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Q: im 15 and f ... there is this guy that was "really hott" and i had a big crush on him but finally i got over him because i realized that we are two totally different types of people, he does drugs sometimes and im one of the most innocent girls ever. But now a few months later we've been talking more just as friends and he's telling me he likes me and i dont know what to do because i do still like him but i dont know if its such a good idea we go out. please help im very confused.

All those advice were good but simple. Heres a better one. OK you said he does drugs right well if he realy likes you he would give the drugs up if you ask him to and he wouldnt complain. Your a girl and from a guys point of view you are very manipulative. You can get wat you want without the guy even knowing wat he agreed to. Noones perfect but the flaws can be fixed over time. Just remember that. hope it works out bye

Q: um hi. my ex-boyfriend and i broke up last year around june. he lied to me and stuff lik that, so i said dude i dont deserve this, and i walked away. but now that a new skool year has started, he keeps hanging around me and at dances he keeps telling his friends he wants to dance wit me. i dont know what to do because i really liked him and he rilly hurt me and i dont want to be hurt again. he says hes changed and hes sorry, but i still dont know. should i keep my distance? or should i try again?

Ok well if he says hes changed that means he wants you to give him a chance and that he could have seen how he was wrong and wants to make it up to you. Go out with him and secretly keep tabs on if hes changed from the last time or not. But on the other hand he could be lying but on the other hand he isnt. Go for it. Good luck with it.

Q: i have a boyfriend rite...well ne ways i went to a party and i kinda got drunk and things went to far with this boy...umm i should say his best friend and i really dont kno how to tell my boy and i really want to tell him but then again i dont want to tell him because i dont want to lose him...i will feel bad if i dont and i will feel bad if do. what should i do

female 17

Ok other than the post below mine the rest are idiots. You will lose both ways but you have to lose to win sometimes i know its weird but its true. See i went through about the same thing i wasnt drunk but i did cheat on her but i sat her down and told her that i loved her and didnt mean for it to happen that i was out of my mind and im sorry but if you wanna break up with me its your choice but ill never let you go and ill call you everyday to say i loved her and thats it nothing else and we are still together till this day. WE all make mistakes noones perfect. Good luck

Q: my best friend is a guy that i have always kinda had feeelings for. i want to get him a christmas present that shows him i care but doesnt drive him away. he is really important to me and my family, and i want to show him that. if i ruin it ill never live it down, he is truly one of a kind. any suggestions?

Well if you have pictures of you and him make ya a scrapbook and that should give the hint and you could put a lil card or letter saying that you have feelings for him to finish it off. But he might not feel the same about you right now so do take that into consideration unless hes showing you the same feelings.

Q: What do dreams mean? What about those that keep repeating themselves? Is there some kind of connection between dreams and real life?

Dreams mean something that will happen in your life but not necessarily the exact way it will happen. For example say u dream ur gf had a baby that might mean that you might have a baby soon. De ja vu youve seen it b4.

Q: okay .. well there is this kid and hes in my geometry class..that's how i met him and i'm a freshmen and he's a sophmore - well we sit next to each other in class and as the days went on we began to talk to each other and he always will take my pens/pencils/purse/book/notebook and not give it back . or if i'm doing work hell scribble all over my paper - after a while he started tlking to me in the halls ramming me in walls er lockers in a playful way - well, i think that i like him and i don't know if he does or how i can find out .. like it seems like it does and a couple people said they tihnk he does .. but i dunno if it's jst his personality .. so i wanna know how i can find out .. please help *i'll rate *

OK as a guy he really is still finding out as how to really flirt and treating you badly is how he is saying that he likes you and really wants you. Personality may be some of it but the rest is he likes you. hope it works out good luck

Q: I like this site and I goto to this site to try and give helpful advice or even to receive some, why is that people are such jerks on here? They give bad advice or stupid comments to someones advice!! And there will probably be a whole bunch of people who will give a dumb remark to this question! Why do people come an give stupid advice like "go kill yourself" or "your a loser" or some stupid comment! Honestly do these people get a thrill out of making fun of someone ? Why do these people sign up for this website if they are just going to give horrible advice? Does anyone agree? Doesn't it seem stupid and pointless?

Yes it is Stupid,this site is for real advice not smart answers, but all i can say is WHat goes around comes around so take that to heart all those who is replying stupidly and pointless im with ya see ya

Q: when im w. my boyfriend i am like on top of the world and i luv him alot..but then when i go home at night i have second thoughts and i get really confused on if i really do love him and if we should break up or not...what should i do because i dont wanna break up w. him when im w. him ...but i get so confused when were apart!

If your confused about the relationship then it usually means that your either falling for him or your trying to find faults in him to break up with him, if you love him truely true love cant be broken easily in a day it takes time and true love just dont pop up everyday that also takes time so choose wisely.

Q: my boy friend has been ubducted by the new game halo 2...he is obsessed! how can i get him back???

OK go over his house oneday and take halo 2 and make him go crazy over it for a week, then after that weeks up tell him you know where it is not that you took it, and he will forever be in debt of you lol good plan

Q: Okay well i recently went out with this guy that i really liked and he dumped me and we have been fighting for a while so yeah we have saying these horrible things to eachother. So yeah today i went back toschool and everyone was saying that he wants to go back out with me so one of my friends asked him if it was true and he said he wanted to talk to me and so I did and he said that he still liked me. So yeah lil did i know he has been going out with a psycho gurl ever since he dumped me. I kinda knew he was but he said that he broke up with her and that he wanted to go out with me and so yeah he has been asking me and so even though i want to its like i dont know and so his girlfriend came up to me today and said why was i tryin to take her man and i said that he told me that he broke up with her and she didnt believe me and so yeah she wanted to fight me and then i said no i wasnt gonna fight because it would have been 3 against 1 and my friends werent even there for me and so i got jumped and now they are very mad and i dont know what to do!!!!!PLZ help!!!!

Well get some guy friends and get them to stand up for you untill its over its not your fault he got smart and saw that you was the one he really wanted. Get people to help you if your friends left you there not your friends get rid of them and get some real ones. see ya lata good luck

or you could learn kung fu lol jk

Q: Ok so I've tried about four different legal, free ways to downlaod music but either they don't downlaod or I can't burn the music onto a cd. What do you think is a good, free, legal, music downlaoding program?

OK first of all its not illegal to download its illegal to share the music. Your free to download just not share it cuz thats taking money from the music industries. get kazaa but i suggest getting good virus and spyware programs first its loaded.

Q: there is a guy that i have known for almost 6 years. I love him to death. Litterally. I cant stand it when I'm not around him. But the thing is. He thinks I cheated on him the last time we went out by sitting on my ex bfs lap. and he thinks that I kissed him because thats what he was told by my evil brother and parents. He doesn't trust me now and I can't get his trust back. I seriously can't stand it anymore. I'm like, about ready to cry just writing this. I love everything about him, the way he laughs, the way he smiles, his sense of humor...just..everything. And I want him back so bad. I can't stand waiting anymore. I have been waiting for a couple of months, waiting and trying my best to get his trust back. It isnt working and I cant stand it! I went out with this other guy to get over him and it didn't work. I can't just forget him because its hard with how long i've known him. and his sister is my best friend. He has me wrapped around his finger. I will do anything and everything he asks for. (not sex tho but he doesnt want that anyway) He doesn't tell me to do stuff and he doesnt know how wrapped up he has me. I'm in love with him but it doesnt matter to him. or anyone else. I'm the only one who cares how bad I have it for him. I have everything he has ever given me, all the notes, all the presents, the pictures, the memories. Its been a couple of months and I still remember what his kiss feels like, I remember how he used to rub my side when he held me. just, everything. how can i get him to trust me again and get him back............fast. or at least kinda fast.

WEll im in that same situation but im a guy, but you just have to keep telling him and try to prove it anyway you can, watever it takes, write it, tell him, go out of your way to do things for him, and keep telling him ur sorry and tell the real story make him listen if he dont, just let him know what he will miss if you 2 go ur separate ways. Im still trying to get my gfs trust back and its 6 months after the incident if ya wanna know more just email me watever.

Q: i need ideas on how to convince a girl that i really do love her...so please give me some good ideas ill rate a five

Well ok dont be afraid watso ever to spend money is the first thing cuz it prolly will take some. But write it, sing it, write it in the sky, carve it in a tree everything that you can do to make her see it. all i can say bud

Q: Sorry this is long, i rate high though! :)

The guy i used to date over the summer on and off started REALLY hitting on me last night. He practically offered for me to have sex with him (dont worry, i wouldnt have sex, but i could tell he wanted to do something with me) Then he told off this person for me that was pissing me off. And he said i owed him one. And I asked what he wanted from me. And he said he wanted to make out with me. (Keep in mind this was online so we couldnt have made out right then and there) So i said ok, because i still have feelings for him. Then a little later i asked if he liked me, or just wanted to make out with me. And he said "I dunno, never thought about it..." What do you think about all of this? Should i go for it?

Nope dont go for it because he will tell you wat you want to hear just to get wat he wants, id find out if he really wanted me or not, or you could be in deep trouble.

Q: ok wut exacally do people means when they say friends with benefits??? my coach and my this girl on my teams brother say there friend with benefits but it's bugging me cuz i dont kno wut they mean by that!! help!!

OK its quite simple, Its friends that do stuff together but not dating, even tho you have a bf or gf they still do stuff together other than hang out like make out and watever else they want to do. Its a way of cheating cheating is all it is.

Q: Im 15 and I have been going out with this guy for about 2 days now. i have known him for like 4 months and we just started going out. i really like him a lot too! hes the perfect guy for me! his birthday is coming up this monday which is in about 6 days. but i have no idea what to get him if i should get him anytbing. i was thinking maybe like a picture of me and him in a picture frame that i can go buy. is that good? i need a answer sooooon! so thanks yall!

OK yes a picture of you and him would be a good gift or a scrap book type deal of a card with pictures of you and him doing fun stuff together, that would touch any guys heart, by the way i am a guy, most guys dont want nothing that costs a lot many of them want things that mean something to them from someone they love.;

good luck

Q: Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year. We have our own home and we are usually happy. BUT sometimes we fight. When we fight I get an urge that lasts a really long time. Sometimes I want to leave so bad, but I never do. How do I get the strength to leave somebody I love even if it is the right thing for both of us. ( I am 19 he is 27 ) PLEASE HELP

Ok Love isnt meant to be broke apart, you will never get that strength, i promise first hand ive had experiences, i cheated on my gf and we talked it out and when i said i might leave her i couldnt its just something that happens when ur in love,Read this bible verse it should help you.

Love is patient, love is kind, and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, 6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails; but if there are gifts of prophecy, they will be done away; if there are tongues, they will cease; if there is knowledge, it will be done away. 9 For we know in part, and we prophesy in part; 10 but when the perfect comes, the partial will be done away.

11 When I was a child, I used to speak as a child, think

Q: im a 13f nd i kinda like this kid but im not rlly sure. i thawt he liked me bak for a while but i dunno if he does anymore. he told me that he likes ma best friend laura nd that hurt soo bad, im not sure if hes just sayin that or not tho cuz i don think he knos i like him. hes sooo sweet tho. also sumtimes i think i like him nd then otha times im like no hes just ma friend. i rlly do wanna like him tho.

Well ok this is sorta a hard situation but heres my advice, Im a guy so i know this stuff, guys like making girls jealous because thats a way to get you to like them. Its a very manipulative strategy. Go up to him and ask to talk to him privately and talk is the best thing to do. If he does like ur friend then let him go for it he will come back to you after he knows ur feelings 99% of the time.

Q: ok im not really excited about christmas and i dont know why? i mean i feel like something is missing in my life or is it that im just getting older but i dont think that is true bc i like christmas and all but it just seems like it doesnt matta anymore.

OK if u belive in the christian faith, which i do, Jesus may be telling you that hes the one ur missing and that its nothing material that will make that feeling go away. If you ask him into your life and get saved that need will be met and you will feel complete.

Hope i helpd.

Q: My best friend is dating this guy that my entire group of friends can't stand. This guy has NO personality. Plus, he's mean to people. Do we say something to her or let her figure it out? (they've been dating for almost a YEAR!)

Dont ever break someone up unless the person agrees with it first. That would destroy your friendship cuz you would be at fault in her eyes. She likes him apparantly otherwise she would break up with him. If and when she sees that hes a bad person she will do the right thing but for now be there to support her.

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