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upset with bf's birthday gift
I had something quite upsetting happen to me today. Well I had been looking forward to getting a birthday gift in the mail from my out of town bf. He even phoned me last week and told me that I would be receiving a small gift in the mail. Well you know the feeling when you're really looking forward to something? Imagine my disapointment when I opened my gift and it not only had no card; but was a cheap detachable glasses holder for my car that looked like he spent a measly 5 dollars at the most on. He also enclosed a cheap car antenna decoration of a canadian flag. I was SO disapointed because I put so much thought into his birhtday gift. I can't believe not only did he not write me a message in a card but the gift he gave me was SO tacky. I actually thought when he left the message that I would be getting a SMALL gift that it might be jewellry.
My question is am I overreacting? I know they say it's the thought that counts but judging from the gift he gave me he put hardly any thought at all.
Oh; before I forget it you're thinking he might be broke and not have a lot of money; he just bought a brand new chevy siverado truck so I know that's not the case.
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AWWWWW.. i know how your feeling! the same thing happened to me, I was expecting something amazing, and instead got a reallllyy ugly piece of costume jewelry.
I'm sure your boyfriend wasn't tryin to be cheap or thoughtless. he was probably thinking that everytime you use the glasses holder you'd think of him or was just trying to buy something practical. unfortunately guys can't read minds, and most of them have no clue as to what a girl would like for a present. and i dont think you're overreacting, just next time give him a little extra help. :)
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I know a lot of girls think that us guys are on a different page and stuff. But I don't see whats wrong with the gift.
He got you something that you can use for your car AND an antenna decoration for your car.
You could do a lot of things with that.
But I guess he should have gotten you a card with a message in it.
If you don't like the gift. You should next time let him know what you want.
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He has one excuse....he's a guy!!!! Unfortunately or fortunately, depending on how you look at it, men are on a totally different wave-length than us women.
My sister always complains that her boyfriend buys her socks, garden stuff, and everything that HE is interested in. He thinks practical...what could she use...not what does she want. That's just the way he thinks.
In your boyfriends mind, he probably thought .....she can get a lot of use out of this...when you're thinking...uumm this isn't a necklace or bracelet.
I'm lucky with my husband...he's very romantic, and does buy me the gifts that I like and want, but he is few and far between.
With all that being said, I wouldn't take his gift as a "insult" or anything...I would be happy that he sent you a gift at all...and that he even remembered it was your birthday. It wouldn't hurt in the future to drop not so subtle hints about what you like.
Good luck, and take care,
Brenda
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I wouldn't automatically assume that he didn't put any thought into it.
Sometimes people aren't very good at buying gifts, and they might try and figure out what "they" would like to have if it was them on the receiving end.
Since you said he just bought a new truck, he's probably in every automotive department in every store he goes into, looking at all the vehicle accessories going "This is so cool! Maybe I should get one of these! Wow, look at this!" etc... Maybe at this point in his life, nothing could be cooler than car accessories. ;-)
While it may have been a bit short-sighted on his part, he probably meant well. Though telling you it was a "small" gift was a rather bad idea, because 99% of all girls will automatically think "jewelry" on that. But he's not a girl, so he doesn't think that way.
Also, jewelry, to a guy, might symbolize "commitment" of some kind. You say he's an out-of-town boyfriend... How long have you been going out? How often do you get to see each other in person? (or did you just mean he was temporarily out-of-town?) What kind of relationship does he think you have? He may not want to give you jewelry because he doesn't want to give the wrong impression. Just a thought.
Bottom line: One person's "Tacky" is another person's "Wow! Cool!" ;-)
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