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Q: I hang out with these 5 girls at school. they r all my best friends.We go to a charter school (and r in 8th grade), so we r constantly getting new kids cuz everyone wants in. but lately one of my friends has been hanging out w/the new girl, holly.at first the other 4 and i were really happy for my friend cuz she had a new friend, but now all she talks about is holly. its always"holly this, holly that.holly and i are having a sleep over tonite". It's horrible. What should i do????
Signed,
Confused and Lonely

Maybe you can have holly join your little group? You might like her..who knows. Ask her out to one of your little get-togethers and see how it works out. If you dont like her for whatever reason, tell your friend that you dont like hearing holly this and holly that. And not to talk about her while you guys are hanging out. I hope I helped and good luck!

Q: Me n my friend want to write something to the mayor of our town about how we want buses and/or taxis in the town. but we arent sure what to do.. does anyone have any suggestions of what we can do/write to the mayor?

i rate all 5s..

-jules

I agree with Notso. You need a petition because the mayor wont just listen to two people. So get a petition for people to sign or if its easier go to www.petitiononline.com and get a petition online and then you can print it out after you think you have enough. go to churches, houses, friends, family, etc. etc. good luck.

Q: Wats some good websites that are free that have really good games that are really fun

www.uproar.com (play game shows, old game shows, and more)

Q: What do I do to get a guy to like me and want to ask me out, or be noticed in a innocent way? Also what are some signs of whether a not a guy likes you?

If you see a guy you like, go up to him and start a conversation. Ask him if he wants to hang out more..get their screen names or phone numbers. And just hang out, and if the guy likes you and youlike him something will eventually happen. A sign that guys like you, they make fun of you (no joke), they touch you a lot..

Q: What are some good ways of curing boredom?

Hmm you could go to chatrooms,message-boards, and talk to a certain people. Go to websites like bored.com or search under google for stuff. Or you can talk to me and I'll try to unbore you. my aim is sherry7pchik and my yahoo is sherrybear1111 so if you have any of those feel free to im me!

Q: hey does anyone know how to get those cute icon things where you put your picture? I don't want my picture in there but I want an icon to replace that ugly lookin thing in there now..thanks a bunch!

www.xanga.com/shimmersweets
www.xanga.com/awesome_icons
www.xanga.com/icongirl

Q: when you have sex with a "bigger" guy, is it possible for your hymen to rip again?

No, once its open its open. It cant break again.

Q: ok...me n my friends wanna do sumthin scary for halloween..if u guys saw "scariest places on earth" on t.v then u prolly say "bunny mans bridge" we wanna go there for halloween and do something that wont get us in trouble but sumthin to scare us...also w/o our parents knowin bcuz they say be quiet wenever we talk about it cuz sumthin happened there...ne1 have ne ideaS?!...or ne ideas on wut we could do at a haunted house thats n our woods? thanx ill rate u good...

You could just go at like midnight and meet up somewhere then walk to the house. But be like far away from it but not far away to where you cant see it. Its scary trust me, cuz its night and your in front of a haunted house, and theres noises and all. Anyway, if you want it to be more fun you could walk closer and closer until your all scared haha.

Q: ok i have a problem..wel its not really a problem but i wanna lose about 10 pounds but i dont now how to?

You can eat your 3 meals, no junk food in between, only drink water, dont eat after 6, and exercise and lose 10 lbs! My cousin did that and it worked for him.

Q:
What age would you let your Child date?? What would you allow them to do with Him or Her?

Like someone else said, group dating would be ok when your 13 or 14. But I'm letting my kid go out with peopel at 16, and I'm going to have to know everything about the person their dating. because kids these days are sleeping with everyone, it'll be worse when I'm married and have kids!

Q: I want a glitter name. Can anybody make me a glitter name please? If you can will you answer this? Thank you.

I'll make you one. Leave one in my inbox with your name and aim screen-name. or email.

Q: aight there's this guy i've liked ever since summer. we were going out but then we stopped talking for a long time.. like 2 months? so i figured he forgot about me and didn't care, and i moved on. but then i found out why we hadn't talked, he had to go away for an emergency, and he wants to be still together with me, but i dunno if thats a good idea because we'll never get to see each other and we go to different schools. any advice?

You believe that emregency bull? Look an emergency would be at the most, a week. he didnt call or anything? I dont suggest going out with this guy again. You said you moved on, so just find new guys.

Q: hey theres this one guy i went out with and we were really close...we said i love you and all that stuff, then one day he heard alot of rumors around the school about me and they werent true,but he didnt believe me cuz he said that over 10 people said all this stuff.So he broke up with me,but a couple of days later we were talking on the phone and he said he would go out with me again but hes afraid of breaking my heart again..and i said "its ok....im getting used to it" but i didnt think before saying it. Then he said "why because of me" and i said yes....then he said he doesnt feel like talking....and he got all mad and hung up. After that we were talking on aim and we got in a big fight over that thing i said and he said he just wont talk or look at me anymore....And at school yesterday he wouldnt even look at me...but everybody i tell that too says i can get better, or u dont deserve him, but they dont kno how much i like him.When we were in that fight on aim he said that he was going to ask me if we can try it again, but i said that so now hes not going to ask me...and i just want to tell him how i really feel, but im afraid i'll say something else to make him mad....

It doesnt matter wether he gets mad or not if you tell him something. Tell him how you feel, so you can sort things out. If he justs gets mad and doesnt want to talk, dont go out with him. He's a jerk anyway.

Q: Hey... im making my Xmas list. I need advice on how to get my mind to think up what i want lol... or does anyone have ideas that a girly girl prep 13 yrz old girl would like........................................

thankx xoxx

Clothes, new shoes, new games, money is always a good one haha. Just look around at stores and if you find something you want, add it to the list. Good luck!

Q: i guess you could say im emo. i listen to the music blah blah blah w/e. i just painted my room red and i have flyers and pictures and what not but i want one wall of a big collage only i dont knwo how to start out. helllp please.

Get pictures of your friends, favorite bands, posters, family, things that are really important to you. And just put them up there one by one. If you dont hyave a lot of pictures just start off with however many you have and add more when you get more.. Sooner or later you'll have a whole wall filled with stuff. Hope I helped!

Q: Hi. Does anyone know of a good way to get a flat stomach? All my friends say I'm not fat, but I would like to get a flat stomach and lose some weight on my thighs, too. I heard about doing crunches every morning/night and running a mile a day. Does anyone have a certain way to get a flat stomach and skinnier thighs? Thanks!

Ohhh Pilates work great. Go to walmart and get the pilates video for 10 bucks..or get a pilates book.

Q: hey, well, about a year ago, this random guy IMed me, and he and I have become good friends after that. Well, his name is Will. And when we first started talking, he had a g/f.I started to like him a lot, and his g/f absolutely hated me. She kept thinking that I would take Will away from her.Ever since she started thinking that, I tried to stay away.(getting new s/n and never talking to them again)Well, he ended up finding my new sn, and I just let it go, and we started talking again. His g/f finally asked me my # so we could three way. So, I let in and gave it to her.We started talking all the time after that. And just recently they broke up. While they were going out, I had a b/f. And then he dumped me after about 3 months.(that was the 2 time we went out)Well,Will called me about a week ago, and told me that he was so happy that he and his g/f broke up.and then he told me that he really liked me.Well...i got anothe b/f, let's call him "JC", and he's my friends ex-b/f. now she's all pissed at me. one day i was talking to Will's friend. and now Will's friend keeps saying to dump JC and go out with him.so now, Will and his friend are mad at each other, and i feel like it's my fault. So, Will called me last night and said " what if i figured out your address?" and i got kinda scared. cause, i know how dangerous it could be.What am i supposed to do?! Will and his friend are mad at each other, and my friend is pissed at me,and Will has my address. Please help. And sorry it's so long.
-jena

How does he have your address? He probably doesnt, he probbaly is just getting you scared or something. This guy sounds like a jerk for scaring you like that, so dont go out with him. Plus, youll never see the guy and sooner or later you or him will find somebody that you guys like. So yeah dont do it, just be friends.

Q: A couple of weeks ago I met a guy at my best friends party. Lets call hym "a" Hes so hot and so nice but he kept checking me out. Since we were in a limo everyone was giving lap dances to regeaton music. I gave one to a guy and then "a" wanted one from me. But then I found out he has a girlfriend AND I know who she is. So I didn't give him one because it didn't seem like the right thing to do and I would have felt guilty...so he was like darn. But now I find myself liking him. He has broken upp with his gf and i know I have the opportunity but he just seems like a real player to me and I don't want a guy like that. After all he wanted a lap dance from a girl when he has a gf! And he was like well she doesn't have to know...wouldn't you be hurt if you were his gf? And please don't give me advice "well thats the way guys are" or "alot of guys will do that" because that is sooo not true. I just don't know what to do...He doesn't know I like him and I'm not sure if I want him to because...idk..I just can't resist...I want to like him..I just don't wanna get hurt..but I wanna be happy too..
xo0x confused x0ox

Well yeah you want to be happy, but all that happiness will go away when he hurts you. And pain lasts longer than happiness so just look for someone else. You'll find the right guy for you:)

Q: Well.. First of all me and this guy have been "dating" for about 2 months.. And well we are truly in love I mean you have NO IDEA!! And I really really like him SOO much and we are just like the best couple ever... And WELL Yesterday he told me that he kissed another girl!! And I donno what to do.. I mean he said he didnt feel anything and he regreated it and I mean he told me himself what he did... But I donno what to do b cuz i mean I love him soo much.. and YAH!! I don't kno if i should be mad or what.. So will SoMeOnE PLZ JUST HELP ME!!!

Yes, you should be mad. He kissed a girl and personally, i think you should dump him. Buttt since you love him so much and want it to work out. Dont be mad but set strict rules(Like dont ever see that girl again, dont go to partys for a while) and when he has your trust back then you can let him do more stuff and if he doesnt want to show you that he can be trusted, then dump him.

Q: my boyfriend of one year has told me that he wants to take a "break" from me and he wants space. I didnt have a problem with it at first until he started to be mean to me and not wanting me to call him. He says we used to argue alot and he feels if we take a "break" it will make our relationship better when we get back 2 gether. i love him and miss him and i dont understand why he's being soo mean and why he expects me to act as if i dont care

HELP ME PLEASE

Hey, if he really needs space all you can do is give him space. But I dont know, he could just say that because he wants to break up but doesnt know how to tell you. You never really know, but just wait it out and see what happens.