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I'm just an average person. I love to help people out :) it makes me feel better about myself. I've been in a lot of situations so I can most likely relate to a lot of your problems. I know what it feels like to not have anyone to talk to about your problems, which is why i'm an advicenator. I'm ready to help people and be there for everyone who needs advice or just a companion to speak out to. I'm always here if you need me, don't hesitate to drop a question or even just a vent/rant note about a problem to my advice column inbox. I respond to all of them regardless of the topic. I'm upfront and abrupt about my answers and never sugarcoat. Take my advice or not, but i'm just doing my job :)Played volleyball for over 10 years, also a coach. I love to try new things. Currently I'm trying the new sport of tennis and learning about my passion of photography.
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Do u think that I should tell the person I love that I love them but we are really good friends and it might ruin it.
Yes :) I would tell them.
"To love is to risk not being loved in return. To hope is to risk pain. To try is to risk failure, but risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.”
You only live once :) Knock on wood for saying this.. but any day could be the day you or him passes away.. If I were you, I would take the chance right this second and tell him. Because who knows when you'll get another chance..
Good luck :) Speak from your heart!
I don't know if I like this guy or not, hes one of my close friends. we were playing around and I ended up on top of him and grinding. I'm haven't had sex and neither has he, but He wants too. I'm not ready yet but I don't want to stop what we are doing. I don't want a relationship, just the action. This sounds slutty, but he is okay with it that way too. Should we keep fooling around or not?
Are you serious??
If you want to get pregnant, possibly get STD's, STI's and AIDs.. then go ahead and do it.
First of all, you don't even know if you like him.. why the hell should you have sex with someone you don't even know if you like..
Second of all.. you said you weren't ready to have sex.. why are you even considering it then?? Third of all, "you dont want a relationship, just the action" thats a slut and whore move...
Honestly, I dont know how old you are but you are very immature. I'm sorry for sounding so mean and harsh right now, but i'm so sick of little girls like you who don't respect themselves and just want to fool around. Its selfish, disgusting, disrespectful, and most of all... slutty, trashy, and people will label you a whore. Do you really want that? plus what happens if you get pregnant? are you old enough to take care of a baby? would you like to have a baby with a guy you don't even know if you like???
Why don't you think about other people besides yourself for a second. Do you know whats happening outside of your little selfish world?? There are women out there who are FORCED to have sex. There's slavery and poverty. And here you are, little selfish brat, who just wants to "have some fun" and fool around with a guy you don't even know if you like... Why don't you go ask the women out there who are forced into having sex and ask them how it feels??
You disgust me.
If you want to be smart and mature about this, then come talk to me. But if you want to be labeled as a selfish little bitch whore.. then don't bother.
I waited until I was 18 to have sex and it was with the perfect guy at the perfect time. I do not regret it. But if you want to have sex with some random guy (when you're not even ready to have sex or much less a relationship..) then you're definitely going to regret it. Don't come crawling to me saying I'm right when you're older and realized it was a stupid mistake and possibly pregnant with a random guy and a bunch of STD's.
Think about what you're doing. Be smart. Respect yourself and others. Be mature.
There is a guy who accidentally texted me as a wrong number. I told him it was wrong, but he continued texting me on multiple occasions, knowing I was someone he didn't know. We had some nice conversations and flirted a bit. He lives about three hours away from me and is 16. He wants to come visit me, but he can't drive. I'm 17 and can drive, but not that far - my parents wouldn't let me. I wouldn't want to either because I don't really know him. One day he got very intense with the flirting and asked if he were to ask me out what I would say. I told him maybe, clearly stressing that we don't each other and would have to get to know each other in order for me to date him. He then asked that if we dated if we would make out a lot. This kind of creeped me out. He also asked if we were now dating, I told him no because we have never met. I haven't texted him since that time and have just ignored his texts, but I feel bad. I don't know what to do and my friends tell me just to continue ignoring him, but I don't want to hurt him. Help! He also asked for a picture, but i refused to send one saying my phone was broken. He wanted to friend me on Facebook but I never told him my last name and he never asked for it.
is this creepy?.. yeah.
how do you really know if its a 16 year old boy? not a 50 year old pervert man who wants to rape you?? always think about the consequences.
It doens't make sense to me because if he lives 3 hours away.. how can he get your number and just start texting you like that?? Its just so random and strange.
Let me just tell you 1 thing.. sometimes you just can't trust everyone. Trust is a valuable thing. It comes with loyalty and friendship. Don't give out your trust to random people, only give it to people who deserve it. This guy doesn't deserve your trust because you barely know him or met him. If you knew him and were close friends, then yeah you could trust him. but I just have a bad feeling about this kid.
Ignore him and find better guys out there who won't stalk you :)
21 female
I've known this guy whose 18 for a long time. I haven't always been close with him. Just recently we've started "talking"
But now it freaks me out. I'm the kind of girl that when someone likes you, you run away. But he treats me sooo good. I still live with my parents but they went out of town last weekend and so he came and stayed with me because I don't like being alone. Well he made the bed, he did the dishes and took out the trash even when I told him not to. He bought me dinner. He doesn't try to hook up with me, he knows that's not what I want. He respects me. He's everything a girl could ever want.
But why is it that I am losing feelings for him now? Is he too nice to me? He tells me I'm beautiful at least 20 times a day and for some reason that freaks me out. He tells me all the time he likes me. So why am I suddenly feeling annoyed by him? And now I seem to start thinking he's not even cute anymore. What's wrong with me!!! I couldn't ask for a better guy, so why am I so afraid?
I don't know what to do. I know if I told him I wasn't interested and let him go, I'd miss him to death and probably wouldn't come across another guy who treats me like he does. I'd be letting go of a great thing. But if I continue to be with him, I don't want to hurt him if things don't work out and my feelings for him go away.
Any advice? :\
I really think you should talk to him about this.
Tell him your problem and that you feel scared.
To be honest, I think its because you're not used to being with someone so close. Maybe he is being a little too clingy, so when you talk to him, ask him if he can tone it down a notch and give you some space.
If I were you, I wouldn't stay with him, but I wouldn't just let go of him either. Try being in the middle of those 2. Tell him you want a little space, but you still want to be in contact. Maybe you are seeing him too much, and maybe a little space will make you realize how you truly feel about him. For example, you either miss him or you dont.
Good luck and inbox me if you have any more questions!
I have $200 worth of money on gift cards to stores I don't even shop at. If I went to that store, bought an item with the gift card & later returned it, would I be getting cash back or would they put it back on the card ?
or you could go on craigslist and barter with someone. ask them to exchange the giftcard for the same amount of money in cash. maybe someone else would like the gift cards.
Okay so out of nowhere a couple of weeks ago my feet like started tingling & stuff & it's pretty annoying! I was reading online that your feet can start to tingle if you hurt your back or nerves in your back or something & my lower back has been hurting bec I thinknibhurt it from how I've been cracking it..I need to crack my back though or else it will start hurting really bad...but yeah I'm just kind of confused!! What so you do think is going on?
it could be your back.. sometimes when a nerve is blocked, it affects some other part of your body. So try cracking your back to release some tension in the nerves
Or it could be that your legs aren't getting enough blood circulation. your feet just might be "asleep" as some people say. Stand up and walk around and shake your feet around to get the blood flowing back into them.
if you have afree week and you can do what ever you want, what would you do?
go to the pool, tan outside, get smoothies, bike outside, go to the mall, movies, party until early am, sleep in, work out, take pictures and make a scrapbook, make some art stuff like jewlery or paint, hang out with friends, sing, dance, make some new friends, bake, and probably a bunch of other stuff I can't think of right now
Why do my breast hurt and ver tender.
you're probably going through puberty. Or you're getting your period soon.
okay ive been with this guy for 3 years and i like him alot ! yet he flirts like crazy and he says hes not doing anything wrong and for me to worryin cause hes the only girl i like ive told him to stop flirting yet he doesnt he will for a little bit but thats it.. i dont know what to do .. do i go back out with him or not ? i miss him like crazy too
you have to think about if he's worth it or not.
can you deal with him flirting? if you can't, then there's no reason why you should stay in this relationship. If its not making you happy, then what's the point?
You can find better guys out there who WON'T want to flirt with other girls. The only flirting he will do is with YOU. He might respect you more and treat you better. There's most likely better guys out there, but you'll never know unless you try.
But if you feel like him flirting is a minor issue and that you can deal with it and he's worth it, then continue the relationship.
Its up to you and if you believe he's worth it or not.
what is the reason that boyfriend wants to me to move in together with him? we've only been dating for a year now. could anybody tell me that moving together means, what? i reckon it is indeed a big step. thanks.
it probably means he wants to get more serious with you and wants to take your relationship to the next level.
Before you make a decision, think about if its really what you want. Only move in if you are fully committed to the relationship. If its what both of you want, then go for it and it could be fun.
i know that once i was happy and loved the air going into my lungs now.. i hate the air i wanna die.. i cut myself .. i wanna know why .. why mee ... me and my mom fight so much but thats not a reson for me to do this to myself ... i wanna stop and get hep yet i cant seem to open my mouth .. whyyy.. i wanna i really do.. but im to weak i cant tell no one.. i feel like cryin just thinking about it.. i cant stay strong anymore.. i wanna die i wanna go to sleep and not wake up ...
umm well what you're saying is contradiction..
you're saying you want help, but then you want to die?? that makes no sense.
Whatever you're dealing with.. you gotta stop thinking about those bad things and start thinking about the things you love. You must love yourself for other to love you. Find someone you really trust and talk to them about your problems. Unfortunately, there's no "easy way out".. just take the leap and tell them your problems. It's so much easier when you tell someone about your problems because they can really help you. Instead of feeling closed up and "secretive".. you'll feel so much more open because you know that the secrets are out and that someone can help you.
You don't have to do this alone.. there are people out there who care and who want to help.. like me. I'm always on advicenators so if you need to talk about anything, just inbox me. All of the questions are anonymous so you don't have to worry about someone recognizing who you are. You don't even have to ask any questions either.. if you just want to vent to me, that's okay too.
But I will say something, I'm proud of you. I'm proud that you took the first step and realized something needs to change. I'm proud that you are reaching out and WANTING to get help. The only thing you need to work on right now is stop thinking about all the negativity because it doesn't help you.
Oh and 1 more thing.. its really overwhelming if you look at all of your problems as a whole. So try taking baby steps. Tackle 1 problem at a time because that way it won't be so stressful and it'll be easier for you.
I'm not sure what problems you're dealing with, but like I said earlier, i'm always here if you need to talk.
When my boyfriend and I cuddle, what does it mean when he playfully nibbles my back, neck, and ears?
female 18
it just means he loves you and loves your body.
Touching someone is the best sensation. Kissing someone is an even better sensation. So maybe he's doing it because he knows you like it and it feels good for him too. Its a sign of attraction.
Maybe he does want to do more though. Try kissing him a little and if he starts getting into it, then you'll know for sure that he wants to go further than just cuddling.
My friend and I like eachother a little bit. We started texting two days ago. He asked for my number and I gave it to him. We exchanged numbers. And everyday after that we texted eachother. He has this girlfriend. While dating her, he has been flirting with me. He told me if things dont work out with his girlfriend he will date me. He also said i was cool and awesome. My bestfriend says he is lying about his girlfriend. We called him up on 3-way. I found out he likes to lie about topics. First he said it has been a month they were together, then later on he said it has been a year.I dont know whether to believe he likes me. Or to beleive him and whatever he says.Or if his girlfriend is real. When i get back to school, i would have to deal with all of this. I dont know what to do next?
oh girl just leave him alone.. he is not worth all of this. If you have to "investigate" to see if he's telling the truth, then he is definitely not worth it.
let me ask you this.. you said he has been flirting with you while he has a girlfriend. Well what makes you think he wouldn't do that to you too?? What if you 2 were dating and how do you know he wouldn't start flirting with another girl behind your back? He's done it once, who knows how many times he will do it again..
Plus he's lying about all this stuff and sending mixed signals to you.. I don't see how anybody could trust him. I wouldn't trust him if I were you.
He sounds like a guy who just likes playing around with girls. He's leading you on and you can't even see that.. Stop talking to him before you get seriously hurt. I've had plenty guy experience and I know guys like these.... they don't care about your feelings. He doesn't care about his girlfriends feelings because he's flirting with you behind her back!! IF you 2 dated, he wouldn't care about your feelings either because he would probably just flirt with more girls.
Ignore him and find guys who are worth your time :)
Inbox me if you have more questions!
I need a new bag/purse but I can't find anything I really like...
i need something kind of big, but not obnoxious. i don't like leather, i prefer like canvas and i like really simple things...like no big buckles or fringe or anything...
anyone know where i can find something good?
ive looked at tj maxx and target...but i can't find anything I really like...
forever 21 has really awesome bags :) try clothing stores because they usually have a lot of cool bags in the accessories department.
If you are looking for something REALLY good.. then try Fossil bags. I just bought a leather bag there and its amazing. They have bags that aren't leather too. Some are suede which is amazing quality. But let me warn you, they are expensive. You get what you pay for. Yeah its expensive but they are amazing quality. i'd rather splurge for a great bag, than pay close to nothing for a crappy bag. Oh and mine has lasted for a long time too :)
Claires has some good ones too but they aren't that great.
what should i do if i like my friend who is dating someone else? He tells me he likes me and i like him. The only thing thats stopping us from dating is his girlfriend.
don't get involved.
trust me, its not worth your time. I've been through drama like this and it never turns out well. All it does is cause drama and stress. What happens if he leave his girlfriend for you? wouldn't you feel guilty for breaking them up?? What if this girlfriend starts treating you horribly and tries to get him back? What if rumors start spreading? Always think about the consequences.
In my personal opinion, its easier to just stay out of it and wait until he's single and you're single. Its less drama and you'll be so much happier without the stress. And who knows, maybe you'll find a better guy than him. If he truly does like you.. he would dump his girlfriend for you. But since he's not making any moves.. i don't think he's worth it.
And plus, what if the same thing happens to you. What if you and him were dating, but he finds another girl he likes and then says "well i like her but can't date her because i'm in a relationship with my girlfriend (which is you)." wouldn't you feel horrible if that happened to you?? My point is- if he's doing that to his girlfriend right now.. there's no doubt he wouldn't do it to you too.
Good luck and inbox me if you have more questions!
where can i find jobs for 13 year olds?
there probably aren't going to be professional places to get a job for a 13 year old.. meaning restaurants, retail, etc.
try doing smaller things like baby sitting, garage sale, car washes, lemonade stands, pet sitting/walking, raking leaves, shoveling snow. Or ask around and see if anybody needs any help with stuff like chores. I knew this old guy who was moving but he wasn't healthy enough to move things into boxes, so my friend asked if she could help him pack and he paid her for it.
Just know, since you're so young you probably won't get a lot of money by doing these things. it takes lots of time to get a decent amount of money if you're going to work at 13. Dont expect to be rich within a few weeks
To put it simply, I think I have a little bit of a broken heart. I don't want to talk about everything that happened, and I'm not really angry, I don't feel like it would be right to be angry. I'm just kind of disappointed in this person and I wish it could have been so much more. I just need advice of any sort. Thank you guys
it is kind of hard for me to help you considering I'm not sure what exactly happened...
but just hang in there. Everything will be okay. Instead of thinking about the negative things, try thinking about things you love. Go out and do new stuff.
I had a broken heart too. I cried for 2 weeks and then realized "I dont have to feel this way... i can be happy if i want to" so then I started something new which was photography for me. I bought a new camera and drove to random places and took lots of pictures. then went home, edited them and made a scrapbook. It was fun and it took my mind off of everything bad :)
And also realize that there are people out there who love you and its not the end of the world. Life goes on and soon you'll realize that nobody is worth feeling this way. Find the people who make you happy and who want you to succeed. Try to better yourself every day. Most importantly, keep your head high and walk with respect for yourself. Be proud of who you are and don't let anybody drag you down because you are so much more than that.
Good luck and inbox me if you have any more questions.
One of my guy friends I like and he likes me and we have wanted to hangout for a while and his and my friend texted me asking if I wanted to go to the movies with them. I couldn't go when they were cause I was busy but I really wanted too. I'm a little nerveous to ask my mom, cause shes a little protective, I guess? How do I ask her without getting mad? And when we hangout I'll probably wanna kiss him. Is that okay? If I make the first move, not that I would, but if I did, how would I? Please help me with this. I am a 13 year old girl. Call me dani. :)
hey dani
You shouldn't be scared to ask your mom for anything. But i do know how you feel. I was the same way. The first time a guy asked me out, I was soo nervous to tell my parents. But you just have to get through with it once, and then after that it gets easier :)
Just ask your mom if you can go to the movies with some of your friends. If she starts questioning you like "who are you going with", then name off their names. If she gets curious because there are guys, just say they are just friends and you want to hang out with them. If she still is uncomfortable with the situation, ask her if it would be better if you invited a girl friend of yours.
And yes haha it is okay if you make the first move. It will surprise him and make you look confident and strong :) which guys love! If you go to the movies with him, sit next to him and start having a conversation with him. Laugh a little and touch his arm. Body position is an important thing to remember. Instead of folding your arms across your chest (which is a sign or insecurity) let your arms rest on the armrest and close to his body. That shows that you want to be closer to him.
One trick that always works is taking his hand and put your hand against his, pretend like you're looking at whose hand is bigger. Then just collapse your fingers around his and hold his hand :)
The best way to make a move is turn towards him and talk to him. Pretend like you have a secret to tell him and lean in and whisper something in his ear :) Then when you pull away from his ear, slowly lean in and plant one on him! :) Its up to you if you want to start slow and just kiss him on the cheek, or if you want to be brave, kiss him on the lips.
If its your guys' first kiss, i would suggest just a little peck. And then afterwards, smile so he knows you liked it. Then after that, just see where the situation goes. If he likes it too, he might kiss you some more. and its okay if you guys take a break from kissing and then kiss some more later. Its not a bad thing. It just probably means he doesn't want to move too fast.
Good luck and inbox me if you have more questions! I would love to hear how everything goes :)
My parents keep advicing me.i feel soo fustrated nd fight with them,is it that watever i do is wrong. r wat i dunno.?
the only way to really get through it.. is to talk to them about it.
Nothing will get solved without communication. Sit them down and tell them how you feel. Just don't let it get messy and start yelling. You have to be calm and control the situation.
I'm not sure what you guys are fighting about, but whatever it is, you guys need to communicate about how you both feel and then maybe compromise and try to fix it.
Good luck and inbox me if you have any more questions!
Ok so today I had a girls day with my sister in law. We're both 18 so she lives with her parents. Well we were doing our nails and I was the one putting stuff on the table and I tried to be sure that I didnt mess up the table. Well, it turns out something actually got on the table and it won't come off. Her mom and step dad were furious thinking it was her. She didnt tell them it was me, but they want her to pay for a whole new table. I want to confess but I don't want my new mother and father in law hating me already but I also feel like it's my responsibility to pay for a new table especially since isn't wasn't her fault! Do I just give her the money that I would owe or full out just tell her parents?
If I were you, i'd be honest with them and tell them you did it.
Think about it this way.. what's worse? Them finding out you messed up the table? or them finding out you lied to them?
If I were the parents, I would think lying to them is MUCH worse than messing up a silly table. If they find out you lied or that you kept it a secret from them, they are going to wonder "hmm she might keep more secrets from us in the future" and then there goes your trust out the window.
You want them to trust you, so tell them the truth. You also want your new sister in law to appreciate you. I love the cliche saying that goes "i scratch your back, you scratch mine". If you take the heat for this problem.. she will be so thankful and in the future she might do something nice for you. If the situation were reversed, like she messed up the table but the parents thought it was you, how would you feel?? wouldn't you want her to confess the truth?
Plus, you're 18 which is legally an adult. Adults need to be mature enough to step in and tell the truth, not hide from it. You want them to respect and trust you? Then tell them the truth.