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i know this is long but i REALLY REALLY need help......
there is a guy that i have known for almost 6 years. I love him to death. Litterally. I cant stand it when I'm not around him. But the thing is. He thinks I cheated on him the last time we went out by sitting on my ex bfs lap. and he thinks that I kissed him because thats what he was told by my evil brother and parents. He doesn't trust me now and I can't get his trust back. I seriously can't stand it anymore. I'm like, about ready to cry just writing this. I love everything about him, the way he laughs, the way he smiles, his sense of humor...just..everything. And I want him back so bad. I can't stand waiting anymore. I have been waiting for a couple of months, waiting and trying my best to get his trust back. It isnt working and I cant stand it! I went out with this other guy to get over him and it didn't work. I can't just forget him because its hard with how long i've known him. and his sister is my best friend. He has me wrapped around his finger. I will do anything and everything he asks for. (not sex tho but he doesnt want that anyway) He doesn't tell me to do stuff and he doesnt know how wrapped up he has me. I'm in love with him but it doesnt matter to him. or anyone else. I'm the only one who cares how bad I have it for him. I have everything he has ever given me, all the notes, all the presents, the pictures, the memories. Its been a couple of months and I still remember what his kiss feels like, I remember how he used to rub my side when he held me. just, everything. how can i get him to trust me again and get him back............fast. or at least kinda fast.
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u've got to talk to your parents and brother and get them to tell ur man that none of that stuff was true.. if it wasnt true.. why would ur brother and parents tell him that? just wondering.
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* Tell him what you just told everyone on here. Show him how much you love and miss him, and everyone deserves a second chance, right? ..Good luck <3
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ohh im so sorry i knoo how you feel..well not exactly..moving on...you have to rpove it to him..keep trying..and talk to him and tell him how you feel about him, i mean the guys gotta have a heart, rite? do you think hes over you? cuz mayb tht y he dont wanna like confront you about it..but lyke i said you have to talk to him and telll him tht your sorry for w/e you did..and tht you love him so much you wud never do nething to hurt him.. and if he dont listen..then prove it in actions..let him kno tht your not intrested in ne other guy but him. and you have to tell him tht if you guys are gunna b together..you can still have guy friends..but you wont do nething to them like you did b4..
hope everything works out! seriously:-)
raTe mE!
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WEll im in that same situation but im a guy, but you just have to keep telling him and try to prove it anyway you can, watever it takes, write it, tell him, go out of your way to do things for him, and keep telling him ur sorry and tell the real story make him listen if he dont, just let him know what he will miss if you 2 go ur separate ways. Im still trying to get my gfs trust back and its 6 months after the incident if ya wanna know more just email me watever.
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why did your brother and paresnt lie to him??what is it about him they do not like.
To me sitting on the bf's lap was just not cool.
BUT..he SHOULD trust you above your brother and your parents...so am alos wondering why he did not.
Can you be his friend..maybe if you are his freind..hang out wiht him..he will see that you are serious. But NO flirting with other guys...see most guys are not cool wiht that.
So play it straight..be his friend..and when the opportunity comes up again..go FOR him//but I would still find out why your family totally did you in..and why he believed it.
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LET HIM KNOW THAT!!!!!!!!:)
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Here are two things
1. he didnt care as much about you as you did him. so he doesnt want another shot at it with you.
2. it could be that the rumor or lie that everyone is telling him hurt him so bad that he doesnt want to have to go through it all over again.
trust is hard to gain back once it was lost.
Just keep trying...
If it doesnt work then it jsut wasnt meant to be.
There are tons of other guys out there. You will find someone else to spend the rest of your life with. You have got plenty of time. Trust me.
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well, is seems like your boy as some significant trust issues. what you might want to do is sit down with him and talk about your feelings, and why he has lost so much trust in you. tell him that you didn't cheat on him, and if he still doesn't believe you, then just make sure that he understands that it will never, ever happen (again...eventhough it never happened in the first place) if he loves you like you love him, or cares about you at all, he will understand where you're coming from, and you two should be able to work things out. maybe he just needs a little more time, but it should work out. if for some reason he won't trust you again, then im sorry to say this sweetie, but he's not worth your time. guys who get that jealous over sitting on a exs lap, or even just a kiss, have serious issues, and it can often lead to an abusive relationship. because you say you are willing to do anything and everything for him, it shoudn't be hard for you to get him back, once you talk to him. but if you do get him back, PLEASE make sure that you keep your standards and morals where they are, because once he realizes what you are willing to do, he could take advantage of that, and then you won't be happy either. be strong, and don't let him have all of the control. by talking to him about this, you have taken some of that control back. which is good. i hope this helped, and i wish you the absolute best of luck. i know how hard losing someone you love is, so i hope everything works out. keep me posted
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Tell him to give you another shot, everyone makes mistakes in life... but people have to help them by learning their mistake. You love him, obviously it's there. He's upset. and it's going to take a while for that pain of someone you love cheating on you, or thinking they did. Do things out of the blue for him, something nobody would ever think of. Do fantastic but odd things to stand out and make you more out THERE and noticeable, and show him that you would do anything for him. If you need anything else, feel free to ask me. Your question was amazing and i would love to help you.
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Wow! Certainly sounds like love to me!! But I think you have your answer right there in your own question. You see the way you expressed your feelings for him so perfectly,and so clearly? That's what he needs to hear.Sit down,and write him a letter,and I think some of the things you said in your question should be in that letter. Let him know that with the way you feel about him,it basically isn't in you to ever lie to him,no matter what anyone else says. Be as expressive and heartfelt as you were in your question,and if this guy is still feelin you,which it sounds like he is,he should be ready to talk things thru. ;)
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