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I'm thinking of it...
Well I've known this guy for about 2 years over the internet. (I met him through a friend who met him 6 months before me) We've talked on the phone, sent letters, pictures, webcams, and all of that, also I've talked to his family and friends so that I know everything he says is true. I've told him that I love him, and he says the same to me. When he gets his liscence, he was going to come and visit me. We only live about 5 hours apart... Yeah, we've had our ups and downs but i still love him, even though we're not "going out" or anything. I know he's had sex once before with his ex girlfriend of a year. I would have sex with him, but I'm still a virgin and I think I'm too young. He's not pressuring me or anything, it's something I wanna do. (Please don't lecture me about it, I know, I also don't need inappropriate vulgar remarks thrown at me for this) He's 16 and I'm 14, but I'll be 15 by the time he gets to visit. I just need some help on what to do to make me feel more open with him. I guess I just feel intimidated because it's not his first time. (It's also not like I've never done anything sexual before, just not sex itself) Please help me out with this.
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most of these ppl are idiots not everyone is a stalker ok? if you really love him i say go for it but be careful about having sex ok? im not sayin dont do it im just sayin take care if you do ok? hope i help ya at least leave me a comment you dont have to rate!
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There is a lot going on in your question. First of all, you are in love with someone you have never actually met. There is so much potential for you to be hurt here. In his emails and online chat messages, he seems like the perfect guy-- everything you've ever wanted. You can tell him anything, and it seems like he knows you better than anyone else. Right? Please keep in mind that right now he is a total fantasy. A person can be witty, brilliant, kind, warm, cool, sexy, etc. in emails, and be a complete dud in person. Before you meet this guy, try to give yourself a dose of healthy skepticism. Maybe you are a match made in heaven, but you will have no idea until you meet him in person.
As far as having sex with him is concerned, I think you have given yourself a great answer here. You said you would have sex with him, but you think you are too young. Good answer! Take your time! You are going to have a lot of opportunities in your life to have sex. Maybe it's going to be best for you to really take your time and know someone so well that you know absolutely for sure that you are ready to have sex with him. That's when you'll be ready for your first time.
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ummm you met him on the internet and even tho you have talked to his family u didn't say you've even met him at ALL... so i wouldnt even think of having sex with him that's a stupid question
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well my friend went through that too! she just hung out with him... he was quiet and shy at first, but he warmed up quickly. Just hang out... movies, mall, pool, recreation center, skating rink, lounge/club, parties/raves, etc etc... don't make uncomfortable small talk. Just smile, act normal, flirt and talk about regular things, then maybe just randomly make out. Or you could get drunk on your first visit... *not joking - like I said I'm basing this on my friend* that always opens people up right? Anyhow... I suggest waiting one to two months before you suggest having sex... unless of course he suggests it. Good luck! :)
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oh ick...ooooooh ick. you LOVE him?! you're so..gah! There's not even a word for how dumb you are. He's a manwhore looking to get some..and if i were you, i'd be a little worried by the fact that he has to hit on girls two years younger than him who live 5 hours away!!!
do not have sex with him!!! and if you do, then i hope he has lots of std's and you're vagina rots out of your body.
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well dont force urself and if u have strong feelings for him then do what u like is rite but u also need to make sure hes the 1 and hes not fake or phony
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see the first time should be the best time..and usually it is not. See you will remember this all your life even when you are ancient like I am. and trust me..i wish my firt time..WAS not waht..it was.
But if you do love..him..and you cannot imagine life without him..well it is up to you.
See your body is your own..so you will know when it is right.
i do admire that he is not pressuring you..but being long distance well..he might have another life that you do not know about.
i would go vivist him at HIS place and scope him out..then make a decision.
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first of all, you need to meet this guy face to face. it's really easy for people to say things over the internet that they don't really mean, because they can't see the person's reaction, they think the reprocussions of what they say are less than what they really are. after you've met him, and get to know him as a person...like a real person, i'd suggest taking things really slow. don't jump right into sex. make sure that you really like the real him, and that he really likes the real you. once you decide whether or not you really like him as a person, then you can consider taking the next step. i would suggest against not having sex because like you said, you are too young. sex is a really intimate thing, and as ready as you think you may be, at such a young age it's hard to grasp everything that's involved in it. but, now that that's said and done, if you do decide you want to have sex with him, make sure you are ready. if you still think you're too young, don't do it. no one's forcing you, so just wait until you are ready. if you are ready, don't worry about the fact that he's not a virgin. if he loves you like you say he does, it won't matter. it will actually probably be better because he knows what he's doing. i hope that helped, and let me know what happens!
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Tell him that!!! He's your "LOVE" You shouldnt be able to hold back from that. You have to speak up! say whats on your mind. Because he had sex before doesnt mean ANYTHING! Im a VIRGIN Too i have dated alot of guys who had sex. Just dont be afraid to say things, or ask questions. He's the one experienced he can help you feel more open and answer all your questions. If he truly loves you he wont think anything different of you. BE OPEN With him. He seems pretty open with you.
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Before you even consider having sex with this guy you need to meet him face to face and take things really really slow. It may seem like you know everything but you might not. It would be so much easier on you if you dated someone that lives in ur own town and not 5 hrs away. Sometimes things get sticky and you never know what is goin on wit the other person when you are that far away from each other. No matter what you do good luck. ~*Alexis*~
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I think you need to have a couple of real live, face to face dates before having sex. Get to know him even more and be sure that he is THE ONE!! GOOD LUCK
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*emily*
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