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Just sex or more?
I'm really just looking for opinions here. Honest ones. Be as blunt as you want really.
A guy and I have been "talking" for a few weeks. we have had sex twice and there is no doubt in my mind that we will continue to have sex whether there is a relationship or not. Now this whole time I really think he is just using me for sex. which obviously i'm fine with if i continue to do this. but he texts me all day and will tell me he misses me (he's out of town for the weekend) and how he wants to see me. I however take that as "i want to have sex with you" cause I mean i'm not completely naive here. Then out of the blue he asks when we are going to start dating. He has also introduced me to his family and shared some information with me that i'm pretty sure he wouldn't tell everyone. I just want yall's opinions. User or potential dater? honestly. (by the way we are both 19)
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You don't need to one or the other. This guy could easily be both. Lord knows I've dated guys who thought they wanted a relationship, but really only wanted a sex toy. They are out there, in droves.
I'll add one more for your to consider: Deeply confused little boy.
Sounds like you are a bit clearer on the shades of gray when it comes to sex, friendship and relationship. My best advice to you is to stop trying to read his mind, he probably doesn't know himself what he wants exactly, and instead, decide percisely what YOU want.
Do you want to date him?
Would you rather just go on sleeping with him?
If you don't want to date him, what does that mean for the friendship and the sex?
What is your ideal arrangement with this guy?
Answer those questions yourself, and don't worry so much what he might want. Tell him what you want, and let him respond.
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It actually sounds to me like it might not just be sex to him. He flat out asked you when you are gonna start dating. That should give you your answer right there. And most people dont introduce booty calls or flings to their family because then they have to answer all types of question about the "relationship" and have to give an explanation when the girl is no longer around. It is very good that you are not naive, but on the other hand it kinda sounds like you have your wall up too much with this guy. Try to give him the benefit of the doubt. I honestly think he has feelings for you, and not just sexual ones. Good luck!
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