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ok i am 15/f pleez help event tho this is going to be a long one! and my stupid sister is so different from me...personality wise...she is so mean to everyone that she knows...im not, she doesnt care about peoples feelings or how they feel...i do, she has no feelings whatsoever like whenever i go to school i say "bye i love you," and she doesnt say anything back! i mean my mom is a single parent and she raised us both the same way...so how did i turn out to be so nice and have her be so evil? well anyway, yesterday i was online and my sister was just on for like 2.5 hours and i got up to try on some new makeup that i found online, then i saw her on the computer and i told her that she better not get on because i wasnt done yet. so she said,"i just wanna put these pics on here" so i let her and when i wanted to go back on she had like 3 websites up and a crapload of people on that she was talking to. so i told her to get off and that she was just on for hours. and she said ok but kept on with what she was doing. so i screamed"GET OFF!" and she jumped. so i left because i was so mad and by the time i got back, i could read her IM to her friend and it went like this: sister:im scared, her friend:well give her a twinkie and tell her to be good...well i am the kind of person that really is not happy with their weight and for them to be so mean like that really hurt my feelings so i yelled at her started busting out crying and SHE DIDNT EVEN FEEL BAD!!! she just told me that i think im so important that i think everyone talks about me. i was like whatever. so my question is(sorry for being so long) why r we so different and ive also been having some thoughts about crash dieting bc nothing else works? should i i only weigh around 135 and im 5foot 7inches and im 15. (link)
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why are you and your sister diferent? most siblings are very different, even twins have very different personalities. some of it might depend on the people she hangs around with, friends are a very big influence. its probably just who she is, i cant tell you why you are different, i can only tell you that you've had different experiences and those experiences shape who you are. you're just differnt people. siblings are always mean to each other in thier teenage years and hopefully once both of you get a little older your relationship will become better. about the dieting, DONT crash diet. you say that they're the only things that work, well, they only work for a little while. plus they are very dangerous for your health. you aren't at an unheathly weight for your age and height, 135lbs. is healthy and normal. if you really feel uncomfortable you should see a doctor and then maybe a dietician. but honestly, your at a heathly weight and you shouldn't worry to much about it.
hope i helped
~rainbow
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My guy friend (who I kind of like) & I are going to see Star Wars. I'm thinking this'll be the night when I admit to having feelings for him. Is this a good movie for that? It sounds crazy but is there anything I can do during the movie to hint I like him? Are there any romantic scenes in the movie that might turn him on or get his mind on relationships? (link)
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there are some romantic scenes between anikin skywalker and padmae. its more action, though. you could always casually touch his hand, or cling to him during the scary scenes. theres really nothing that would turn him on, that i can think of, anyway. for hints you can share popcorn and then "bump" hands. you can share the armrest, any physical contact is good. good luck
~rainbow
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ok im 13 years old and i havn't madeout. everyone else my age has. and because i havnt they call me prude. i really want to and one of my best guy friends wants to with me and he has madeout before. im afraid to though because i dont know how. and lastnight there was a guy 2 years older then me that wanted to but i said no because i was afraid. should i makeout with my guy friend and have him figure out i havnt before or do you think im gonna be to afraid to? PLEASE HELP! i have school on monday.*i rate 5's* (link)
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i don't mean to seem judgemental, but 13 is a little young to be making out. if you don't feel ready for that, its totally normal. you shouldn't just choose a guy because your friends are calling you a prude. if you are going to makeout with him, just tell him that you haven't done it before. if he ditches you he isn't makeout-worthy.
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i really like this guy, and all my friends say he likes me because he flirts with me. WE wrote notes in class, and we talk on the phone pretty much every night, and we hung out one time alone with each other. Everyone is telling me he likes me because he flirts with me, but i have a hard time belieing that he actually does. If somebody flirts with you does that mean they like you, and does this guy seem like he would like me? Thanks!! (link)
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flirting doesnt nesscisarily mean he likes you, but its something to go on. does he flirt with lots of girls, or just you? if its just you he probably likes you. is it just kind of casual flirting? do you make physical contact? i dont know either of you so i cant tell you if he likes you or not. you might try asking a trustworthy friend to casually bring you up in a conversation with him and see how he reacts.
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ok im 14 and my friend is 15 and we want to have a summer job somewhere. we were thinking of going to this one place that boards dogs while their owners are out of town or something but she doesnt really like dogs..and we were thinking about babysitting and stuff..do you guys have any ideas of what we could do?? thanks in advance! (link)
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most places dont like to hire anyone under 16, but babysitting is a good way to make money, cashier at grocery stores, you could try working at a fast food place, there are lots of things you could do. if you think they might hire you, apply. don't get discouraged if people say you're too young. keep trying.
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ok i wanna temporarily dye my hair blonde for the summer just for fun *it's brunette now* is there anything i need to worry about so it doesn't become permanetly blonde? i don't wanna change my hair color for ever, i just wanna see waht it looks like...if u have any info plz lemme know! (link)
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you cant really use blonde dye over brunette hair, you wont be able to see it. i bleach my hair when it needs to be blonde. the best/only (i think) way to go blonde is to strip the colour. you might want to try putting leamon juice in your hair and then sittting out in the sun, it will be less damaging to your hair and your bank account. also, if you really dont like it you can always dye it back to your original colour. you might want to try a blonde wig to see what it looks like on you first.
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~rainbow
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would it be better for a brunette to go to a red shade? most of my friends are saying red instead of blonde...what do yall think is better? (link)
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it really depends on what you want, if you really want to be blonde you should go for it. if you have really dark hair the bleach won't make you blonde-blonde, it might a go slight orangey shade, but it might just go a dirty blonde. i think that being a redhead would be more original and it goes over brunette hair better. again, it all depends on what you want most.
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my best friend is anorexia before she was 190lbs and 5'1ft. i was wondering how long does it take for people to notice that you are losing weight and about how many days?
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when i didn't eat for a week it took people three days to notice i was losing weight but that was because I had my tonsils removed and I wasn't eating any food; it kinda depends how dramatic the weight-loss is. It really depends on your body type, if you're really thin and you lose weight it won't be as noticable as if you're full-figured.
here are some places to go for support or 'information on anorexia:
http://www.anad.org/site/anadweb/
http://www.mentalhealth.com/dis/p20-et01.html
http://www.mamashealth.com/anorexia.asp
also, if you live in canada you might want to call kids help phone, the number is 1-800-668-6868. if you live somewhere else im sure there is something along those lines. find out what it is and contact them. you may want to research anorexia support groups. hope i helped.
~rainbow
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My skin gets bitten a LOT during the summer...are there any home remedies or good sprays that you guys can suggest
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muskol seems to work well. alos misqutos are attracted to bananas so don't eat any of those before going out into places where there are lots of misquitos.
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I have a friend moving away to England during the summer (we currently live in America). I want to put together a mix CD for her. Are there any suggestions of songs I should use? Keep in mind that both me and her HATE rap and urbanish songs...
The songs should be like, about never forgetting her and having fun and stuff... I don't know, things that would remind you of someone who was moving away, if that made sence. Thank you! (link)
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try to think of songs that are special to you both. bands that you've maybe gone to a concert toghther, something that was playing when you did something special. maybe put on a song that resembles her personality or has her name in it. personal songs are the best fopr this kind of thing, something that will evoke memories of good times together. theres a song called graduation its by vitamin c, its really sappy, but it might be what you're looking for, depends on wheter she likes pop, though. there are lots of songs, but its most important to use soemthing personal that she will treasure.
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~rainbow
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Well okay im going out with this guy [we will call him Yellow] and last night i found out that he was moving to a different state. But for some reason i was happy! i dont know why though because hes my boyfriend and i love him so much. Why is this!? im 14 \ f. please help [I RATE HIGH!] (link)
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maybe you think you love him more than you do. also 14 is pretty young to be in a serious relationship, maybe you just wanted some change and freedom. im sure you like him very much, but subconciously you want to get away from him, at least some of the time. this was just ther little bit of freedom you needed.
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~rainbow
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Hey omg i absolutly love your advice column...ok well i really need some help, how do u make a guy want to kiss you?(im pretty positive that he wants to but im not sure)! please help me! (link)
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well, first of all thank you. hmmm...if you think he likes you you might try asking him out, but you might not be that sure or ready for that. i'd suggest flirting more, it may be that he does want to kiss you, but he doesn't want to make a fool of himself, if you flirt with him it might tell him that you like him too. once you flirt notice how he flirts back and if he flirts back. is it genuine flirting or is it just to be polite? let him know you like him too, subtley if you want to. once you are comfortable enough you might want to ask him out, or just kiss him. he'll probably come around before then, though. hope i helped.
~rainbow
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What ways can you tell if a guy friend wants to be MORE than friends? (link)
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if he flirts a lot. lots of guys do that, though, but i mean more than just the normal, guy amout. if he gets shy around you or blushes when you talk to him/touch him etc. if he seems nervous.
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Well this morning i woke up and my boob was hurting. what could this mean?? 14/f. thanks (link)
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they're just growing...they hurt for a while when they're growing. don't worry about it.
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when somebody says like "meet me here at oh eight hundred" what time do they mean for you to meet them?? i have neve rbeen able to figure out that little system haha. or when somebody asks you to go on a date and they are like "what time" and they go "oh about ninteen hundred! "....what time do they mean?! thankyou! (link)
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we use a 24 hour clock. so when most people tell you a time, its am or pm. this is just another way of telling time, 0800 means eight am its just the regular clock numbers until noon (1200) then its goes into 1300 (1pm), 1400 (2pm), 1500 (3pm), etc. military outfits use this method of telling time and some people use it to avoid confusion. hope i helped.
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I want to shave my legs but i dont know how to ask my mom wut should i do?
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how old are you? if you are young 10+11 then your mom might feel ou are too young and that you're growing up to fast, but if you are 11 and older than just tell her that its really embarrassing to not be shaving your legs and that you'd like to start. most moms will be really happy and go "omg, my little girl is growing up!!" etc. and will buy you the razor and cream and stuff maybe even show you how to do it with minamal cuts. if you are really scared to ask her and you want to do it by yourself then buy the stuff (a good razor and shaving cream) and go to the shower put on the cream (please start with cream jut cause its genter on your legs and if you don't want to continue you should have had enough practise to just do it with soap or water...but you should use cream) and shave, go slow and if you cut yourself don't freak out. even if it seems like a lot of blood it'll go away in a few minutes. just don't rush. after you've done it tell your mom you shaved your legs or wait until she find out...whichever way you prefer.
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Today at lunch we had these chicken nuggets in a gravy kinda sauce.It was really messy and I went to eat one and my so called friend shoved it in my mouth.It was all over my face and I got so pissed off at her.I kept saying to her` that was really mean, i would never do anything like that to you` I mean how could she do something so cruel to someone who is her friend?! We always get in arguments, but sometimes she can be nice. I can never get her to apoligize though, even when she does the damage I end up apoligizing.It makes me feel weak that I gotta give into her, so what should I do? She makes it seem like I'm being overly sensitive but a while back she could have done anything to me and I wouldn't of cared.I'm just sick of being treated the way she treats me... (link)
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honestly. if it were me i would tell her the if she didn't start treating me like a friend should then we can't be friends anymore.if you really do want to stay frinds with her tell her that the way shes been treating you is awful and you really won't let her treat you like that anymore. if she still trys to make it seem like your fault or that you're being overly sensitive tell her that its not your fault and your reaction is perfectly normal. stand up for yourself and let her know that you're not going to take that shit anymore. you deserve better. maybe she'll finally get the message, in the mean time try to spend more time with frineds who make you feel good, it'll really raise your spirits.
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hi, i'm chloe
This boy asked me to go out with him as in be in a girlfriend, boyfriend thing. I wanted to say yes but said no instead because, I wasn't sure I knew how to be someones girlfriend and would like more to go out on a couple of dates with him than start a relationship. But my friend had set the whole "asking me out thing" up, so I'd have a boyfriend and is now saying "he's probably the only boy who'll ever like you" which is making me regret doing it.But I'll look stupid if I ask him out now plus he's being a bit out of order to me at the moment. What should I do? (link)
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you cant really take lessons on being a girlfriend or anything, if you really like this boy things should come naturally, even if its a bit akward at first thats probably because of nerves. i think that if you want to go out with him then you should ask him now. also in regards to you friend saying "he's probably the only boy who'll ever like you" thats a really mean, not very friend-like thing to say, im sure he WONT be the only boy to ever like you, there will be many more to come and if this friend is always saying things like that shes not a very good friend...sorry i went a bit off topic...i think if you do really like him then you should ask him out, i'll bet he'll be so happy that he won't even think about whether you look stupid or not. i think he may just be being "a bit out of order" to you because he liked you and you said "no", he probably just feels rejected.
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If i were to babysit, where could i like help? I only have my 2 little cuzins, and i dont want to ask for money right up-front. And i dont have anyone around my neighborhood to do this. where should i go? what should i do? (link)
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put up flyers with your number around your town/city. people are always looking for babysitters and they dont know where to find them. if you go anywhere that has a public bulliten board put some up there. ask your parents to ask thier friends if they need a babysitter. babysitting is kind of a job where you rely on word of mouth, so once you get a few jobs, if they think you did a good job they'll tell thier friends and you'll get more jobs. take any oppourtunity you can get to advertise yourself.
~rainbow
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i hate being skinny ... is there any way to gain weight faster..i eat like crazy but i have a fast matabolism ( sry i can't spell haha ) (link)
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peanutbutter is really good, try to eat food that are more dense, not celery or anything made up mainly of water. here are some tips i got from http://athletics.ucsd.edu/strength/Team%20Nutrition/HEALTHY%20Weight%20Lossandgain.htm
Ways to boost your calories:
--Eat an extra snack, such as a bedtime peanut butter sandwich with a glass of milk.
--Eat larger portions at mealtime.
--Eat higher calorie foods.
Suggestions for increasing caloric intake:
Adapted from the ADA Sports Nutrition Book
-Choose nutrient-dense cereals such as granola and muesli. Top with nuts, sunflower seeds, bananas, or dried fruits.
-Cook hot cereals with milk rather than water.
Drink juices such as apple, cranberry, grape and pineapple.
-Make homemade blender drinks such as smoothies or milkshakes and add peanut butter and fruits.
-Choose hearty breads such as sprouted wheat and honey bran. Cut thick slices for sandwiches.
-Try bean dishes such as lentils, split pea soup, chili with beans hummus and limas.
-Sauté chicken or fish in canola or olive oil. Add sauces and breadcrumb toppings.
-Add cottage cheese, garbanzo beans, sunflower seeds, chopped nuts, raisins, croutons and dressings made with olive oil to salads.
-Include higher-calorie vegetables such as peas, corn, carrots, winter squash and beets.
-Enjoy desserts such as oatmeal raisin cookies, fig bars, puddings, stewed fruit compotes, frozen yogurt, cornbread with honey, muffins, and fruit breads.
-Try healthful snacks such as fruit yogurt, low-fat yogurt, low-fat cheese and crackers, peanuts, sunflower seeds, granola, pretzels, bagels with low-fat cream cheese and jelly, and peanut butter crackers.
my friend has the same problem and so does my friends mom, if you ask me again later (in like a day or two) i can ask what they do to gain wieght. i would suggest you see a dietticain or at least your family doctor.
~rainbow
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