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Ms. Quisha staying in Indiana
known for her witty, yet "Tell it like it is" advice searched the web to embark on a way of sharing her advice with others, The last straw came on November 15, 2004 when she got tired of of being unemployed and realized that NOBODY can determine her destiny, she then searched the web and found www.advicenators.com and she has since then been satisfied!!

In her spare time she is single and loves to mingle in certian parts of Indiana & Chicago, known as the "Carrie" of her friends ( From Sex in the city) she is ready to share her heartbreaks,funny dating stories, how to maintain a healty relationship or how to downright dump a no good partner!

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Okay, Here is the deal. I'm usually good at givng myself advice, but I don't know what to do on this one. I like 2 boys. Corey and Charles.
I've known CHARLES for about 1 1/2. He's like a best friend to me and I told him before that I like him, but I guess he never really thought about giving me a chance. Charles is always making me laugh and I just love being around him ( I can be myself with him and he wont put me down). Corey, Well I like him too (ALOT).. although I've only known him since this year, But I've liked him since I first saw him. I always thought he hated me, and my friends would tell me that he thought I was ugly,( People say I'm not ugly though) and he hated me. That stuff was NEVER said. Him and I were in class one day and we were passing notes.. I asked him about the things people were saying that he said about me, he said they were never true, he also said that since he's gotten to know me that he thought I was cute and cool. So now, me and Corey are good friends ( I like him because I can be myself around him also, and not have to worry about being put down).. His EX girlfriend, Dylan, she hates the crap out of me, but I hate her with a passion too.. Corey said that when she moves he will think about giving me a chance. It's all really hard because I like both CHARLES and COREY. Not only because they're REALLY cute, but because of the way they are..the way they act. Anyway, I just needed help on what to do with this problem. I've always liked Charles, and now I'm starting to like Corey even more.. I know Corey likes me (cuz he told me on the phone, using the words, "I like you") but I don't know about Charles. I recently broke up with my boyfriend, Chris, so that I could have a relationship with Corey,( and cuz Chris cheated on me with my best friend) I would like to be with corey more than charles because I am comfortable being close friends with charles. It's all really confusing because I'm not sure if Corey still wants to be with me when Dylan moves. (like he said before)Corey told me he hated my best friend and I didn't like how she was treating me, so now I'm not friends with her.. and I wonder if it made Corey think twice about me.. I mean now I can finally be myself and not have to worry about people thinking I'm like my best friend, Vonna (everyone thought I was like Vonna because I always hung out with her)..So, What do you think I should do.. What do you think my problem is... should I try to talk to Corey and tell him that I really want to be with him. (I already told him tons of times that I like him no matter what anyone says, that I was always gonna like him, and I told him I couldn't wait to be with him).. I just dont know if he cares. I sent Charles an email telling him that I still like him.. and he hasnt responded yet.. so if Charles decides to be just friends,(thats fine, its better that way for me, friends with benifits) what do I do about Corey, cuz corey is the one I want to have to relationship with, cuz he's a good guy. Help me soon, please! Give me any INFO you can about my problem, anything that will help, I'm desperate to know. THANKS TONS
-CRYSTAL!- (15, Female)

Personally, I think you sound too confused, look at all the guy's you've mentioned! You just broke up with a boyfriend, then you started liking Charles, after saying how much you like Charles and how comfortable you are with him, you turn around and say the same thing about Corey, which is the same guy who told you once his girlfriend moves he would THINK about getting with you,Just take your time,You should not have to make the choice of being with them, If they liked you so much and have known you for so long, they would have snatched you up and made you their girlfriend, them telling you how much they like you, and showing you is TWO TOTALLY DIFFERENT THINGS!

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okkay i have this weird prob..i have a habit of biting the inside of my mouth..and i really wanna stop but its such a habit!! ne1 tips?
thanks!!

Sounds like a nervous habit, try chewing gum.. It may help.

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I have a friend, sarah, and she has a boyfriend, john that I'm good friends with. Suddenly though, shes using me because her parents wont let her see john! i became some sort of lifeline, i call and she tells me what to say to john, she can be demanding, and im so f'ing sick of her shit. Should i ditch her? and also, i'm one of her only friends, people talk abotu her behind her back and stuff. keep her or lose her? any tips on making new friends? also, i dont want to end my friendship with john, he hanst doen anything wrong, but im sick of being used by sarah

thank you in advance, I'll rate you all

~Allysa

Dear Allysa,

Been there done that..
I think you should tell her how uncomfortable this is making you. esp. since she is using you.. If you really want to shake her lose then you have to stop being avalible to her, so if that means avoiding her when she call's then thats what you will have to do, because the minute your friend gets in trouble, your name will be somewhere in it, and you will probably be the one paying for it..

Also tell John that you are out of it..It will make you feel so much better.
Dont ever be someone's doormat!

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Me and my girl freind have been going out for a while now i love her to death but i dont know what i should get her for christmas what would be somthing good?

I have know idea what she likes..

But if your money permits, how about a nice promise ring.. she will love it!

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There is this guy in three of my classes and almost every single class he says things like
"I like you"
"I love you"
"You have pretty eyes"
"I'm gonna call you my boo"
and "You're so nice"
but most of the time when he says these things he says it in a dorky joking kinda voice, and I like him. We're pretty good friends and we flirt a lot but I don't know if he's serious or not. Is he?

I cant tell you if he is serious or not, but what I can say is that he is ready for you to stop blushing and let him know how serious he is, It seems like thats his way of letting you know that he is checking you out.. So, the next time he say's something tell him you dont know if he is serious about what he say's and if he REALLY means it, to look you in the eyes and say it without sounding dorky! and you will have your answer.

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i have been crying lately soo much bc i feel like im losing my man.. i kinda broke ^ with him idk what to do anymore... when i think about it i cry bc it makes me sad i love him 2 death man.. idk what to do anymore can somebody help me!!

Sweety,

You broke up with him... so it had to be a reason why, I understand you love him, but if he was making you cry more when you were with him,then maybe its better to be without him.

Nobody likes to face that they are about to break upbut maybe you two are growing apart.. (Trust me that's a good thing)

But if you really want to make it better wait until you are both able to talk, tell him how you feel and if he still is acting funny, then you have to move on!

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ok my dad has a girlfriend... thats ok with me....but like everyone hates her me , my bro, everyone except my dad... i have told him about it so many times but he doesnt listen and he wont break up with her....am i supposed to hurt my dads feelings and lik not hang around her... the only problem is that my dad is lik never home, so i only get to c him wen i c her...i really dont think its fair....i need help this is ruining my life!

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i need serious help

My question What's the reason you dont like her?

But my advice is to at least respect her and if she isnt right for your father, he will eventually see, but you not liking her isnt going to have him break up with her.

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Im 15 and I have been going out with this guy for about 2 days now. i have known him for like 4 months and we just started going out. i really like him a lot too! hes the perfect guy for me! his birthday is coming up this monday which is in about 6 days. but i have no idea what to get him if i should get him anytbing. i was thinking maybe like a picture of me and him in a picture frame that i can go buy. is that good? i need a answer sooooon! so thanks yall!

A think a picture frame is good, but how bout allowing him to put his favorite pic. in there.. or even better... Buy two cupcakes ( For you and him) a nice card and have someone take a picture of you two celebrating his birthday! and it can go in his frame..

Good luck!

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ok there is this guy and i like him alot and i went out with him for 6 mouths about and we broke up and he is going with another grl now and he cheated on her with me a few times and he tells me he loves me and he likes me and sweet talks me but i cant resist i love him and he would dump his grl friend and she would get him to go back out with her and she is on some drugs and she well kill her-self and wrestling season just started and he is on my team this year but her is two years older that me and i know that im going too see him every day and i dont no what the hell to do and the grl he is going out with was on of my best friends befor and now she hates me so what should i do???

First BREATH LOL,

My best advice to you is to know your worth!
If he really and truly wanted to be with you, he would be with you!

He is sweet talking you because he know's that you dont turn him away,but for some reason he only looks at you as "the other woman" You mentioned that he cheats on her to get with you... well, guess who ends up alone in this.. YOU!!!

I can understand that it may be hard to face him everyday,but if you realize how valuble you are you will move on quicker!

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i dont know if i fat or skinny... my brtoehr always get made fun of from my brother being fat but all my friends say adriane ur skinny...but idk what do...im 13 and i wear 14 slim cuz im short but idk...what should i do or think?


signd,
confused

Dear Confused,

Love yourself regardless of what anyone is saying to you, Its up to you about how you feel about yourself and what you see in the mirror.

Being 13 is a rough time, but it will be much smoother if you learn to love things about yourself, dont ask people what you should think about yourself,because they dont complete you.. look in the mirror, take a deep breath, smile and Love yourself!

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I like this guy Max and i think its weird that I have never met him, but I catch him looking at me. I try to not believe it and think its my imagination. Like today i was working on something at school and and he was in the classroom next to mine and so as I was working I looked up and caught him looking at me and we locked eyes for a split second and then he looked down...was this my imagination? I HAVE NEVER MET THE DUDE! How can he look @ me?! I mean, i dont think i'm that attractive...HELP!

Dearest Max,

You have to realize your beauty in order to know that anyone is looking at you..Im sure you are very attarctive and he probably isnt the only guy checking you out... The next time you see him looking at you, be nice and wave.. It may just break the ice.

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