Being a teenager is the toughest thing any of you will go through..well except for a divorce or death of a loved one.
Adults just do not remember how hard this time of life is for you.
They forget how important all of these things that you ask questions about are.
Parent do not have all the answers either..they just muddle through life..just like you.
I am as old as dirt..and still have some of the things that happen to you..happen to me.
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okay guys, this might be a tough one. im so lost and have no idea what to do. im 20 years old now. i met jeremy when i was 17 years old. i thought he was the perfect guy for me, and for a while he felt the same about me. we got together not long after that. i fell in love with him really fast, as did he. we were together for a little over 4 years. like any couple, we had our fights. i will be the first to admit that our relationship wasn't perfect. but we loved each other very much anyways. we broke up a few times but we always got back together. well about a week ago, we got into a huge fight and broke up. he informed me yesterday that he's unhappy with me and had sex with another girl. it almost killed me!!! i love him so much, and what he did was very wrong and i know that. however, i really need help trying to get over him. i can't stop thinking about him, but he doesnt even care. he told me that he doesn't even want to be friends anymore. how do i get over him? ive tried meeting other guys but i can't seem to find anyone. PLEASE HELP ME!!!! (link)
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...wow..i bet he was your FIRTSt real love..you may never geet over him..but you have to GET on wiht you life..he has moved on. See living the best life you can..will help you. date..date date date..ok..maybe you will not fall in love right away..but one of those guys might make you feel better..and every day..you feel a little bit bwetter..you will get over him.
this is going to be hard...join a gym...date..go out with your g/fd..and start to live.
you have to stop obsessing about him..and move on...
This is not easy....but you CAN do it..ok
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k me and my boyfriend go to diff skools and live bout 7 mins away from eachother....every wednesday i go to church with him but i go to his house for about an hour furst...and my mom knows this...shes met him, his parents n everything....and still sometimes she gets like annoyed with dropping me off at his house...she likes my bf too she says hes eally nice n stuff...but wat can i tell her to assure her that its safe over his house n stuff.. (link)
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ok..your mom was once your age..and she remembers what SHE did at her b/fs house..ok..so only thing you can do is just be calm and totally NOT do what she is thinking..eventually she will trust you.
But this all stems from what she did as a teenager..ok...and let's face it..all moms and dads are like this. but to me..the fact that you guys go to church after hanging out..I would TOTALLY trust you...
She will too give her time...ok..if not she may be one of those mothers and will never..if you..shake it off.and as long she she does not forbid you to over there..it is all good.
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there is this guy at my school who is the same age as me. sadly he is in a diffrent homeroom. he first found out that i liked him when my young yet stupid teacher went and told him that i thought he was hot. my teacher found out that i thought this guy was hot when we were talking about how he is such a good basketrball player, anywho...... out of nowhere i was like yeah that kid is hot and my teacher old him and he said that bret said he was flattered. now i do;nt know if he likes me or what. at gym when ever my volleyball misteriously rolls over to him he just lets it roll right on by. today (11/17) he picked it up and he gave it to me. other days if he knows it is mine he will kick it or pick it up and drop it. i dont know if he is shy or what. this other girl likes him to but i dont think he knows. i know that i am in jr high and things arent the same as 4th or 5th grade like when you tell a boy that u like them and they start to like you but maybe it still is. i really think he is cute but i dont know much about him but i just want to get to know him without comeing off as one of those creepy stalker types. i dont know how to get his attention because i am very shy around cute guys and in his case is is dead sexi! how do i get to know him or atleaset make a conversation even how to make him say hi! just for info.... i am not going to go all girly and try to impress him with my clothes that is so 6th grade and it doesnt work i want him to like me for something more than my looks but i still want him to like me for my looks! love always,
Boy trouble (link)
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ok..your teacher told him..what a loser..to me..whatever...man...
find out what he likes to do..and do it around or with him.
Are there any schoo functions you can hang out with him at??
he knows you are there...no you do not ahve to be girly..but dressing nice and looking nice is not girly..it just is a way to get guys to notice you.
Maybe he is shy too...and you might have to make the first move. can you call him? my son who is 9 has girls calling him...
Good luck...still that teacher is so crappy for telling himm..grr
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my little sister has a habbit of thinking that our cousins are cute. the ones that we dont get to see that often. she likes our cousin J.R and our cousin Michael. I can't figure out how to get her to stop. I have told her that they are our cousins and its nasty. But she won't listen. She has even told me that she wants to kiss J.R. I mean yea hes a good looking kid (i dont like him...ew!) but hes our cousin so thats just nasty. I have tried explaining the whole cousin thing and she still doesn't understand. Please help. (link)
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ok..she is just a kid...does not get the counsin thing..it will calm down..plus your cousins will totally tell her if she tries anything. Find her a cute guy in her school to dream about. She is just trying out her ways wiht guys...just keep reminding ehr that..no you don't date you cousin..it is against natural law...
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ok my parents always fite about something that i do wrong. I dont no what to do! i get so upset bc it seems like they are goin to split up. How can i tell if they are goin to or not???
PLZ HELP ME ANYONE!~!~!~! (link)
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all parents fight..period..when you are married you are under a lot of pressure, and usualy it is stuff like money and kids etc.
What are you doing that they get so wadded up about.
They have different views on how to deal wiht you. Sit them down..say you know that what you do is wrong but having them argue in front of you is also.
TELL them..that when the do this..you think they are going to get a divorce and you are so stressed out from this you do not know what to do. trust me after you say that..they will find away to deal wiht you in a better fashion.
Ps my paresnt argued about me all the time too...and they never got divorced..they just were really STUBBORN people who liked to hear thier own voices!!
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all of my friends are destructive.
friend #1-cuts and gave head.
friend #2-drank shoplifts and sneaks out of her
house
friend #3-does pot and shoplifts
friend #4-shoplifts
this is so annoying. what do i do?!i still want to be friends witht them but they're all mad @ me anyways. that's a diff. story though. help!
signed,*cAuGhT iN tHe MiDDlE* (link)
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woah..all your friends might end up in jail or grounded for life...
Sorry but all that the are doing is ONLY going to get them in super big trouble...
To me..i hate to get in trouble..the only person i end up hurting is me...
So you have a decsion..either hang out wiht these guys who will someday...get YOU in trouble too..or make new friends...
i know this is hard...I wish i had an easy answer for you..you have to decide what is more important their toxic friendship or you not getting in trouble.
Am thinking of you....
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Well, im the one who asked whether or not i should date eric because my friend erika likes him, and i took everyones advice n im dating him, EXCEPT today she found out and she called and she sounded pissed and said she needed to talk to me or else tomorrow im gunna get it to my face. i cant really fight face to face cuz i start shaking so i def* have to call her, does any body know anything i can say? like she SHOULD be happy for me.. and i jus dunno shes gunna hate me n everything please help!! (link)
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oh man..did she like him first? I am sorry to say this..but sometime guys just do not like us..so it may be hard on her..but hello..if the guy wanted to date her..he would of. but you have to make this decison..is the guy worth losing your freind over?? For to me she sounds kind of psycho over him..Yes she should be happy for you..but she is not..and I am betting in future she will not change..plus she may do things to break you up..so you have to decide if she or he is worth this.
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my friend (kelley) has been cutting herself lately and doing some pretty dangerous stuff. i told her to stop and she said she has but i dont know if i should believe her. what should i do? *signed clueless as what to do* (link)
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check out her arms....if she cuts other places then you are out of luck..but most kids..need hlep before they stop. But you have to be her friend..she needs you...you got to get her to talk to a counselor to figure out why she cuts herself. She may continue to lie to you..but realize that she is in a bad place and cut her some slack.
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Well, i'm having some problems. I talked about a sorta-friend behind thier back and they heard about it and got really upset, and now im in the middle of a big mess. Help? (link)
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Say you are sorry...tell her that the commnent was taken the wrong way..and NEVER ever say anything to anyone that you do NOT want printed on the front page of a newspaper. FACT..people talk and love to cause troubel..to zip thy lip..this is something i just learned and I am older than dirt!
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(13 yr old girl)ok so me and my friend (lets call her Ashley) were best friends. But they i started middle school and we had this big fight over nothing! And a new friend i met in middle school, lets call her Mary, would tell me what Ashley said about me and Mary would tell Ashley what i said about her... and this caused us to fight even more!! She just got in the middle constantly and like now we dont talk anymore.. question : should i be friends with Mary even though she split me and my BFF apart ..
p.s- Mary is friends with ashley .. and mary is friends with me now .. (but idk if thats a big mistake) (link)
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any girl sho plays one friend agasint another is SUPER bad news..Trust me..see you need to hang out with girls who support each other not talk about each other. She is a HUGE bitch for causing fights..and let me tell you...she will do this UNTIL she dies.
If you have to be friends with her becasue of Ashly..do NOT ever tell her anything that is secret..never ever complain about Ashly to her..just say ONLY good things about people to you. And if she tells you abouyt stuff that Ahsly says..just remember..that it may not be the truth.\
I however would dump her right away...but again it is your decision..she to me..si ONLY trouble.
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Today I was sitting in class and I just picked up this needle thing and started running it up and down my arm. I don't know why but then I started scratching myself with it really badly so that I had marks all over my arm. After school, my boyfriend saw but he made a joke of it. I think I did it because I want attention because my parents don't really give me any. I was really upset that my boyfriend didn't care, does it show that he doesn't care about me? Everybody that saw what I had done just ignored me. (link)
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possibly for a lot of people cut themsleves.
Why do your parents ignore you??Are they so self absorbed?
Do not do this. Just becasue your paresnt do not realise what a great person you..are..does not mean that others do not. You have a great duy...relize that some parents just should not have become ones..and just try to brush off your feelings of hurt. My father once told me he wished i was not born!! Ok..but to me..he is the loser..for HE missed out..on me...just like your parents are MISSING out on YOU!!
So stop the cutting..tune the elder loser out..and enjoy your guy....
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what are the chances of a condom having a hole in it?? i had sex with my boyfriend and i know it didnt break cuz i know what that feels like....and nothing has ever happened before.....but like im worried for some reason..... (link)
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well if your period does not start..then hello...Take a test after you are late. but if you say you know how it feels..well then..someitmes you an..um hld it up to the light and see if if has a hole.
but i would use a back up. Use a spermicide..that will help eliminate the chances of the sperm reaching your egg.
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Well I've known this guy for about 2 years over the internet. (I met him through a friend who met him 6 months before me) We've talked on the phone, sent letters, pictures, webcams, and all of that, also I've talked to his family and friends so that I know everything he says is true. I've told him that I love him, and he says the same to me. When he gets his liscence, he was going to come and visit me. We only live about 5 hours apart... Yeah, we've had our ups and downs but i still love him, even though we're not "going out" or anything. I know he's had sex once before with his ex girlfriend of a year. I would have sex with him, but I'm still a virgin and I think I'm too young. He's not pressuring me or anything, it's something I wanna do. (Please don't lecture me about it, I know, I also don't need inappropriate vulgar remarks thrown at me for this) He's 16 and I'm 14, but I'll be 15 by the time he gets to visit. I just need some help on what to do to make me feel more open with him. I guess I just feel intimidated because it's not his first time. (It's also not like I've never done anything sexual before, just not sex itself) Please help me out with this. (link)
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see the first time should be the best time..and usually it is not. See you will remember this all your life even when you are ancient like I am. and trust me..i wish my firt time..WAS not waht..it was.
But if you do love..him..and you cannot imagine life without him..well it is up to you.
See your body is your own..so you will know when it is right.
i do admire that he is not pressuring you..but being long distance well..he might have another life that you do not know about.
i would go vivist him at HIS place and scope him out..then make a decision.
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i'll rate anyone a 5 who reads this and helps thanx!!
me and my best friend have been great friends since 8th grade (were both in 12th now) so we've been friends for pretty much 5 years. i love her to death and i dont know what i would do without her. Were seriously inseperable. About a month ago she met this guy. All of a sudden its like she's dedicating her time to hang out with him EVERY day. I mean all three of us do hang out sometimes but i dont really like it bc i kinda feel like the 3rd wheel. Her ex boyfriend just told me that he likes me but i told him that i only like him as a friend. i told her that he said he liked me and all of a sudden she asumed that i liked him too and now she is mad at me. the reason they broke up was because she was lying to him and cheating on him with this guy she is with now. The guy she is with now wants to get an apartment. He said i could move in if i wanted but i dont want to because i cant afford it but i dont wanna loose my best friend to him because i lost her once before and i was miserable. Well today i left this guy a voicemail saying mean things and everything to him which i shouldnt but he is really rude to me. He calls me a slut and everything. i've told my friend this but she said well im falling in love with him and all that. I really dont wanna loose my best friend at all! i dont know wut to do and its killing me inside. I tryed to talk to her about it but she doesn't wanna listen to me at all. She told me a few weeks ago the only reason she is with this guy is because he gets her w/e she wants (he got her a diamond ring...a $500 stereo and lets her drive his new car and she doesn't have her permit or license) i dont know what to do!! someone please help!! since this is long ill rate u a 5!!! thanx!!! (link)
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ok..all g.f dates guys who are bozo's..and let's face it..they put them first.
good news..she will break up wiht him..trust me..you date a LOT of people in the next coming years.
I would NOT move in wiht them..for what happens if they break up??you are stuck...
At the beginning all people hang out ALL the time wiht the new b/f...eventually it tapers off.
BUT and I mean but..no one should CALL you a name..ok..you DEMAND respect..and if that person cannot give it to you..you walk away.
It maybe be that you walk away from your friend.
I had a freind that we wer e so close it was silly..but every time she got a new man..i was kicked to the corb..finally i jusr decided that i was worth more than that..and got some new friends..this will happen all your life.
she will not listen..all you can do..is either accept it..or not...but if youw ait awhile..i bet she will break up wiht this guy.
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I have a friend, sarah, and she has a boyfriend, john that I'm good friends with. Suddenly though, shes using me because her parents wont let her see john! i became some sort of lifeline, i call and she tells me what to say to john, she can be demanding, and im so f'ing sick of her shit. Should i ditch her? and also, i'm one of her only friends, people talk abotu her behind her back and stuff. keep her or lose her? any tips on making new friends? also, i dont want to end my friendship with john, he hanst doen anything wrong, but im sick of being used by sarah
thank you in advance, I'll rate you all
~Allysa (link)
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a real friend would not put you in this position. Plus she WILL eventually get caught..and You might get in trouble too. You might have to lose John if this all blows up.
I would join a bunch of clubs...bet think i did was to do that to meet people. You have the same interests (any kid of club not even the geeky ones) and you have an opportunity to hang out. Or if you get a job you can meet people there or even church activities...
There are lots of people out there to hanfg wiht. Hang wiht a good freind not just someone using you as a cover for thier b/f.
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ok i have this best friend kinda....she wasl ike my realllllly good friend all thru middle skool n shes a really good friend but she has been getting REALLY annoying...we still talk even tho we go to diff highskools now...but shes soo annoying!!!! shes the NICEST person ever tho lyke she would never hurt ne 1s feelings...but whenever i sign on she IMs me lyke the second i sign on and she ALWAYS talks about her boyz probs...and they r s0o0o long....EVERYTIME! i dont kno how to tell her that its annoying to hear about the same thing every time i sign on...i dont wanna hurt her feelings but its soo annoying! (link)
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if you never want to hang wiht her..you are going to have to block her im and avoid her..evnetually she will get the message..but to me..she will be hurt.
you have decided how much you can put up with..if it is that bad you have to cut her off..if not see her only once in awhile and do no answer her im....but she might just deserve your honesty..ok
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Hi, i have a friend who has bad b/o. I'm not that kind of person who can say "Would u mind putting on some deoderent?" I could never do that to a friend. I was wondering if anyone could tell me how to tell her without hurting her feelings. Please my b-day party is coming up and shes coming, i dont want to afend my other friends. Please, I really need some help. (link)
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man..i hate bo..go over to europe and whew...you never realise how good we smell.
Tell her you have tried this great new product...and that it is so amazing you bought her a bottle for YOu love it..that it smells great..if she uese it you win..if not..you either tell her or not..but let me tell you..if you are thinking it..so are everyone else..it might be cooler to be cruler for a few minutes..ok
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Okay well i recently went out with this guy that i really liked and he dumped me and we have been fighting for a while so yeah we have saying these horrible things to eachother. So yeah today i went back toschool and everyone was saying that he wants to go back out with me so one of my friends asked him if it was true and he said he wanted to talk to me and so I did and he said that he still liked me. So yeah lil did i know he has been going out with a psycho gurl ever since he dumped me. I kinda knew he was but he said that he broke up with her and that he wanted to go out with me and so yeah he has been asking me and so even though i want to its like i dont know and so his girlfriend came up to me today and said why was i tryin to take her man and i said that he told me that he broke up with her and she didnt believe me and so yeah she wanted to fight me and then i said no i wasnt gonna fight because it would have been 3 against 1 and my friends werent even there for me and so i got jumped and now they are very mad and i dont know what to do!!!!!PLZ help!!!! (link)
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oooo gilr watch out..she is going to take this hard..maybe he did not break it to her yet...she is mad and hurt..ok...(just think if it was you) but to me..she needs to have this OUT with the guy. Why is she wanting to hurt you?/hello he was HER b/f..so tell her..that she needs to talk to him..that this is about them..not you.
She maybe be super psycho for awhile..STEER clear of her..she will be on rampage for awhile..ok..do NOT walk alone..ok
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(16/f) Okay then. I told this guy named...let's say Joe, that I liked him. He knows and eversince, he's been acting werid around me. One day, he'll talk to me and its like he will never shut up, but other days he won't even look at me. I have never been more confused in my life over a friggin' guy. What is he trying to tell me? Should I stay away from him so not to piss him off or do I keep talking to him and let him have his little mood swings? Thanks in advance.
Signed,
Running around in confusion. (link)
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just be your noraml self..souns to me like he is confused..maybe he feels weird about you as you opned up to him..act casual..and if he likes you he will ask you out..if not..be cool..and go out wiht other guys..it will be HIS loss
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there is a guy that i have known for almost 6 years. I love him to death. Litterally. I cant stand it when I'm not around him. But the thing is. He thinks I cheated on him the last time we went out by sitting on my ex bfs lap. and he thinks that I kissed him because thats what he was told by my evil brother and parents. He doesn't trust me now and I can't get his trust back. I seriously can't stand it anymore. I'm like, about ready to cry just writing this. I love everything about him, the way he laughs, the way he smiles, his sense of humor...just..everything. And I want him back so bad. I can't stand waiting anymore. I have been waiting for a couple of months, waiting and trying my best to get his trust back. It isnt working and I cant stand it! I went out with this other guy to get over him and it didn't work. I can't just forget him because its hard with how long i've known him. and his sister is my best friend. He has me wrapped around his finger. I will do anything and everything he asks for. (not sex tho but he doesnt want that anyway) He doesn't tell me to do stuff and he doesnt know how wrapped up he has me. I'm in love with him but it doesnt matter to him. or anyone else. I'm the only one who cares how bad I have it for him. I have everything he has ever given me, all the notes, all the presents, the pictures, the memories. Its been a couple of months and I still remember what his kiss feels like, I remember how he used to rub my side when he held me. just, everything. how can i get him to trust me again and get him back............fast. or at least kinda fast. (link)
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why did your brother and paresnt lie to him??what is it about him they do not like.
To me sitting on the bf's lap was just not cool.
BUT..he SHOULD trust you above your brother and your parents...so am alos wondering why he did not.
Can you be his friend..maybe if you are his freind..hang out wiht him..he will see that you are serious. But NO flirting with other guys...see most guys are not cool wiht that.
So play it straight..be his friend..and when the opportunity comes up again..go FOR him//but I would still find out why your family totally did you in..and why he believed it.
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