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How do I stop thinking about him with another girl?!
I've just broke up with my boyfriend and it's official it's over. I don't want him to get with another girl but obviously it's inevitable he will. I just can't stop thinking about his hands over a girl and him "doing things". I know I'm torturing myself and I feel so sick about it. I've tried keeping busy and even when I'm at work I imagine it. All I wanted was for him to care and love me and he went for no reason. I know he isn't worth it but that doesn't make love go. I know time will only do that but how do I control the girl thing? n e suggestions?
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i know how you feel. youre not the only one who has gone through this. i know how much it sucks. it definetly sounds like you still like him. maybe you can talk this out. why did you guys break up in the first place? maybe you can figure out what went wrong and try to fix it and start over. you need to stop thinking about him with other girls. i know its hard.. i still think about my ex boyfriends with other girls and it bothers me.. even though i dont like them anymore. you probably feel like what you guys did was special and you dont want him to have that with any other girl. right? well i guess its okay to feel that but you need to remind yourself that what you had with him WAS special and even if he does get into another relationship.. his relationship with the other girl is gonna be completely different than it was with you. youre still always gonna have those special things you did with him. no one can take that away from you.
xoxo hope i helped
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oh boy i have been in your same situation, so do not think you are alone girl. The best thing you can do is not hangout with him or be around him for a while until you are comfortable with him around OTHER girls. You also might consider a new guy? maybe. I mean it took me 8 months to get over this guy i dated for 2 years and he had a girlfriend that whole time, trust me i was pissed, but i eventually delt with it and got over it. It was very tough and believe me i had those times while i was working or something and all i would think about is him. well good luck and i hope i maybe helped a little !
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First of all, I bet he`s doing the same thing as you are.
So, don`t worry about it too much. =]
If you two broke up, was it for a really good reason? Because from what I read, you still have some feelings for him. You can always try & fix things back up if you really want to.
Want to know a medicine that can cure it all?
Laughter. =]
Despite the fact that there`s about a 1% chance that you feel like doing anything, go out with your friends. Go see a comedy, eat out, go the mall, go to the spa either with your friends or your family or just by yourself. Either way, it`ll make you feel a whole lot better.
Or just pick a day to read a book, go run around your neighborhood, & listen to music so you can relax.
Good luck!
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Think about it this way: if he left you for no reason, he's going to leave the next girl for no reason. Remember there's nothing wrong with you per se: he just decided to walk, in which case he doesn't deserve your loyalty and affections. It happens.
And hey, rocking the tragic thing can be fun! Listen to lots of good music, according to your tastes (Rasputina, Leonard Cohen, Billie Holliday, Macy Gray for starters), read poetry, write nasty letters to him, work on it and with it until it's out of your system. Express it, otherwise it'll sit inside you and rot. Feel what you feel, and use it.
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It's a situation most people find themselves in after a relationship. Unfortunately there is no cure. There isn't a pill you can take that removes all heartache within 24 hours. Fortunately, it does go away. The best thing to do is let your friends help you. Keep your head high, try to smile, laugh, and joke around, but don't be afraid to talk to your closer friends about what you're feeling. I promise that at some point, whether it be tomorrow or a year from now you'll find yourself looking back on the situation and laughing. You will get over him, you will find someone else, it just takes time.
For future reference you might want to post more information. This basically says, "my boyfriend dumped me. Now I'm sad. Help!!" Every situation is different. The more information you give. The better someone can help you out.
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Get over it.
Honestly, if you broke up with someone you should be sure it was time to end it, and you wouldnt have a problem with this.
If you have a severe problem with this, perhaps its because there is work yet to be done on the relationship and its not time to give up yet.
I dont know your situation, your relationship with him. But I would say that if thinking about this is consuming you, making you sick, then perhaps you should talk to him.
Speaking as a guy who was recently dumped, yeah hes probably seeking out a relpacement. Most guys are going to take the most direct route to feeling better. That means a rebound relationship.
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