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I like a guy who likes my bestfriend.
15/F. So, I like this one guy James*, but he keeps sending these hints that he likes my friend Jamie*. But then again, he'll flirt with me at times. So, how do I let James* know that I'm interested in him, without actually coming out and saying it? And also, do you know any ways to tell if he actually likes me or if he's just being a bit friendly? I'd really like the help. :]
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When he is flirting with you flirt back a little. And you can find hints by like does he always go out of his way to say hi to you or just ignore you when your not looking...Also if he is always trying to add you in everything
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I don't want to patronize you because of your age - we were all 15 once, but I wouldn't get my hopes up about any of this. I'm assuming everyone involved is around the same age as you, and this is a time in your life where crushes change from day to day. He likes you and your friend because he's a hormone driven teenage boy - that's it. Tomorrow he might like several other girls in addition to you and your friend. It's just the way things go at that age. Don't take it personally and don't let yourself get so emotionally involved.
If I were you, I would enjoy the casual flirting but I wouldn't focus my attention on him. If he really likes you and he sees you showing interest in other guys, he might get the motivation to pursue you and decide that you're the one he wants to be with. I wouldn't hold my breath though. He's very young and his body and mind aren't exactly working together as a team, if you know what I mean. He may genuinely like you, but I can guarantee you that another part of him (down south) likes any female with a pulse. So protect your heart, because boys won't.
I think you should focus more on your friendship and less on this unlikely relationship. Your friendship could potentially last a life time. Isn't that more important than some silly boy? In the end, if you still like him and want to know how he really feels, just ask him directly. Why beat around the bush or torture yourself with the guessing game? Just get it over with. I promise it won't be as bad as you're anticipating. And I guarantee you that this guy isn't worth all of this nervousness and confusion.
Just remember that you deserve the absolute best. :)
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he could be making hints about your friend trying to make you jelous.
you could have a mutual friend fill him in .
or just amp up the flirting
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