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did i really offened about wanting to return something.
I dont have a job yet so one time my mom and I went into the grocery store with her boyfriend and I went in to buy a nexus straightener that costed like 7 dollars. But her boyfriend paid it. So after like 1 week my aunt gave me a 20 dollar allowance so I told my mom hey I am going to give back that 6 dollars he paid. Then she thought my intent was that once again I have a problem with him. That really was not my intent at all. My view is that I just pay it back cause he bought it for me when I should have paid it myself or it was my mom mom that should have paid it. She got all mad at me and yelling at me like she was scolding me for doing something wrong. I think both of them are trying to hurt me. What was offensive to what I had said. I wasn't trying to make anything out of it. They all make me sick to be acting to me that way. Do you think that they are right most of the time her boyfriend makes me feel as if I am being judge based on ideas about me that he heard from someone or he formed.
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Your mom probably just thinks you're trying to separate yourself from her/her boyfriend, like you're trying to be independent of them. Gently show her that this is not the case by pulling her aside and explaining your point of view; she probably didn't understand it just as you didn't understand hers.
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It sounds like your mother just overreacted and took it the wrong way. There are two sides to every story. I'm sure if we asked her about she would say something along the lines of, "Well, (Insert your name here) is always trying to make sure (Insert her boyfriend's name here) doesn't help her at all. She won't let him do anything for her and it creates tension." Something like that. It sounds like he was trying to give you something and you were trying to make it not seem like that. It's weird because I understand where you're coming from and it's mature to do that.
I think they're seeing it as a different situation. Here's an example: It would be like if your aunt bought you a 6 dollar lunch and the second you got money, you decided to pay her back for that. It's like you're keeping a tally in your mind and making sure that he doesn't do anything helpful for you.
The thing, if it were something more expensive, it would be more reasonable for you to do that. But since it was something that was so cheap and it wasn't like "Oh, just pay me back when you get the money", it sounds like you're trying to make sure that he's not doing anything good for you.
I know that's not the situation. You were just trying to be mature and do the right thing. You don't like accepting gifts when you have the money yourself a week later. That's totally understandable. Your mother should be happy that you're mature enough to do that because most teens would just be like, "K, sweet!" and not bother paying anything back.
Your mother is probably seeing it as a way for you to not let her boyfriend in your life as a helpful figure.
Hope this helps,
Darby(:
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