|
how to be myslef without looking like a poser
hey, before i say anything.....im am NOT a poser...i just neeed guidence. I am the only girl in MY WHOLE GRADE who is desses like me.I honestly HATE labels...but im seemed to be known as the "emo girl". Instead if refusing it and fighting back, i just accepted it, to cause less trouble and other stuff. That sorta made it worse. Everyone started calling me a poser...and i dont copy anyone thou. I am my own person...but i really need help and guidence...so how do you be emo in middle school without looking like a poser.. (btw i need GUIDENCE, not to copy..)
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Miscellaneous category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Fashion and Styles?
Witty is bang on darling - there are really no truly original ideas left. Whatever you do will have been done by someone before. Whatever you choose, someone will look at you and say "Oh, that's just like such-and-such."
Although it is very irritating that people at your school are using that simple fact to bully you, the truth is they are just being overly simplistic morons. You wont beat them by 'Not looking like a poser'. You will beat them when you stop caring what they think.
I know it's a cliche, but it's true.
Looking like a poser has almost nothing to do with what you wear or what music you like - people look like posers when they are a bit nervous about claiming their own identity. Bullies will latch on to that little bit of insecurity and capitalize on it. That's why the harder you try to not be a poser, the more you'll be accused of it.
You've got the first part of the package: Like what you like. The second part is: to hell with the rest of them.
]
They call you a poser because it's pretty obvious you try to pride yourself on some sense of individuality and so the easiest way to prick your insecurities is to call you a sheep.
There is no such thing as an original teenager. Everything you've done, thought, wanted, has been done, thought, and wanted by millions upon millions upon millions of teenagers before you. The only thing that changes is the context (time period).
You don't need guidance, you need to learn not to care about what people say about you. If however you dress works for you, let people call you a poser. If you're going to take so much pride in your individuality don't you think you should be just a little more confident in it?
I'm pretty off most of the time. I rub some people the wrong way. I have friends whom I trust who can tell me when I'm out of line, the rest of the time I just do what I do.
When someone's opinion of you has a potential for negative impact on your life, it's something worth thinking about. When people are calling you a poser, it's something worth ignoring.
If you change your look it'll probably just end up going in the "so what are you trying to be now?" direction anyway.
]
Just be. If they don't like you based on how you dress or normally act then screw 'em. They have to deal with that on their own and miss out knowing you.
Dress how you want, walk, chew gum etc. how you want and your real friends and those worth knowing won't care.
You would be a "poser" only if you went from your normal style to something so not who you are. You haven't done that and if you did it would make things worse.
Accept yourself as you are. In a few years you won't know half of them nor will what they thought or still do of you be relevant. Just be who you are if that's emo fine.
Apparently they haven't been watching carefully as you aren't out to impress by being who you are and only are a poser if you do the opposite. Someone should fetch them a dictionary.
]
More Questions: |