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What'l'' high school be like?
I'm in 8th grade and I heard a lot of stuff 'bout high school. I heard about cliques (which kinda scared me) and about the work gettin harder and gettin more of it (more school work, that's impossible). So I need some trues or fakes. Are there the cliques? Is the work harder? Is there more work? Will it all be worth it? Am I gonna lose my mind on the first day? (please don't awnser that last one). Ok, 1 more question. What will high school really be like? I fu can help, then thnx. If not, then thnx anyway. Laters!
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1. Yes, there are cliques. Find your friends early on & stick with them. I don't mean to scare you, but breaking away from the your earliest friends you make in highschool, unless they do something backstabber-ish, is not a smart move. Trust me, I know.
2. The work really isn't that hard. When I had problems, the counselors were all concerned & moved me down from honors.
3. There isn't much more work than elementary/middle school.
4. Yes, it will be worth it because my sister told me college was better. And without getting through highschool, you won't see college ever. Then you won't have the career you want.
Don't be nervous.
It's pretty much what you make it because when you enter the halls on the first day, everyone else will be just as nervous as you, so you won't be alone...and a lot of people talk more when they're nervous. There's a chance you'll make a few friends on the first day.
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I loved my freshman year of high school. The best advice I can give you is to get involved. If there's some club that sounds like it might be fun, then do it. You'll meet tons of people. If you're in a sport, band, theatre, yearbook, etc., you're going to meet so many people. The cliques aren't really any different from middle school, honestly. The amount of classwork didn't increase much for me, even though I'm in all AP classes. You're not going to lose your mind, I promise.
The most valuable thing I've learned in high school is that you need to surround yourself with people that you love to hang out with. Don't waste any time with crappy people. I'm a junior this year, and this has been the best year of my life because I've realized just how kickass high school is. Yeah, the school part sucks, but if you take time to chill out with friends every now and then, it's not so bad.
My key advice is: don't lose focus on the actual school part of high school, but branch out and have fun at the same time. This will be a lot easier when you start driving because you'll be able to hang out with lots of random people more often.
I know it probably sounds like I'm some crazy girl who parties all the time. But ever since I started having more fun, my grades have been improving. Actually, I'm ranked #5 in my class of 400. So I'm basically saying that for you to make the most out of your high school experience, you need to take time to enjoy things.
Go listen to "A Praise Chorus" by Jimmy Eat World. That song has some great advice for making the most of life.
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High school is what you make of it, really, and it prepares you for the "real" world out there so expect it to be what will mold you. There ARE cliques, groups, fakes, and some of the oddest people you will ever meet, probably, because they are still very confused and trying to find themselves.
You won't lose your mind if you keep focused on your adulthood and realize that you're NOT an adult just because you made it to high school and are in whatever grade at the time.
The work isn't going to be too bad. You're in the transition phase right now. You will have A LOT less work than you will in the real world, with a real job. You'll have lots of free time to enjoy friends and grow into what you will be. You have to realize that this is your chance at preparation though so you need to focus on your schoolwork before you have "fun" and do all of the things that high schoolers tend to look forward to--working in school is DEFINITELY worth your time.
This being said, if you hang around people who smoke, drink, and have sex with everyone walking because it's "fun" then expect the rest of your life to be pretty meaningless.
High school is not meant to be fun or enjoyable actually. It was created to prepare you for the rest of your life. Example:
Elementary school prepares you for middle school.
Middle school prepares you for high school.
High school prepares you for...well, what comes next? The rest of your life.
If you start off drinking/smoking/whoring it up then the rest of your life is going to follow in the same manner. You'll run to drugs when things get hard. You'll drink your life away just to "have fun" which will lead to lost jobs. You'll give your body to men just to feel loved because you can't figure how to get love any other way.
In high school you need to be learning how to live. Learning how to make it in this insane world. Learning how to cope with reality.
I'm not saying you shouldn't be having fun, but drugs, sex, and alcohol shouldn't be involved at all. Learning that "fun" means getting wasted and having an orgy at a party is not really preparing you for a great future.
Go to ballgames on the weekends.
Catch a movie or two with some good friends.
Go on a date or two--without sex, without drugs, without alcohol--just you and a guy having some dinner and a movie.
Spend time volunteering at various places. You have no idea how fulfilling this is--and fun at the same time! (How's that for real-world preparation too?!)
Go to local set-ups for bands to play. Most towns, even small ones like the one I live in, have an annual Battle-of-the-LOCAL-Bands. Things like this are usually free and pretty fun, especially if you're sober.
Go to fairs when they come around. There's no shame and having a thing of cotton-candy and riding the ferris wheel like you did when you were six. It's still fun...I promise ;)
Go to prom when it comes. As a freshman or sophomore, you can be invited by an upperclassman. No need to sell your body for this either or end up wasted by the end of the night--dances are just fun, plain and simple. (Your high school probably also has other dances you definately should attend.)
Join other clubs. We had a robotics club that seemed super neat and educational at the same time. They took a trip out to go to a convention and everyone had a blast--without drugs, alcohol, or sex too! What a concept!
Go to the beach when it warms up again. Bring a friend or two. Your family probably wouldn't mind if you talked to them about it beforehand--a fun trip for all! :)
Join the school-paper. What's more fun than getting the latest school scoop and writing it up to let your peers know about it too?! If you're school doesn't have a paper yet--address this to the principal and get one started!
If you want to make memories then alcohol and drugs are not going to help at all. Don't waste your time wasting your life away with these things. Spend school time at school, learning. This time is for preparation for when YOU have to rely on YOU to really make it alive.
Don't follow-the-leader like your peers do. Seriously, they are going to end up VERY unhappy and lost in just a few short years. You'll see.
There's just so many things you can do other than having sex, getting plastered, and doing drugs. There is no point in going to parties because that is what happens--people "hook-up" and act a fool.
There is absolutely no need to end up like this (My Answer):
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It happened. It's true. It's scary and I look back and say, "Thank GOD, I was not one of them. Thank GOD, I kept my head on straight." Those people have to live with that their entire lives. How would you feel if you were one of those that I listed? Happy? Doubtful. Confident? Doubtful. Loved? Doubtful. Smart? Doubtful. Good about yourself? Definitely not.
You don't have to be stupid to have fun. You don't have to kill brain cells to have fun. You don't have to numb yourself to have fun. You don't have to sell yourself to have fun.
Just keep doing what you're doing and memories will happen.
Drugs.
Alcohol.
Sex.
Parties.
The popular crowd.
That's all stupid. Wasteful. Hurtful.
Be smart. Be you.
If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
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if you try not to think about the negative of it all, most likely you'll enjoy your hs years. actually you'll love. high school will likely be what you make of it. stay away from drama! the amount of school work is normal but your freshmen year's grades is really important b/c when you want to go to college, they'll be looking at your 9th grade stuff. so dont slack off. there are cliques but it depends what school you go to. you will not lose your mind on the first day. and whatever you do, stay true to yourself, keep your TRUE friends, not the fake ones. that'll be my most important advice to you.
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It took me till my senior year (now) to figure this out, but it'll be the best experience of your life. I wouldn't say I'm the most involved student in school, but I'm in Chorus, Musical Theatre and Yearbook, so it's helped me make friends with all kinds of people. You'll find out who's fake through time...if you feel like you're being taken advantage of then cut ties with that person...live for yourself!
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Like the last person said, it depends on the high school. Mainly it depends on the people in the school. At my school there are some obvious cliques but the rest is just like jocks,preps, gangstas, and then normal people but they dont all necesarily chill with eachother. The work gets harder depending on the class, the teacher, and how you are. For me i had certain teachers that were so easy and it was impossible not to pass. Other classes were hard because i already was not good in that subject. But naturally yes the work does get harder, like it should every year that you go up a grade. You have to balance work and fun. Definitely be outgoing and try to get in a sport or some after school activity. You want to be known and make new friends.Just be yourself and try to have fun.
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It all depends on the high school you go to. I went to a very large high school (about 4,000 students. My graduating class had over 900 students). But generally, yes there are cliques. Its not like the movie Mean Girls or anything but people with the same interests hang out with each other. Theres always the popular people, and the not so popular people. As far as the work goes, it depends on your classes and teachers but I never had a problem with too much or too hard of work. And if you dont understand something or are having a problem, thats what the teachers are there for. Of course its worth it. It flies by before you even know it and you cant really do anything without a high school education. Billions of people in the world have gotten thru it. You will too. And no you will not lose your mind. It might take sometime getting used to where your classes or your locker is located but its like that at any new school. High school is some of the best years of your life. Enjoy it!
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it depends where your located really, like all schools are diffrent. im from a small town so theres about 560 kids in my highschool witch itsnt a lot and yeah there are so cliques but middle school was a lot worse people in high school are more excepting i think. The work in our school was ALOT easier then middle school i thought by far. The first couple days your there is a little intamidating but just be nice to people and youll be okay it gets easier after the first week
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hey don't worry high school is definitely better than middle school no matter what kind of person you are. Yes there are cliques, but in my experience the cliques in middle school are MUCH worse. Freshman year was also my easiest year by far. B/c you are ajusting to high school your won't really be bambarded with work. The first day will probably be stressful but you will calm down with in a couple of days, don't worry!
advice
1- Walk around the school before your first day, and find all your classes, don't relie on a freshman orinatation, it does not help nearly enough
2- Don't slak off freshman year you will want to kick your self for slaking in your easy classes when the work really gets tough, like in your jounior year.
3-Don't worry! Get involved with several programs in your school and have fun!!!
overall high school will be a mix of new friends, new experiences, tough choices, SATs, and fun.
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