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My "friend" not too many people like,and so sometimes its embarasing to be around her.Shes not a geek or something like that.Shes just annoying,rude and imatture.She always is using me on our homework to.I dont want to be her frined any more and ive told her how rude shes being,and she just comes up with lame comebacks.Shes not getting the hint,and shes obsessed with me.How do i get rid of her,or at least get her to back off without hurting her?

Dont do this in school or in public, because it will embarass her. Outside of school and everything..talk to her and reeally lay down the line. Its not good to hold emotions in, so if anyone tells you to try and deal with her and hold your frustration in, dont do it. Tell her firmly..(dont scream it..but dont sound gentl)that your SICK of her using you for homework. Also tell her your tired of how annoying, rude, and immature she can be. Tell her you think that some space would be best for the both of you. Do you still want to be her friend? If you do..tell her you want to be your friend, but you just cant deal with her annoying,rude,and immature ways anymore. If you dont want to be your friend, i tihnk she'll finally get the hint and back off of you.
-melissa

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I'm very confused.
My two best friends are starting to treat me like I'm a little kid or something because I haven't gone as far as they have, because I haven't had a boyfriend in a little while. Which I think is fine because I'm only a freshman, and my life doesn't revolve around that stuff. But it still annoys me that they act like I'm immature or something because I haven't gotten fingered, and because I didn't approve of my friend having sex with this guy for revenge. They also make fun of me for being really straight edge which I don't think I am. They think they are really cool because they hang out in a specific neighborhood in brooklyn sometimes.I don't know, I guess it just annoys me that they think they are much more mature because I don't get shit drunk and coked up all the time, and I refrain from making out with bunches of people. But I don't want to yell at them or make them think I don't want to be friends with them anymore. What should I do?

What kind of friends make you feel bad consistantly? People like them are NOT friends. They have issues because if they think having sex with a guy for revenge is "mature" then they have some problems. Hanging around Brooklyn,getting fingered,drunk,high,etc does NOT make you cool! You need to find some friends who wont treat you like that. Its ok if they are different from you, but its NOT ok for friends to put friends down. Is that what friendship is about? Nope..and you dont desserve it because you sound like a down to earth kind of person who has values and does the right thing, which is excellent. Lose the losers and find some friends worth while who wont put you down!
-melissa

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I wanna take a friend on vacation with me in a month, but I'm really scared about what my other friends will say. I mean, I can't just not tell them!

Hey, Im sure your other friends will understand. Just explain to them that you'd love to take all of them...but you just cant. Maybe try and bring a different friend next time...and tell them next time you'll bring someone else. One of my friends took me on vacation and the rest seemed to understand and i dont think they got too jealous. How old are you? I think your friends will understand..espcially if you 13 or 14 or older. Your right, you cant just not tell them..just make sure they know you'd really like to bring them all , but thats not possible and I think they will understand. If they dont for some reason, post me a question and we'll take it from there
-melissa

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My boyfriend Justin was the kind of guy that had sex and did stuff alot before we started going out. I really like him, but sometimes he gets on my nerves because he's always saying I won't do stuff with him. Truth is, I would and I want too. But with sex, I just don't wanna get pregnant. What are some things that can make me seem a little bit more naughty, without stepping too far over the line. Simple things, even. Please don't critize, I not wanting to do anything because he's pressuring me, it's because I want to and I have thought about it. I rate! Thanks.

theres plenty to do besides have sex. sex is like the hot fudge to the sundae..but theres still a lot more to a sundae than the fudge lol. You can make out with him..and if you want to get kinky/naughting bring out some whipped cream and have him lick it off your stomach or maybe somewhere else..he can finger you..perform oral sex on you..you can give him a handjob or give him head..he can feel up your shirt..light candles and just lay there with each other..theres plenty of stuff..you just have to let the tiger in you come out lol Hope i gave you some ideas?
Have fun lol
-melissa

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i used to hang out wit a bunch of my friends. now one of those friends has told the other friends privatly how she misses hanging out with eachother, only she didnt mention my name. now i didnt hang out wit my bestfriend to see what would happen. now none of them are my friends anymore. what should i do?

Maybe your friends dont realize that they have been leaving you out. Try talking to them about how they feel. If you try talking and you see that for some reason they truly are totally shutting you out..then find a new group! Start talking to new people in class..and sooner or later you'll start sitting at their lunch table and even making plans with them. Are you on any sports? Thats a great way to make new friends. Start talking to new team mates on the bus rides and become closer with them. If your not on a team, but you watch the games or something..mmention to them "o great job in your game the other day" whhich will lead to a new convo. Make every effort to talk to new people and i know pretty soon you'll wind up hangin out with them. Hopefully you wont have to find new friends..hopefully your friends just havent realized how they have been leaving you out. Good luck with everything and if it sstill doesnt work out..write to me!
-melissa-

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What is the #1 thing a man can do to make himself more attractive?

What is generally the least attractive thing about a man?

The # 1 thing a man can do to make himself so much sexier is to look a girl in the eye when he talks to her..and smile :) The least attractive thing he can do is to have a really high ego and brag about himself
-melissa

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Sorry about the lenth. Anyways, my boyfriend and me started having sex last Augest. (i'm 17/f) and my mom found out a couple of monthes after, and she found out we weren't using condoms and such ... anyways, ever since she keeps blackmailing me. If I don't do this for her or kiss her ass for the rest of my life she'll tell his parents everything ... and he'll get sent away. We love each other to death, but if we were seperated I don't know what I would do. This blackmail stuff is really getting to me ... i get all stressed out by it and depressed. Really depressed. Please help, i rate high

Eh what a sucky situation. Is it possible that his parents like you enough that they'll believe you if you tell them that your mom is jumping to conclusions? Could you tell his parents that no none of it happened? Maybe your mom is bluffing who knows . What does your bf say? Maybe saying to your mom "ok fine go ahead" will solve everything. Hopefully its a bluff. How soon will he be 18? If its coming up...put up with your mom's crap for awhile and when your bf turns 18 stop kissing her ass. This way your bf will go to college..move out..whatever if they kick him out. You can also try tape recording your mom threatening you about telling..and you can say "mom stop threatening me..you know id never do that!" (dramatize it lol) and show it to his parents first? I dont maybe not such a great idea.
Hope i helped out a little?
-melissa

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Sorry for the length. Yes, I know that weed is bad for you, but I kind of got pressured into smoking a ganga(sp?) today. It was like a crash burn type of thing, I took two hits, but on both of them I messed up, I sucked in, held it, swallowed but only a little swallow, then blew, so I didn't really get anything. I was wondering, if I had gotten something, what are the chances of getting hurt on the 1st try? Can you die from the first try of weed. I think next week my friends wanted me to try a black and mild (the one's that smell really good) I know it's illegal and all that, I just wanted to know the chances of like dying or passing out, or blacking out on the first try, and only one or two hits. I know this kid at our school who had extesy, and about 30 of something, but he was like forced it or something, and he blacked out and when someone else woke up, the kid (Winston) had no pulse and had died from OD. Can you OD off of only no more than 3 hits of weed? What are some consequences besides death, or like consequences and how long it takes for those consequences to come in effect. I know it's a dumb question, and I could probably google it or something, but I'd rather ask it here. Thanks.

Hey..theres no way you can black out or anything. Weed and extesey are COMPETELY different. Extesey is really dangerous..while weed is only dangerous (if your driving around high..you could get in an accident because weed slows your reaction.) But you really are fine. You can OD on weed..you can just get reeaaly high. Just dont do it is my opinion but hey you only live once so its up to you.
hm as for the long term affects..i hear its much better than cigerettes...i hesar weed doesnt blacken your lungs but then again..i hear all this info from the stoners lol. So for that part id have to say try google..im sorry. I hear mixed theories about long term affect.
You'll be fine though
-melissa

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wut can i do to b more relaxed the first time i have sex i mean i still get nervouse wen i do other stuff... but mostley scared my friend will try to get me to have sex with him i mean i wunt to cuz i no im ready im jus really scared its gunna hurt.. wut should i do

SHAiiNA

Im still a virgin..but Ive watched Talk Sex With Sue Johanson (talk sex show on tv) and she says just to be relaxed. If your nervous before sex, your vaginal muscles will tighten, making the pain worse. Just relax and make sure your ready for this. Have the guy finger you gently..lubrication might ease the pain perhaps.
Good luck ..remember..dont do anything your not ready for
-meliss

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theres a guyat school name mitch. A lot of people hate him. But when you get to know him he is really nice. He asked me out. what should i say? I need help!!!!!!!

Dont listen to what others say or think! If he seems nice and you like him say yes! It sounds like a great opportunity and you two could really hit it off. Dont pass up that chance just because other people dont like him
-melissa

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well im going out with this guy my 2 friends dont like....but i really like him and they want me 2 dump him but i really dont want to....but i dont wanna lose muh friends but i dont wanna lose muh boy....what should i do

Have a talk with your friends. Tell them this guy really makes you happy and you want them to be happy for you. Let them know you'll always have time to hang with them and he'll never get in the way of the friendship between the 3 of you. Ask them to please understand and that your really happy. See their reaction. If they seem to understand you..then great! But if they still want you to break up with him..you only have a few choices.
(A) Ignore them and keep with ur bf and keep your friends. When they bring him up continue to defend him and ask WHY they are so much against him
(B) break up with your bf. Still be friends or friends with benefits
(C) stand up to your friends and tell them to stop harassing you.
I personally would choose A because i would hate it to have to break up with someone just because they dont like him. That isnt right! PLus...these girls are supposed to be your friend. Its ok to voice their opinion..but they shouldnt harass you about him.
hope i helped
-melissa==

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ok im 13/f and im goin out w/ a 12/m...yea i no its werid but im one of those ppl that says age doesnt matta lol. so we started goin out a couple of days ago but hes liked me for a long time. the only prob is when im around he doesnt treat me like his gf...i dont know wut to do cuz i really like him but i wanna be treated like his gf...not jus a friend.

I think hes shy. Guys can be reeally shy at that age. All it will take is some warming up for him. Do you guys hang out? When your hanging out alone..like watching a movie at your house, a the movies, wherever..make the first move. Set a romantic type of setting, you know? Im not saying strip for him lol..just simple things like holding his hand to start with. Maybe a kiss on the cheeek..then the lips..and hopefully he'll join in the fun and make the first move next time. Trust me, when you get to be my age..you wont find shyness to be a problem anymore lol. Dont feel bad about age..your right it doesnt matter...My friend who is 15 is going out with an 8th grader..so he must be like 13.
Hope i helped
-melissa

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k like i go out with this girl but i might not be able 2 talk 2 her for about a month or so and im afraid she might get pissed about it and break up with me, we have only been goin out for about a week and that is why i am so parinode but if she breaks up with me then i can go out with other people that i will be able 2 talk 2, but i dont want 2 do that cause it would make me feel bad, should i break up with her and tell her that i will go back out with when i can talk 2 her or just tell her its over and not go back out with her


$BigBoyZ$

Its not a great idea to tell her "i'll get back to you when i can talk to you again" and then go off and date other people. She'll get mad and feel like shes on the side waiting for you. Do you want it to work with her..are you willing to make it work by staying together when you arent able to talk? Those are the questions you need to ask yourself. It takes a lot of thinking..but just go with your heart. If its not going to work out..break up with her and say lets just be friends being that we cant even talk. You mentioned dating other people...maybe thats a better idea. Its all up to you and you have to think about it. If it were me, i'd want to try and make it work out ..but thats just me lol. Good luck with everything..hope i helped
-melissa

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im 13 an di have a lot of older guy friends who work at local mall ....one of the guys just happens to be the guy who sold me my cell and he has a wife and a daughter.....another one of my firends is gay.....i just told my mom that everytime i got to the mall i give the cell phone guy a hug....and she got pissed.....this always happens...i swear everybody i kno she thinks iis gonna rape me.....then she told me how she was taken advantage of when she was a year olda than me.....i dont wanna stop givin hugs to the cell phone guy but she getts pissed

what do i do.....i try to assure her that ill be fine but she said if i keep talkin to ppl at the mall she wont let me ever go bakk

Your mom is permenantly scarred from her bad experience, so thats why shes paranoid. When you go to the mall just dont tell her you hugged him..dont freak her out.
-melissa

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my boyfriends ex IMed me the other day and we started talking...shes really nice and stuff but i know she still likes my boyfriend...she says she doesnt but i know she does...and like she said he broke her heart and she just wants to be friends now and so she asked me to talk to him and just say that she sayd hi and i did and like they made up now...my boyfriend is over her and stuff but she flirts with him now...(she lives 45 minutes away now so she cant see him in person) but like on his myspace she is like hey ur sooooo hott and all this stuff and always putting little hearts on it and then she puts "j/k" but shes not!! i know it!! its pissing me off too...and she like always tells me "about the sweet things he did for her when they were togther"....what can i do about this??

Just forget about her. Shes out of the picture. your bf is over her. Trust him that your the one hes interested in right now. Yhe other girl just isnt over him yet and thats her problem. I would be annoyed also..so tell her the nice things he does for you..or say "maybe you should get over him and let go". Ignoring her might be the best way though...she just needs to get over him.
-melissa

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what's the best way to get word out about a club? even if it is a slightly academic one? it's a lot like debate, but it's still different.

please and thanks.

In my school we can write announcements and if you get it approved, they can annoucne it for us. So try that. Also try printing out flyers and hanging them around school. Simply telling people will spread the word as well.
Good luck
-melissa

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Alright, I'm a little confused here...I want to tone my body, but I keep hearing that weights and squats and stuff will simply increase the size of my thighs and butt by adding more muscle...is running a good way to make them slimmer...some help here please!

Heres the thing: : lifting heavier weights will make you gain muscle weight. If you lift lighter weights and do less repetitiions with less time in between sets, thats how you tone up. By lifting heavier weights, doing more repitions, and taking longer breaks after sets, thats how you gain muscle weight.
-melissa-

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theres this new guy on skool and shes really HOT! hes on the other team so i havent talkd to him yet. i wanna talk to him because mayb we can get 2gether :-). I am a shy person when it comes to talkin to new people. Any ideas or tricks on ways to talk to him?
PLEASE ANSWER QUICKLY!:-D
I RATE!

Do you know a friend whos on the other team? If so, have her talk to him and get him and some other people to hang out. WHen you guys hang out..just flirt and hit it off with him! You can also get his screen name from a friend and talk to him..ask him about his old home etc. Then after awhile you can invite him to hang out with you and some people. If you have a guy friend thats even better because he can talk to this hot guy and ask what he thinks of you. Get your guy friend to try and hook him up with you maybe. Is he on any sports? if so..after the game you can say "nice shot" or something.
Hope i helped..good luck!
-melissa

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i think my best friend doesnt like me anymore its just somtimes well ok alot of times recently she seems really pissed at me and it seems like she trys to avoid me but i ono please help me out

Is your friend going through any rough times? maybe she is and shes not telling you? Maybe your spending too much time together..maybe you should try not hangin out with her outside of school for a week or so. Try talking to her and finding out whats wrong. Write a letter, talk online, the phone, in person...whichever you like. Dont kill yourself over this though..after awhile of trying and shes still being bitchy to you..leave it alone and wait for her to come to you and talk it out. I hope everything works out
-melissa-

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i went out with my boyfriend for awhile, and we broke up on new years. it really sucks, because we're not gonna be together again because he doesn't want to hurt me. i have to respect that, considering he's thinking about me. but i dont know when ill be able to get over him! i would die if i saw him with another girl, and i see him in the hallways all the time, plus he's in my lunch hour. so what could i do to make me lose interest in this guy so i can move on? i rate high for good answers.. thanx

It really does take time.Yeah ive been through this..it sucks and it hurts :( at least he moved away so I dont have to see him all over his new gf though. To get over him hang out with friends a LOT. They'll be willing to talk to you about what your feeling and they will be there for you also. By hangning out with friends you have tons of fun and eventually you'll begin forgetting about him until you get home. Think of the really good times and how your so lucky to be able to have had a great bf...not every girl has had a great bf. Try focusing on a different guy. Surely theres got to be a cute guy. I know your not going to fall for him right away but it will get your mind off him. Get into sports. your mind is gonna drift back to him for a long time, but soon it gets better and better until hes just a nice memory and the pain is almost gone....
-melissa

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