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there really isn't much you can say to shock me. i've seen and heard a lot, so if you need help, don't be afraid to ask anything. i'm amazing at answering anything to do with sex.. so ask away =)

oh and yes.. that is ME in the picture. it's my halloween costume: a mile high captain!

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i need some advice here... i'm kinda freaking out.

graphic, sorry.

anyways, so im on the ortho evra patch and i'v been on it for a while know and well last month i accedentally forgot to change it and went 2 days with an old one on and my period was like 5 days early and my period was like 10-11 days, hell i know, trust me. and well it was like done after about 6 (normal for me) but the yucki brown-end-of-the-period stuff went on forever. then finally it just stopped and i was like okay sweet. im on patch #2 for this month and i changed it on monday, and since like sunday night or monday morning i started getting that yucki brown stuff again and i dont know why and its really kind of scaring me. I had sex with my b/f on that friday, we dont use condoms because im on birth control and well.. to be honest i do NOT want to be effing pregnant. idk why i would be tho? you don't spot or bleed if your pregnant do you? please help.. i dont want to go to the doctor if its something stupid like my period wasnt done coming out or something haha. write back asap!! i rate high.

yes you can bleed or spot when you're pregnant but not everybody does. it's most likely just old blood coming out, because your body gets rid of stuff it doesn't want.

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hey ok well i am 15 and i am in love with ym best friends little sister. i have known her my entire life and i have never thought of her as more then just like a litte sister i guess but her bro is like rele protective of her how do i ask her out without making him pissed and risk hurting my relationship with either of them or theirs with eachotehr?

talk to your friend about it. you should definitely ask him about it before you ask her. he could feel betrayed and would probably get realllllly pissed off if you did that behind his back.

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um. my boyfriend was fingering me the other day and he ripped.. i think it's called a urethra.. that thing above to vagina... it's been bleeding for a few days now and i have no clue on what to do.. and i don't know if this is a bad thing or a good thing. pleaseee help lol..

it's not a good thing that this ripped, if it's really serious then you might need to go see a doctor. other than that, it should heal on it's own but until then you'll experience some pain when urinating and such.

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how do yu give head pointers?

uhm... i'm not quite sure of what you're asking me. if you want to know how I personally give them, then personal experience. if you want to know how to give them, you can read my column and somewhere on it is instructions for giving it.

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ok look it has been about 5 weeks now that i had sex.. well i didnt want to.. wat happended is that my brother had one of his friends coming up and im 13 and the guy was 17.. and wen i went in my room he was on the bed just sitting there and starring at me. he told me to come over and i did well he started to kiss me.. and wen he did all i said is that i just wanted to kiss.. but he started to touch me down there and i was scared i pullrd bak and said dont i just wanna kiss. and he said ok well we started kissing and he did it again he was kinda forcing himself on me well then it lead to ''''sex'''' i dont no if i should tell someody about it i mean i did it but i didny want to... help

that's called rape. tell your parents or a trusted adult such as a school counselor. this guy needs to get in trouble for what he did.

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this guy n i are really close n we both like each other, although were not together, and were ready to take the next step. *sex* is what were wanting from each other and im nervous and scared. im nervous because i dont want it to ruin our realtionship and im scared because im a virgin n hes not. what should i do?

if you're nervous and scared, then you really shouldn't be having sex. you should have sex when you're fully confident and you can deal with consequences.

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ok im looking for the LONGEST LASTING makeup out there. (and not to expensive either)

I need foundationn

longest lasting foundation is Clinique.
eyeliner is Estee Lauder.
turqoise eyeliner you can get from MAC.

sort of expensive, but completely worth it.
these products last a really long time.

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ok i'm 13/f and i love this guy so much and we're really good friends but thats all he thinks about me and he has told my friends that he only wants to be friends but i don't think that i can do that.i know i shouyld get over him but i really do LOVE him and its killing me that he doesn't feel the same way. what should i do? i'll rate 5

it might hurt you if you stay friends with him. that would be a constant reminder of what you don't have. maybe you should tell him directly how you feel, and not have your friends talk to him for you. say that it's hurting you that he doesn't feel the same way, so he can choose to date you, or you're sorry that you can't be his friend anymore. if you need more help then drop one in my inbox.

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whats the fastest way to get rid of a white head(like a pimple)

you should wash your hands, pop the pimple, wash your face, and then put an acne cream on it. don't put toothpaste on it because it can really dry out your skin and make it look worse. hope i helped. :)

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alright.. not to gross anyone out, but i have a question. so i'm 15 & sexually active & have been for about half a year. well, me and my boyfriend stopped using condoms but when we dont, i guess you could say i "spit it out", but im not talking about with my mouth. i'm wondering, does anyone know why i do that?

what goes up must come down. i'm 15 - sexually active - and on birth control so me and my boyfriend don't use condoms all the time either. you can have your guy pull out before he ejaculates, or you can just take a shower afterwards or use a babywipe to clean up. hope i helped. if you need anymore help drop one in my inbox. :)

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I am almost 15 and i have only had one real relashonship with a guy. it lasted about a year.
all of my friend have great boyfiend relashonships. but i don't, the only advice they can give me.(is to be the one to move first.) well i gess im a old fashion girl. i like the guy to ask first.

you're still young. trust me, somebody is out there for you. as for the old fashion girl thing, don't ask the guy out, just ask him to hang out. then become friends.. blah blah.. whatever. just make sure he's interested and that he knows you are too. then leave it up to him.

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Do you think its wrong to be bisexual?

nope.

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I'm a virgin. I thought I would start out with that.

I am 15 years old and I masturbate sometimes. But the thing is, after I do it, I feel really guilty and stop and don't do it for about a month.

It feels good when it's happening but after, I feel sick to my stomach.

I have never had a boyfriend and I'm not sexually active at all besides masturbating.

People say it's normal but it's not really publically accepted for teenage girls.

I just want to know if it's normal how I feel.

i'm a 15 year old girl, and i masturbate. there's really nothing wrong with it! you shouldn't feel guilty after you do it, it's okay.

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ok. im 14/f. still a virgin and ive been thinking about having sex with my boyfriend. like when he hugs me from behind he'll just start humping me. and i know i tell him to stop but i like it. l.o.l. and he always puts his hands up my shirt. and i like it. but im ashamed of my body. i know im not fat...but i just think i am. i think my legs are at least. but... i dont know what to do. and i dont think thats all he wants from me. but i dont know....i masterbate alot and it feels good. and i want the real thing now but i dont know about it tho.
please help me.

if you have to ask, then you can't possibly be ready. you saying you feel fat, you aren't comfortable with yourself. you should be comfortable with yourself first, because this person is going to see your body. if you don't want them to see, then you're not ready for it. i lost my virginity at 14.. and it really sucked. i wish i would've waited, even though i've been dating the same boy for over a year. masturbating is normal, it's just your hormones. if you DO feel ready for sex; then go for it. you have to deal with your decisions in the end, though. make sure you are safe and use a condom if you do decide to. hope i helped..

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i have these little bumps on my nipples. my mom said they were just like pimples, but yeah, they're not going away. and they're gross. well, not really that bad, they're just little bumps, weird huh? anybody know anything about this? should i go 2 a doctor?

it's not gross. it's totally normal. all girls get them. :) if your mom isn't worried about it then you shouldn't be that concerned.

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*this may be kinda long sorry! but thanks for taking the time to read this*
*well me and my ex boyfriend "mike" have been broken up for 9 months now! we talk about once a day or sometimes every other day! we have hung out quite a few times..and this is where the problem starts
*last night he came over and picked me up at my house around 10! he lives like 30 mins away from me so the whole time we were driving he was just kinda flirting with me..like making fun of me and stuff! well we were going to his friends house to get him and then gonna go bowling but his best friend was there and he doesnt like me so we didnt go there..instead we just went to mcdonalds! he kept asking me if i wanted something but i said no! well he got something and while he ate we sat in his truck and just talked..he kept staring at me and i was like what and hes like can i not look at you! and he kept calling me turtle lip which is what he called me when we went out! well then we left and went to his house and i started playing with my hair and
he was like whats wrong? i was like nothing and hes like what are you thinking about and i was like nothing and he was like dont lie to me i know better..well i didnt wanna talk about it! so we get to his house and he undoes his seatbelt..he looks at me and goes do you think it would really work out? i was like i really dunno and he was like honestly and i was like i dunno maybe! well i told him i was cold so he moved the thingy in the middle up and came and cuddled with me! well he was rubbing my feet for a while and he knows i love that! then he layed his head on my chest and was listening to my heart beat! well then he looked at me and was like can i bite your lip and i was like why and he was like i want to so i was like sure..so he did..then he layed his head on my chest again and just stared at me and was like can i kiss you so i was like i guess so we kissed! and that happened quite a few times! he kept trying to hold my hands and hold me in his arms! well i got up for a sec so he laid in my spot! well i was like fine ill go in the back and he was like no lay on me so i did! the seat belt thing was in my way so i went to the back..so he came back there with me and of course we cuddled and ended up messing around! weve hung out several times before this and weve never touched eachother like that or cuddled/kissed or anything! well then it was 1:30 and his dad was like you need to take her home! ya it seems awesome i know..but heres where it doesnt make sense! today he was on AIM and imed him (he was away though) and i was like you know things are gonna be hard now cause i cant get over him at all..and he signed off so i was like what the heck! so i got on myspace and he was on so i was like whatever cause sometimes it just leaves it on! then again later i got on it and he was on it again but he wasnt on AIM so i felt like he was avoiding me! so i called him and was like why are you ignoring me and he was like im not im watching a movie ill ttyl so i was like whatever! and he hasnt been on AIM all day..sometimes hes not but its kinda weird! i dunno if its just me or if hes ignoring me! i guess my question is what should i do? let go or keep trying? keep in mind he is my 1st love but i have been trying for 9 months.. how do you think he feels? do you think he really likes me and is scared to tell me or fall me or what? ughhh someone please help me! thanks so much

i don't really know how this guy is feeling, but it sounds like he just wanted a hook-up. like, a one-night thing. if he's your first love and you guys dating.. and you haven't cuddled/kissed? that doesn't sound too promising. i don't know how old you are, but usually couples at least hug and cuddle and junk like that.

he is ignoring you. he's lying because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings and most likely does not want a relationship. i don't think that he likes you and is afraid to admit it; i just think he doesn't like you that way.

it's best to move on from guys like that. it really sounds like he wanted in your pants for that night only. because he keeps ignoring you and he may feel awkward about what happened.

if you need more help, drop one in my inbox. hope i helped. good luck!

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okay so im going to hang out with my crush and just incase it gets a little far..um do guys like it shaved "down there"? please help fast!! and what are good ways to shave so like i dont get red bumps

most guys like it shaved. anyways; to avoid getting red bumps, don't shave against the hair. shave the way the hair grows, not against it. that really cuts out the majority of the irritation. be sure to use shaving cream if you have any, because soap can be a little bit drying.

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what are common expressions that you say to the person you love or husband/wife

something like,

You are the _______ in my ________.

or

You put the _______ in ________.

Ive heard those before but I cant remember what the words are.

I need something like that to say to my boyfriend for our anniversary. THANK YOU

you are the sun in my sky.

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arlight.. I was just curious..how can you really tell the difference between spotting and your period? my boyfriend& I are sexualy active..we always use a condom..and I was just put on birth control a few days ago. I'm using Estrostep, and doing the one day starter, meaning I started taking the pill the day I got my period& so forth. I took a pregnancy test and it came out negative..but I know they aren't 100% accurate..also, there is only alot of blood when I wake up in the morning, but during the day there's barely any..

1. am I spotting from the birth control or is it just a really light flow because of the birth control?

2. how can you tell the main difference between a really light flow and spotting? would spotting just be little drops?

sorry this was long:D thanks in advance!

birth control usually doesn't fully work on your periods until after your first month of pills. so, your period being light is most likely not from you just being put on birth control.

it's good that you use a condom, but just remember that even though you're on BC now, it's always safer to keep using a condom.

spotting is usually darker, and only a little bit of blood. a light flow would be a decent amount of blood. enough to tell it's your period, at least. all girls' flows are different, so it's hard to tell you exactly what to expect. it really depends on your body, and the nutrients and stuff it has. if you're really active, you might have a lessened period as well.

the only way you can know for sure is to talk to the doctor that prescribed your birth control. they will be able to talk about your menstrual flow and what you can expect.. how long it takes to affect your flow.. etc.

hope i helped. :) drop one in my inbox if you need to.

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i want to have sex but she keeps making me wear a gorilla suit witha hole cut out for the crotch and its too hot and sweaty and theres no ventilation what do I do

i think you should stay off of my advice column, nick. and buy me some damn donuts.

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