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Q: so im very confused right now. like there is this guy that i kinda like and he likes me back cos he's been giving me the right signals. but when i added all his friends on facebook none of them added me back. [i didnt add him btw cos i wasnt sure - a bit stupid i know lol] but its just a bit weird since they didnt add me back. so now i think that the guy hates me as well which doesnt make sence since he always smiles rly sweet and stuff. so what does that mean?
maybe he liked you, he just didnt tell his friends about you yet. or maybe they havent logged on yet. i wouldnt read too much into it. i do think you should ad HIM though

Q: i need some good books to tide me over this spring break. what are you guys currently reading? i like almost everything.
the gossip girl series
the it girl series
the A list series
the dear dumb diary series
memoirs of a geisha
the ruling class
one for the money
frogs and french kisses
bras and broomsticks
party princess
you, maybe
dueling princess
girl, 15, charming but insane
confessions of a boyfriend stealer
angels & deamons
chloe leiberman (somtimes wong)
True Believer
what my mother dosent know

Q: idk why but i was bored and came up with future baby names even tho im 14. i know its really early but what do you think of these names so far? and any sugestions to add to make the name better or anything?

GIRLS:
-Roxanne Rae (i like Roxanne cuz i could get the girl "roxy" clothes from pacsun and it sounds all firey and stuff. i'd prefer a better middle name than Rae though.. and please dont say a name like "marie" oh lord.)
-Cameron Jade (what do you think? ive always liked cameron, and jade's one of my fave types of green

BOYS:
-Julian Antione (Antione sounds alot better than Antonie(sp?) IMO. and the Julian part is from "Julian Casablancas" from the strokes..)
-Jamie Alexander (Jamie is my favorite boy name ever. and its the name of Jamie Cook, this really cute guy from the Arctic Monkeys band. and I've always liked Alex and Alexander)

THANKS!
and sorry if i wrote anything wrong or whatever but im HELLA Tired right now! ahha
those are great
i love names that sound romantic
like isabella

Q: ok so i really want a trucker hat with my name airbrushed on it.
but i need it by friday. and i don't know where to get it done.
so i thought i would do it myself.
doens't anyone know how to get the airbrushed look, without an actual airbrush b/c those are very costly.


any tips will help
thanks so much!
use blowpens

you can get them at any art store

Q: so my boyfriend has never made out with anyone and i dont want our first kiss to be akward! lol
thats awesome bcz then ull b the experienced one in charge!

you could talk about it but if that would be awkward then just take it slow, and hell stop you if its uncomftorble

Q: my ex bf is telling everyone that me and him did all kinds of things and now everyone thinks im this huge whore and stuff and idk what to do!
your ex-boyfriend is a jerk.

brush it off. dont let it bother you. in situations like this, you need to act like a politician. let it stay on the outside, and dont let it get under your skin.

if anybody comments, just be like "you know thats not true"
or if it is somthing true, look them straight in the eye and say "so what?"

it will all blow over. everyone will forget about it. the less of a deal you make out of it the sooner people will forget abotu it.

Q: 16/f
over spring break i might go out to dinner with this guy that i really like. i dont think he knows i like him but i've left enough hints and he might like me but i was just wondering what to wear. it'll either be dinner or a movie or both. not likely an official date just...i dont know how to explain it. so what can i wear thats casual yet flirty but not too skanky because although i want him he's not getting me that easy.
you could wear bermuda shorts, theyr like not too short.

or capri jeans .
or regular jeans
and just like a tshirt or hoodie

your regular clothes.

Q: so theres this boyy... lets call him ben. well i had a class with him last year first smemster and we were friends but the next semester we had no classes and completely stopped talking. everyone is friends with ben but honestly i have never really found myself attracted to him. like hes shorter than me and hes not fat or anything but im alot skinner than him and he has terrible achne scars and braces. hes a hockey player and for some reason hes one of the guys that gets invited to all the parties. hes sort of a big deal. well anyways one of my good friends started liking him this year. he started talking to me online because of my friend liking him and next thing i knew we were kinda getting carried away flirting. i didnt really mean anything by it, im just a flirt. we would talk every day and he would tell me how cute and funny and pretty and everything i was. and say how he liked me so much more then the other girls at our school. well anyways my friend supposively doesnt like him anymore and he really wanted to hang out so me and him and a bunch of other people hung out at djs house. he was being really gay and annoying and i realised i liked talking to him online alot better than in person. also i liked talking to him when i couldnt see him. haha. he had a long talk with me before about hating prude girls and i think that meant he likes fast girls. well anyways back to the story. him and his friend had a plan to get with me and my friend. i wasnt sure what it was or who was gonna try and get with me. we were watching a movie and he sat by me and somehow we managed to get all cuddled up. i swear i dont like him im just a movie whore. well anyways we didnt hook up we just cuddled for a while. when he got home he talked to my friend and said he was pissed off about us not hooking up and that he just wanted to be friends for that reason. when she talked to me i was like okay thats what i want to? but heres where the advice is needed.. I talked to him online a little later and he was like " i thought something could happen with us, like we could have something or be together but after hanging out with you i realised we are best off as friend" i told him i completely agreed and that i really dont like him but for some reason... that reallyyyy offended me! i cant stop thinking about that. like ive been hurt really bad by a guy in his crew before... do they just think they are too good for me? there are pleanty of guys that like me so why do i want ben to like me so bad when i dont want him? and why do i care so much that he said that? help please!
its like, the clasic case of: you only want what you cant have.

just keep telling yourself all the things you dont want about him.

all the people in his crew probably only want someone fast. they probably really dont care about you as a person. NO OFFENCE at all, because im sure you have an amazing personality its just that theyr too dumb to see it.

im sorry youve been messed with by these dumb boys. just forget about them.

Q: when i realize i had feelings for my best friend (girl) i notice i am bi...or les? but i knew i went out with men just to test the waters if it was a phase. but it wasnt i couldnt keep my mind off of her. telling how i felt was so hard for me to do. i didnt have the guts till that day after high school i met up with her and told her how i felt. she just had a shock face. as days go by we still hang out and be good friends. she became closer as in leaning,teasing and close. i wonder why she felt okay with my feelings so i wrote her a note, didnt reply. after highschool two years past we still hang out. i told her to met me online to chat. so we did. i re explain my feelings and ask the question. she said she was fine with it and confused with her sexuality. i knew i had to move on. once i did but very slowly i met a guy at a party. told her about it in the chat room a month later, she got jealous. i ask her in the email why and she said that afraid fo me moving on

and being with someone else. she said she was jealous of my last boyfriends in high school. she qouted "iguess time will tell for the both of us". few months went by and i wounder (does she like me more than a friend?) so i ask her in a note. gave to her when i saw her. she didnt relpy for 3 weeks. with in the 3weeks i saw her. so i had to step up again. i ask up front and she was ignoing the question...then she said "i was just being over protceive" and she shook her head no when i ask "do you like me more than a friend?"
we hang out still with friends and at school (college)...but i am so confused about this. i like her for nearly 8 years and i just try my best to move on but why did i felt she lied to me?
your in college! your a big girl. you need a stable person. not someone who is so confused.
i think you should try your best to get over her. distance yourself from her. all shes going to do is complicate
your life and confuse you. please, i know its difficult but try to get over her. i dont think shes being mean and messing with you, but i do think she just dosent know what she wants .

Q: i wanna see my bff's profile on this website but how do i do it?
thanks :)
if shes your best friend the easiest thing to do would be to ask her.

you could ask a question about somthing she has tons of experience about,and if she answers youll have her username. but its so much easier to just ask her.

Q: 25/f


I am 2 months away from finally marrying the love of my life. He's also 25, we both have college degrees, great careers, money to spend, and plenty of love. The only problem is that we each have a dog. Both of our dogs are very friendly with other people and other dogs, except for each other. When we first introduced them two years ago when we started dating, they viciously attacked each other on site. We thought it would go away, but nothing has changed. I don't want to force either of us to give up our dogs, but I don't want to not marry over something as seemingly trivial as this. Any advice?


Thanks.
maybe you could figuire out why the dogs hate eachother so much!

or you could put them on two different sides of a fence.

if you do decide that someone has to give their dog up, i think you should both give yours to loving familys and go buy a new dog together. thats just a thought tho.

Q: Ok so one of these guys really likes me... but i am only friends with him. after a few weeks of being friends, he told someone that i broke up with him. we were only freinds. we werent dating.
2nd of all, Ive heard lots of rumors about disgusting things aout him, like... peeking in the girls bathroom(its near the PE room and some girls change in that bathroom 0.0) and stuff... problem is, i dont really wanna be friends. I am trying to slowly stop contact with him, but i am scared he will say something like she broke up with mee, wateva blah blah blaah"
and this one guy keeps teasing me about us being "together!" it is driving me insane. he is so annoyig.
PLZ HELPPPP!!#!@#!
ignore him 100%

pretend him and all those obnoxious boys arent alive

they feed off attention so once they see they arent getting any, theyll stop

Q: 15/F. So, I like this one guy James*, but he keeps sending these hints that he likes my friend Jamie*. But then again, he'll flirt with me at times. So, how do I let James* know that I'm interested in him, without actually coming out and saying it? And also, do you know any ways to tell if he actually likes me or if he's just being a bit friendly? I'd really like the help. :]
he could be making hints about your friend trying to make you jelous.
you could have a mutual friend fill him in .
or just amp up the flirting

Q: i have like shoulder lenght straight hair, and i want to get it cut so that the bottom is like thinner than the top. something like this.. http://i66.photobucket.com/albums/h261/Briana1254/579027666_l.jpg but longer i guess. does anyonehave pictures or hairstyles like this? ive looked at online galleries and stuff, and havent found anything, so i need direct pictures. thanks!
is this what your looking for?



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Q: I have an ipod touch and for some reason whenever i put it on shuffle, it will play the same song over and over. i have to actually hit next before it goes to the next song. it just recently started doing this...how can i fix it??
haha thats rlly funny!!

take it to the apple store. i think some of the pieces inside got shaken up

Q: Im going to sound stupid but. Me and my boyfriend want to makeout. Weve kissed for long amounts of time before but we wand to get into it a little bit more. Like positions and stuff. Any ideas for me??
you could stradle him.
pull him down on top of you.
get cought up in the moment! its more fun if you dont plan it out.
wyou could sit on his lap.

Q: okay, this girl britnii cannot control her feelings towards this boy named adam. and everyone knows she likes him but i donno if he likes her back. yes, i like him and compared to britnii im a gorrilla.. okay not that bad but she\'s tiny compared to me. but annoying and has no personality whatsoever she changes herself for people to like her, but she flirts with him none-stop. and nooo im not the jelouse type that i know of, but it kinda bugs me. adam helps me with everything-- this kids awesome in school and gets straight a\'s and because he basicly tutored me in science im getting a b which he\'s very proud of=]. he helps me with the new laptops which are apples so he\'s showing me how to use them but sometimes i forget**. well i think britniis noticing my hanging out with him because we just got progress reports back and adam really wanted to see my grade in science and i was like jumping up and down like yes adam you rock!! and just having an awesome time celebrating, were queer haha. well she comes over and was like oh, katie let me see your grades so being all excited about it i showed her [[ive been getting d\'s in science because its really hard.]] she\'s like oh you only got a b?? im getting an a and i didnt need any help from --the smartest guy in class.
i was pissed and even adam noticed the [tone] she used and was like yeah, well were not as gifted as you britnii and we walked away leaving her miserable hahhaa. no he said it nicer but just the way was awesome.=]] then after he was like i wouldn\'t help her even if she got f\'s she\'s that annoying.
so i dont think he likes her which is a-ok but she\'s having her weirdo friend practicly harass him asking him if he likes her and he wont answer. he also told me he likes that the girl has enough courage to tell him herself, not have all her friends bug him.
he\'s sooo cute. he\'s like boy next door adorible and is so sure of himself. i have like tons of storys i could say but that would be getting off subject.
if britnii gets the balls and tells him she likes him, i donno what he\'ll say. he\'s to nice to say no but if he doesnt like her he wont lead her on. thats how awesome he is
but i can\'t ask him like \"do you like her?\"
because i dont want him to know i like him either but by the way everyone tallks about me flirting with him i already thins he knows and were still friends but he hasnt said anything so i donno.
i know this isnt an exact question, but what am i saposed to do if he says yes i really like him and i still want him to tutor me, because if i fail science my parents will kill they saw my report and almost died at the improvement and said they want to meet him which is never gunna happen my parents are too weird and i dont want him to know i think him remember. but they just want to thank him, but i told him i wanted to get his kinda grades and he laughed at me cuz he\'s getting like 99 but said he\'d try and becuase hes heard what people are saying, and hasnt said anything he either thinks ts weird that i like him, or doesnt know what to do so anything would be awsome.
thanks.
sooo long i know.
go for it!! just tell him you like him!

Q: Alrighty, my boyfriend is in the United States Navy. We have now been together for 2 and a 1/2 years. I am a junior in highschool,and prom is coming up. Prom was supposed to be on April 19th and my boyfriend was going to be able to take leave to go with me..so I went ahead and got this super sexy dress, I was so excited to be able to get dressed up for him and for us to have a good time together. But my school is stupid and decided to change prom to April 11th....so now my boyfriend isn't sure if he can go..but he says probably not.He is very upset..... he is the jealous type...I cant blame him though...it's only normal when he only sees me every 2or3 months. I don't know if I should just not go and throw away the $400 I've put into prom, or if I should find a reasonable guy to go with, or if I should go alone and hope I have fun. Please help me.
you could go with a bunch of friends (girls)

then he wont be jelous!!

Q: so i asked this guy to sadie hawkins dance. he said yes, and my friend has been trying to "matchmake" us.
hes not the type to show much affection and its going kinda slow, so what can i do to speed things up? i really like him and i want this to go somewhere!
any advice!
thankyou
female/17yo
keep flirting

but dont push too hard. i mean, dont scare him off.
when you see him make eye contact and smile. if he looks away as soon as you do, give him a couple of days.

Q: Okay, I've never really engaged in sex until my senior year started in August. Since then, I've just been sleeping around. I would say that I've slept with at least 15-16 guys since August. Why all of the sudden am I so promiscuous?
hi honey,

please dont feel bad about it.
at least you know how many boys! and its not that many...
what happened happened.

now just concentrate on learning from it, and finding an alternative.

maybe you liked the freedom of your senior year?
or maybe you liked the control of having all the boys.

i dont know how you were feeling, but you do.
ask yourself how you felt sleeping with all of those guys. and finally being at your senior year.

then redirect that energy.
maybe you could concentrate on making a bunch of senior pranks or throwing a ton of parties or doing your homework (JK!)

just do the things you love. and dont worry about it. just because you might have acted promiscously dosent make you a slut.


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FRIENDS ARE LIKE ELEVATOR BUTTONS. THEY CAN EITHER BRING YOU UP OR TAKE YOU DOWN. CHOOSE WISELY
A friend will let you borrow their umbrella but a best friend will take yours and scream "Run Loser Run!!!"
we are all angels
with one wing
and we can wonly fly
with the help of somone else
my friends are my wings

TRUE FRIENDS
THEY ARE HARD TO FIND
DIFFICULT TO LEAVE
AND IMPOSSIBLE TO FORGET!

you can pick your friends, and you can pick your nose! but you cant pick your friends nose

killers stab you in the head
Frenemies stab you in the back
boys stab you in the heart
but best friends dont carry knives

a best friend will never ever come to bail you out of jail so never use your one phone call on them
i tried that, but she wouldent pick up. when i got back to our jail cell, i asked her why she wouldent pick up her phone.

theres no thing as strangers. there are only friends we havent met yet



ill give you advice the best that i can
im only 13 so the advice i give you may not be the best
but ive made tons of mistakes so i can relate
and im obsessed with shopping so anything with clothes i can help
and im always here if you want to talk or hang out or anything
im giving you the truth straight up
i am a brutally honest person
Im also fun-loving and adorable
I consider myseld a happy person
I just happen to love black
Do not call me gothic or ill kill you

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