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Ok me and my bf have been together for alittle more than 6months now and everytime we have sex something goes wrong. We live a little far away so we see each other two or three times a week at the most, and he gets so backed up because we have sex everyweek and finishes very quickly. Sometimes when we have sex he wouldnt even go up ill give him a bj and everything, he just doesnt seem to get into it. What can i dO? He loves when i bite his neck and ears but it doesnt seem to get him up, am i doing something wrong? I wanna have good sex and it just doesnt go my way. I sometimes breathe real hard in his ear and it seems to turn him on i kinda wanna moan in his ear cause i think thatd help but i feel akward what would i say. Someone help i dont know what to do (link)
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Take things more slowly.
It sounds like he has an issue with climaxing a bit early, and thats probably causing him a ton of insecurity.
Talk to him about it. Tell him you want him to enjoy it more, and you want to know how to do that.
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[i didn't know whether to put this under love life or sex]
so last night me and my boyfriend were making out and somehow i ended up straddling him. he took off my shirt then my bra so then i took off his shirt. he started going down on me (still had pants on) and started taking off my pants...there i drew the line and said "not yet"..then he looked at me and said that he wasn't gonna do anything bad, so i said well what were you gonna do? and he said "idk i didnt really plan it i was just gonna wing it" ...what do you think that means? im almost positive he was planning on having sex because we didn't have a condom and he said he wasnt gonna do anything "bad"
my second question is, we were kind of like dry humping...like sex with pants on...i wouldnt be able to get pregnant from this right?
thank youuu for answering any of my questions
and were 17/f and 17/m if that has anything to do with it. (link)
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Ive done that. In the heat of the moment, the continued removal of clothing just kind of happens. You usually aren't thinking much at this point, just going on instinct.
I would say, that had you been ok with it you quite possible would have had sex. He wasn't planning on going further than you might have wanted, he wasnt planning on going anywhere besides forward from where he was. Forward was to play with intimate bits to whatever degree was ok with you.
Who knows. Ive been told to stop because things progressed past where a girl was comfy. The thing to focus on is that you've got a boy who stopped the second you asked him to. Good sign, good kid. He likes you, he wants you, and he wants you to want whatever he does.
As far as pregnant, not likely. Sperm has to get inside the vagina, and the chances of them swimming through multiple layers of clothes is akin to the chance of a tornado hitting a junkyard and assembling a working car out of the scrap.
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i'm so sick of being invincible by my parents...
I get straight A's....right? and still yet i gain as much stress and shit from my parents as if i'm recieving straight F's. I asked my mom if my boyrfriend could come over tom. and she said yes and i'm sick so i decided to take a nap but before i headed towards my nap i made sure with my mom that it was okay... and she said of course!
then i get up a few hours later and she makes me fold the clothes it takes me an hour and then i asked her for some dinner and she said alright i'll give you some soup. So i sat at the computer and just checkd email and facebook and she started yelling at me at how i didn't study at all and such. i figured that it was going to take my mom like 6 mins to give me my soup but i didn't know she had to make it from scratch so THATS why i decided it won't kill to check my email.But honestly here me out.... I've finished a WHOLE 817 page SAT book within vacation.... and yet she still says that i don't study. and now she's saying how my boyfriend can't come over now and honestly truthfully my heart it does hurt physically and emotionally i don't know what to say or what to do... My parents just say i'm talking back when all i'm trying to do is state a point. (link)
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Ask questions.
With an unreasonable parent, one of the best things you can do is make them justify themselves.
In the situation above, I would have asked what makes her say that I don't study. And sat and listened to whatever she said. I would have pointed out that I make good grades, and asked why making good grades and doing extras like reading SAT books gives her the impression that I don't study enough.
I then would have asked her why she was so angry at me. I would have asked if she was upset just about the studying or if there is something else thats a problem you don't know about. Again, listen.
Keep your cool the entire time.
Now, if she talks to you, vents about frustrations having nothing to do with you, etc, she is somewhat reasonable. Talk to her and ask her if she'd like you to keep her more informed about what you're up to school wise so she can know that you ARE already doing what you're supposed to.
Thats key. At all points emphasize that you ARE doing what you are supposed to. Don't ask her what you aren't doing, ask her how you can show that you already ARE doing.
If she just yells at you, and they continue to refuse to allow you to talk, or she refuses to answer any logical questions, you're probably going to have to decide whether you're going to stand up for yourself in the face of irrationality or if you're going to just let it slide.
If your parents are straight up irrational theyre pissed about something and taking it out on you. Depending on what it is and how they are, there may be nothing you can do.
To give you a comparison, my parents were completely intractable. To them compromise meant that they moved a half an inch towards me when we were miles apart and then bitched at me because they were being perfectly fair in their eyes. My house was in full scale war from about 13 until after I moved out. Some people are not reasonable, and have an unfailing belief in their own correctness (however stupid and misguided they might actually be) and will just make excuses when they find out theyre wrong.
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I've been hanging out with this guy for almost 2 months and we've hooked up 3 times (only made out.) The last time he asked me if i was ready to take it further (i assumed fingering?) but i said no. Its not that im not ready for it, but were not together officially and in my school im not really sure how far you can go with a guy when youre single without being called a slut. I really like this guy though, please help me!
hes almost 17 and im 15 if that makes a difference (link)
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Sad.
You shouldn't be doing anything more than kissing anyone.
Let me parrot something back to you.
"Its not that im not ready for it, but were not together officially and in my school im not really sure how far you can go with a guy when youre single without being called a slut."
You aren't ready for it. This is not a reason to have or not to have sex. Just because you think you can fuck someone without breaking down crying doesn't mean you're ready for sex.
Why are you single and "hooking up" anyway? Seriously, you aren't together but you're thinking about having sex with him? Doesn't that just seem a bit wrong to you? Especially at 15?
Even better, why do you "like this guy" and "want to fuck him" but remain with the single label? Whats the point? Why is he good enough to fuck but not date? And yes, I repeatedly have used the word "fuck" to hammer a point home. If you let this guy get his dick in you it isnt going to be romantic, or loving, its going to be the human equivalent of dogs fucking in the back yard because they're horny.
You are too young. You should be focusing on dating, finding a guy you like to spend time with for the sole purpose of spending time with him. Sex is supposed to be part of the progression of a relationship, not the reason you are together, and you get to know each other enough to not feel like you're fucking a stranger.
Close your legs, and don't let anyone past first base unless you're both interested in wearing the boyfriend/girlfriend labels.
And not because other people have an opinion about it, because you actually want this person to be your boyfriend.
Few things sadden me like children pretending to be adults. Thats what you're doing.
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3 or 4 weeks ago, this is a long story, i'll try and make it short. My friend(no longer) touched me in very inapropriate places. My mom thought she was cool by letting me go with him places, im 15 and a half, and he is 18. Thts illegal right? And I didnt really want him to touch me, I was scared, and we were alone, and i was afraid if I tried to get away, he'd hurt me, and if I stopped hangning out with him, he would come and get me, or something. And I just told me mom..I was so afraid, but she realizes tht my so called friend was playing her. She feels horribly bad, but we both cant decide if we should tell my dad. For one thing, my dad is a police officer. Second, my dad already hated my so called friend and offered to arrest him before. And the guy is really creepy, who touched me. He was a ponytail on the back of his head, and is just plain...looks like a child molestor. I was so stupid, talking to him, txting him, hanging out with him, i dont know why i continued to do things with him. He even asked me to have sex and brought condoms on night, when it was dark, he pulled into the parking lot at a nearby lake in some place i didnt know and parked the car. And of course I said hell no, im not on pills, condoms break, hes ugly, im scared, im smarter than this, i dont want to be pregnant, bingo. I wanted to go home. And if I tell my dad, that hes touched me in "wrong" places, my dad WILL arrest him and put him in jail. And I'll have to go to a testimony/trial. And I have been stupid and have been giving his phone number to random people on the internet and my friends, to call him or txt him, saying tht hes a creeper, or giving it to random people, one which sent a picture of their own penis to him, which wasnt entirely my fault, because my friends were over. Is that considered phone harrasment? Im so scared way beyond belief. i live in Ohio (link)
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I am not going to advise you on a course of action. That is for you, and you alone to decide.
Heres the thing. We don't know this guy. We don't know if he's just a bit creepy, or if hes a genuine threat. You do. You know the situation you were in. It doesnt sound like he forced the issue, just tried and got slapped down. I could be wrong, I understand talking about it, let alone writing about it to strangers could be more than you can handle.
Heres the thing. Given that your father is a police officer, if authorities become involved this guy's life is quite possibly fucked. A conviction won't go away.
You need to sit down alone and think. Not with anger, with logic. Is he a danger? Were you scared because he was pushy or were you in possible danger? I can't tell you that.
Whatever you do, warn your friends and anyone else whos female who knows him about him quietly. Stop the phone harassment (thats illegal) and stop all contact with him.
This is a tough one. This requires more adult maturity than you've probably had to muster. If hes a threat, bury him. If he isnt, just leave him alone and warn people that he's creepy. I leave it to you.
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oaky, i met this boy a few weeks ago and we would talk and then we started getting a little closer. friday night i went to the bowling alley with a few friends and one of my friends is dating his bestfriend so he was theree and we were talkin and stuff. he calls me babe and told me he was starting to like me. he walked me home that nightt and told me he really did like me, not just starting and thenn he kissed me. thenn i went home..blah blah blahh and then he texted me the next day and said it was alot of fun and he was glad he walked me home. thenn we would just text all weekend and i went to his show last nioght, cause hes in a band and wanted me to go. his band was firstt then he came off stage and went and talked to like every girl besides me..i was like okay wtf. then he came and sat next to me and grabbed my hand and put his arm around me and was cuddling with me for a while.. his ex gf was there too and he was talking to her alot but i guess there good friends..i mean he was holding me while talking to her so idk and then when i left he asked for a kiss so i did..then i went back to my friends house..the one dating his friend..and she said he told her boyfriend that he really liked me and stuff. then i texted him a few hours later and he was getting drunk with his friends and he started saying like i wanna get laid..and siht like that and i was like is that all you want he was like no im sorry its not i just get like this when im drunk..and he says he really likes me, tells his friends he does..idk what to do.. (link)
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I don't think he's trying to use you, I think hes a standard stupid teen aged male when drunk.
Tell him that "I wanna get laid" messages aren't cool, and that if hes going to drink he needs to learn to manage to still be something of a gentleman while doing it. Tell him that you don't date guys like that and that you would really like it if he made sure he wasn't a guy like that.
Should shape him up. You express interest and disapproval, he'll probably shape up.
Doesn't sound like an asshole, just sounds like he needs to grow up a bit.
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okay me and my mom just had a conversation about me having sex for the first time. she started crying and was upset that i had lost it so young. but we have such a good reltionship that it doesnt feel like it could affect us at all. shes been acting really close to me now but im kind of afraid she'll hold it against me. do you think she will? (link)
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No.
Understand, you are your parent's "special little flower" or however you want to term it. One of the fun things about kids is the innocence. The fact that they haven't been touched by adult concepts that could hurt them.
You've stepped into that world. Shes worried about you. She went in one conversation from fine to having a hundred new things to worry about.
Its all based around the fact that you are her kid and she wants to see you happy, healthy, and whole. And with sex, she can't guarantee that. Its an area of your life over which she has little if any control, and its scary for her. She doesn't know for sure you'll be ok, because she does know for sure that there are things in the world you aren't prepared to handle at whatever age you happen to be.
And sex can bring alot of those things with it.
A side note, this kind of communication is excellent. It will bring you closer to her, and give her opportunities to help with her own fears. Ask her if you can talk to her about it again, and ask her if theres anything she thinks she should tell you, anything she thinks you should learn. Or maybe anything you both should learn, and you can go on a google safari for sex information or something. Its going to be awkward at first, but keep talking and she sounds like the kind of mom who is going to be there for you however she can.
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okay my boyfriend and i had sex on monday. i took the morning after pill on tuesday at 8:30 PM. i took the second pill wednesday at 8:30 in the morning. we had another slip up on wednesday night. the condom broke. will the morning after pill still be in my system and cover me for that slip up or should i buy another dose of the morning after pill? please don't judge or say that i'm stupid. i just need advice please. (link)
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The literature Ive read on the MAP says that it is not meant to be taken in a preventative capacity. In other words, you don't take it before you have sex, there are zero guarantees on effectiveness.
Now, how it actually works, and how long it would stay in your system I don't know. MAP is basically a larger dose of a common birth control hormone, but I can't say that you have any assurances. I would take another to be safe.
Also, look into VCF. Vaginal contraceptive film. If you are going to have sex, this is a second line of defense.
Its a spermicidal film. You basically fold up this little thing that looks like a breath strip and put it inside you. Wait 15 minutes, and it melts into a spermicidal gel similar to what is on the outside of a spermicidal lube condom. The box says its something like 85% sure to block pregnancy when no other forms of contraception are used, so used WITH a condom (its condom safe) it another line of defense to prevent pregnancy.
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Everytime I date a boy my mom only lets me see him on the weekends. She thinks weekdays are for school and family and friends sometimes. And of course, this causes everyone to break up with me. What can I tell her? (link)
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Date more mature guys.
Seriously, if you're breaking up because of that restriction the relationship wasn't worth much to begin with.
I have been in relationships were we only got to see each other a few days a month and had to settle for phone the rest of the time. It happens, you can't help if you like someone who you don't live within walking distance from and you both are busy.
Go for a different guy demographic. At 17 you should be able to find guys in your age range who aren't needy flakes.
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Hi im thirteen & i have these two guy friends that are older then me like one 16 and the others 17 . And they wanna hang out with me . But im not sure if i wanna hangout with them cause im younger and + my mom probally wouldnt aprove of me hanging out with them once she heres there ageses . Everytime they ask me to hangout with them i always have to make up an excuse that i cant that im grounded or something like that ... & there both nice . But i don't know what to do . ?
should i lie and hangout with them and sneak around or should i just keep putting them off . Please help ! Im in a giant state of confusion & id apreciate it greatley .
- torii babiiee * (link)
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No, its not really cool.
Here I will explain the myth of "age is just a number" and why it is, in fact, false.
Alright. So lets say that puberty is around when you really begin noticing and understanding things about sex and dating. Lets say at 13 you've been in puberty less than a year.
So, you have at most a year of the beginnings of adult life experience.
At 16 and 17 these guys have had a minimum of 3-4 years of working on adult life experience.
So, in technical terms these guys have something like 3-4 times the experience of interacting like you're doing than you do. Years more worth of thought, action, and memory.
This is why guys like younger women. Because they have enough experience to be able to manipulate them. This isn't even a malicious aspect of men, its simply the fact that often a woman of same age offers more of a challenge than a guy can handle. Its easier to be the lead in any situation when you have someone who isnt as confident because she isnt as old and doesn't have as much life experience.
Hence, we come to you, and these guys.
Lets say the 17 year old decides he wants to sleep with you.
He knows from experience that if he presses too hard, he can scare you away. He knows from a few years of trying things what he can and can't try and when. He knows from experience what you want to hear from him in order for you to feel comfy around him.
This allows him to (if he so choses) put on a front made entirely to win you over. He isn't necessarily going to be doing it to be an asshole, he might genuinely like you and want to date you.
But he has a clear advantage in the situation towards getting what he wants. And he will use it, even if only unconsciously.
Now imagine you in this situation. You might not even notice that he's trying like hell to get with you, because you havent been around enough guys who are trying to get laid. You don't know what to look for. And...
Well, at 13, alot of your thought processes come and go as "should I?". Just read this website. You will see "what should I do?" questions relating to sex all the time. This is because at 13 very few people understand the concept of "what do I want, and what will I allow". This is where all those questions and situations of "I had to stop him because he went too far" come from. Girls aren't sure if they "should" let a guy do what he wants and so they let him go further than they are comfy with because they are too scared of saying "No, this makes me uncomfortable, I don't want you to do this" A 13 year old might say yes, or simply not say no because shes afraid of doing something wrong, where a 16 year old wouldn't give a damn, would consider the guy a creep for trying, and might slap him.
And there is a good possibility that a 16 year old would know this, and be able to work that angle to get what he wants when you don't want to give it.
Let me give you another example.
I am a bit above average in the perceptiveness area, so I started paying attention to girls early. I knew it would be important. I began learning how to hide some of my flaws and use others to present the image I wanted to a girl. I know this to the point that I can watch a girl and know if she wants to kiss me by her body language. And be right virtually 100% of the time.
Now, you can imagine this gives me a HUGE first date advantage. I know how to figure out what a girl wants to see, and show it to her, while subtly trying to feel her out to find out what she doesn't want to see.
How can I put that in practical terms. I know. I hit my 4 year later this month with my girlfriend. I can STILL manipulate the hell out of her. She thinks I'm adorable, and so when I screw up all I have to do is find a way to look cute and she is no longer mad at me. I get away with so much more than I should like this. Like the other day, I spent a good bit more on DVDs than I should have. She was pissed, I got cute, and we cuddled up and watched a movie.
I really should have gotten in more trouble than that for spending fifty bucks without asking.
I bring all of this up because two guys wanting to hang out with a single girl is NOT just because they like her company. Not at 16 and 17. At 13 you don't need to let yourself be chased buy guys more than a year or so older than you. Its better just not to put yourself in that position.
If you want to hang out with them, do it as a part of a larger group. Easy way to keep yourself safe. If it was you, them, another guy and another girl or more, you would probably be alright.
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The icons on my computer are disappearing along with the start menu. Basically the wallpaper and the internet browser is all that's left.
I can't think of what to do.
Anyone have any suggestions?
Thanks so much! (link)
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Hmm.
Step 1.
Hit control + Alt + Delete. In the task manager at the top are little tabs, one says "Processes"
Go to processes, scroll down until you see "explorer" and select "end task" or whatever it says.
Now, go to file, go to run, and type "explorer".
You basically just restarted without fully restarting. Explorer is the name of the program that is your windows viewing software.
Now, if problem continues immediately, yeah you have a virus. In this case, you need a few programs.
1) Spybot search and destroy. Wonderful program for guarding your computer from unwanted crap.
http://www.safer-networking.org/en/
Every program on this website is certifiable gold. Download spybot, run the updates, install every update available, then run immunization and a full system scan. Its not too hard to figure out the program. Search help if you need anything there.
Also, there is a tool called "teatimer" included with spybot. This is like an active virus scan. It monitors your registry and a few other places and lets you know when suspicious things try to sneak registry changes past you. It is sensitive enough that it WILL stop changes by legitimate normal programs, so read every warning it throws up and google the program if you don't know what it is. Keep teatimer running whenever you are connected to the internet.
2) Virus scan. I personally reccomend biting the bullet and subscribing to norton. They are in my experience the best antivirus with the best support software. Its worth it. Just go google norton antivirus. Buy it, run it, update it, scan your computer.
Now, at this point your computer will either be running normally, or its too far gone to do anything.
If its still messed up, you are going to have to reformat. Find your system discs, if you live at home ask for your parents help. This is as simple as slipping in the reinstall discs and waiting. It sucks, but usually a few hours of concerted effort can get back things you lost. Back up any personal files before reformatting (obviously) and tell your computer to do a full format on reinstall (quick won't get rid of viruses)
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ook. so. im 18/f and my boyfriend is almost 19. we were together a year & a half broke up for awhile and now we've been back together for a few months. ok so some time before we got back together i was looking through his phone [which he doesn't like but he's done it to me and i usually have to beg him to let me see it which automatically makes me suspicious but im pretty positive he wouldnt cheat on me but still. and even if i just want to see it to put a banner on there or look at pictures or anything it's not like i go out of my way to spy on me i pretty much trust him] ANYWAYS his brother and cousins and friends would send him those forwarded texts that have the nude or topless girls or even girls that supposedly are "his brothers friends" that end up being sent to him where the girls are laying there naked or feeling on themselves or whatever. well i told him that those are disgusting and i dont like it and if we got back together then i'd really rather not see those in his phone. well we got back together. today i was looking through his texts to read the funny forwarded ones and stuff and what do i find? a whole SLOO of those forwarded texts of naked girls from people. i felt sooo bad. so i said "i thought i asked to not to have these anymore if we got back together?" and he said "its not my fault people send them to me" but they were locked, so obviously when he deletes his inbox they stay there, but he said thats just so he can forward them on. there was a couple from this one guy who i guess is one of his friends and after them there was a text saying "that's all the ones i have like that" or something along those lines so im wondering if he asks for them? i mean he doesnt seem like the type but.. he doesnt watch porn or anything he's really just not that type. sometimes he'll say something smart like "well you wont let me see yours!" [talking about boobs] but thats not entire true but it sorta is but thats because i was raised to have some respect and i dont like all this trashy stuff! not to mention im very self-conscious even though he tells me im the hottest/most beautiful girl he's been with. BUT STILL am i wrong for being upset at this? i realize he's a guy and blah blah but shouldn't he have some respect for me? and if i say anything about it he either kinda blows it off or brings up the fact that i have posters of guys in my room, but those are like the kind that you pull out of cosmogirl or seventeen where if anything the guy just has his shirt off.. compared to completely topless or nude girls.. i find that pretty different? this whole thing just makes my insides turn, am i completely in the wrong here? thanks & sorry so long! =/ (link)
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This is what happens when technology out paces maturity.
Truth be told, lots of guys are like this. Part of it is a lack of maturity coupled with cultural taboos, part of it is just hardwired into every guy.
Guys don't look elsewhere because we aren't happy with whats in front of us. Your boyfriend doesn't look at other girls because of anything having to do with you. He does this because on a basic genetic level men are pre-programed to impregnate every possible female encountered from puberty until death.
Ten years ago we didn't have the technology for guys to have (or take) naked pictures with their phones. Consequently, the stupid teenaged idiots who are willing to take their clothes off and end up forwarded to hundreds of people lived in a time when they couldn't actually have their picture taken the second clothes came off and get forwarded to hundreds of people.
And honestly, at 14 if someone sent me a naked picture of a girl who got a little too drunk at a party the previous weekend, I would have kept it. It actually kind of sucks for your generation, because when I was in high school the fact that there was almost zero chance of pictures resulting from drunken nudity meant drunken nudity was infinitely more common.
All this is off point. He isn't old enough to realize that exploitation of others because you're too juvenile to pass up a naked shot just makes everyone's life crappier. He might not be for a while, and the only way he'd learn that lesson was if pics of you cropped up (which I assume you're smart enough to manage to not ever let exist)
Talk to him about it. Tell him how it makes you feel. But he doesn't sound like the kind of guy whos mature enough to stop if it makes you uncomfortable and for your sake he isnt doing it because theres something wrong with you.
Whether porn, nude shots, maxim, or just glancing at the tight butt on some chick at the mall most guys are going to look around. Its nothing personal. If you don't like it much, steer yourself more towards the smarter and more mature sect of men, those who can actually control themselves when neccesary.
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i have an idea for a new xbox game, how would i go about making it/getting it out there and having it produced (link)
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Hmm.
Well, to have the slightest hope in hell, you've got to have more than an idea.
Heres the thing. Groups like Valve, Electronic Arts, Blizzard, NC Soft, and the many other game developers out there have people who do this for them for a living.
The decisions on a game are made in committee, rarely does a game go from idea to game even mostly unchanged.
But the things that have to be presented...
You have to have a story, and an appearance. Generally they are going to at least want to see some character and setting concept art. They want to see an artists conception that lets them know what the game is going to look and feel like right from the start.
Now, depending on the type of game here, theres alot of other stuff.
For instance, if you were proposing a fighting game, you would need detailed notes on game mechanics. Besides its look, the reason people give a fighting game attention is if its fun to play. You would have to have a concept that fit the x box control scheme and provided complex and engaging gameplay.
If you were proposing a first person shooter, on the other hand, the two most important things would be story and level design. One first person shooter can be like another in functional mechanics but be completely different experience because of the level design and the obstacles that must be overcome.
You would also probably have to have an idea about enemy AI, which means knowing about programming.
Each type of game presents its own problems.
In all honesty, if you really want to get any game ideas out there, you need to be able to program them. This would allow you to work on games, learn all about how they actually work when you get down to line code and graphics models. At that point, you could work on a game and actually begin making it yourself, and then when its complete enough to show an initial concept to a producer you could go in basically requesting funding to help complete a project. No guarantee, but if you deliver them a grand slam it would pay them to produce then you can get the additional expertise that can put polish on your idea and turn it into something people scramble to find a copy of christmas eve.
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So this guy has a crush on me and he's not afraid to show it. He's starting to scare me... He asked me to homecoming and i said no because i had this date...he immediatly sign out of msn and then at school he looked pissed and he was like so who asked you before me and stuff and i told him and hes like why him hes a jerk!a jackass! i just walked away. Well the truth box thing on myspace.he keeps putting these scary messages on mine and its starting to scare me and my mom.I want to tell him i dont like him like that(because i dont!) and how he should stop with these messages. I told my older brothers and they theyll talk to him. But if dont want this to turn into one of those "if i cant have you no one else can!" sorta thing.....and to be honest i dont want it to turn out like my friends story did..she told him she didnt like him(not the same guy) and he raped her the next week!i dont want that to be me... dont judge me if you think im selfish but hes not good looking and kind of on the big side...dont tell me i should except for who he is and not how he looks because idc and i already got this crap before!plz just help im scared!:(
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Creepy people are no fun. No one deserves to not feel safe because someone decides to obsess about them.
If you talk to him, don't ask. Tell. Tell him to stay away from you, that you aren't interested in him, and don't want to talk to him. Block every conceivable means of access he has to you online. Ignore him at school. If he continues to be creepy, continue talking to your parents and you might want to consider a formal "cease and desist" letter to his parents that advise them of the problem and that if the behavior is not discontinued legal action will be taken.
And if worst comes to worst... Grab and twist the balls, claw at his eyes, punch him in the throat.Get his skin under your fingernails so that you have evidence of a fight later and you can prosecute.
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i am a 37 year old male and in financial dire straits. not enough space here to go into details. shame and depression have caused both spouses to lose jobs and any quality of life. we have become reclusive and no longer take phone calls or visits from anyone. mother has known of our difficulties for 1+ yr from other sources, since im too ashamed to speak to her. she hasn't attempted to call in 6+ months. i never thought she had finances to help, but today i learned thru a bank error that she has $62k in savings. should i be upset that she has not offered help? (link)
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At 37 you shouldn't have this much of a fear of responsibility.
I mean, seriously? I can't believe you put "if its meant to be, dad will direct the funds my way from heaven above" in a serious question. Thats pathetic.
Are you angry yet? Is there even a tiny flicker of defiance. I hope so.
Because the whole pathetic thing is a choice. Its a choice you make on a day to day basis.
And that is where recovery is going to be for you. What right do you have to be angry at your mother? I would have had more respect for you if you HAD lost your money doing something illegal or immoral. At least that would mean you were doing something at all. Hell, if you lost money because you had a coke habit I could understand addiction, and the need to seek help outside yourself to fight and win.
But thats not you. You just seem to have given up. I don't know at what point you made this choice, but it sounds like you may have made it a long, long time ago.
Do you remember what it was like to decide you wanted to do something, and then go out and accomplish it? When was the last time you did that on any scale?
Its time to get off your ass and grow up. You're pretty far behind where you need to be, but the amazing thing is all it has to be is like a switch.
I want you to take a few minutes. I want you to go back through and reread what you wrote, and I want you to catalogue every single occasion where you try to cast yourself in the best light possible.
Its as easy as refusing to let yourself wallow in patheticness and childhood desires to have the world delivered to you because you are too timid and scared of the world around you to reach out and take anything.
Get a little more pissed off, stop being so sedated. You're here agonizing over the fact that your mother has enough money to help you.
Yeah. Shes sixty years old and shes got sixty grand. She earned it. What have you earned? She may be cold but you don't seem to be acting much better. Why is it your parent's responsibility to be a better person than you are? Why does your parent not being a good person make you think you have the right to follow in her footsteps?
An adult doesn't cry because "everything is their fault". An adult accepts things are their fault because they intend to learn how and why things are their fault to correct it in the future.
You are locking yourself away in your own misery and its no one's fault but your own. Now instead of getting upset about that fact, try to find some nugget of angry defiance (judging by the defensive tone of your question, its in there somewhere buried under who knows how much personal drama) and try to build some determination to actually WORK to save yourself.
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since i don't know what a url is or how to get 1 i just coppied the question!! lol sorry!!
I believe that a site called qxbid.com is a fraudulent auction website. It is a site like eBay.com where you bid on items to win. I won a Nintendo Wii and the seller told me that she had shipped it out and never really did. She even went as far as to print out a label through FedEx.com to make me think that she did. That was the last time that I had heard from her and that was when the auction ended. I have tried contacting her and the web site over and over and over again and no response from either of them. FedEx states that it was never shipped out and the woman actually went and marked my item unpaid. This site and it's sellers are scam artists who are only out to steal money from good people and I would like to know how to shut them down so that they can no longer do this again!! This was my child's only Christmas gift and they ruined that for her!! If anyone knows how to go about shutting them down please contact me!! Thank you and happy holidays!! (link)
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Ahh.
The link I gave you was to a forum that will allow you to figure out the ISP (internet service provider)
This is the company that hosts this website.
From there, you can contact them and make complaints. Usually doesn't do anything, but if enough complaints are registered they might look into taking the site down. Thats all you can do. But more than likely its not a scam site, but a scam seller. Complaining about her to the actual site won't do anything.
This is one of the hazards of online auctioning. People are quite brave about using the internet to screw with other people.
You should consider just going to Best Buy.com or something and having one shipped if you can't find a local store with stock.
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me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 4 months now he wants me to give up some of my closest friends and family and even worst he trys and forces me to have sex when i say no more then 5 times he acts all sad and i give in why does he do this to me i really love my boyfriend but im thinkin of starting the new year right by telling him good bye i moved in with him a month after we started going out i think thats what messed up our realtionship but im not really sure i want to fix things with him what should i do or should i just leave it alone? (link)
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Wow.
I can't even begin to give you advice to fix how you got into this in the first place, but it would be smart to find a way to move out, and break up.
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what ought to get me started?? there was no answer or advice so i am unsure of what you meant!! maybe i missed something or your answer got cut off?!? please let me know what you were referring to. thanks and happy new year!! :)
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You do realize this was asked anonymously, right?
I have no idea which question you are referring to.
Give me a URL in feedback and I'll edit this appropriately.
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I believe that a site called qxbid.com is a fraudulent auction website. It is a site like eBay.com where you bid on items to win. I won a Nintendo Wii and the seller told me that she had shipped it out and never really did. She even went as far as to print out a label through FedEx.com to make me think that she did. That was the last time that I had heard from her and that was when the auction ended. I have tried contacting her and the web site over and over and over again and no response from either of them. FedEx states that it was never shipped out and the woman actually went and marked my item unpaid. This site and it's sellers are scam artists who are only out to steal money from good people and I would like to know how to shut them down so that they can no longer do this again!! This was my child's only Christmas gift and they ruined that for her!! If anyone knows how to go about shutting them down please contact me!! Thank you and happy holidays!! (link)
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http://www.webmasterworld.com/forum10/9021.htm
This ought to get you started
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so im 18 years old, female, VIRGIN.
alright so whenever i'm around a guy, and he tries messing around with me i will get REALLY wet, and he wont even start doing anything! is this because i haven't been sexual and never really done anything past making out with a guy? does this indicate i'm inexperienced? i know guys say they like it when the girl is wet, but i've also heard that if a girl gets wet, fast and easy it's because she is not use to it. embarssing for me? YES!! can anyone help clear this up? is it true? (link)
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Varies entirely from girl to girl.
Anyone who says that its a sign of inexperience is showing themselves to be inexperienced.
Most guys like that. If for no other reason, that its nice for girls to have some kind of a giveaway since you don't tent your shorts when you're in the mood.
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