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just someone blending in & doing nothing else.
i'd say i'm a pretty girl. i dress very put together each day and wear nice outfits from great stores. i get tons of compliments all the time..but i have no confidence at all. everyone at my school goes to parties every weekend & is just so outgoing and thats just not me. i've always been shy .. i'm nice to everyone and try to make small talk with a bunch of people .. but it really doesnt go further than that. i have a number of close friends but really only 3 best friends. . but none that are boys. i make small talk with them (boys) but really we are completly opposite. i drink sometimes but i dont go to parties every weekend. we just dont mix. were from completely different groups (pretty much all of them) & its just impossible to even start a friendship. im a junior and all im known as at school is "the quiet girl with the nice clothes whos cute & funny." .. thats it. nothing else. i just feel like a loser. i'm a quiet girl at school but when im with my friends i break out of my shell. no one knows that me though. i'm nice to everyone and give people compliments all the time but no one even gives me a chance. were just all in different groups and its way too late in the game to become "popular" and hang out with those poeple .. or even hang out with other people .. including loners and weirdos in my classes. everyone is just so shallow and only cares about partying and hooking up with peopleand thats not me. ive never had a boyfriend. boys say im cute but thats it. they dont even attempt to ask me to hang out. and if i asked to hang out it would be so weird because im just so quiet. i would not even know what to do or say if we hung out .. im so shy until you really get to know me. i just dont have confidence at all. and i dont know how to change. being quiet has always been me. i dont feel like i should change for other people, but i feel like i have to to actually have fun and not mope around every weekend miserably thinking what it could be like to have a bunch of friends to just hang out with and be crazy .. and even have a boyfriend. can someone advise me what to do?
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The truth is, you will never even be happy trying to fit in unless you are happy with yourself.
Cliche' right?
It is.
So if you like music, hang out at open mic nights, or go see some local bands play who have people your age in them.
Go to bookstores, or join a club at school. It may sound lame, but clubs have people and people are who you are trying to meet.
Fitting in is overated. You need to let people see the real you, so instead of being the quiet girl with the cute clothes, you can be the hot girl who is unlike any other girl there.
Trust me, guys notice, they are more afraid of you than you of them.
When you talk to one, remember that it's you who must be impressed with them.
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I am totally like that. What i do is...just my thing... live with it! or i even try to change myself to fit in. Even though it sometimes doesn't work
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Oh My i think me and you are lost siblings seperated at birth! i totally know how you feel!
well i guess youve heard of that phrase.. just be yourself.. id go with that. Cuz if you be anything different your gonna get caught out eentually.
But there nothing wrong with tryna fit in now is there :]
Um well just talk to peopple i guess, i guess in class you could always start with "[name of the person], can you help me in stuck on this question do you understand it?" even if you do understand it, can be a good icebreaker and get you chatting.
and the confidence thing? hmm well me being a cheerelader im pretty confident in myself, buh i guess you just have to put yourself out there. Once youve done something your totally sscared of like dancing in an assembly for exmple its boost your confidence and such an such.
And the boys and the hanging out thing, you sed you do small talk, well just carry on from that =) ask stuff about them n stuff and if there something you have in common be like "Oh same!" I guess you could use that in generall realy
By the ways sorry if my adivce was a bit naff.. im guessing youre from the USA, buh im from the UK so yknw... things r sumtimes a bit diffrent to where i am.
anyways good luck!
Vikki x
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