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I'm so sick of life
i'm so sick of being invincible by my parents...
I get straight A's....right? and still yet i gain as much stress and shit from my parents as if i'm recieving straight F's. I asked my mom if my boyrfriend could come over tom. and she said yes and i'm sick so i decided to take a nap but before i headed towards my nap i made sure with my mom that it was okay... and she said of course!
then i get up a few hours later and she makes me fold the clothes it takes me an hour and then i asked her for some dinner and she said alright i'll give you some soup. So i sat at the computer and just checkd email and facebook and she started yelling at me at how i didn't study at all and such. i figured that it was going to take my mom like 6 mins to give me my soup but i didn't know she had to make it from scratch so THATS why i decided it won't kill to check my email.But honestly here me out.... I've finished a WHOLE 817 page SAT book within vacation.... and yet she still says that i don't study. and now she's saying how my boyfriend can't come over now and honestly truthfully my heart it does hurt physically and emotionally i don't know what to say or what to do... My parents just say i'm talking back when all i'm trying to do is state a point.
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Yes I have the same problem with my parents. Just let them have there time to chill which everyone needs. I'm sure they'll come around. No one is perfect, just remember that. Hope I helped.
xoxo,
dottie4
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Parents normally just head straight out and start taking out their pissed off mood to their kids, which you can't really do much about because parents are human...they have their bad days and get stressed out a lot.
This may appear unfair but, just let your parents yell their brains out at you. I mean, once they've stopped nagging and all, you can easily let it slide because you know that you have good grades and that you're not doing anything that's offending them greatly. And eventually, your parents stop yelling and walk away...and while they walk away, they start thinking of their actions. Pissed off at first but guilt has its way to come in and they grow confused.
Find the time after all that and sit down to talk it over with them and how they've been treating you, and also how it's hurting you a little. If they start interrupting you, just calmly tell them that THEY need to listen to you this time. You have to take the stand and speak what are in your thoughts to them. And if they still somewhat doubt about your grades, let them check your grades online or from quiz/test papers, to let them know that you're doing perfectly fine in school.
As for your boyfriend...there will be other days for him come over to your house.
Hoped this helped you a little! Good luck! =3
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Ask questions.
With an unreasonable parent, one of the best things you can do is make them justify themselves.
In the situation above, I would have asked what makes her say that I don't study. And sat and listened to whatever she said. I would have pointed out that I make good grades, and asked why making good grades and doing extras like reading SAT books gives her the impression that I don't study enough.
I then would have asked her why she was so angry at me. I would have asked if she was upset just about the studying or if there is something else thats a problem you don't know about. Again, listen.
Keep your cool the entire time.
Now, if she talks to you, vents about frustrations having nothing to do with you, etc, she is somewhat reasonable. Talk to her and ask her if she'd like you to keep her more informed about what you're up to school wise so she can know that you ARE already doing what you're supposed to.
Thats key. At all points emphasize that you ARE doing what you are supposed to. Don't ask her what you aren't doing, ask her how you can show that you already ARE doing.
If she just yells at you, and they continue to refuse to allow you to talk, or she refuses to answer any logical questions, you're probably going to have to decide whether you're going to stand up for yourself in the face of irrationality or if you're going to just let it slide.
If your parents are straight up irrational theyre pissed about something and taking it out on you. Depending on what it is and how they are, there may be nothing you can do.
To give you a comparison, my parents were completely intractable. To them compromise meant that they moved a half an inch towards me when we were miles apart and then bitched at me because they were being perfectly fair in their eyes. My house was in full scale war from about 13 until after I moved out. Some people are not reasonable, and have an unfailing belief in their own correctness (however stupid and misguided they might actually be) and will just make excuses when they find out theyre wrong.
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sometimes parents are under a lot of stress, too. they dont mean to take yell, accuse you of things, or hurt your feelings. you should try sitting down with your mom, talk to her, and let eachother know how you feel.
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Ahh I Know the Feeling! not great!
Um okay why dont you get a study website... (Im from the UK so my answer mitght sound a bit alienish) they usually come up with new questrion that are updated all the time. Or why not a new study book
But all parents and kids (noo offence by "kids") go through that im-going-to-be-a-bitter-and-moany-person phase. My advice would be just let her "nab" at you, but dont give in, just ignore it. You now that you do study and you are getting straight As and thats all that counts.
As for your boyfriend, well hmm im not too sure on that one give it time, shell come though. hopefully.
Good Luck!
Vikki x
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