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what are symptoms of being pregnant?

Possible signs of pregnancy


No period or amenorrhea; other potential causes of this include fatigue, stress, hormonal problems, illness, extreme weight gain or loss, going off the pill and breastfeeding
Just "feeling" pregnant
Nausea and vomiting; this usually occurs two to eight weeks after conception and can also be caused by such things as food poisoning, stress or infections
Enlargement and soreness of the breasts; this is also seen during pre-menstruation and with birth control pill use
Increased urination; this can also be a sign of urinary tract infection, stress, or diabetes
Fatigue
Ptyalism (Excessive salivation)
Stretch marks
Spider veins
Quickening (fetal movement); some people often confuse this with gas or bowel contractions.
Chadwick's Sign (bluish tinge to the vagina and cervix); this is also seen occasionally with impending menstruation
Colostrum from breasts
Probable signs of pregnancy


Enlarged abdomen; this can also be a sign of uterine fibroids or a tumor
Positive pregnancy test
Change in uterine shape
Softening of the cervix (Goodell's Sign)
Enlarging uterus
Braxton Hicks contractions
Palpation of the baby
Ballottement
Palpation of the uterine artery

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What is the best way to disinfect cutting boards and sponges?

Bleach.

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I'm a 19/f and about to lose my virginity to my boyfriend 22/f of 1 year. He himself is not a virgin and has had I think it was 3 partners in the past. There have been recent reported cases of HVI infections in our area. Well, I was always taught to treat everyone as if they had the virus because you never know who might actually have it. They probably don't even know. So, as a precaution I want to ask him to get tested. It's not that I don't trust him because I do. If I didn't, I wouldn't lose my virginity to him. I'm just afraid that he'll take it as if I don't trust him. I know it's a smart decision but I just don't know how to approach the subject. And, if he agrees to it then I will go with him and get tested also. Any opinions/advice is appreciated.

Tell him this,

"________ (

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can anyone think of something to do on a rainyday.

BEST ANSWER IS MALL!! lol that will keep your rainy days very interesting!!

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After reading this, I know that I will get a few comments telling me that my younger sisters' life is like Tracey's life in the movie Thirteen.



I want to give background by saying that I am now 14, and my sister is 13. When I was 12, I was really in love with guys, and I had a boyfriend and stuck with him, but I did only hang out with about 2 or 3 guys, but I was young, when there was no kissing, or raging hormones. I had my first peck on the lips with my boyfriend, but went no further because I was way too young.


When I reached 13, and my sister was 12, I noticed that her behavior with boys was much different than mine. She had got a boyfriend that had gotten high all the time and was nasty.


Now, my dad didn't like this at all, but he had no control over it because of his divorce with my mom, so after he was gone, our family lost its control.


After a while, she stopped dating the guy and dated this new guy she met, I knew nothing about him. But soon, I found out that she had made out with him already. 12 year old girl. Soon, we began to see where the influence was coming from, one her friends she met, a girl that had a nasty behavior with guys.



My mom didn't seem to want to stop this, she was busy living her own life, as I was angry, and telling her how horrible shes been towards her kids, my dad was on her case about it too.


My sister has the worst attitude ever, always telling my mom to shut up and ordering her around. I didn't take her crap, if she dared to order me around, I'd just tell her to shove it, of course my mom would defend her.



Shes now 13, and my mom knows that shes tried her first cigarette. She spreads rumors, lies and has caused so much pain in our family.



So, I guess what I'm trying to ask is, that nobody wants to see their younger sister spend her life this way, my mom is still doing nothing about this, my dad still has no control, and I want something done about it. Would anyone know a possible way that I could fix this, or should I watch her pay the price of her own actions?




[NOTE: I can't talk to my mom, nobody could even guess how many battles of just trying to talk to her I've been with her, and there must be more shes doing because a friend told me that theres a lot of things shes been doing that I don't know about, I've asked her and she won't tell me.]

Talk to your sister. teenagers are at high risk for such behaviours as drug/alcohol use, dropping out of school, pregnancy, violence, depression, or suicide. One of the difficulties parents face is how to recognize the more subtle indicators of such behavioural problems and when and how to intervene.

A child that suddenly begins to exhibit a defiant belligerent attitude has probably fallen in with a new group of friends. This defiance itself is not the core issue but a sign of what is really going on. This new power is something that the child has learned. It could be something they learned in school or something a friend may be telling them. Defiance will not only make life miserable at home but will usually lead to expulsion from school, and eventually legal troubles if left unchecked.


Grades Dropping
If your child's grades take a sharp turn for the worse this is usually one of the first indicators that something is wrong. This change usually takes place because the child has changed friends, or that their priorities have changed. Many children develop an "I don't care attitude". This again may be coming from what they are being told by their new friends. Over the years we have talked to many parents and it is our belief that marijuana abuse is a contributor to the "I don't care attitude."

Change In Appearance
If the apparel of your child should take a dramatic change again, they probably have a new set of friends. The variation of extreme clothing changes can range from all black, to chains, and even more provocative styles of dress. The all black look is usually associated with what is referred to as the Gothic look. Care should be taken to closely monitor a child with this new look as innocent as it seems, it is definitely not a good direction for them to be headed in. Obviously a girl who begins to dress more provocatively is more than likely sexually active or may be interested in becoming so. A child who wears all of the same color of clothing may be investigating becoming associated with a gang. They will usually deny it but it again is something that should be closely monitored.

New Music
In most cases a change in life style will be accompanied by a change in musical preference. It would be wise to jot down the names of the artists a child is listening to and research them on the internet. Much can be learned about a child's lifestyle by learning about what and who they are listening to for entertainment.


New Friends
This factor mentioned in almost every change above is worth discussing on its own. If a child has switched from childhood friends and is spending more time with friends that you don't know, it would be beneficial to get to know who your child is spending their time with. We believe if a child is not bringing his or her new friends home for their parents to meet, the parent should be concerned. One good way to find out what is going on with your child would be to ask his or her previous group of friends how your child is doing? In most cases they will be wondering the same thing. They will probably be concerned and may even be able to give you information on what kind of people the new friends are.


Look For Signs of Substance Abuse
In addition to the obvious physical signs of substance abuse, another good way to determine if your child is starting to experiment with drugs is to look around their room, and check their pockets. Most teens will rely on their parent not being astute enough to pick up on signs of substance abuse. A search of your child's room could be an eye opening experience. One good way to check your teen's pockets is to turn them inside out before you wash them to check for signs of marijuana or cigarette leaves. The physical signs of substance abuse are of course sleeping more than usual, glazed eyes, slurred speech, and the smell of drugs and alcohol are still good indicators.

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I have AIM downloaded to my computer. It has aways worked fine. Now whenever I click on the icon to launch aim nothing happens...? No matter how much I try restarting. Then once in a blue moon the window where you type your username and such comes up, I fell it out, and it says "connecting" and then "Aim service cannot be reached, check internet connection". The internet is working fine, only Aim isnt working. What should I do?!

I have the same problem sometimes its either your computer user name or your internet connection. but try going to preferences and then connection and switch the connection. I know its confusing but you'll see the connection button.

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Okay so I met this guy (we are both 16) and we hit it off. spent like 10 hours together he was totally flirting holding hands cuddling and he would just stare at me and would always sit next to me and he tried to kiss me and such.. (it was a church retreat. We were helpers lol for the little kids) so at the end of the night when its time to leave he just left no good bye and didn’t ask for a number or anything! what does that mean? What happened?

Aww, Thats really mean!! I think that he was scared to fall in love with you. Maybe he had a realtionship that ended very bad and he was in love and got hurt. But don't worry because if he doesnt want you there is more than enough of guys who will!! Don't worry about him. And if you see him at the next retreat then dont talk to him let him talk to you. Again, don't worry.
Kristen**~

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ok so what exactly is a clitoris? yeah yeah... i know its a girls "sweet spot" and its where ya have ur orgasm n all that, but where is it located?? and how do you know when its touched? what does it do?? does anyone know??

thanks!

um its the NOODLE LOOKING THING!! ~~LOL~~ thats the only way i could explain it. with out sounding completely gross but i still did! lol its like the bump. lol!!

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I have Dry and damaged hair and it can get frizzy (blonde, shoulder length straight) .. DO you noe any brands of shampoo and conditioner to buy to help make my hair healthier looking? I rate :)

I dont know what its called but my sister uses it for her dry and damaged hair and it works very well. try pantene pro V its in a white bottle with like maroon trim. i (think) its called pantene pro V dry and damaged hair. also put (A LITTLE) olive oil in your conditioner and also while you're conditioning brush your hair through. try mayonaise with toin foil around your head for only 5 minuerts and it makes your hair mostureized i know that sounds weird but it really works. well good luck!

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Any1 have any good pictures of models? or something of that sort? like teh latest styles? please send them!!!!

well its pretty easy to see what the latest trends are in but theres a website that has a whole bunch of designers. http://www.externalharddrive.com/fashion/fashion_designers.html

but i mostly see people dressing skaterish now thats pretty much the style but if you dont like that go to H&M thats the best store for cheap, trendy clothes.

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Does anyone have any idea on how to do REALLy good makeup tips

This is a REALLY good website it has every make up tip you need plus health tips!
http://www.free-beauty-tips.com
I go there all the time and i really enjoy it! lol good luck!!

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I'm just curious at your guys opinion. What's the best way to get a guy? Like him or not.

I got my boyfriend by not being obsessive of him asking me out around him but infront of my friends i never stopped talking about him play hard to get guys love the chase. just pretend that you dont like him and he will start to like you.

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Okay here's the story, me and my bf have been together for over two years now and it's getting to the time where I need to decide on a college there this is one college that I was looking into because it had a an excellent animal sciences program but it isn't exactly close and I would have to live on campus. He told me that he couldn't handle me being far away and if I left that he would break up with me. Now there is a school closer to us that I could go to but then I'd have to pick a different major. So wait I am trying to figure out is should I go or should I stay?

Okay, Thats really messed up of him to do that!! do you honestly think that he will be your husband??!! maybe, maybe not but your career is very important!! and tell him that you want that career and that college and that you will visit him as much as possible and you love him. or invite him to stay in the town of ur college. talk to him about it. But if he TRULEY loves you, he'll wait for you!!
*rate please*
Kristen&&

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What are some quick and easy things to do to pass the week quicker? I have a huge event i am so exited about Saturday and i need to Pass up Thursday And Friday fast! What are some easy fun ideas? Let me know.. Anything I dont care games, websites, things to do in your room, im not pickey just times slowing down after a FAST week!!!

-Xo-Thanks-oX-

go to bored.com that keeps me busy for a long time~!
**oxKristenox**

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my friend was drugged by some stoners because she is trying to stop using drugs and she's been high for about a week now and i think they might have caused permanent brain damage but i'm not really sure because they gave her a lot and i don't know how to tell if it's just because they drugs haven't worn off yet or because she's brain dead i don't really know a lot about drugs so i don't know how it works how do i know if she's brain dead and what do i do about this?

wow, that must be tough. what i would do first is find out who stonned her and turn them in but if they offered her the weed and she accepted the weed then you cant do anything. if shes been high for a week she might have brain damage! make her stop have her hang out with you more because then you can help her stop. if that all fails go to a doctor a.s.a.p ! i REALLY hope i heled! *rate me*
kristen~

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I dont know how to do very much with me hair and i want to learn how to do those twistie things so if someone could like give me a site or something with steps that would help me a lot thanks! x0

A really good site that has nice hairstyles and even beauty tips are www.free-beauty-tips.com
Hope I helped**
Kristen~**

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What do you think about these baby names:

Mattilynn Nicole
Jake Ryan
Zachary Daniel
Rylee Elizabeth

Twin girls :

Ashlynn
Joshlynn

I like Madison Victoria, Jack chance, Ava Joy, Courtney Alexandra * lol

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okay. well i have been best friends with the same three people for 4 years now and we do everything together and i love them to death but now they have new friends and they will talk about plans right in my face and not invite me and so i do other things with my other friends but i cant help but get jelous. its like sometimes i dont want them to be happy unless there with me. I hate feeling this way. I hate being jelous, but i cant help it. Things have changed and i cant take it. I try to take my mind off it and do other things but none of my other friends are as close as they are. i cant just give up on out friendship. How do i stop the jelousy? and Should i tell them how i feel? cause they would probbaly laugh and get mad at me...

sincerely,
Sojelous

I know how you feel!! I was really jealous of my best friend and it ruined our friendship!! we got back to being best friends and stayed best friends because i wasnt jealous anymore!! but dont tell them how you feel because when i did that she didnt care or anything just include your self say they say there going to a concert right? and they're inviting eachother to it say hey! omg i really want to go to that concert!! we should ALL go!! then there you go!!
Hope i helped**
Kristen**

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hey every1. right now my life is so totally like the movie The Notebook, if you've seen it. K so there is this guy who goes to my school and a lot of people don't really like him at all because he is sort of full of himself and annoying. but for some reason at the beginning of this year i really really liked him. i only told a few of my friends though, because it was really embarrassing. then i found out that half way through the year he had to move to Hong Kong. i was really sad and his last day at school , my friend told him that i like him. he said that he liked me too.anyway overtime i kind of got over him and started to like this guy named Ben. Ben has been like my best guy friend for a really long time. anyway he asked me out and i said yes. i was so happy, until Jamie (the guy who moved to Hong Kong) CAME BACK!!! anyway now he is being really sweet, and trying to get me to like him again. the thing is, Ben sometimes ditches me for computer games and stuff, but Jamie never does, hes really sweet now. i don't know what to do at all though because Jamie is moving back to HK for good over the summer, so i probably wont see him again. so i could either break up with ben and spend the remainder of my time going out w/ jamie, or i could stay with ben since i will never see jamie again. no clue what to do! help!

I think you should break up with Ben and not go out with Jamie because if you two fall in love and he moves then you'll be heart broken and ben freakin DITCHES YOU FOR EFFIN COMPUTER GAMES! OH NO!! thats so effin retarded!! eww dont stay with him!! no no no no no DITCHING!! lol sorry, but you dont want a broken heart!! so i think you should find another guy to date that doesnt ditch you and isnt moving!
*hope i helped*
Kristen~

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Ok, so there are these jeans I want at Abercrombie and Hollister, but super expensive!! They are those pants that are torn/destroyed...Does anybody know how I could do it myself, and it would look good without spending a fortune??!!Thanks!!

OMG I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN!!!!! I WANT THEM SOOO BAD!! I'm saving for those!! lol what you should do is get a steak knife and cut where you would like them to be ripped but practice on an old pair of jeans first!! hope i helped!!
*Kristen*

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