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well, this has happened twice. I was doing the number two, lol. And after i was done, i wiped my rear and found some blood.. I'm only 17, and i dont know whats wrong.. Its freaking me out, especially because its happened twice. Please help!
Thanks..
I agree with the person below me. That is definately not common at 17 years of age and you should tell your parents and go to the doctor as soon as possible. There is many different things that it could be so you want to get checked out.
ok well im kinda dumb haha my boyfriends smart. he analyzes me all the time n sometimes i take it the wrong way. so can you please tell me what you think he is saying here:
i think you wallow in a bank of self pity not quite adressing it because you are too busy trying to help others n most of the time this leads to your discomfort which you dont mind because you feel like you deserve it i also think you have a subconsciously weird obsession with what could have been not what is
WHAT DO YOU THINK HE IS SAYING?!?!?! thanks!
I'm going to break it down because its a little complicated to explain all at once.
1. I think you wallow in a bank of self pity not quite adressing it because you are too busy trying to help others
I am filling out job applications online...for my first job..and i was wondering if i should call the places after about a week or so to know if they received my application.
also HOW DO I FILL ONE OUT IN THE FIRST PLACE..
do i email it to them or what?
Im very new at this and am not receiving much help from my parents about this so here are some questions
1. what should i do to have myself noticed
2.should a fill out applications to more then 1 place
3.SHOULD I CALL AFTER WARDS
4.Any tips you have for me
5. How do i fill out an online application
6.do i need to fill out a resume..if i want to apply at jobs like target...and chuck e cheese..even if this is my first job..
Some business put their applications online, and some dont. What you need to do is make a list of the places that you want to apply to. Try going to each of their websites and see if there is a link about employment or careers. Thats where the online applications would be. If there is nothing on the website like that, then you would need to go there in person to apply.
Job applications are just basic information about your self, your schooling, and your work experience. Soemtimes they will have questions like what would set you apart from other candidates and things like that. For those types of questions just be honest. If your an outgoing person, tell them that. If your a fast learner, tell them that. If you work well under pressure, tell them that. Just think about the skills that you have that an employer would like.
In reply to the questions that you listed:
1. I wouldnt worry to much about make yourself stand out on an application. Like I said, applications are just factual information about yourself.
2. I wold fill out applications for more than one place because its not definate that you will be hired by the first place you apply to. And that way, you have options of more than one business calls you back for an interview.
3. When I was applying for my first job, I called about 3-4 days after I put in the application to make sure they got it. All i said to them was " Hi, my name is ________ and I submitted an application on ________ and I was just calling to make sure it was recieved and see what the status of it is." Doing that makes them see that you are serious about the job and you can also find out of they even looked over if or if the position was already filled.
4. My only tip is to be yourself. People can tell when a person is being fake and you dont want to start off on the wrong foot.
5. Already answered above.
6. You do not need a resume since its your first job. You only need a resume when its a more serious position and you have previous work experience.
I've had a Facebook for like a year now under my name but I have no pic and when people add me I just don't add them. so it says I have no friends... but I have no pic and no ifo or w/e in it. i've ever even touched it.
If you saw a blank facebook like this would u think i am a loser or would you just think that it's just unused? i know it's a stupid question... but just answer it honestly
I would take it as it wasnt used. My facebook is the same way I never used it so I dont have a picture or any friends or anything.
Okay, im a 15 year old female, and i happen to be bisexual, i have a girlfriend and we've been together for awhile, and i care about her ALOT. But i am starting to develop feelings for another girl, who happens to be my bestfriend, i know she likes me and my girlfriend and best firend absolutely hate each other. Now my girlfriend is absolutely beautiful, and thats no exaggeration, my best friend is pretty and they both have amazing personalities, but my bestfriend treats me better, but shes so demanding and gets emotional so much and sometimes i feel that my girlfriend doesnt care about me. Yet they both say they are in love with me. So im extremely confused because i need to choose someone. On top of it, i have a guy that likes me alot and is going to ask me out soon. I really like being with him too, he hasnt even tried to sleep with me, he likes to just hold me, and hes funny sweet and caring, but hes also hit me once ? But he felt so bad about it, he wouldnt look at me for 2 days. I really hate leading people on, so how do i choose one? and not hurt the others feelings?
Definately not the guy that hit you. Your better off to just take that option out of your mind.
There is no clear cut way to figure out what the right decision is. And the longer you dwell on it, the more difficult the decision will become.
Try to take a few days to yourself. Really think about what you want. Make a list of pros and cons for each girl and see which one has more of the qualities your looking for.
Which ever girl you choose, there is the possibility that you will wonder "what if" or if you made the right choice. You might wonder what would have happened if you had chose the other. But that is just gonna happen because of the fact that you had two people to choose from. So just go with your heart and Im sure it will all work out. Good luck!
I'm a 17 year old girl and for a few years now I've been bi-curious. I very recently got out of a relationship with a boyfriend and through the 16 months i was with him i told him and he fully accepted it. Mostly to the hope it would some day lead to a threesome. I thought that if i was seriously interested in women that i would just know, but recently i just don't understand what i'm going through.
For the past few years I've been wondering if i was bisexual because I was, and still am sexually attracted to men and women. I just could never imagine myself in a relationship with another woman. When i was with my ex boyfriend, because i was so in love with him it never occurred to me to be with another woman but since we've broken up, i just feel like, i could be with a girl or a guy but I just don't know.
Do you just...know when your bi? Can i just become bi? Is it something your just born with? Help?
I am a 21 yr old female and I started dating girls when I was 18. I am bisexual. I wondered and thought about girls my entire life. I didnt really think about actually dating them like you said you dont but I did think about hooking up with them. Thinking about hooking up with girls always turned me on more than thinking about hooking up with guys. But I never really did anything about it because what could I really do ya know?? I always had boyfriends and didnt tell anyone that I was attracted to girls. But right after I started college a girl came to work at my job who was a lesbian and me and ehr started hanging out as friends and it just went from there and I was with her for about a month. And I have been with girls since then.
I think that alot of people are probably bi and just dont say anything about it. Because really how do you bring something like that up out of no where especially if you dont even know if you want to have a relationship with a girl.
I didnt just know that I was. I knew I had the thoughts but I told myself that it was normal. I kind of tried to deny it. But I kind of knew in the back of my head that at if the opportunity ever came up, I would jump on it.
I believe its soemthing that your born with. I dont think that you just wake up one day and say wow im bisexual, without ever having any thoughts or signs.
ok well i have been with a guy before and everything and im 19/f last year i was with a jerk that i thought was the one for me was going to spend my life with him but then i found out about his secret life where he was unfaithful to me and a whole lot more which i wont go into detail.
lately i think i have been checking girls out and im not sure but i think im finding them attractive. I would look at them and scan them from head to toe i think i check them out and i cant help myself!i do find guys attractive but am i bi sexual?does this sound like a thing that a bi sexual would do or am i like this because i got hurt badly by a guy i had my heart set on?is it normal to be straight and severly check girls out?i think i would even make out with a chick but never done it so i wouldnt know
thanks in advance
It is normal for girls to check out other girls. Its the feelings you have inside that mean something. I am bisexual and I always checked out girls but that didnt make me realize anything. I had always thought and fantastized about girls but I knew that was normal so I didnt think anything of it. It was when I was hanging out w/ this girl I was working with at the time who was bisexual that I realized I was truly bi. We would hang out and flirt and slowly started cuddling when we would watch movies and we would play around and she would pick me up and stuff and I noticed that I would get more and more excited to see her. And I would want to look hot and stuff like that. So its not about the attraction to girls, its about the inside feelings.
if you go tanning naked do you have to put something on your nipples or do you just put the lotion? and same thing with your area "down there", do you just put the lotion there too?
I always tan nakes because I dont want tan lines and I dont put anything on. I dont like using tanning lotions so i just go in and then put on lotion after I get oout. But if you want to use lotion go for it but you dont have to put anything on your nipples.
(21/F) A few years ago, I had an abortion. It was during a serious relationship and I was going into college and I felt it was right due to all the circumstances. I had support from my family, but my boyfriend never knew because we split before I went through with it. Sometimes I really regret my decision, and wonder if it would have been a boy or a girl. I wonder what he/she would look like. It just hits me hard, still to this day. Deep down, I know it was the right decision but I cry alot and think about the "what ifs". Has anyone gone through this? What am I supposed to do? I don't need any lectures or personal opinions, I just need some honest help.
I have never had an abortion or even been pregnant but my sister has and I know even tho she doesnt really talk about it, it still haunts her. I went with my sister to get her abortion and as much as she tried to act like she was ok I know she wasnt and i still sympathize with her to this day.
You cant concentrate on "what-ifs". Doing that is like a form of self torture. You have to concentrate on what-is. And right now what is is that YOU know you mad the right decision. You know that you loved your unborn baby enough to do the right thing for him or her no matter how much it hurt you. Abortion may not be right for everyone and some people may look down on it but I believe it is a personal choice. If you know yoourself that you didnt have the means to take care of the baby, you did whats best. Yes, theres always adoption people say, but who's to say the baby will go to a good family. I know they dont just hand babies out to anyone but any family can make themselves look good on the surface. But no one truly knows what goes on behind closed doors. And try to think of it this way, if you have any family members or friends or even pets that have passed, your little baby is in heaven growing and playing with them. And you two will meet again some day. And your little baby will thank you for allowing her to spend her life in heaven. In a way, theres no better life to have is there?
I hope I helped some and good luck to you.
I'm really confused about what to do!
To make a very long and complicated story short and simple, I had sex with my ex boyfriend of 4 years about 2 months ago. He committed suicide about 2 weeks ago.
I think I may be pregnant with his child. I'm against abortion and would never give up my own child for adoption because... you know... it's MY kid! However, I don't have the money to raise a child. I'm in college right now and if I am pregnant, then the baby would be due around October... I can't not go to school because then I won't have a degree to get a decent job, besides who would take care of the baby while I'm working/in school... my parents would never help me out with this... they would press for adoption or abortion because they're barely financially stable enough to help us - I'm in school strictly on student loans, my brother is joining the armed forces so they'll pay for school, and my sister never went to college- she's got a full time job and is living at home. None of us can support a baby, and I can't ask my dead exes mom to help - she just lost her son and is extremely financially pressed... it's insane! I don't know what to do !!
What would you do if you were in my situation?
I don't have anyone to turn to because the baby's father is dead... I just don't know what to do right now!!
First, I want to tell you that Im very sorry for your loss. If you are pregnant, find out what public welfare agencies and things like that are in your area. For example there is a place called Planned Parenthood in my town and many low income or single mothers go there and they will help you with the medical care and things like that. Look into things like WIC and food stamps and medical insurance. For single mothers, especially ones in school it is very easy to get government assistance to help you. And in some areas the government has day cares set up that are based on your income and since you are a single mother in college I'm pretty sure you would get it for close to nothing, if not free. You just have to really do research to find out what resources are there to help you.
I understand your not wanting to give the baby up for adoption. I think if it were me I would try my best not to think of that as an option too. But if it comes down to it, just think about your baby and what would be best.
And I do agree with what someone else said about going to your exes mother. I agree that it might help her cope with her sons death. Some people believe that when the Lord takes someone away, he gives someone else in their place.
I wish you the absolute best of luck and again im very sorry for your loss.
15/f
I wasn't so sure what to put this in, so yeaah. Lately, my boobs have been hurting real bad. I'm not sexually active, but my boyfriend does rub them and sometimes sucks on my nipples. They only hurt at like the bottom, closer to where its connected to my body. If I even described that right..haha. And it's kinda hard there, I don't really remember them being hard before, if they weren't. Cause I never really felt my boobs like that until they started hurting. Help? :D
Are you going to be starting your period soon? If you are, thats probably why. Boobs can get sore maybe up to a week or 2 before you get your period. It has happened to me and some of my friends before.
If your not gettting your period soon, it could be because of some type of exercise. Like maybe heavy lifting or stretching.
I was wondering, AM I AN ALCOHOLIC?
Well, I've been noticing my weird behavior this days. And i really wanna know if i have a problem.
I love partying and drinking.
I love jack daniel and black label. I also drink wine sometimes but i drink beer more often.
I miss school sometimes because of my hangovers and for not sleeping well.
I don't communicate with people like before, i barely answer my phone, it's weird that i have new friends i don't talk to anyone.
I sometimes drink alone in my room, and sometimes i pass out.
i drink literally everyday, not drunk but even having at least 3 or 4 beers.
I do homework while drinking. I drink at school sometimes.
Sometimes i'm dying to get home from school to take a drink.
I hang out with friends more often than before, like i never stay home if i dont need to.
And when i say hang out, i mean chilling at a friend's house just drinking, and others smoking up hash.
I spend all my money on drinks. I would drink and not buy food.
And i've noticed that i drink more everyday to get my head fixed like the night before.
It's bothering me, the need for my drinks and everyday i woke up and go like "CRAP i did not do that yesterday" , or sometimes i just don;t remember some parts.
I got kicked out of a concert for picking a fight with a girl (im a girl), IT WAS embaressing
I made out with zillion of guys when im drunk.
I LOVE DRINKING, i love it's advantages but i can't deal with it's disadvantages, and my lifestyle is shit right now so i can't ask for help from doctor/parents, and if you're gonna suggest a close friend, EVERYONE DRINKS but not as much as me and my close friends.
Any kind of help.
Sweetie you absolutely have a problem. You may not be an alcoholic yet because your body might not fully depend on it yet, but you definately have an abuse problem.
My mom is an alcoholic and trust me, it is a serious problem to have. It is a disease and it has ruined many lives. Now im not against drinking, i drink myself. But the extent that you drink is not normal. You need to get help or at least try to help yourself. Try to cut down on drinking youself and if you cant do it, then you need to get professional help for it. There are AA meetings all over the country and so many counseling places that can help you with it. Your not alone in this either. Millions of americans struggle with alcoholism and abuse every day. You are not the only one.
Dont let it take hold of your life. Ive seen it happen and I still see it happen every day. But I can tell you, you will never stop unless you want to stop. You have to %100 percent want to quit. And if you dont feel like you want to completely stop, then please, for your own sake, try to cut down. I wish you the best of luck with everything and if you ever need to talk at all just send me a message and I will give you my email. I am very knowledgable about alcoholism and I would be happy to help you or answer any questions you may have.
I'm really just looking for opinions here. Honest ones. Be as blunt as you want really.
A guy and I have been "talking" for a few weeks. we have had sex twice and there is no doubt in my mind that we will continue to have sex whether there is a relationship or not. Now this whole time I really think he is just using me for sex. which obviously i'm fine with if i continue to do this. but he texts me all day and will tell me he misses me (he's out of town for the weekend) and how he wants to see me. I however take that as "i want to have sex with you" cause I mean i'm not completely naive here. Then out of the blue he asks when we are going to start dating. He has also introduced me to his family and shared some information with me that i'm pretty sure he wouldn't tell everyone. I just want yall's opinions. User or potential dater? honestly. (by the way we are both 19)
It actually sounds to me like it might not just be sex to him. He flat out asked you when you are gonna start dating. That should give you your answer right there. And most people dont introduce booty calls or flings to their family because then they have to answer all types of question about the "relationship" and have to give an explanation when the girl is no longer around. It is very good that you are not naive, but on the other hand it kinda sounds like you have your wall up too much with this guy. Try to give him the benefit of the doubt. I honestly think he has feelings for you, and not just sexual ones. Good luck!
hello everyone, im new here. heres my question/problem.
me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 3 months now, this is our 3rd time dating and its working out amazingly accept for a few issues. i have suspicions that she is cheating on me. she swears that she isnt and i believe her 100% cause she never had done that to me or anyone at least to my knowledge. but theres still my suspicions. she never lets me see her phone, she occasionally has added miles on her car, and she is always texting someone even when we are together. i have asked her about this and she tells me to stop being nosy and that i need to trust her, and i do. but my suspicions are still there. i just cant seem to get them outta my head. any advice is appreciated. thanks
Either you trust her or you dont. If you do, then you need to let go of all the suspicions you have until she gives you a verifiable reason not to trust her. If you dont trust her then your relationship doesnt look to promising. In her defense, it is very aggravating when someone doesnt trust you when your not doing anything wrong and that could be why she is so defensive. In my eyes, you have 2 options here. Either let go of all your worries and give her the benefit of the doubt, or go out there and find out for yourself if she is cheating. Go thru her phone again or try to follow her. A person that is cheating will rarely just admit it. Especially if someone is suspicious. If they do admit it, it is usually because of a guilty conscience. It is your decision but just a fair warning, choose wisely because trust is a very delicate issue in relationship and can often be the making or breaking point. Good luck to you.
the boy that I've been with for 6 months now really hurt me his been really good to me and i even started to believe that his not like the others well i was wrong.i met him at a summer job and at the time he liked my friend cause he met her first when they hang out the first time i was there like a third wheel cause she begged me to come at the end of the day she told him that things wouldn't work out make story short i made a move and got him. fast forward to six months now I've been trying to hook her up with one of his friends so me and my boyfriend went to her house and they were talking i was there then when she was leaving i noticed him staring at her ass i ignored it but when i got in the car his like how about that threesome thing.well it was my fault cause i always joke about me and him and her having a threesome but he knew they were jokes.when i got home i called him because i felt hurt he told me everything his like he did look at her ass and while she was there he thought about what would have happened if him and her did work out and he also thought about fucking her.so i broke up with him I'm just wondering if i made a good decision.please give me some advice.
I think that you absolutely did the right thing. This guy obviously didnt respect you enough or he wouldnt have been looking at your best friends ass right in front of you and then telling you he was thinking about fucking her. You deserve better than that. And it also could have caused problems between you and your best friend and you should never let a guy come between that. Most guys probably do look at their girlfriends friends and notice if they are attractive but they should never think about hooking up with them and absolutely never say something about having a threesome. This guy sounds like a pig and the best thing you could have done is get rid of him. Good for you!
i dont have sex every day, but i do at least 2 to 3 times a month. i asked my mom when a girl needed to start having gyno exams, and she said when someone is sexually active.
i told her im not, because i wanted to avoid a conflict..and disappointment. but since im sexually active, i think i should start seeing a gynochologist. i cant drive, though. (im 16, im just a little late on the whole permit/license thing)
how am i supposed to be sure im healthy without telling my mom im having sex?
I'm not sure where you live but in my area we have a place called planned parenthood. They take people that are under 18 years old and its private they dont tell your parents or anything. They do full gynecological exams and test for stds and even give birth control. And if you are under 18 all of the services are free. Their website is www.plannedparenthood.org and it tells you all about the orginazation and where they are located.
Hey 14/f
I have this really nice white Hollister button down, but the problem is, I've had it for a year and it has armpit stains in them!! I haven't worn it in awhile (a couple months) so does anyone know how to get out the stains? By tomorrow? I know that sounds like a short time period, but I really need it for this school thing tomorrow where I have to dress up nicely...so any help is welcomed! Thanks!
I know Im a little late since you wanted to wear the shirt today but if it still has the stains, there is a soap that they sell in most department stores like walmart. Its called Lava Soap and its basically just a bar of soap but it works excellent to get stains out. I have used it before for the same kind of stains and it worked perfectly. And its only like 2 or 3 dollars. Give it a try.
anyway..
so like i want to get my tongue pierced like so bad
all of my friends says its so stupid
i honestly dont care
i was wondering though,
how bad does it seriously hurt?
like i have a really low tolerance for pain
but i really want it
I do have mine pierced and honestly, the piercing itself isnt that bad. Its the healing process afterwards that sucks. It only takes about a week to heal but in that week you will wake up every morning with your tongue swollen the size of a balloon.
I'm in 8th grade and I heard a lot of stuff 'bout high school. I heard about cliques (which kinda scared me) and about the work gettin harder and gettin more of it (more school work, that's impossible). So I need some trues or fakes. Are there the cliques? Is the work harder? Is there more work? Will it all be worth it? Am I gonna lose my mind on the first day? (please don't awnser that last one). Ok, 1 more question. What will high school really be like? I fu can help, then thnx. If not, then thnx anyway. Laters!
It all depends on the high school you go to. I went to a very large high school (about 4,000 students. My graduating class had over 900 students). But generally, yes there are cliques. Its not like the movie Mean Girls or anything but people with the same interests hang out with each other. Theres always the popular people, and the not so popular people. As far as the work goes, it depends on your classes and teachers but I never had a problem with too much or too hard of work. And if you dont understand something or are having a problem, thats what the teachers are there for. Of course its worth it. It flies by before you even know it and you cant really do anything without a high school education. Billions of people in the world have gotten thru it. You will too. And no you will not lose your mind. It might take sometime getting used to where your classes or your locker is located but its like that at any new school. High school is some of the best years of your life. Enjoy it!
my boyfriend and i have been fighting alot in the last month. its always about him not being in high school anymore and that he thinks that i should be with someone in high school. but i dont want to be with anyone but him. i love him and i cant imagine myself with anyone else. well just the other day he was being really mean all day. he had to go to work so i thought he would be fine when he got off (11:30. i even asked my dad if i could stay out later (my curfew is midnight but he said 1).
he picked me up after work and he was still being mean and everything. so when 1 rolled around he basically ran out to his car and right when i got in he pulled out and drove to my house. well we talked and i told him that i didnt know what his deal was and that i wasnt going to put up with it and that i wasnt going over there tomorrow. so he told me that i was being childish and maybe we shouldnt be together. i told him that he had been saying that alot lately and he said that hes saying it alot cuz he doesnt feel a spark anymore. so we just fought all night and finally he was like im going to bed.
ive never had anyone like him. he really is a great guy but for some reason hes acting like this and he never has before. everytime we fight i feel like i come closer to losing him and i dont want that. ive never been good with guys to begin with and he makes me feel special and i really do love him with all my heart. i just feel like i screwed up somewhere and i cant fix it. ive never been able to please anyone or do anything right. and this time ive finally found someone that i thought i could please and i cant even do that.
i just want to know what i should do. btw we have been together for a year and 4 months. 16/f
I know this is not what you want to hear but it really sounds to me like he is trying to get you to break up with him. He is basically telling you straight out that he doesnt want to be with you. You may want to be with him, but you cant force someone to like you and want to be with you. And why would you want to? You need to let him go sweetie. You will be much happier when you do. Think of it this way, your not happy right now. Yes, maybe the thought that you are with him makes you happy but you deserve better. The quicker you realize this and move on, the quicker you can be happy. Do it for yourself. Good luck.