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AM I RETARDED?!?!?!
ok well im kinda dumb haha my boyfriends smart. he analyzes me all the time n sometimes i take it the wrong way. so can you please tell me what you think he is saying here:
i think you wallow in a bank of self pity not quite adressing it because you are too busy trying to help others n most of the time this leads to your discomfort which you dont mind because you feel like you deserve it i also think you have a subconsciously weird obsession with what could have been not what is
WHAT DO YOU THINK HE IS SAYING?!?!?! thanks!
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Your Freudfriend is saying you're an emotional martyr.
I personally think you're an intellectual martyr.
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Seeing as h's your boyfriend i would think he meant it in the nicest way possible. so pretty much what i think he's saying is =
Though you have a really nice heart to go out of your way and help other's, you need to stop once in a while and tend to your own needs because focusing on others for too long seem's to make you forget you have your own life to live as well.
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I'm going to break it down because its a little complicated to explain all at once.
1. I think you wallow in a bank of self pity not quite adressing it because you are too busy trying to help others <-------- This means that you spend alot of time feeling sorry for yourself but you dont pay attention to it or dont notice it because your too busy trying to help other people.
2. most of the time this leads to your discomfort which you dont mind because you feel like you deserve it <-------He is saying that most of the time, the fact that you pity yourself but dont pay attention to it makes your uncomfortable or possibly unhappy. He is saying that you dont mind this thought, because for some reason, you feel like you deserve it.
3. i also think you have a subconsciously weird obsession with what could have been not what is <------He is saying that he thinks that you obsess or what could have, should have, or would have happened instead of what did happen. He is saying that you do it subconsciously tho, which means that you dont know that you do it.
I tried my best. I hope I helped!
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I think he's trying to say that you often feel sad, but you don't take the time to reflect on those feelings because you are too busy being concerned with other people. When you should be more concerned with yourself. And most of the time, you not reflecting on your feelings, leads you to being upset...which you don't mind because you think you deserve feeling that way. Also, he's saying that you tend to dwel on the past and think about "what could have been", when you should just move on and think about "what is"...
I hope I actually made this make sense! lol
Like I get what he's trying to say, but It's kind of hard to explain...I hope you understand. :)
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