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my boyfriend tells me im a REALLY good singer, and he says that i should go out to be big, because now i just sing small gigs in coffee houses and stuff, but im afraid too. how do i overcome the fear? (link)
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You just gotta practice all you can and wing it. I'm like that with my poetry. I mean I know it's not the same as singing but it's still really hard to express your words to other people..especially a large crowd.
But I mean, one time I debated on going up and reading one of my poems at an open-mic night. Then I just did it. I got through with it finally (shaking and stuff but it wasnt too bad)..now I opened the door for if I want to do it again. Because now I KNOW I can do it. It kind of gave me a huge relasing feeling..
So you should really just go for it..and if you find out it's not your thing, then you can move on to other things you love, but I'm sure you'll do awesome.
Good Luck..
`jeSsie
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Okay there is this REALLY nice guy and I like him a lot.. and he REALLY likes me.. but then there is my ex bf who also likes me.. This new guy chris I havnt gone out with yet.. and I went out with my ex steven 6 times already and it didn't work out.. I am thinking Chris but a lot of my friends r picking Steven.. Please help me..
Chris or Steven?? (link)
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Don't go with what your friends think. You know what's best for you. I mean obviously it's not working out between you and steven if you've gone out 6 times and broke up all those times. So yeah..I'd really give Chris a chance..who knows if it will work out? You gotta see for yourself, and you may regret it if you dont give him a chance, end up going out with steven again and breaking up..and then you lost your chance with Chris.
I know your friends are trying to help you..but just..no. Don't listen to them unless you want to go out with steven yourself.
I'd give Chris a chance, up to you though.
`jeSsie
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i suffer from Acid reflux and irritable bowel and im only 13..i take prilosec for my reflux and fiber for my irritable bowel..my question is if i eat something like pizza which i havent had pizza in almost a year..will it hurt? cause i get indigestion soo freekin bad and feels like a heartattack...i have lost about 30lbs because i hardly eat anything..and i feel kind of weak..i eat alot of meat and stuff but no greasy, spicy, or fried stuff...another question is..is it possible that i could go annerexic if i hardly eat anything? (link)
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Well yeah I mean you gotta eat three normal meals everyday...
You can't just not eat. I mean you take medicine right? And isnt that supposed to work? You'll have to talk to one of your parents about it or see if they can talk to your doctor for you.
You need to eat though, so not eating is out of the question..because you could get very sick if you dont.
Good luck --
`jeSsie
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my boyfriend is having surgery next week on his knee. he says its no big deal and that hes glad hes having it. im really sad but happy for him at the same time... what if something goes wrong? im scared though is this normal i just dont want anything to happen to him and i hope it doesnt he wont be at school for a week because he will be on cruthes and i dont kno if i will be able to talk to him on the phone much. how do i deal with this. thanks for any advice! (link)
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Awww it's okay. He'll be fine. My sister has gotten knee surgery before. I mean, I know you may wanna talk to him a lot but he'll be fine, don't be worried. Plus, you'll just feel so much better if you take a break from him and then finally get to talk to him again after a week..or so. He'll be a little woosie if he's on medication (trust me I have experience from my sister) haha.. so yeah I think it'd be best if you didn't stay on the phone with him too much because he would need his rest. But you should call him to see how he is, and if there's anything you can do..
Just think -- at least he's not getting open-heart surgery or anything.
GL*
`jeSsie
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hey, me and my boyfriend, were both 18, want to get married, and his mom has absolutely no problem with it, because she already considers me her daughter, but my dad is totally against it. what should i do (link)
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I mean, I know you feel guilty about it all, but if you're in love you should get married. I mean it's not like you're a minor. You're an adult..you should be able to get married. I understand where your dads coming from because 18 is a pretty young age to get married compared to how old people get married these days, and I understand he may want you to go to college and such..
But if you feel it's best..you should go through with it. But also keep your dads point of view in the back of your mind, in case you reconsider.
Even if you get engaged and married after college, that could work too. But ultimately it's up to you now. You're an adult.. if you're in love, why wait?
*hug*
good luckkkkk =)
`jeSsie
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whenever i do crunches on the floor, i always get bad headachs. does anyone know whyy? well anyways, so since i get headaches while doing then on the floor, i do the crunches on my bed. do you think theres a difference between doing crunches on the floor and the bed? its my only way of doing crunches because my head hruts whenever i do crunches on the floor pleasehelp! (link)
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I do crunches on the floor..and in gym we were taught how to do them correctly.
Maybe you're not using your stomach to pull you up..and you're moving your neck instead. The purpose of crunches is to strengthen your stomach/abs and a lot of people who do crunches after a while get exhausted and continue doing smaller crunches as they get more tired..and as they get tired they tend to lift their neck instead of their stomach. Maybe that's what you're doing but not realizing..because they shouldn't give you headaches all the time..
good luck with that.
`jeSsie
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I like this guy and he likes me.. Well we have ALOT in common and I admit im pretty popular.. so anyway, He's not the hottest/most popular person ever. I like him and I swear im not conceited!! But its like I feel like if I go out with him then I will ruin my rep.. I dont really care but my friends are like "OMG HES SO HOT!! I LIKE HIM NOW." Im not like that.. I go for personality.. but what do I do?? Do I go out with him of save my reputation? (link)
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Hmm..popular. What is popular? Following the trends of clothes, finding those cute jeans that fit you perfectly, following every singleee freaking thing everyone around you does? No seriously..I'm really asking. What is popularity?
So..*laughs from disbelief* you're seriously telling me you're willing to turn down this guy (a human being with feelings I might add)..all because of what your reputation will become if you end up going out with him?
Honestly, if you're TRULY popular..like TRULYYYYY popular, everyone around you wont care who you date. However, if the people around you WILL look down on you all because of who you date, then are you really society's version of popular?
You can be popular -- with the baggiest clothes, the messiest hair, and the craziest personaility...or you can be fake and follow the trends which everyone only CALLS "popular", and you can turn down this guy who cares for you because of this..or you can make your own damn decision and be independent.
Popularity isnt what you think it is..it's much more then what people think of you. Popularity is the ability to be who you want to be, and STILL have people who like you and admire you. Popularity isn't the feeling of walking on eggshells if you make ONE WRONG MOVE in your personal life..there's a big difference.
wOot..glad I'm not "popular" (IN QUOTATIONS *cough*) because it's really great to know that everyones not watching every move I make in my personal life...and its really great that people like me for me..*sighs happily* big relief really..I love being a "loser".. YAY that can fit in quotations perfectly too. *smiles then rolls eyes*
I mean IF you like him..and if you REALLY want to go out with him -- you go out with him. Why care about what other people think? It's not like it has anything to do with them..but if you're still questioning your reputation and are afraid to go out with him for fear that it might be ruined, then YOU TELL HIM WHY you're afraid to go out with him..
I mean you'd actually tell him to his face that you wont go out with him because you're afraid your reputation will be ruined? I mean..will you seriously say that to him?..and if you dont tell him the truth..then you must be afraid..and you must know you're wrong...because I know you wont tell him because you'll finally realize how RIDICULOUS this whole controversy is because you'll hear the words coming out of your mouth..you'll hear them breaking his heart..and for what? All because you wanted to make people around you happy?
Go ahead .. be my guest.
`jeSsie
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does anybody understand anything about 1st 2nd and 3rd quartiles? I have no idea what im doing. (link)
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pshhh I hate math..I suck at math.
Does quartiles even have anything to do with math??
`jeSsie
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I Have the biggest crush on my teacher. I stare at him and sometimes he stares back. Sometimes he just stares at me the whole period. He gives me good grades when sometimes I dont earn them. But I seriously think about him alot. What do I do? How do I know if he likes me back? (link)
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If he "likes you" back..that's illegal and statutory rape (assuming you're a minor)...
Giving you good grades when you think you dont derserve them doesnt mean anything, becasue taht happens with me and my teachers..although some just give me the failing grade and be done with it.
I'm not saying ya cant like him..I mean some girls have crushes on "dreamy teachers" that come along every once in a while...but please..dont dwell on these feeling because I'm sure they'll be gone soon, and I'd really hate to burst your bubble but.. *pop*...not gonna happen.
If it does happen it's wrong..and illegal..and sorry but just dont let anything happen between you too. Your teacher stares back because he's gotta keep an eye on his class...he doesn't like you like that..and if he claims he "likes you" ever (in an intimate way of course)..then tell someone because that's just wrong.
GL
`jeSsie
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I rate high....
Well me and this guy are friends I like him and stuff well he wants to go to the movies this weekend but my mom said I cant date until im 17. I told her its just as friends but she still says no. Just because she iddnt start dating until she was 17 doesnt mean she had to do that to me. What should I do? I really realllly wanna go with him. (link)
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Well there's nothing you can do unless you can get a group of a whole bunch of different friends including him to all go to a movie..and even though you guys wouldn't be alone..you still can consider it a date. There's not much I can say in this situation but I really hope I helped.
Good Luck =)
`jeSsie
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theres this kid i want to hook up with.. hes my friends cousin.. we havnt met yet but we probably will soon.. the thing is hes skater/punk and im like prep... i dont know how we will be able to go out together with eachothers friends if were so different.. my guy friends would probably make fun of him.. and i dont want that.. i just hope he likes me for me.. (link)
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If you like him, and if he likes you..what everyone around you thinks shouldn't matter. If you like eachother..you should be together..despite what other people think. Kay..just wanted to clear that part up.
AS for your worries about him maybe not liking you..I'm sure he'll give you a chance. If he doesn't then he's not worth it. If he doesn't like you for you it has nothing to do with the fact that he's skater/punk...it just means that he's a flat out asshole in general. If he doesn't give you a chance as friend at LEAST, then just forget about him. He may not want to date you but that doesnt mean hes a bad person, because for all you know he could still want to become friends with you ya know?..but yeah..sorry for the confusion.
To wrap it all up.. I'm sure he'll like you for you. It shouldn't matter what style you are..I mean if he sees you're a good person he may give you a chance. If he doesnt give you a chance at all as a person, then just drop him.
Good luck
`jeSsie
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alright. for about two years i have been cutting myself. and at first it was very innocent (little scratches with saftey pins... butter knifes, things like that) then one day i ginaed access to a really sharp razor blade and cut extremely deep. and for a year and a half thats how i have been doing it, because it is so addictive. more than once a day, and so i can go to sleep at night. most of my friends found out, one way or another and eventually my best friend got me to tell the guidance counselor. my dad now knows, and so does my psychiatrist (whom i have been seeing since I was 8 and my mom died). but i know he doesnt want me doing it, and niether do my friends. so latelyt i havent. but things got worse. im always pissed off at everyone, and lash out. also, i have been thinking about suicide more and more. i always considered it before but never like this. but when i talk to my friends, all the do is beg and pleed with me to stop. I CANT. when i was on the bus, i started tasting blood in my mouth, and noticed I had been bitting a chunk of my lip off as a pain reliever involuntarily. last night, I cut again and felt SOOO much better. but im so afraid someone will find out and be angry. im on medicine, and everything, it just sux. snapping rubberbands, and all that doesnt help. I know this is long, but im so upset with myself, I just dont know.
I rate 5s.
Manda. (link)
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That's how I was..and it only gets worse the longer you're addicted (as you're pretty much saying). I think about suicide too a lot, or I went through this point where I was actually going to go through with it, and I was bawling my eyes out and trying to hint to my mom and my sisters that I was actually gonna go through with it until they finally got the drift..and found ways to get my mind on the right track (which worked for a little but it was hard..and it comes back every so often)--
The feelings still havent gone away for me all the way, but you're not alone and you can get through this. You don't need to cut to get to sleep. You don't need it to feel better. (I should be telling this to myself too).. But Manda, you really really don't need it. Stop for your dad..I'm sure you're the most important thing in the world to him right now. Please try stopping for him..
When you want to cut...take all the sharp things and throw them in the trash...I mean I know you're always going to be around objects that can harm you, but the point is whatever tempts you, stay away from them. I remember one time I wanted to cut so bad..I had the scissors in my hand, pressed against my skin..then I saw a picture of someone who died that I knew..and I spazzed and like chucked my scissors across the room. I felt so guilty and ashamed with myself.
I wanted to go back the scissors more then anything at that point, because I was afraid of myself, and I didn't know how to stop it...so I just layed in my bed and covered myself in a bunch of blankets until the feelings passed...which was when I got to sleep. It was hard but it doesnt have to be all the time. Look at a picture of someone you love, and care for..maybe your mom. Seeing a picture of your mom could give you second thoughts about cutting. It could prevent you from wanting to do it to feel better. It will remind you that what you're doing isn't rational..and that the feelings will pass if you just wait it out. It will take patience...I know.
Good Luck..
I really hope I helped
`jeSsie
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okay i don't understnad when people say or its on an icon or something what dose it mean when they say its ther Anti drug? (link)
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An anti-drug is something that keeps you from want to doing drugs, or something that keeps you away from the "wrong crowd".
It's like say someone asked you if you wanted a cigarette..and you were like "no lets just play some basketball instead of smoking." That would mean that basketball is kinda like your anti-drug..get it?
Hope I helped =)
`jeSsie
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hurry i need advice quick wut does it mean when a girl is going to "play" a guy??? (link)
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It means she's going to cheat on him.. or mess with him in some way..
`jeSsie
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I have this problem because I have hair on my upper lip just a little bit kind of and what should I do about it?? I tried bleaching it should I try waxing it but I am afraid it would hert please help me (age 13 1/2) thanks! (link)
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Okay first of all that guys an ass..just forget about him.
*changes subject*
AND..as for your upper lip hair, you could try using those precision hair remover things. They remove your hair just like a razor does..only it will not cut you, hurt you, or make your hair grow darker. They're pretty neat things because you can carry it around with you and actually use it on your arms if you feel uncomfortable with them.
If the precision thing doesnt work (which I dont see why it wouldnt) then you should get it waxed..cuz theres really no other good solution.
But really..try the hair precision remover thingy..
Then go up to the boy in school and be like "BOO YA SUCKAAAAAAA." and hold up your arms and walk away...slowlyyy. lol
Hope I helped =)
`jeSsie
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I want to get a cat 2 weeks from now. I know that I will be a responsible owner and that I'm old enough to make my own decisions (20). So even if I know that my mom wouldn't allow me to get a cat (because for her it is a "waste of time and money"), Iam getting one! by adoption..
How can I make her less mad when I surprise her with my adopted cat? (link)
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There's no way too really make her less mad if I don't know your mom well enough but try making the cat look very cuddly around your mom. Like whenever you walk into a room when your mom first finds out about the cat, hold your car and cuddle him and if he purrs maybe your mom will become attached. (Trust me it's happened before with my mom)
Also, clean up any messes your cat makes because cats can be very wanderous..and you'd wanna clear those messes up before your mom find them and re-thinks keeping the cat in the first place.
I don't really know how else to help in this situation when I don't know your mother or the reasons as to why she doesn't want a cat..
But I hope I helped =)
`jeSsie
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What do you do when everyone tells you you're something you're not, just to make you feel better? I am tired of it. Everyone says I'm not fat when I know I am, and they say boys are chsasing after me, when they are running. It just makes me feel worse and they won't stop. I don't care about boyfriends. Most of them are jerks anyways. I have friends that are boys, but no one has ever shown affection toward me, for real. I don't care but I want my friends to leave me alone about it. What do I do?
-TearsThatFall (link)
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There's nothing you can do. Just take the compliments and smile. If they're really your friends they wouldn't lie to you and TRY hurting you by saying you're something you're not. I'm sure they mean what they say.
I'm just like you in that sense though. I cannot take a compliment to save my life. I always feel weird just going "Thanks." or "Wow. You really think that?" So I have to find someway to ALWAYS turn it around and show all my negative faults.
I mean, I don't know what my problem is but I figure -- good or bad I'm just gonna let people say what they want to say. If they say it to my face I'll just deal with it then and say thank you (even though its hard for me to spit those two simple words out when I dont think the same about myself)..or if it's something bad I just ignore it..or something.
Just take in what they say. If its good, take it in..and if its bad, leave it out. I'm sure the complimemts you're given are sincere though. You should be grateful. =)
GL
`jeSsie
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My boyfriend and I have been going out around 3 1/2 months. I really love him so much. I want to kiss but the only time we ever see each other is at school. The rare times when we are actually alone we don't take advantage of it. we can't seem to talk romantic or get in the mood. Sometimes I really want to kiss him but it would be so awkward since we weren't even being romantic. He wouldn't expect it so he'd probably pull away or sumthing. I'm too scared to talk to him about it. Please help me! (link)
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Just kiss him. Trust me, he's probably scared. You two are both eachother's significant other, which means you both have the right to want to kiss eachother, and you both have the choice to take the initiative to talk to each other about it. You don't have to kiss publically or anything, but start by kissing him on the cheek, or playing with his hands. You can grab his hand in hold it when you're walking close to him or you can say you see something in his hair and reach up to touch it, and then look at his lips and move closer or something..and then go from there.
3 1/2 months is kind of a long time for a relationship without a kiss. I'm not syaing to jump him and make out with him, but I'm sure he'd love it if you made the first move and kissed him sweetly on the lips or something. =)
That way it would also open the doors and make him feel more comfortable with you.
Good luck..
just do it ;)
`jeSsie
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here it goes- i am 14 years old, and i still havent gotten my period.. is that a bad thing? or is it normal? please help! (link)
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Don't worry..it's not a bad thing at all. Some girls don't even have it until they're like 17 or something. It seems hard to believe but it's possible. I once heard of this woman who didn't have it until she was 30! How crazy is that? Incredibly rare and unheard of..but crazy. And she's perfectly healthy.
Don't be worried about it though. You should be having it soon but you're body is just developing a little slower then some other girls, but that's not a bad thing and you don't have to be worried.
GL
`jeSsie
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i hear constantly about 14 year olds having sex... this is scary. what has the world come to? one day people will be having sex at 8 and then people will finally realise there is a problem. i dont see why 14 year olds have sex when they are so young... at 14 i was like, gross, why have sex? i'm 17 now and i am a virgin... i am proud of that and i like it coz guys respect me and i know a guy isn't going out with me for sex. what i want to know is why do girls lose that respect at such a young age? and how young were people when they lost their virginity???
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Good for you..that you're waiting. I'm serious..you have some common sense in that brain of yours girl..
To answer your question..I CANT answer your question. The best thing I can say is "Choice." It's their decision if they want to have sex. It's NOT they're decision if they're in love though. I mean you can't just fall in and out of love on your own ya know? You're waiting..that's very impressive, and now you've got a good reputation to follow that.
So yeah..it's all about choice. Just like you chose to wait, other girls chose that they didn't want to wait until it could be something special..
good job
`jeSsie
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