Hi everyone... I've got a Psychology degree so I like to think that i know a bit about how people think and why they do the things they do- maybe i don't know a thing, make up your own minds! Also i work with a youth group of girls aged 10-14 so that helps too! Anyway ask me anything no problem too big or too small and I'll do my best...
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ok.. this guy at school likes me and i kinda like him. But he said he might ask me out. The only thing is that he has a reputation of being a jackass and doing stuff with girls. And i always see him like hugging other girls and stuff. SO even if i was going to go out with him i would be nervous bout it cuz all the stuff above makes it look like he might cheat on me. what should i do?! PLEase hELP! (link)
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You should only start a relationship if you think that you will be happy. From what you've said it doesn't sound like you would be happy as you would always be nervous! Considering this, maybe you should give this guy a miss- after all you don't want to get hurt. Good luck
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is there anything that helps minimize strech marks?
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Yup cocoa butter twice a day!!
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Okay...well...I'm a thirteen-year-old girl and I like a guy. He gives off all of the signals that he likes me as more than a friend. One problem:
He's eighteen.
I know I can't be with him at least at the current time, whether he likes me in that way or not, but it just hurts sooo badly. Worse than I've ever felt about a crush.
Why do I feel this bad, and what can I do to get over him, if there's anything I can do?
Has anyone experienced this?
Thanks for any advice you can give. (link)
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He's being wrong in giving you those signals he shouldn't be doing that he's an adult. Have you considered that you are lusting over him more for the simple reason that you can't be with him? The grass is always greener on the other side after all. This is harsh but you're going to have to be really strong and face that nothing is going to happen here. It will take time but honestly you will look back and wonder why you were hurting so bad. It will be ok!!
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ok well i got a boyfriend and he goes to my school and hes like in madly love with me and i dont rele like him anymore bc i think i found someone else...i met him at this ichthus thingy church camp and he goes to a different school and i see him every sunday and i think ive fallen in love with him!! and he likes me and we talk on the fone and everything and me and my boyfriend dont talk on the fone its at school and online nowhere else...but i just dont know what to do i just dont really like brian anymore and if i break up with him he'll have all his friends askin me why i dumped him or he'll be mad at me and i just dont no what to tell him!! HOW SHOULD I BREAK UP WITH HIM WITHOUT HIM BEING MAD AT ME!! ughh its all crazy ...but the thing is...kevin (the boy i really like) is moving at the end of the year!!! ahhh im so confused should i stay with brian even tho i dont rele like him or go out with kevin bc he likes me and i like him and then he moves at the end of the year and stuff HELP ME PLEASE!! -ashlee- i will rate u all 10s if u help :( (link)
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You shouldn't be with anyone if you don't want to be. It's not only unfair on the person you're going out with but it's unfair on you. End it with Brian you'll be so much happier. It is difficult ending it with someone but it is worth it- say that you just don't think it's working out and you'd be far happier being friends. Yeah everyone always uses that line when they're splitting up with someone but thats because its true! And if his friends give you a hard time just tell them what you told Brian. As for Kevin listen to your heart. Don't let it bother you that he's moving away- live for the moment and if you'd be happy with him then go for it! Good luck
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ok, all of my friends tell me just to make the first move on my boyfriend. but if we're in the movies, how am i supposed to just start making out with him!? HELP! (link)
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Maybe start by putting your hand on his leg and looking into his eyes and smiling at him? That should do the trick! If he doesn't get the message from that and start kissing you you might just have to take a deep breath and lean in towards him because bless him he must be really shy!
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... i love my boyfriend and never want to leave him .... its just sometimes ... i dont and i want to kill myself because he never seems happy with me ... he get irritated and even slaps me sometimes. But i dont want to break up! Please help ... I dont know what else to do
~ Hurtin' on the outside (link)
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Should you really really be going put with someone who is violent towards you? This could possibly be why sometimes you feel like you don't want to be with him. You know its wrong to be with him when he's violent but you're still in love with him. Sometimes it's best to be really strong and end things when there's a situation like this. You deserve so much more than a bloke that is violent towards you. Good luck
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This morning, I woke up and I noticed there was a tiny white dot/ball on my upper eyelid. It kind of hurts when I move my eye. Does anyone know what it is and how it got there? How do I get rid of it? (link)
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It's a sty and they're really irritating! Just go to the doctor and they'll guve you something that'll clear it right up- not a problem!
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okay well ive had really bad lower stomach cramps for like the past 4 weeks or so... i got my period like 2 weeks ago adn then i just got it agian last night-- im really scared bc i dont know what could be wrong--could this be some sorta probelm?? or should i just like not even worry about it (link)
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Seriously don't worry about it periods are always mucking us all about it sucks!! I always hear about weird stuff like that happening to everyone i know and it all sorts itself out in the end! If it carries on for a long time though you could always pop to the doc's to put your mind at ease!
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(17, f)This summer I am going to babysit my ten-year-old cousin, because she doesn't want to go to the local daycare. She lives far away, not so far away that I can't do the job, but far away enough that I only usually see her twice a year. My problem is that I can't stop thinking of her as a little kid. That's just how it is my mind, for some reason. I want to treat her like she's more mature, but still somebody I am responsible for. How would I do that? (link)
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I work with a youth group where some of the girls are ten and i know exactly what you mean! It's difficult to treat them as older than a little kid but still be responsible for them. What i try and do is talk to them quite informally as if im talking to them almost as if they were the same age as me (within reason of course!). That way they gain your respect (and actually like you) and are less likely to do things like misbehave. If they do misbehave you then need to be quite stern with them and let them know that you are in charge but if they're well behaved you can have a laugh together! It works for me! Good luck
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I have dated this girl before (I am bisexual, I am also female). She cheated on me once, but at least told me. Then I left her, and then about 4 months we went back out. Now we are on a break again. I am waiting 'till she gets her car, but the problem is.. I am not sure if I can COMPLETELY trust her. What do you all think?
I really love her.. she makes me so happy.. (link)
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All relationships should be based on trust and thats the most important thing. Without trust in a relationship there will always be problems of some sort. So just bear this in mind when thinking this through! You may really love her but you could find someone who you really love AND trust and wouldn't that be so much better? Hope it all works out
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When should girls start to wear tampons? (link)
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As soon as you first get your period you can start using them! But really whenever you feel comfortable really!
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Okay well i have been on a diet for about a month now. I have lost 10 pounds. (I'm pretty big so i'm nowhere close to goal weight.) I was wondering if anyone had any tips to speed up the weight loss? And also, I know it takes time, but no one has even noticed that I lost weight so it is starting to really get to me. It is very hard to stick to a diet but I am doing it and no one is even noticing! Some people still make fun of me and it gets discouraging. Does anyone know what I could do to just block out what they say until I lose all the weight? (link)
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Wow ten pounds!! thats so good! Because you were pretty big to start off with it may not be so noticeable to others but don't be put off by this. If you can lose ten pounds in your first month and you keep on going how you're going think of how much weight you'll have lost in two months time? Then people really will start noticing! Just bear this in mind everytime you feel a bit disheartened as you're doing so well and it'd be a real shame if you gave up on it just because of what a few ignorant immature idiots are saying! As for if there is anything else you can do, I'd say just keep on going as you are you're doing fantastically! Good luck with the rest of the weight loss
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Alright, well I have been going out with my boyfriend for a couple weeks now! Well somehow him and my friend got into a conversation about like doing stuff. Not her and him but my bf and me. He said that he was going to do something, like finger me I guess.. at this thing we went to together but he heard that I didn't want it to happen and she said that he should just do it. Well I have never been fingered before and I guess she thought it wasn't a big deal. And usually things for the first time are a big deal! So I don't know what to do.. I am scared of what is going to happen like what should I do and what is it going to be like and like.. yeah I shave I'm just nervous that it'll be maybe prickly or like weirdish down there. Could someone help me out?? :-) thanks! (link)
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If you're worried about this then have you thought that maybe you're not ready for this yet? Seriously give it some thought. To be honest, when the time does come for this (hopefully when you feel really READY for this) he won't mind what it's like, he'll be far too conscious of whether he's doing the right thing i promise! So don't worry about all that. Good luck and be safe
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1. well i was wondering if a girl that is 15 turning 16 in 2 months is going out with someone that just turned 25, could that someone go to jail?
2. what if the girl is not a virgin and the cops find out and they try to accuse the boy and she denies it could they file charges???
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If your boyfriend is sleeping with you then yes this is illegal in America as you're under 18. Therefore , it may seem really unfair but yes he could be charged and end up in jail. Hope it all works out ok
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i went to my boyfriends hometown (arkansas) last weekend and he was all over me and then one day i snapped at him (yelling) on accident and i think he took it defensive because now he is snapping at me and he isn't all touchy feely with me these past two days now that we are back in missouri! and he noticed that i yelled at him cuz he told his mom that i did! and he hasnt really been himself around me these past two days and i dont know what to do! should i apologize for what i did? or what? i am a 14 year old young lady and i dont know what to do! (link)
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I think you should probably apologise to him. Just say that you really didn't mean to snap at him and you're really sorry and you know that you were in the wrong. Say that you miss him being himself and it's made you realise how much he means to you! I'm sure he'll be fine about it if you're just honest with him! good luck
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ok i had sex with a condom like at the beginning of april. im not susposed to start my period until the beginning of may. but every morning for like that past week my stomach has felt just a little bit upset in the morning and a little into the late afternoon. but my bobs dont hurt and im not throwing up and im not smelling anythign unusual. and i just got over having a really bad sinus cold. so should i be worried or not? please help me guys!! (link)
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If the sex was protected and the condom did not split its quite unlikely that you're pregnant. Feeling sick could possibly be put down to you feeling worried about all this! Don't worry until your period is due and if it doesn't arrive then maybe take a test just to be sure if you're still worried. Don't worry too much
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im bpored in my studyhall class does anyone know some good quiz sites
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http://www.i-am-bored.com/ is excellent if you want quizzes click on the link down on the left and theres also funny games and pics to look at and its updated all the time so there's always something new to look at!
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i would like to know if there are any exercises to help me gain hip definition? i find that my body shape is like a ruler, i hardly have any curves! i'm not overweight, nor am i skinny but is this possible first of all? i know there are exercises to get rid of love handles like side crunches, but is there any way to add muscle mass in that area instead? (link)
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Basically, you will never be really curvy because you've been born with the genes that give you small hips! However, one possible way you could try is by trying to define your waist a bit more so that your hips look wider than they do at the moment. One way you could do this is by taking your hand over your head and bending slightly over to the side, then bringing it back and repeating 10 times on each side twice a day. Its really effective!
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I won't explain how but I got a bottle of fake tan thrown over me by one of my friends while I was wearing a bikini I didn't think much of it because I thought it was a crappy one and wouldn't work. I wake up this morning and I'm covered in huge blotches of tanned areas and yeah I look pretty dumb.
Does anyone know a way to get fake tan off?
I've heard a way before but I forgot, lol.
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Well there's two possible ways- either exfoliate exfoliate exfoliate which will take a couple of days for it to fade. Or you can get fake tan remover which you can find on the shelves right next to the fake tan. If you don't want to go shopping yourself send someone else who can get it for you! good luck
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is it possible to get pregnant the very first time u have sex, and don't wear a condom? (link)
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Absolutely- DO NOT listen to anyone who says this is not possible. The best thing to do is to go and get a pregnancy test asap. Good luck i hope it all works out ok
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