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Friend Troubles
I have this "friend". We are constantly having fights and this time was the last straw for me. The other times I just tried to forget the past, which kind of worked. But not anymore. I finally called it quits.
But I keep thinking about him. My heart says be friends but my head says don't be. I know he is a mean, competitve jerk but I keep thinking about him.
What do I do?!?!
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Even in these types of friendships there exists several good qualities in the other person to keep it going. That's what keeps bringing you back as well as clashing.
You're kind of opposites on certain things but alike on others because you are cut from the same cloth.
If you want to be friends with him deep down than continue it. Don't continue the friendship until you discuss everything that has gone wrong with it first. Work through those issues and you'll be fine. If he screws up again then leave.
For now you have to talk to him directly about what is bothering you and his social skills or lack thereof and his ability to be a competitive jerk. Maybe he'll get it if you lay it out to him.
Some people however, are the way that they are and self-serving, egotistical jerks and you can't fix it. You have to ask yourself if he and the friendship are too far gone that way.
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i was recently in a situation like this.. my ex boyfriend complained a ton and it was really annoying for me. my head was telling me to break up with him because it got too much for me to handle. his expectations for me were set way too high and i couldn't be who he wanted me to be. but my heart was telling me that i might regret the decision. my other ex before him dumped me (we dated for a year) and i was devastated. he told me that it was the biggest mistake he's ever done because he was that in love with me. so partially i was scared to dump my recent ex because i didn't want to make the same mistake my other ex made.. dumping someone and then realizing that they were the one.. i ended up dumping him because i realized that even if we do fight a lot, i still wouldn't be happy. yes maybe i do love him, but i knew that if we kept fighting and disagreeing, my love for him would fade.
so really.. its what you think is best for YOURSELF. don't let anyone's opinions influence you. do what you think is best for yourself. do you think you can put up with his flaw? if they absolutely make you crazy.. then try taking a break with him and see how you feel after that.
good luck!
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