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It's fine.
Ask me a question. I like giving advice. If you don't like the advice I give, or the opinion I have, it's fine.

Sometimes you can't get through to people no matter how long and hard you try.

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I've gotten myself into a tough spot. It's kind of lengthy, I apologize.
I am currently dating this one boy, and things have gotten really stale, because he hurt me a couple of times really badly, I've never been able to get over this. So as i was kind of edging away from him (for months) I found a really nice guy at work , and we started to hang around just as friends, but there was obvious sexual tension,so anyway, we kind of just ended up making out, and he (who didn't know i was dating the other boy, bad i know) asked me out,and I defintely like him so I said yes.
And here in lies the problem. How do I go about breaking up with my previous boyfriend? I'm still in highschool, before class, lunch or after class? I'm kind of afraid because he really likes me,and I know this is going to really hurt him, but I just lost feelings. Not even because of the other guy.

Honestly, I would suggest in this situation calling him up to tell him. If you do it at school, there could be a conflict if he sees you straightaway with the new boyfriend, or if the new boyfriend sees you breaking up with the old one. Normally, I would say do it in person to spare feelings, but under these circumstances...
If you lost feelings for the guy, I would tell him that when you break up with him. Just say something like "I'm really sorry but I don't think I like you as I did before" or "My feelings for you have sorta changed and I think we should go our separate ways". Just don't mention the other guy anywhere in that little speech obviously.
Also, maybe you should wait a few days before you hang around the new boyfriend. I know that sounds weird, but that might not look so good if you are instantly going out with someone right after dumping your boyfriend. Just saying...

Anyways, good luck sweetie and I sincerely hope this advice helped you a little bit!

I'm not entirely sure if this is in the right category or not, but whatever. Is it normal to have an obsession with suicide? Not as in "I'm gunna do it, or I'm thinking about doing it." But like getting inside the head of those who do want to. Cuz it just seems so tragic to me and I kind of want to learn more about it. Understand a mind that's going through that thought process. Is that at all normal?

Yeah, that's totally normal to wonder stuff like that. It doesn't mean that you yourself are suicidal or anything. In fact, it's probably a good thing to be a little curious about the way people's minds work. The human mind is an interesting and complex place.

13/female Well, my best friend likes this guy. she introduces me to him and we're friends. ill always be talking to him and all that but then i made a grave mistake. i fell in love with him. itsz pretty easy for any guy to tell when i like him and so guess what? he found out! but luckily hes real cool about it and he doesnt freak out or tell my best friend. i dont know what to do! plzz anybody tell me what to do!

I know how tough it is to like the same guy as your best friend believe me. It's no easy situation.
I think that its totally awesome that this guy hasn't told you friend that you like him. He's a really nice guy, but remember: sometimes its great to have a really good guy friend around, you know?
Right now, I don't think you should make a move or take the relationship a step further. That would hurt you friend (which you probably already know). Basically, I think that you should enjoy hanging out with him as a friend, because he seems like a really cool person to be around. But really at this point, I personally believe that the relationship shouldn't go past friendship.
And who knows, maybe your friend will stop liking him eventually and you two can feel free to start up a boyfriend/girlfriend deal!

it's from like, a few years back.
but it had like a bunch of cereals on it.
like trix and cocoa puffs and lucky charms

does anyone know it? :D

I think you're talking about Postopia.com =]

Here's the link:
http://postopia.com/

for boy and/or girls

Girls:
Michelle
Christine
Anne

Boys:
John
James
Michael

It all depends on what the first name is though. Those are a couple that I really like for middle names =]

On iTunes you know how it shows your top 25 most played? Well mine is never in order. For example, my #1 says its been played 10 times but my #17 has been played 47 times. They are all mixed up. Is anyone elses like this? Is there a way to fix it? Thankss.

On the bar along the top, you know how it has the categories such as "Artist" "Album" "Genre" etc.? Well if you click on those different categories, the list order changes according to each. So, find the one that says "Play Count" and click it. The songs will then be in order from least to greatest or greatest to least play count. =]

i think i weigh more than i should...and i want a really good and fast way to lose my goal weight.

can anyone give me any good articles online or any sure fire way to lose some excess weight??

much appriciated! thanks!

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^Some good tips from other columnists

Also try this website:
http://www.mypyramid.gov/
http://www.mypyramid.gov/mypyramid/index.aspx

Good luck!

I would like / need to loose at least 9lbs by June 18.
My class has a beach day and a graduation night
So.. i would like to be able to fit into my dress , i bought it earlyer and gained 11 lbs.
Also I would like to look good in a bathing suit.
Tips, Ideas ?
Thank you.

Hey there!

Try substituting fatty foods for healthier ones. Such as:
Water for all the other sugary, carbonated, etc. drinks out there
Whole wheat bread for white bread
Fruits as snacks instead of chips, popcorn, etc.
*But just so you know: If you're a popcorn-lover, believe it or not it's a good snack because it doesn't add anything bad and doesn't add anything good. Just don't add any salt or butter ;]

So you get the basic idea with the food.

Now exercise:
Try walking everyday for 10-30 minutes. Or at least 4 times a week. Walking is the best way to burn off fat.
Crunches and sit-ups are great for toning your stomach so I'd do maybe 10-40 a day.

I hope this helps! =]

Well Im in 8th grade and hes in 6th grade. Im 13. Hes 12. He really cute. Well last night was our last school dance. I thought i should ask him to dance because he wont be at the dances next year because ill be at the high school and i would have to wait for 2 years. Well one of my friends boyfriend is his friend. So my friends ask him to ask the guy i like if he would dance with me. He said yeah and he asked me. He asked if i had a boyfriend and why i didnt have one and stuff like that. Then he asked me out and i said yeah. But now i dont know if he actually likes me or if he felt sorry for me. WHAT DO U GUYS AND GIRLS THINK?
Heres another thing. Im not that good with boys...as boyfriends....i can talk to guys who are my friends easliy but im shy around my boyfriends....usually he has to start a conversation because i dont know what to say...what should i do?

I don't think he's going out with you because he feels sorry for you at all! I bet he asked you out because he was flattered that you liked him. He probably then realized that he liked you. I wouldn't stress too much because the point is that you two are together. Guys at his age usually don't think too long and hard about which girls they like. He probably woke up once you came right out and said it.
Honestly, don't worry honey. I don't think guys at his age would ask girls out out of pity anyways. Now you two can build on the relationship and I'm sure your feelings for each other will grow.
Good luck!
*15/f*

can you check out these videos and tell me what you think?
http://www.youtube.com/user/emilyNjustine

feedback pleaseee :]]

thanks

Lol these are cute. It looks like you guys had a lot of fun making them. They were fun to watch too. It reminds me of my friends and I when we act all crazy haha.
Good job!

I need to make some friends. I used to have friends last year, but this year (sophmore), I just can't seem to make any or hang out with anyone. I stopped caring about my hair and myspace and facebook...stuff like that. Could that be a reason that people have stopped liking me? I just need to know a way to make friends and stand out from all the people like me. I don't want to be like everyone else and I want the girls that I sometimes hang out with to like me. These girls are the kind that guys think are sooo "hot" and "can't wait til they turn 18." They hang out with skater boys (i'm jealous) and are really really pretty.
My life pretty much just sucks in general :)
But help, if you can!

Sometimes we can all feel as though there's nobody to turn too. Everyone goes through it at some point. So remember, you're not alone. That's very important and comforting to know.

I really doubt that not caring about hair and facebook had any effect on this situation whatsoever. And if it did, then people who dropped you because of such superficial things aren't worth your time at all sweetie.

I think what's making you feel even worse is that you keep comparing yourself to other girls. You aren't them, and why would you want to be? You're already YOU and that's a pretty awesome person to be. =]

Once you can find it inside you to love yourself, you will see that others love you too. Because they do already, but I think you're just not ready to open your eyes and see it.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."

You aren't a loser, remember that.
Feel better!

Okay, so i'm Jewish but like I don't go to the temple or like anything. so my friends were talking about religion and had the Jewish religion all wrong so i cleared it up and they were like whats the Jewish bible called and i said i didn't know. and this other girl whos not Jewish goes oh..its called a Torah spellin..so anyway they go well your not a Jew your a fake Jew your no Jew JUNO get it like Jew NO. yeah, well i was just gonna shrug it off but my other friend blew up at them and told them to knock it of and i was like guys just stop but they won't. I'm not that affended but a lot of my family died in consintration camps and there making fun of me for being something that i can't help.

am i right to be a little mad over this?

It sounds to me that they're not making fun of you because you're Jewish, they're making fun of you because they don't believe you are Jewish. There's a difference there, so I think you're getting offended for the wrong reason.
You should be offended that they are calling you a liar, which is what they are doing. Clearly, you are Jewish and you are telling the truth so they're being immature for calling you names like Juno just because they don't believe you are Jewish.
So I'd say be a little upset that they are calling you a liar, but remember that they aren't making fun of you for being Jewish. And then if you are a little upset for their behavior, remember they are just immature and aren't worth a second thought.

does anyone know if there will be another show or movie of zoey 101 or is it over?

According to Wikipedia about the last movie 'Chasing Zoey': "It is the final movie of the series, and moreover, the final episode of the series."
So yes, it's over.

I feel the need to change my room, and I mean like moving my bed and everything around atleast once a month. And sometimes more then that so it's usually everytime I clean my room. Why do I feel like I have to and sometimes if i dont I like cant sleep... and is it normal?

Supposedly, if you move your furniture around in your room, you do actually sleep better. So, that works for some people and you happen to be one of them =] Others may prefer keeping the room the exact same way every day, but that just doesn't feel right for you and that's totally fine!
Don't worry and sweet dreams!

How do i know if i am singing with my diaphram

and how do i sing with vibrato any tips?

When you are breathing through your diaphragm, your stomach goes out and in instead of your chest moving up and down. You can usually feel it, but I find that if I concentrate too hard on breathing through my diaphragm, I tend to not be able to lol. Just relax, normally when you sing, you automatically use your diaphragm anyway. =]

how do you make out? what do you do with your tongue - movements, speed, everything. how can you kiss so that boyz wont think "oh my gosh they are a terrible kisser" ?

http://www.links2love.com/teens_kissing.htm

http://happysoulmates.com/kissing/French-Kissing-Techniques.html

http://happysoulmates.com/kissing/Making-Out-Tips.html

http://dating.lovetoknow.com/Kissing_Tips

Just relax honey. Don't worry about him thinking you are a bad kisser. Chances are, if he's kissing you he most likely already likes you. =]

14/M

Is it wrong to make out 1 week after the first date?

15/f
It all depends on the girl. I know that I myself wouldn't be comfortable with it, but she might be different.
When you guys are together, read her signals and see if she appears to want to go further. If she's uncomfortable, then she most likely will tell you to stop. Everybody has their own pace for relationships.

Ok well he is likee WOW hott..
hes in all 7 classes of minee..
And i think he has a crush on mee..
Because the first dayy he alwayss triedd too sitt next to me in all classes except the one his girlfriends inn..
BUT he putt his arm around me and i dont care because i like himm..
And i have his number but im afraid if i call him he will tell his girll...
And he told her that like i like him and she got all up in my business..He has been in my class since 3rd GRADEE
And liked me every sine 5thh..
So i dont know if he still likes me from last yearr.
I mean he has asked me out...But then if i say yess he says what the heckk are you talking aboutt?
Please help me what should i do and does he STILL like mee

Honestly, he has a girlfriend. If he's flirting with you when he has a girlfriend, do you really want someone in your life like that? How would you feel if while you two were going out, he was flirting with some other girl? That's exactly what he appears to be doing in this case to his girlfriend. He's either being really friendly because he wants to be your friend, or he's just a player. Do you seriously want a player like that as your boyfriend?
That's just my opinion honey. It's your decision.

uuhhhh! I hate feeling like this! OMG! When i look in the mirror sometimes i like what i see and sometimes i dont! I've tried and tried to love myself but its hard! There is always this little voice in my head telling me im ugly! I know im not ugly, but i feel ugly. People tell me how pretty i am, and it makes me feel good about myself. I dont ever believe adults when they say im beautiful cuz they just say that! but anyways is there anyway i can feel good about myself all the time and not sometimes? I want to love myself so bad but its hard for me!

Sweetie I feel the same way all the time. It is hard, especially when you look at other girls/boys who seem so confident 24/7. That little voice kills me every time too.
This works for me, so it may help you too:
-Look in the mirror for 10 minutes or so.
-As you're looking at yourself, try making a list of all the things you like about yourself
-And if you have a single negative thought, you have to stay there until you have at least 3 consecutive positive comments.
-Every time you do this, you can make the number of positive things higher and higher.
I'm not saying you should be totally conceited, of course. This is just so you can recognize how beautiful you are.
Remember honey: We all have our faults as people, but we also all have the things that make us beautiful. And you can't have one without the other.

So i'm on a mission, to get myself more musically involved, im sure you all agree to music is life, okay well my dream has always been to play the guitar, so i decided Im going to try, I was thinking about just buying a cheap acoustic from like Target, that way if I decided for some reason I don't like it, i didn't waste a lot of money, I'm a college kid without a job during the schcool year, so yeah... first of all what do you think of that, buying one of those cheap guitars to learn on? secondly (please don't judge me) I honestly have not a freaking clue on how to read music, i know thats horrible, how can i try without that, so does anybody know of a really good book to learn from, like musicc reading for dummies or something? i looked on amazon and stuff but there are soooo many and i have not a freaking clue, I'm overwhelmed by it all. oh and not like super expensive, again theres a big problem with money, but could you say ya, you'll be able to learn, and its easy to understand, cause i'm definately not the brightest crayon in the box. Anyway I really need somebody's help. Even if you think I'm ridiculous, but I really want to do this. please tell me what you think. Brutaly honest.
So im doing this right.. learn to read music, then learn how to play?

thanks for all your help
-me-

I would say have a basic understanding of music theory before picking up a guitar. But who says you can't learn both at the same time? I've been playing for around 4 years and the first 2 I was teaching myself. I'd already had a basic understanding of how to read music which definitely helps.
My guitar book is the Berkley Basic Guitar by William Leavitt. It wasn't very expensive and it gives an overview of basic music theory as well.
If you are looking for music theory, there's another book I have that's all Music Theory lessons. It's called Harmony Lessons by John W. Schaum.
And yes, getting a cheap guitar is an excellent idea to start because you wouldn't want to buy an expensive guitar then come to find you don't want to play anymore. My guitar is very cheap lol because I didn't know whether I was going to stick with it or not at first.
Happy playing and good luck!

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