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Tow boyfriends...
I've gotten myself into a tough spot. It's kind of lengthy, I apologize.
I am currently dating this one boy, and things have gotten really stale, because he hurt me a couple of times really badly, I've never been able to get over this. So as i was kind of edging away from him (for months) I found a really nice guy at work , and we started to hang around just as friends, but there was obvious sexual tension,so anyway, we kind of just ended up making out, and he (who didn't know i was dating the other boy, bad i know) asked me out,and I defintely like him so I said yes.
And here in lies the problem. How do I go about breaking up with my previous boyfriend? I'm still in highschool, before class, lunch or after class? I'm kind of afraid because he really likes me,and I know this is going to really hurt him, but I just lost feelings. Not even because of the other guy.
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If you have been edging...away from him for months he has probely noticed by now and will maybe blame the relationship going bad on you meeting the new guy. Don't tell him about the other guy even if he asks, don't even talk about the new guy at all and don't say it was because of what he has done to you in the past. This will only give him a reason to hang around to make things better or improve your friendship. Tell him that you don't want to continue dating and its nothing he has done but its time to move on..
Hopefuly he has already noticed ur distance and just waiting on you to break it off with him and he is just wanting you do it because he doesn't want to seem to be the bad guy.
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just tell him.
it doesn't matter where, or when.
but really.
it'll hurt him more if he finds out you're seeing another guy.
or if you stay with him and don't care about him.
trust me.
:D
but just, tell him it's over.
i hope he'll understand.
:D
hope i helped.
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Honestly, I would suggest in this situation calling him up to tell him. If you do it at school, there could be a conflict if he sees you straightaway with the new boyfriend, or if the new boyfriend sees you breaking up with the old one. Normally, I would say do it in person to spare feelings, but under these circumstances...
If you lost feelings for the guy, I would tell him that when you break up with him. Just say something like "I'm really sorry but I don't think I like you as I did before" or "My feelings for you have sorta changed and I think we should go our separate ways". Just don't mention the other guy anywhere in that little speech obviously.
Also, maybe you should wait a few days before you hang around the new boyfriend. I know that sounds weird, but that might not look so good if you are instantly going out with someone right after dumping your boyfriend. Just saying...
Anyways, good luck sweetie and I sincerely hope this advice helped you a little bit!
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