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I'm a mom of two, who has had her share of problems, and likes to help others with their own. I love helping people, and knowing that I can make a difference. I can't help with everything, but I'll always try to make people smile and just feel good about themselves. I've had more than my share of family drama and problems; what with my parents coming from two different and clashing cultures. I've also moved around a lot and had to deal with changing schools and all the trauma of making new friends and fitting in. I'm good with questions about friends, relationships (love, family..you name it), tough decisions, technology, and other weird random questions.I'm a great listener, but I make sure to understand both sides of the story as well.
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Well, ya, having your email would be awesome, because the friends that i have are kinda not good with situations, and they are kinda the type of people that act blonde i guess you could say.
Thank you, and i will write to you, when later about the whole thing.
Hev
weell heres my email adress, and my aim sn too. (in case ud prefer chatting through aim.)
awwal.wa7da@gmail.com
baskoooota
and i really do hope things get better for you. :)
Whats better as just a laptop to use for personal use for me, a mac or pc?
I used to own a Mac, and now I have a PC. PCs are much more user-friendly (in my opinion), but Macs are much better as a computer. Although they are a bit hard to get used to.
So if you're looking for something that will be easy to use then go for a PC, if you dont mind taking some time to figure things out then definately go for a Mac. :)
I'm considering getting a circumcision since I heard it is less likely to get STD's. The only problem is that some of my friends said that getting a circumcision makes your penis smaller. I don't know how since it is just getting your foreskin cut. Is this true or not?
nope doesn't make it smaller, but it does make it cleaner (or so i've heard).
but i dont think it has anything at all to do with preventing STDs.
i'm really shy and i have been for like ever.
i'm always known as just the "shy one" and i'm really sick of it. im not shy in front of people im comfortable around and people that im frends with, but im shy around big groups of people and just cant get over it!
i really wana b outgoing and everything even in front of people i dont really know and in front of large groups, but how?
please helpp!!!
WOW! scary...its as if I wrote that question. All I can say is you have to face your fears, and try to force yourself to feel comfortable around people...in time you won't have to force yourself. :)
im getting a haircut and i wana know if you can understand it and if it's good:
parted to the side, bangs to the end of my ears, hair to like 1 and a half below my shoulders, the very top layer to my shoulders, and another layer in between the two, so i'll have 3 layers.
is this too confusing? and if it is, please rewrite it so it's not confusing.
and, is this a good hairstyle? because if it isn't please tell me how i can change it.
also, i have straight hair, so just imagine this w/ straight hair.
this does sound like a very cute hairstyle, but what it depends on is the shape of your face.
i have layers. but when i put my hair up all of the shorter pieces fall out. if you know what i mean. what can i do to stop this??
get small hair clips or bobby pins and clip the shorter hairs up. thats really the only way to fix that, nothing can be done to really stop it.
ok... i have a boyfriend.. and we have been dating for like a year and a half.. he started to act a little funny around me.. and i found out that his parents are fighting and thinking about goin their on ways..
but there is this other guy that likes.. me.. and i kind of have feelings for him too....i dont know which one i should pick.. i think i should stay with my boyfriend but my feelings are all messed up... what do you think i should do??
I think its possible that your thinking about this other guy because your not really getting the attention you want from your bf. I dont think you should break up with your bf right now because that would just add to the stress. right now just be there for him, and when things get better for him and between you guys then if you still dont feel the same way about him let him know that, and move on. but right now he needs you.
Okay. So I have this friend, well we're not really friends anymore, but I guess you could still say we are civil. We used to be best friends until we got in this big fight. Her birthday is coming up...Do I get her a present or no?
Yes, definately. You guys had a history and just because you aren't as close as ou used to be doesn't mean you should stop giving presents.
ok so their is this boy we can call him j and i REALLY like him. i am thinking about going out with him but my parents would freak out because hes mixed (white and black) and im white. their not racest or anything. they just disagree with me going out with a black/mixed/any race other then white person because they think that putting mixed children situation is wrong. i of coarce STRONGLY disagree! i think that it shouldnt matter what race you are. so as i was saying i want to go out with j but should i really go agenst what my parents say AND not tell them im going out with j?
what should i do??
please HELP!
First of all, what you just described is racism. To have a problem with you going out with someone because of what their skin color is, is being racist. Anyways..to answer your question; I'm all for respecting your parents and what they tell you to do as long as it isnt morally or legally wrong. Maybe you should try talking with your parents about it. Explain to them that you don't agree with what they are telling you, and that you might be interested in dating people who aren't white. Let them know that you do respect their opinion, which is why you are coming to them, but you also have your own opinions and ideas on how to live your life. That might get them to respect your decision, and also feel less betrayed if you ever did go out with j. If it doesn't work, and you really like the guy then I guess go behind their back.
At the moment i just dont get on withh my parents at all, my mum in particuallar.
I used to think i didnt care, if we had an argument i would either lock myself in my room and play loud music or ignore them and not talk, as a sort of revenge type thing.
I thought i just wanted to get away from them. But now ive realised that i dont, that i want to be close to them, i want it to be like it used to be, when we got on well and had fun.
I cry sometimes because of this and its really getting me down.
Im 13/f.
How can i be closer to my parents and have a better relationship with them?
Communication brings people together. So talk to your parents, be polite, respectful, kind, and interested. They are your parents after all, and I'm sure they are just as sad as you to see their precious daughter pushing them away. Talk to them and everything should be alright. :)
I'm 18/f. My boyfriend's birthday is coming up in june (he's turning 21), and I had the idea to throw him a really cool party, but I have a bunch of options right now and I'm not sure which to go with. My first idea was to have the party at his house (surprise party), and involve his parents.
Thing about his parents is I don't think they really like me, and I'd like to win them over, so to speak. I think if I went and talked to them about it, they might like me more...well, this might actually go in another question...anyway, I could throw it at his house and involve his parents a little bit, but then it'd have to be a dry party.
I could also get some of my older friends to help me out and make it a wet party, but then it couldn't be at his house, and it might cost more.
Money's not much of a problem right now, but I don't wanna like, splurge, so I can't like rent a place or anything. Yannow? It'd have to be at a friend's house or something.
So I guess I'm asking if anyone has ideas and/or opinions.
Lemme know!
Decent spelling and grammar, please. They're important. If you TyPe LyK dIz, you're not getting a five. =D
have the party at is parents house, and get them involved. let them get an image of you being a good an responsible girl, one who doesn't condone drinking. ;)
and even if it was a dry party...surprise parties are ALWAYS fun. and this way you'll be killing two birds with one stone; getting his parents respect (hopefully) and throwing a fun (reasonably priced) party for your bf.
First off i'll give 5's for anyone even considering to read my dream :]
KSO I had a dream about this guy I like.
The guy that i'm i like with came over to my house and helped me babysit my siblings. But i've never even talked to him before and even at my house we still didn't talk. But we kept on looking at each other and smiling and just staring at each others eyes. Then we went to the living room and sat next to each other and watched the tv. Then I started playing the piano and he was watching me and I told him "im not very good at this so don't be surprised when it's bad." and he said "That's ok with me." But before i could even start to play my brother interupts me. Then before i start to play again my sister interupts me. When this is happening he starts laughing and smiling and so do I. Then after them 2 leave before i start to play again, he says to me "Well I better get going now..." He gets up and walks over to me and then gives me a big hug and whispers in my ear "I love you.. Maybe we should hang out more often and see where this is going because i dont want to stay just best friends with you." But we're not even best friends. So I say back, with tears in my eyes, "I love you too and dido." Then he gets up and starts walking to the door and i say "don't say that we're not gonna be just friends we're going to be boyfriend and girlfriend." and he just smiles and says alright and walks on out.
After that i felt verrry happy and in love, then extremely nervous and then i felt a strange tranquility wash over me.
I had a heart drawn on my hand and i just looked at it and smile and then my alarm went off and my dream ended.
What could all this mean? Please help!! 16female if that helps any..
Dreams dont really mean anything concrete. The best description of a dream is from Cinderella (haha) "A dream is a wish your heart makes". You obviously like this guy a lot, and your dreaming about what you wish will happen. The dream doesnt predict the future, and it doesnt mean you will end up together. Only your actions can guarantee that, so if you want him that badly you might have to make the first move. :) Good Luck!!
I live in baltimore and im mostly jealous of half of the girls at my school. Most of them dress better then me, look better then me, get my boys then I do, and all around have a better life then me. People always tease me about not looking right...or not dressing GOOD ENOUGH for their like. I tried killing myself...it didnt work, i just feel unloved and unwanted. Sometimes i wished i could just be them...and live the live they live there just perfect as hell! I started prosituting to feel wanted by boys...and for a while it was good and after some time after people starting finding out and calling me a hoe I guess i found out what's wrong with it. But, still now i love attention from anyone and i love making people laugh. and i HATE everything about myself...i feel ugly. I never feel pretty and people always tell me im ugly or what's wrong with me and i always think about it and then it sticks to me...and i hate myself more and more. People tell me dont care what people say but its hard, when your in my shoes. Everyone is just living this good life...and noone understands how i feel...and the boy that i like the most wont go with me but he would go with this other girl. (I guess she's better then me too.) Please someone help me! I dont want to feel this way anymore.
Your 13 years old, you still have your whole life ahead of you. A lot of girls go through an awkward stage during this time. If your really feeling so down you should talk to your mom, and maybe even a therapist. and NO therapy is not jut for crazy people, it really helps to talk and they could help you out with your self-esteem problems.
i have to write something like an essay for school on songs that describe me when i'm feelign certain ways. it has to be a popular song, that's on the radio, or from an artist that people know of. i need songs that could describe someone for when they're:
angry
sad
happy
just waking up
please help!
sad i listen to sad songs or songs that remind me of people that are far away from me...like
how do i live by Trisha Yearwood, here without you by three doors down, listen to your heart (dunno the ppl who sing that one), and a lot of songs by Kristian Leontiou.
kelly clarksons behind these hazel eyes
happy mood any song that i can dance to...like
hips dont lie by shakira and fast beat songs similar to that one
angry...sad songs ( a mix of my happy and sad songs)
Happy Ending- Avril Lavigne..and others by Avril
also kelly clarkson's Since you been gone and behind these hazel eyes
hope that helps :)
Well, i have been having it rough lately in life, and i am getting to the point, like now, to where i dont want to be here anymore, as in Yucaipa!
Yucaipa is so fricken gay, and how people are is gay too!
In Yucaipa it is not like most places, because in most places, there are not people that hang out in groups. Everybody almost everywhere else hangs out with everybody. Dont get me wrong, i have a lot of friends and know almost everybody in the school, but there are not many people like me, that like to hang out with everybody.
Also, at my dads house, i kinda live the cinderella story except for, i have a dad, but i dont have a mom! I have two step sisters, but one is cool and one is not! Anyways, i could go on about my household, but i need to get to the poin, because lots of people dont like to read the long ones.
Well, my step mom is literally psychic and she uses it to harm me, and not to help me, and i just barely found this out like a couple weeks ago, and it is scaring me, to the point to where i cried all night long.
My step mom wrewened my whole life basically to. She cheeted with my dad which made my dad cheat on my mom, and then my mom dies, and she talks crap about her. She is such a BITCH!
Anyways, i dont know what to do, because i really want to live with my sister, which i live with on the weekends, but i dont want to hurt my dads feelings, even though i really dont even know him very well, but still was forced in his power, to live with him.
Does anybody have any ideas for me to leave and live with my sister, i hate living there, because the things that i would see my dad do to my mother when i was younger, and my step mom is crazy.
I really need help, please!
I'm really sorry that your having such a hard time with everything. I didnt really understand much of what your saying (maybe you could send me something with a little more detail so I could help you out better), but from what i did understand i really think you should sit and have a talk with your dad and with your sister. Maybe your sister first, to make sure she would be alright with you living with her, and then both of you could go to your dad and talk with him. I don't know if he will agree with allowing you to live with your sister (most dads i kno wouldnt) but you really need to let him know how your feeling. He's your dad and your his daughter, and he will (or should) always put your feelings ahead of anyone elses.
and if u wanna tell me a longer version of the one above then juss let me kno and ill give ya my email address...I really hope things do get better for you.
I have lived in my town for 8 years of my life and now my family is probably moving to a town about an hour away. when we move i'll b a freshman next yeAR( I'm a girl by the way) i don't know how i am going to possibly make new friends!! How do i talk to people and not seem all shy and stuff? I want to make new friends right away, but HOW? i need help!! Also when we move I'll have to break up with my boyfriend that i love so much. How can i deal with that too? I'll rate i promise!!
Well the bright side is you get a fresh start where no one knows you, which can be really great because it helps you to grow. Another good thing is that your moving while your just starting high school, so you'll be in a high school with a bunch of other new freshman. So most likely, they are going to be thinking the same things you are "how i am going to possibly make new friends!!". Just be yourself and you should be fine. Also sign up for after-school activities, and groups/activities during school, that is a great way to make friends with people who share the same interests as you. :)
I know moving sucks!! I've moved at least 5 times, and it is very hard. But, there are lots of benefits to it, just keep and open mind and think of the good things that come with moving!
hope that helps!! :)
im not just here for the rating. Wehn you ask a question and you give the honest answer and you answer the question they asked. Why do they rate you a one.? Is there anything to do about them rating you a one when you deserved something like a four or a five?
the people who do that are not looking for an honest answer. they are looking for people who will give them the answer they WANT to hear. When they don't hear that answer they get pissed and rate you a one.
i wrote something here not to long ago here about my school and how much i hate it. i tried talking to my mother. she said that she knew how much i hated the school. but my school isn't just a high school... it has like every grade. but, i still wanted to apply to another high school last year because i hate my school with a passion. so, last year, she got the applications for me, and i started filling them out. the day they were due, she said that she wasn't going to submit the application..... so, i got stuck staying in this hell hole with a bunch of snobby people where the tuition is 20 thousand dollars a year and the stupid fucking headmistress won't even build us a gym or a cafeteria! but, builds everything else
i want to go to another school! so, today, i was talking to her and she said that she was going to call the headmistress and have a meeting with her and tell her that i could not attend her school anymore and that she would make my dream come true to go to another school and be a cheerleader. i dont understand what her problem is. 20 thousand dollars is a lot of money that we don't have! the only reason that i am able to go to this school is because of finantial aid! i cant pay a thousand seven hundred a month! and then, she suddenly changes her mind again after out! the people here treat me so badly and i don't know why. they all can't stand me and i don't know why. im a really nice person.
someone please... what can i tell her to get it through her head and have her take me out of here.. PLEASE!
It must be a good school education-wise. That's the only reason I can think of as to why your mom won't let you change schools. If you really feel so strongly about leaving it, then you should sit down and have a long talk with your mom. Explain to her in detail why you dont like the school, and also ask her to tell you why she doesn't want to let you change schools. You never know, she might have a good reason that you aren't thinking of.
I had something quite upsetting happen to me today. Well I had been looking forward to getting a birthday gift in the mail from my out of town bf. He even phoned me last week and told me that I would be receiving a small gift in the mail. Well you know the feeling when you're really looking forward to something? Imagine my disapointment when I opened my gift and it not only had no card; but was a cheap detachable glasses holder for my car that looked like he spent a measly 5 dollars at the most on. He also enclosed a cheap car antenna decoration of a canadian flag. I was SO disapointed because I put so much thought into his birhtday gift. I can't believe not only did he not write me a message in a card but the gift he gave me was SO tacky. I actually thought when he left the message that I would be getting a SMALL gift that it might be jewellry.
My question is am I overreacting? I know they say it's the thought that counts but judging from the gift he gave me he put hardly any thought at all.
Oh; before I forget it you're thinking he might be broke and not have a lot of money; he just bought a brand new chevy siverado truck so I know that's not the case.
AWWWWW.. i know how your feeling! the same thing happened to me, I was expecting something amazing, and instead got a reallllyy ugly piece of costume jewelry.
I'm sure your boyfriend wasn't tryin to be cheap or thoughtless. he was probably thinking that everytime you use the glasses holder you'd think of him or was just trying to buy something practical. unfortunately guys can't read minds, and most of them have no clue as to what a girl would like for a present. and i dont think you're overreacting, just next time give him a little extra help. :)
my guy friend is a little chubby and short, but he`s really sweet, and he knos i go on the site all the time and he asked meh to ask you all what does he need to do to get a girl to like him. ne ideass??
girls can be cruel...i shud kno since i am one. he shud just be himself, and be patient because there will be plenty of girls who are mature enough to see past the looks and like the guy inside.