelings out in the open, and I definitely don't like talking about them! So how am I supposed to let him know, or how to ask him out? (link)
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There really isn't a way to avoid directly telling a person. You have to be a risk taker and leave yourself vulnerable as we all do.
That's the only way to get what you want. He's your best-friend and as such won't make things awkward or unbearable if he doesn't feel the same way. You should ask him if he ever thought there could be more to this than just a friendship and go from there.
You could always try to invite him on a group date but likely that won't compute as you always take him along with the same crowd. I would just try what I said above or saying it outright as regardless it empowers you to take risks and go after what you want with relationships.
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