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how can I deal with my mom that I kind of hate
I want to get a cat 2 weeks from now. I know that I will be a responsible owner and that I'm old enough to make my own decisions (20). So even if I know that my mom wouldn't allow me to get a cat (because for her it is a "waste of time and money"), Iam getting one! by adoption..
How can I make her less mad when I surprise her with my adopted cat?
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Just because your old enough to make your own decisions, doesn't mean your old enough to take care of an animal. Especially since your 20, still live with your mother, and are selfishly going against her rules and bringing a cat into HER house.
Any animal takes a lot of care. For instance, are you going to college? Are you going to be moving around in the near future? Are you going to have time to care for an animal? Are you going to have the money to care for an animal? Are you going to just throw the cat away once it isn't cute anymore, or once it becomes too much to handle?
If your going to college, chances are, your life is going to change dramatically from the time you first enter, to the time that you get out. You will most likely move around, change jobs, etc.
Most college students don't have the time, energy, money, or knowledge to take care of an animal. Many animals get adopted, only to be brought back in a few months to a year. At the human society and animal shelters in my area, you are not even allowed to be considered for adoptions unless you are 21 years old or over, because of this very reason.
Your additude of this frightens me. I hate it when people simply go out and say "My mom won't let me, but I'm getting one!!!"
I'm sorry, but it shows immaturity. Your not thinking about the whole picture.
Trust me, I'm a Veterinary Technology major, I've volunteered at the humane society, and I've helped with spaying and neutering unwanted stray cats many times.
I've seen the effects of people making rash decisions about getting a cute little cuddly animal before thinking about the consiquences.
Oh, and if you think I'm being harsh about this, that's too bad. I could go on and on about how you can really tell whether or not your responsible enough for an animal. I am only harsh because I hate to see animals adopted, or "rescued" by ill-prepared people who end up doing more harm than good.
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You could also tell her that you're moving out.
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show her you can be responsible!
shouldnt u have moved out by now? j/k
show her, let her know you can do it!
hope i helped!
`~*Dani*~`
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you're 20, you're old enough to make your own decisions. sit her down and explain that to her. if she doesn't like it, then she'll get over it. fpr your mom to start respecting you as an adult, then i suggest sitting down and talking, adult to adult
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haha you are already dead i think that she will be soo pissed she will end up shooting the cat i dont like cats any ways try a puppy
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There's no way too really make her less mad if I don't know your mom well enough but try making the cat look very cuddly around your mom. Like whenever you walk into a room when your mom first finds out about the cat, hold your car and cuddle him and if he purrs maybe your mom will become attached. (Trust me it's happened before with my mom)
Also, clean up any messes your cat makes because cats can be very wanderous..and you'd wanna clear those messes up before your mom find them and re-thinks keeping the cat in the first place.
I don't really know how else to help in this situation when I don't know your mother or the reasons as to why she doesn't want a cat..
But I hope I helped =)
`jeSsie
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Well just tell her the cat will keep you comforted and entertained and it is my compainion. also tell her that u will b totally responsible of it. (if u can handle it)
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well, if you still live with her, it is her house, tell her that you are going to get one but start looking for a place of your own so she'll be happy about one thing at least!
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