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"Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let the pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place."
I'm an optimist. I can find the beauty in anything. I'm creative. I love spontaneity, peace, & parties. I'm the farthest thing from shy. There's not one person on this earth that I don't care about. I like deep conversations, change, & random acts of kindness. Every emotion I feel is ten times as strong as yours. I have alot of empathy for other people. I'm real open minded & liberal. All I want to do is make at least one person's life a little easier. :D
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Okay, well my boyfriend and i have been dating for 3 years. Well I went away on vacation, just for 2 days, to a spa. Well, my bf has a niece, and he called me asking to come home, because his neice was sick, but she didnt have a fever, and he thought she was having "feminine problems". Well as soon as i came home i saw his friends car. They've known each other forever, and have a lot in common, and shes really sexy. She could get any guy she wants, but she always wanted to be with MY bf, but he never liked her. Well when i walked inside, she was giving him a hug, and was like, "I am sssoooo glad you called, oh, hey girl, he needed help, and i came to the rescue. We were going to go get dinner, but i guess we can cancel the reservation..." and then my bf was like, "How about i make us dinner?" and we both agreed. Well, ever since then, his friend, shes been there every time im not. I put my car in the garage sometimes, and shes always there. When the door wasnt open, and she couldnt find the key, she climbed in our window. WHILE WE WERE HAVING SEX! i couldnt believe it. I asked her to back off, that we were in love and all she said was, "I wouldn't be so sure of your relationship, when he has a hot friend, who has a lot in common, who hes known forever." I told him, but he said dont worry. Idk, what should i do?? I trust him, but i can never be too sure. Who should i trust? Thanks
urghhh.
the girl annoys me & i don`t even know her, haha.
& with the window thing, um, isn`t that trespassing? she`s a stalker & seriously needs to understand to just let him go.
it sounds like she`s pretty determined to get your boyfriend. i think you should trust your boyfriend over this idiot. honestly, she said that because she wants you to think that something is going on between them so then you & him break up & she can have him all to herself.
try to talk to your boyfriend about. say something along the lines of this. "okay, i know she is your friend & i respect that & i trust you. but this is what she said to me: "I wouldn't be so sure of your relationship, when he has a hot friend, who has a lot in common, who hes known forever." & i think we should be honest with each other & i`ve been thinking about this for a while now, so i need to ask you this. is there something going on between you & (her name)?"
& just see how it goes from there. =]
good luck!
Hey,
Well this can get a bit confusing but I will try to explain it the best way I can.
There's this guy I have liked for a while.And we went to the movies all his friends and me and my good friend. So , he goes and sits beside me and I found him sometimes starring at me too. On msn we chatted and he said he was too shy to put his arm around me and next time he will and everything.Well, though after that day we haven't really talked.. should I keep talking to him? And ask him to come to catch a movie??
PLEASE HELP ME!
Thank you , betty!
Aww, he probably feels embarrassed that he actually admitted it to you & he just feels akward around you.
I think you should keep talking to him. Hey, what bad thing could possibly happen from talking to the kid? And as for the second question, of course. =]
Though, I would wait till after you guys have started talking a bit. Then maybe the next day just casually mention what he said last time & ask him if he wants to go to the movies with you & some of their friends.
Good luck!
i just have a general question,
if you like someone, and they acted out of their character or hurt you in some verbal way-(nothing harsh/racially offensive), would you stop liking them or would your feelings persist?
this is stupid question but it's just i've noticed how some let go very easily once they are slightly doubtful and others strongly believe in forgiving, what's the norm?
Ehh, it really depends on the person.
I`m pretty much the type of person who only gives second chances & sometimes I`ll only give a person one chance, depending on who & what was said.
For most people, it`s pretty difficult to just suddenly quit liking a person. For other people, it might take time to let go, so it just happens gradually. & for others, depending on how close they are with this person, they may forgive very easily.
If you`re very close with this person, you`ll probably give them a second chance.
& usually if you`re not too close with this person, you`ll probably gradually let go.
=]
where do you go to get theeth whitening done? (like your denist, or do you have to go to your orthodontist or dermatologist?)
also how much is it usually?
thanks in advance
I`m going to get mine done on January 12th. =]
Usually, you go to a dentist & they`ll examine your teeth & see what all needs to be done. Then they`ll give you an appointment for probably about a week later to get them whitened.
& at the place where I`m going, it`s about 500 dollars.
It may be a little expensive, but from the results from some of my friends that I`ve seen, it is definitely worth it.
Good luck!
I'm 15/f... Two years ago I was cast aside by my best friends for something out of my own control and I also got asked to leave the Christian school. Of course two years later I am going to a public school, have new friends and new life all that. But the people i left back at my old school that screwed me over are living the highschool life i wish I was living, it's all to easy for them. Is it because god just hates me?It doesn't make sense and it irks me to no end... it's two years I should be over this mess.
Sorry for the long question
thanks in advance
Don`t spend your time thinking about the people in your past, there`s a reason they didn`t make it into your future.
I`ve been there.
As a matter of fact, last year.
It took me until a month ago to realize everything that I am about to tell you, though. We`ve all been where you are at one point or anything. You`ll get through it, trust me.
God doesn`t hate you.
He doesn`t hate anyone now, & he never will.
He puts obstacles in your path to make you a stronger person. It helps you see what it`s like for other people who have been in that position. & more than anything, it teaches you about life. He showed you through that how to pick the right friends. A true friend wouldn`t ditch you for something out of your control, & God showed you that.
"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry,
show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile." =]
Goodluck!
My birthday is coming up soon, i am turning 13 adn am having 30 some girls sleep over at the local sports complex..it should be a balst but there is this one friend who is nice but she ditched me and my other firneds for more popular ones we had this huge fight for 2 years now were finally made up but then last night we kinda you know butted heades again but now were cool.....do you think i should invite her to my birthday party? shes really controlling but is SO nice, but sometimes we just dont get along and its definitly not like old timeswe dont sit with eachother at lunch or anything. should i invite her?
Whatever your decision is after reading this, keep this in mind.
"Sometimes you just have to forget what
you want, & remember what you deserve."
Personally, I think it`s really stupid when people ditch real friends to have a bunch of fake "popular" ones, so I`m sorry you had to go through that. Even though you probably want her to come, you don`t need someone to control you. You don`t want one person to mess up the whole party & if you think there`s even the slightest possibility of that happening, don`t invite her to ruin your night.
Although if you think it would bring you two closer together, go for it. Just try not to mention anything that could make her even a little bit mad if you decide to invite her, because that could easily start a fight between the two of you & ruin the party. & if something happens where she mentions something & it makes you mad or bothers you, just try to ignore it & stay away from her the rest of the night.
It really just depends on what you think is more important. =]
Goodluck!
Okay so there is this kid I REALLY like and we are just friends, Lets call him Jim.
And me and Jim are really good friend's we are always talking online and stuff then one night it was really late and we where having a converstaion like we always doo
then like the next day at school he completely ignores me when i said hi, he saw me say hi too..
and then the next day he does it again and then by the third day i had enough of it so i went up to him and said hi right to his face.. he gave me the meanest look and then just walked away
im suprised because he usually is looking for me in the morning before the bell rings and he is always like OMG HII!! and he always waves and says hi in the halls and like now he doesntt and i dont know if i didnt anything wrong..
but like. i ALWAYS see him walkin by like me and my friends would be standing by the lockers and he would keep on walking by.. idk if that means anything.
and then like on the computer he talks to me like there is no tomorrow after ignoring me in school its so weird
but yeah i just wanna know what why he keeps avioding me.. my friend says its cause hes falling for me but then i think he wouldnt be avoiding mee i dont know.
Gah, guys are confusing.
Okay.
Either he`s doing the whole 'I-don`t-want-my-friends-to-know-I-like-you' thing, he`s mad for some unknown reason, or he`s just having a crappy week.
I think he likes you. & he realized that he`s been acting like it & his friends probably said something about it. So, now he`s trying to pretend he doesn`t like you cause he doesn`t want you to know that he does or his friends.
Orrrrr.
He could just be having a horrible week. Or maybe he was just in a hurry or something.
Then there`s always the possibility that someone was jealous that he liked you & just made some random crap up to him to get him mad at you. Trust me, there`s losers out there who do that.
I would just talk to him on IM about it.
Start it out like nothings wrong & then once you feel like you two have gotten a good ways into the conversation just say, "Heyy, I have a question. Um, did I do something? Cause at school you aren`t really talking to me & seems like you`re ignoring me."
Good luck! =]
A boy and I had gotten really close, and I REALLY like him, more than I should. The other day he told me he cannot persue anything with me because wrestling is coming up and he doesn't think it would be at all fair to me since he is so dedicated to it. I understand, and he said we can be close friends and see how we are after wrestling is over. The problem is, wrestling lasts about 3 months, and so far he has definitely been avoiding me. He won't talk to me. Do you think he was using wrestling as an excuse to end things? I don't know, but it's been hurting me a lot since I like him SO much. I'm trying to be mature about it and to understand and not push, but I'm so upset.
Advice? Thanks in advance.
Hmmm.
I guess it would depend on the guy.
But chances are, it probably hurts him just as much as it hurts you. Maybe even more, cause he knows that he`s hurting you also. He probably thinks the more time he spends with you, the more it`ll hurt him & make him realize how much he really misses you, so he`s just trying to distance himself for now. I know waiting for him can be hard, but if you really like him, then I think you should. Sometimes the more you`re away from someone, the more you realize how much you really like them. So in the end, I think this will bring you two closer.
I doubt he was using it as an excuse to end things though.
Good luck! =]
14/f
Ok, so I like this guy (R). He's really funny, but he's not the brightest crayon. But that's not the point because I don't really care about that. My friend (C) is friends with one of his friends (M) so I asked her if she could try to ask M if he could find out if R liked me or something. What she got back was: M said that, when he asked R what he thought about you, R thinks I'm cool, but we don't talk that much (e.g. I'm guessing he doesn't really know me that well). Today, during class, we're doing mock trial (Political Science) and he kept looking at me. He also says hi to me in the hallways now.
Does this mean he's sort of interested in me? Because it's not like he's looking at me because he thinks I like him or something and he's weirded out by it, because he says hi to me in the hallways...
Well, I`m guessing that ever since they asked him about you, that made him start to realize you more. So now, yes, he`s probably starting to like you.
If he doesn`t really know you that well, do you have IM? Does he? If you both do, just get his screen name & start talking to him. Try to be funny, but don`t try to hard. Once you two get closer over IM, it won`t be too akward for you guys to just call each other & talk to the phone. Then ya`ll will talk more in school and the closer friends you two become, the sooner he`ll ask you out probably. =]
Wait about two weeks & get one of your guy friends to ask him again if he likes you. If he says no, well, see if your friend can make it sound like you`re the most amazing person on earth. Haha, that`s what some of my friends did & they`ve been going out for about four months now.
Good luck!
15/f
im almost 16, (less than a month) and i am 5'5" and weigh 160lbs. i really hate the way i look and i just want to lose a lot of weight. im even considering anorexia. this has been an ongoing problem in my life. i hate being fat. any advice would help.
thanks
1. Aerobic fitness
Aerobic exercise is the cornerstone of most fitness training programs. Aerobic exercise causes you to breathe faster and more deeply, which maximizes the amount of oxygen in your blood. The better your aerobic fitness, the more efficiently your heart, lungs and blood vessels transport oxygen throughout your body â?? and the easier it is to complete routine physical tasks and rise to unexpected challenges, such as running to your car in the pouring rain. So what counts? Any physical activity that uses large muscle groups and increases your heart rate. Try walking, jogging, biking, swimming, dancing, water aerobics â?? even gardening and housework. Aim for at least 30 to 60 minutes of aerobic exercise most days of the week, even if you need to break it into 10-minute spurts of activity.
2. Muscular fitness
Muscular fitness is another key component of a fitness training program. Regular strength training can help you reduce your body fat, increase your lean muscle mass and burn calories more efficiently. Building muscle also protects your joints from injury and boosts your stamina. It might even help you get a better night's sleep. Most fitness centers offer various resistance machines, free weights and other tools for strength training. But you don't need to invest in a gym membership or expensive equipment to reap the benefits of strength training. Hand-held weights or homemade weights â?? such as plastic soft drink bottles filled with water or sand â?? may work just as well. Resistance bands are another inexpensive option. Your own body weight counts, too. Try push-ups, abdominal crunches and leg squats.
3. Stretching
Most aerobic and strength training activities cause your muscles to contract and flex. For balance in your fitness training program, it's important to stretch those muscles, too. Stretching increases your flexibility, improves the range of motion of your joints, and promotes better posture and circulation. Regular stretching can even relieve stress and help prevent injury, especially if your muscles or joints are tight. Set aside time to stretch after each workout, when your muscles are warm and receptive to stretching. If you don't exercise regularly, you might want to stretch at least three times a week to maintain flexibility. Activities such as yoga and tai chi promote flexibility, too.
4. Core stability
The muscles in your abdomen, lower back and pelvis â?? known as your core muscles â?? support balance and stability. The final element of a well-rounded fitness training program? You guessed it. Strengthening your core muscles.
Abdominal crunches are a classic core exercise. You can also try tai chi, or do various core exercises with a fitness ball. Sitting on the ball with good posture is a good start. From there, you can try abdominal crunches and other core movements
I've been trying to get healthier. I'm cutting out junk food and caffeine [except for coffee]. I just lack the motivation to do things. I'm finding it difficult to force myself to exercise, but it also goes into other parts of my life. I just lack the energy and motivation to do anything. It's effecting my schoolwork, relationships with friends and I'm tired 24/7 it seems like. Is there any way to change this?
Hmmm.
- Try to drink alot of water during the day. Staying hydrated is one simple way to avoid fatigue.
- Eat More Often. Food is your energy source and your body needs fuel every four hours or so. Stick with balanced meals & eat lots of fruits, veggies & whole grains.
- Move around. Staying active will keep you mentally alert & it also helps help reduce stress. Why not take the stairs? =]
- Take a nap, or try to get at least eight hours of sleep every night.
- Relax. Doing things you enjoy can help energize your mind after a long day.
- Play. Finding time throughout the day to do something pointless is just the thing for a tired mind.
- Avoid sugar. When that afternoon chocolate craving hits, try some fruit or yogurt to avoid that sugar crash.
If you kept a water bottle the whole day, that would probably help. Keep healthy snacks handy to avoid the vending machine. Go to bed at the same time each night and try to wake up at the same time each morning (even on weekends). Schedule your exercise time so it's harder to skip it.
Good luck!
=]
I have always been one to over think things, but lately, it's been ten times worse. Im in a new school and things aren't exactly going great. I dread waking up, walking to the bus stop, and It even worries me about getting on the bus. It's like a feeling of panic. When I get to school it's okay, but some situations make me feel sick. It's not so bad, but when I get home, worry overwhelms me. I involuntarily replay the events of the day in my head- going over embarrasing moments or bad parts. I build up so much unessacary worry for the next day. My stomach hurts, my heart pounds, sometimes it's hard to catch my breath. Sometimes I just break down. I know this is not normal, I should not worry so much, but I just cannot help it. I'm trapped in my own emotions. What's wrong with me? How can I stop this? I just can't handle it anymore.
Gah, I`m do that alot too & I hate it.
& with my wonderful coordination (hah), ooh, I have probably ten times more embarrasing moments than you do.
I don`t why I stress over so much either. If it`s something that`s not INCREDIBLY ridiculous to feel embarrased about, then I just tell my friends or something & once I`ve gotten it off my chest, I feel better. If it`s something that pretty dumb of me to be stressing over, I just keep it to myself & write it down in a journal.
Try keeping a journal & just writing down stuff. Trust me on this, it helps ALOT! You could try going to a spa & getting a facial, massage, etc. That`s probably one of the best ways to relieve stress. Or you could simply pick a quiet room, lay down, & meditate for at least thirty minutes a day. Or just pick up a good book or watch tv -- it always takes your mind off of things.
=]
does anybody have any tips on how to become at peace with yourself and accept yourself? i know its not something someone can just tell you how to do but any piece of advice would help. thanks in advance.
Been there.
We all have. =]
Rather your talking about your personality or your looks, don`t try to change yourself to please other people. Maybe take a day off to just have a you-day? Go the mall & go shopping, go to the spa & get a facial/massage, go get your nails done, etc. I guarentee this -- it can make ANYONE feel better. =]
Try to begin every day by thinking of one thing that you really, really like about yourself rather it has to do with your hair, your ability to make others smile, your compassion for others, or that you make a great pot of chicken and dumplings. Haha, as you do this every day & discover things about yourself that you like, you`ll begin to feel a whole lot better about yourself, & your self esteem level will rise. & before you know it, you`ll find that you actually not only like yourself, but you love yourself too. Enlist the help of those that love you to help build your self confidence. Those that know you best and care for you are the ones that can help you see how special you truly are. Remember that someone who really knows you has most likely seen you at your worst & they didn`t leave, did they? These are the ones that can truely help you to build your self esteem.
Good luck!
I've just broke up with my boyfriend and it's official it's over. I don't want him to get with another girl but obviously it's inevitable he will. I just can't stop thinking about his hands over a girl and him "doing things". I know I'm torturing myself and I feel so sick about it. I've tried keeping busy and even when I'm at work I imagine it. All I wanted was for him to care and love me and he went for no reason. I know he isn't worth it but that doesn't make love go. I know time will only do that but how do I control the girl thing? n e suggestions?
First of all, I bet he`s doing the same thing as you are.
So, don`t worry about it too much. =]
If you two broke up, was it for a really good reason? Because from what I read, you still have some feelings for him. You can always try & fix things back up if you really want to.
Want to know a medicine that can cure it all?
Laughter. =]
Despite the fact that there`s about a 1% chance that you feel like doing anything, go out with your friends. Go see a comedy, eat out, go the mall, go to the spa either with your friends or your family or just by yourself. Either way, it`ll make you feel a whole lot better.
Or just pick a day to read a book, go run around your neighborhood, & listen to music so you can relax.
Good luck!
Okay i'm going out with this guy. i have been for six months. i really like him. we had plans to go to a mutual friends birthday party on saturday. on thursday he decided he wanted to go see his friend instead. i happen to hate this friend of his to the point where his very name makes me furious. regardless of that fact, and the fact that i want him to come with me to the party i told him to go to that friends instead. i tried to make it seem like that's what i really wanted him to do, but he could tell i was angry. how mad do i really have a right to be. i want to yell at him, but at the same time i told him to go. i really don't know what to do.
Hmmm.
Wait, does he KNOW that you don`t like this person? If he did, then of course you have a reason to be mad! Plus, it`s kind of rude to change plans suddenly like that. Personally, I`d be a little mad too.
You guys must care about each other if you`ve been going out for that amount of time, so he probably cares alot about the way you feel. Just try talking about it to him. If he asks why you don`t like the kid, just flat out tell him. He can`t be mad at you for your opinion & he can`t force you to like one of his friends. He won`t want you to feel uncomfortable & he really won`t want you mad at him. So chances are, he`ll go to the party with you.
But if you don`t want to cause any arguments or tension in your relationship, just talk it out with a friend or just make other plans that day to take your mind off of it.
Good luck!
=]
what is the theme song for the simple life?
it goes like this ...
hey miss hilton you must be worth and _________ bucks. get the feeling that you don't really give a f***.
http://www.lyricsondemand.com/soundtracks/s/simplelife2lyrics/heymshiltonlyrics.html
The Penfifteen Club - Hey, Ms. Hilton.
=]
well someone left a really mean message on my myspace (on a little notepad thing, so I don't know who it's from). it said "you're an ugly stupid hoe. jk girl i love you! or at least, i have to pretend i do!"
well, i'm definitely not stupid or a hoe, and i don't think i'm ugly. so i know i shouldnt let this bother me, but i've felt like crying ever since i saw it. and i cant stop wondering who wrote it. one of my "friends?" someone i don't really know? and why would they write that? i'm not mean or stuck up... i'm always really nice to everyone! my mom says someone is just jealous of me, but that doesn't make me feel any better. it just really hurts to know that someone secretly hates me. how can i stop feeling so bad about this?
Ugh, people think they can say whatever their little heart desires just because their protected by a computer. They think that they can be as mean as they want, as long as they`re friends go along with it. Just ignore it. Trust me, I used to get so mad when people told me to do that. But honestly, it takes a long time to realize this. The nicer you are, the meaner some people will be to you. Some people are just that way. It`s not that you`ve done anything wrong -- they are just extremely insecure or extremely jealous. Chances are, you`re not ugly. People call people ugly & fat just because they`re uncreative & stupid, so it`s the first thing that comes to their mind. And trust me, it is NOT true.
If you really wanna find out who it is...
If that was exactly the way it was typed, think of someone who types like that. Like who says jk instead of just kidding, who doesn`t capitalize stuff, who cusses, etc.
The way most of the gossip, drama, etc. is started is simply by jealousy. Just remember that.
Go to the mall.
Go to the movies.
Best things to take your mind off of anything!
=D
Good luck!
So, around about two months ago my best friend moved.
I still call her, sometimes. We keep in touch.
But I feel like I never see her.
She now lives with her dad, but she visits her mom sometimes.
And when she visits her mom, we usually get to hang out.
But the first time she visited her mom, I couldn't get in touch with her.
And she hasn't been able to visit since.
So I feel like I never get to see her. And now I almost never get to talk to her! Her phone number keeps changing, and she never checks her emails. I have no idea what to do. I don't want to lose my best friend.
And on the other part of this is that once my best friend moved, I started to hang out with some other friends. They can be okay sometimes, but I don't really feel like I'm "friends" with them. One of them, yes. But the rest, no. We always joke around, a lot. But I'm always the one being joked about.
And I do have a sense of humor. But honestly, hearing the same thing over and over again (making fun of me kind of jokes) gets on my nerves. =/ I just feel out of place when hanging out with them. But I mean, when you're hanging out with your friends, you shouldn't. So I have no idea what to do about this situation.
Can you guys please help?
When a friend moves, it`s difficult for them to stay close, but it`s possible. Does she have IM? You could call her one day, make a screen name for her, & you guys can talk on there. That`s how I stay in touch with some of my friends.
On the long school breaks & over the summer, go visit her. Try & get together with her as much as possible.
Hah, it kinda annoys me after a while when people do that too. Try talking to your closest friend in the group about it. Or just laugh it off when they make a joke & take your mind off it. I doubt they mean it in a way trying to hurt your feelings, but try and talk to them about it.
Good luck!
does any1 know the phone number for an apple store like for ipods or an address that i can send my ipod in to be fixed. i live in florida and know of no apple stores near me. id like to know what the nearest is, but would like a phone number before i go sending my broken ipod in the mail
thanks xxx
Go to http://www.apple.com/support.
Then you can scroll down to the "Contact Us" link.
On that page there is a phone number:
1-800-275-2273
Good luck!
IM 15/f and bf is 16/m
Ok well, my bf CJ is this really great guy, and i really like him, but im afraid he might be loosing intrest in me. He used to call me every night, just to talk, and even if it was only a three minute conversation, he still called to tell me he loved me. But lately it has stoped, in the past five days, we've talked three times, and i've called him all three times. And last night he told me he'd call me back, and never did. I really like him, and dont want to loose him, what should i do, or am i overreacting? please help
Hmmm.
Does he do anything outside of school? Like any sports? Cause he might just be busy with that or maybe he forgot he had practice that night, so he couldn`t call you back or something. He could`ve been really tired too & just fell asleep. Maybe he`s just really busy, you know, with school starting & everything. Or if he had bad grades last year, his parents might be pushing him to do better thing year. Do you know if he has any family problems or anything? Something could be going on at home & that might have him worried or stressed.
I would just try to talk to him about it.
Just ask him if he thinks you two are drifting or anything.
Goodluckk! =]