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I have a friend, sarah, and she has a boyfriend, john that I'm good friends with. Suddenly though, shes using me because her parents wont let her see john! i became some sort of lifeline, i call and she tells me what to say to john, she can be demanding, and im so f'ing sick of her shit. Should i ditch her? and also, i'm one of her only friends, people talk abotu her behind her back and stuff. keep her or lose her? any tips on making new friends? also, i dont want to end my friendship with john, he hanst doen anything wrong, but im sick of being used by sarah
thank you in advance, I'll rate you all
~Allysa
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That isnt a very good friendship.. being used?.. dump her ass right now.. eventually youll get back together.. john wont be mad at you hell understand.. but boy does sarah need a reality check.. youre not her lil pet.. got it?
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a real friend would not put you in this position. Plus she WILL eventually get caught..and You might get in trouble too. You might have to lose John if this all blows up.
I would join a bunch of clubs...bet think i did was to do that to meet people. You have the same interests (any kid of club not even the geeky ones) and you have an opportunity to hang out. Or if you get a job you can meet people there or even church activities...
There are lots of people out there to hanfg wiht. Hang wiht a good freind not just someone using you as a cover for thier b/f.
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if she is only usin you for her bf then thats not a true friend and trust me girl you can do betta than that.you need ta let her know whats up otherwise she is jus gon keep doin it. if you talk ta her and she dont change then you need ta cut her lose whether she has other friends or not. it will teach her not ta use people like that. good luck suga ~*Alexis*~
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Well, i recently had a similar experiance. This one person used me all of the time and i didnt catch on at first and then it began to become clearer. It got really annoying really fast. But what i tried was not talking to this person for awhile and eventually it started to work (a little.) Then the same thing happened all over again and can ya guess?, same reaction too. What I've done is talk when im talked to but dont go into detail. Sarah will eventually realize that shes loosing a GREAT friend for doing all you've done for her for such a long time. She may or may not realize it for awhile and if and when she does, she might not think anything of it. So, its up to you, you can try to keep going along with it or just try well, not being right there all the time. Does that make sense? And John, just because you're not getting along so well with Sarah right now doesnt mean you should forget about John.
I hope I helped!!
Good luck with Sarah and John
XoX!*__* Katie
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She sounds a lot like a person I know and if you ditch people like that they will make your life a living hell. This girl tried to get everyone in my whole school turned against me because I told her my oponion.
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if she is a good friend, you should tell her whars going on and she should understand. if she doesn't , thhen give her time. if you want ot make a new friend, then just be yourself.
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hm, i definatly think you should ditch sarah. What she is doing to you isn't fair at all, and you shouldnt' be resonsible for her seeing john or not. She sholdn't be putting that pressure on you. If you see any good quialities at all in her, then maybe u can give her a second chance. But from what you say, about other ppl saying she is no good it seems to me like she is not a good friend. It is very considerate of u to have been doing this for her, and thinking abot staying witth her just bc she doesn't have friends but i think this is a sitatuon where you need to think about what is good for you. As for making new friends, maybe join a club, sports team or a class outside of school (art, photography,rec. sports team)..As for john, he will respect your desicion if he is a good friend and he will understand ur POV. Hope this helped , and that things work out for the best :)
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just tell her the truth about how u feel. if she doesnt understand than shes not that good of a friend..
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Tell your friend that your sick of being used.. and of course she'll say ohh im not using u i swear.. and be like.. well it sure feels like you do.. bcuz u ALWAYS come to me when ur parents won't let u do such n such.. and u come to my house so u'll be allowed to do it.. OMG! My friend did this to me.. and I HATED it.. Don't worry hopefully ur friend John will understand.. but damn.. tell that girl whats up! NO BODY deserves to be used..
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Come out and tell her how you feel! She probally just doesnt know! But if she doesnt change then stop hanging out with her! To meet new friends just start hanging out with them! Invite them over and just be really nice!
I hope I helped!
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Dear Allysa,
Been there done that..
I think you should tell her how uncomfortable this is making you. esp. since she is using you.. If you really want to shake her lose then you have to stop being avalible to her, so if that means avoiding her when she call's then thats what you will have to do, because the minute your friend gets in trouble, your name will be somewhere in it, and you will probably be the one paying for it..
Also tell John that you are out of it..It will make you feel so much better.
Dont ever be someone's doormat!
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Have you tried talking to Sarah? Once it is brought in the light that she is using you, she may apologize and you will still be able to keep her as a friend. Talk to her, its the best thing you can do.
If that doesn't work, then you can always just tell her that you aren't her friend anymore.
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