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What do you do when everyone tells you you're something you're not, just to make you feel better? I am tired of it. Everyone says I'm not fat when I know I am, and they say boys are chsasing after me, when they are running. It just makes me feel worse and they won't stop. I don't care about boyfriends. Most of them are jerks anyways. I have friends that are boys, but no one has ever shown affection toward me, for real. I don't care but I want my friends to leave me alone about it. What do I do?
-TearsThatFall
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There's nothing you can do. Just take the compliments and smile. If they're really your friends they wouldn't lie to you and TRY hurting you by saying you're something you're not. I'm sure they mean what they say.
I'm just like you in that sense though. I cannot take a compliment to save my life. I always feel weird just going "Thanks." or "Wow. You really think that?" So I have to find someway to ALWAYS turn it around and show all my negative faults.
I mean, I don't know what my problem is but I figure -- good or bad I'm just gonna let people say what they want to say. If they say it to my face I'll just deal with it then and say thank you (even though its hard for me to spit those two simple words out when I dont think the same about myself)..or if it's something bad I just ignore it..or something.
Just take in what they say. If its good, take it in..and if its bad, leave it out. I'm sure the complimemts you're given are sincere though. You should be grateful. =)
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If you want everyone to leave you alone, you need to simply talk to them and tell them that it's sweet and kind of them to say things about you but you don't actually believe it. It's alright to feel this way but one day, you will start to notice that when someone compliments you or says something nice, that it's true. You just need to talk to everyone and tell them to stop saying nice things about you and such and that you don't think it's true.
-Karen
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Tell your friends that you appreciate them trying to cheer you up, but that it's ok. You don't feel that you need it. Believe me, guys can be awful jerks at times, but there are really sweet, kind, Christian guys out there that will love you. I have a few Christian guy-friends, and they're awesome. Don't fret because your guy friends don't show affection towards you that way, your time will come. God is providing someone for you, and that guy will come along at the right moment. Watch your words, be kind when you talk to your friends. You might need to explain yourself, that you don't care about having a boyfriend right now, and it bugs you when they keep on and keep on at you. I understand that. I have friends that are "matchmakers", but I have explained that I'm letting God write my love story, I don't need that. Tell your friends that too, they'll get the idea, and appreciate that you told them. Don't listen to them when they say that "you're something you're not". Be who God made you! God made you before time even began, you are a work of art. There's no way that you can be "fat" or whatever, because God made you the way He wanted you to be. If you think you're fat, do some exercises that will help you lose that. Talk to God about it too.
The Lord be with your spirit. Grace be with you. II Timothy 4:22
-FunnyCide
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tell them to bugger off when they start. or believe them.
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im sorry but people are like this they use you often so they CAN be jelous(from my Very misleading experiance).im just a loser thats in love with a beutiful women who will never notice me.but enough about my life people want you to fell good and often it has pure intentions.and remember youare what you are never try to change that.IM A GOOFY GOOBER ROCK!!!!
sorry about that
Solemnstar
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You probably are not fat. Most people think their fat and it takes their friends and family to tell them they are not! If you feel insecure about your weight, eat healthy. Your friends are your friends and they want you to feel good about yourself, thats why they tell you all these things. And how do you know their not true?
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tell them what you just told me!
hope i helped
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