HI!!im caramella,id love to give advice for those who need it.You might not always like my answers but i dont care about ratings,cuz if i tell you something you want to hear all the time,and i get rated high and you end up making a big mistake,rating aint gonna solve the problem then.I want to tell you guys to think before you act and look before you leap in order not to make misttakes,if you have made mistakes NEVER regret it,regrets are a waste of time and happiness and wont change what happened,BUT it will give you expereince and teach you not to do it again and refine your future^_^regret over wasted time is more wasted time.
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I'm really interested in finding out...what's a rule that you've set for yourself that you plan to abide your whole life long? Just list any form of wisdom you could pass on. I love being inspired. Thank you! (link)
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education is the base of life
with it,people will respect you when you come to work anywhere,you will be able to talk to people and not sound stupid,you will be able to get a real job,you will be able to have a LIFE,a future,children that look up to you as a role model.Im not just talkin about education in school or college,im talking about other type of education too like politics,history, love IQ,and that stuff.
without education,when i die,noone will remember me or know me,theyll just forget me,we need to leave something for people to remember us by,if you were a doctor and you cured cancer patients free or if you were a lawyer that got an innocent person outta jail,or if you as much as planted a big garden for people to walk through
you will be rememberd aand all that comes down to EDUCATION
my other rule is that religion is one of the other most important bases in life,cuz when you die,its your good deeds that will get you to heaven,i beilive in islam with all my heart and i think thats my other rule,never let go of religion
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No one understands me. At all.. I cannot talk to my Mom okay?? It's just not that easy. Through school I try so hard to be someone, loved by teachers, known by friends.. I mean I have friends and most teacher love that I get awsome grades but my Mom doesn't. It seems like she couldn't careless if I dropped dead. I came home early from camping because I had my periode and my Mother tweeked saying schools not everything (love story**summer reading stuff like that**) Well it is to me. Im a staright A student and my mom could careless. I mean if my brother Scott actually got a D she'd be SOO proud! I know people might say she expects more out've me but everytime I do my best she ssays I could do better, or to try harder and she acts like im not her daughter. (link)
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well you have to talk to her,i know its not easy but trust me thats the only solution,you need to get it over with before you explode of how angry you are at her.She doesnt really care about you being an A student,OFCOURSE SHE DOES,but the thing is that shes USED to you being the smart kid that gets the high marks,she already is proud,shes just taking it for granted,thats what my mom does,i get the highest marks and i tell her and she goes....yeah,uh huh lol i know she cares but shes just used to it.And your brother,mabey not that smart and always fails,when he gets a D or just passes,shes proud cuz she sees improvment!and school is almost everything,its what you build your future from.TALK to her and tell her how you feel about the other things,you say noone understands you,well how are they gonna understand you if you never speak up?!?!
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Ok so i have this boyfriend and we get into aguements alot. He tells me that im stupid and retarted. sometimes he even calles me a stupid bitch, dumb ass bitch, or jus plain bitch. he says that im tha problem and that im always getting him mad. Im only 15 and my friends and familly say leave him but some say dnt if ur happy. Im tired of heareing that hole "theres more fish in tha sea" cuz thers really not im in love with him not anyone else. I dont know wat to do anymore im in love with him and want to spend tha rest of my life with him but not like this..
Please someone help me wat do i do????
-shawttii (link)
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wow.Ok the problem with you and your guy here is that when the relationship started you guys didnt show eachother respect.Love is like a building if not built on a strong foundation and stable ground will collapse on who built it,MEANING that loves gotta be built on its BASES,what are its bases you ask,RESPECT,trust,affection...and your problem coulda been that in the beggining you allowed him to call you small things like...stupid,crazy and that stuff,it might not have seemed like a big deal but small curses get bigger if you allow the person to call you that.Its like when you first make a new freind,when you joke around at first,shes not gonna say"you crazy ass bitch" but start off with something smaller then eventually shell get to that hahaha
what you need to do is tell him that if he doesnt show you some respect then youll break up with him cuz why the hell would you be my guy if im a bitch??guys dont like bitches,well,being in a relationship with them.and make sure that if you curse at him,to STOP.because you need to treat people the way you like to be treated.
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Latley I've been so obsessed with - and depressed because of - looks. And I finally figured out my reason for feeling so bad. A guy. Pathetic, yes I know. I want this guy to be so proud of me that he wants to walk around the mall with me under his arm so he can show me off and people can envy him. I want to be his main pride. I want him to feel so lucky I'm his. So I've been killing myself dieting and searching for the perfect look. Now I have 2 questions..
1) How do I prevent this from happening EVERYTIME i like someone? I would like to be able to have a crush without hating myself..you know?
2) What makes a guy proud to show you off? Is it all about the nice ass and skinny body? Or is it looong curly beautiful hair that gets other guys attention?
I know he thinks I'm pretty (atleats I think so, otherwise he wouldnt even bother talking to me right?) so its just a matter of making him feel like he's got something others want - ME!!!
How do I do this? (link)
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your problem could be that you put your hopes up WAY too high when you like a guy,if he as much as talks to you or compliments,you take it the other way as in*omg he likes me* compliments and him talkin to you dont always means he likes you.Stop daydreamin tooooo far and too much,im not sayin dont,im sayin dont let it get far to the point where its all you think about,make sure he likes you first if you want to daydream 24/7.You want him to brag about you,but you cant make him,he has to like you man,you gotta find that out first.Its great that your dieting and trying to lose weight to get his attention BUT your also doing this for YOURself not just for him,so if things dont work out between you two,dont stop dieting!!well that answeres your first qquestion of how to have a crush without becoming obsessed,lay down on the daydreams and love songs.Question 2,if he brags about you he should brag about how he loves you or how you have a bright personality THAT is you know he has pride in you,if he brags about you as in *damn my chicks got a hot ass* and stuff bout your body then he could possibley think your a slut so dont expose too much skin.Every guy has his own personal opinion in what kinda girl they think looks nice,but all guys have the same opinion in what sluts look like so take care.
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I'm 14 and i've never had a boyfriend. I don't really care and I don't obsess over it or anything but if I do ever get one any time in highschool I wouldn't want to do stuff like being fingered or sex or blow jobs and all that...
is that weird? I just don't think i'd feel comfortable doing any of that. I wouldn't have a problem with kissing though..
I'm scared i'll never get a boyfriend just because I don't want to do any of that stuff. (link)
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You are not weird at all i wish high school had more people like that.Your just wise and mature and you have a personality.Other peeople usually go off doin that shit cuz they feel pressured by their freinds and when they do it they regret it.Look,no girl stays single forever.Youll meet alota guys in your life man.And if they dont understand the fact that you dont want to do that stuff and they pressure you into anythin dump them.Youll meet more then one guy and fall in love more then once.Pateince is the key man,wait and one day youll have a guy that desserves you
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okay well my mom saw my myspace pictures of me drinking and smoking and shes mad and she said im grounded for a month but thats like all summer and were going to have a talk when i get home and i dont no what i say do lie or what can i say"? (link)
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tell her the truth,if you do drink smoke and all that shit,why are you afraid of saying you do?Your mom needs to know what you do and now that shes already seen the pics,you cant possibley say it wasnt me.She knows now,dont lie.Just answer her questions honestly and tell her why and what you think about what you do.
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I met this guy and he and i have been flirting ever since we met. we hit each other with pillows etc,. i definitely feel something with him.. i don't know how to approach it. i was talking to him the other day.. and was about to tell him i liked him... when i froze.. then like an idiot i texted me and told him i liked him then. next day we talked only a couple of seconds online.. but he said nothing. i don't know what to do or say or act. i'm now in a really bad mood and don't know what to do!
i really like him... he is very shy and he won't even tell his friends about it.. he says he's "shy". HELP! What should I do without being to pushy? (link)
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I think he got the message that you like him man.Dont keep sending him messages sayin you like him or youll end up in one of the three conditions im about to tell you....1)your freindship isnt gona be the same because it turns out he might not feel the same way....2)hell take advantage of you liking him.....3)your gonna make him uncomfortable..since hes shy and he isnt gonna talk to you
just wait and see,mabey he does like you,he could be gathering the courage to tell you,like you said,he doesnt even talk to his own freinds about it.
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i hope this doesnt offend anyone. my family is catholic, but i live in a place where almost everyone is baptist. all my friends go to this one really huge baptist church. and i guess at this church they believe that catholics arent really christians and wont go to heaven. i know people have different beliefs and im fine with that. but sometimes people will say stuff that really hurts me. like once i was showing my friend and her mom my baby pictures and there was a picture of me in my baptism gown. and her mom started telling me how my church is wrong to baptize babies, and how shes so glad her daughter was baptised the "right" way. and then last night i was at a sleepover and there was this girl there that i didnt know. she asked me what church i go to and when i told her, she said "oh. well, catholics arent the strongest christians." there was this big silence and no one said anything for a long time, and i didnt know what to say. i dont blame people for believing what their church and family teaches them, but i dont understand why they have to say mean things that would hurt someone. and i dont know how i should react when people say that kind of thing to me. has anyone been through something like this? and how did you handle it?
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well im muslim and i totally TOTALLY understand how its like to have people insulting your religion and how bad it hurts...my reaction?kick their asses!!You shouldnt let anyone get away with making fun of your religion!Everyone has a right to beilive what they want and follow whatever religion that convinces them and you need to shut people up and dont stay quiet when they do this because if you do,theyll only go on and will think that you dont really care.AND U DO CARE!!so from now on,anyone that criticizes your religion...dont critisize theirs,your not as low as them and you never will be,just tell them to shutup and that at least your not gonna go down to their level by making fun of their religion(after cursing them out ofcourse lol)
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is it bad or wrong that i still sleep with a stuffed animal? Its a white tiger named Snowball. even though i share a bed with my boyfriend, if i dont have snowball i have a hard time falling asleep. is there something wrong with me? btw im 19/f if that makes any difference (link)
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I think you just got used to sleeping with your stuffed animal too much,it started when you were younger and it grew with you.Theres nothing wrong with it though unless you dont want to sleep next to your toy
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today was last day of school and the last time im gonna see my close friend cause she is moving to korea tommorow. But ive been avoiding her for a while because i was upset that she was moving and now shes doing the same too so we dont really talk anymore.And then when the class ended i tried to hold my tears but i burst up crying but she didnt see it yet so she asked me to take a picture with her and she saw me crying and she was trying to cheer me up by saying "its okay" and "dont cry" but i told her "its not okay your leaving" and she got quite and keep *sigh* or saying UGH and she stayed there for like 5 minutes try to cheer me up because i was still crying but next thing you know she said 'im going now dont cry okay?" and she turned back and turned around and looked at me last time and went somewhere. why did she leave? and what do you think about this situation?
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There are many reasons why she went back to korea.One is mabey that she is korean and her family lives there and she has to go back to be with her family.The other reason could be that her parents got divorced and her mom decided to go there and she has to go with her mom.There are maaaaaany reasons why shes leaving.I also think that the time where you guys didnt talk to eachother was because you were afraid to show your true feelings to her,that you feel sad that shes leaving.If you woulda talked to her at that time,you woulda probably cried and you didnt want her to see you crying....but you did.Its ok though,she might come back you know,and there are ways you can contact her.Talk to her on the phone,online till she hopefully comes back.But really,dont be mad at her that she leaft,you never know what happened.
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ok i have this boyfriend.. he is really great. but my ex boyfriend is back in my life.. i cant chose who i want to be with. one has a problem....a bad illegal problem and the other is weird.. wat do i do!? (link)
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I think you should forget about the one with the illegal problem,cuz if its drugs hes gonna end up either dead,in jail,or with a terrible disease and your gonna end up either like him or depressed.If you tryed to make him stop his probelm and he didnt then i think you should leave him.The dude thats weird.....well if you dont LOVE him then i think you should forget him too.Which one is your boyfriend though?You need to clarify more.Anywayz i dont think you should leave your boyfreind that you LOVE liek you said for your ex...your ex is the past man,stay with the guy your with,dont betray him.Your ex was the past and cant be brought back since youve got a guy now.
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im graduating 8th grade the 21st. and i need a hair style, pictures please =] (link)
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you should mention how your face shape,forhead is like but its ok...this website has alot of hairstyles
http://www.beautifulhairstyles.com/
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situation:
i was at this party last friday and i ended up making out with this guy who's infamous for hooking up with a lot of girls. my 'friends', L, A, and S, were the ones who made me do it. they said "come on its your first make out and you should do it". without a defense, i did. the next week at school, they told everyone who would hear. they told my prude friends (who i didn't want knowing because they'd be ashamed of me), my best gay guy friends (who i didn't want knowing because they'd make fun of me), and basically everyone else (because they'd judge me).
problem:
what the heck do i do?!?!
do i stick up for myself?
do i make a joke of it?
do i apologize to my friends who are ashamed of me?
i regret it and i'm mad at L, A, and S.
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you friends arent freinds theyre retarted,they only forced you into this so they can have something to gossip about and get popularity off that.Dont talk to them anymore unless you want to be forced into even worse stuff.Dont apologize to whos ashamed but explain that it was a mistake so they dont get a bad impression of you.
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i was at school today and in latin, these boys behind me were talking with me and then one of them asked me if i would ever snob his knob. nob? i have no ideaaa...what does that mean!?!? (link)
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OMG,he was askin you to give him a BJ....like the 2 other columnists below said.If i were you id go to their faces next time you see them and go"snob this!!"(and kick him where it hurts)
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Is it slutty for a girl and a guy (that liked each other) to publically, loudly, & obnoxiously flirt..like in class? How far would be too far?
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well yeah,id consider it slutty,like if a gurl and guy did that outloud in my class id be like....hoe... flirt if you want,its ok but not outloud in class.You might give people a bad impression of you although your not bad.
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ok me and my gf have been fighting alot and we are soo close we have gone out for a year and 3 months. and i really love her and i am scared i am going to lose my baby! i need help! (link)
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Ok whatever the problems are that are between you...write it down on a paper...put a list of what she needs to change about herself and tell her to do the same.Exchange papers and discuss it.Because beilive it or not,its easier to write it down,cuz when your confronting someone you love face to face you can mess up easily.Whatever youve done to hurt her,stop doing it so you dont ruin your relationship,for the babys sake too.
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I have liked a lot of guys in the past and i like this one guy now, marcus. So, i asked him out earlier which is something i've NEVER done before but i am yet to hear an answer because my mate asked him for me and i haven't be able to speak to her yet. So anyways, why has it been sooo easy for me to just ask him out. I mean, i've never asked out any of the other guys i've liked.
I've liked him for about 1 or 2 weeks and he knows i like him, and we were messing around to today and he said to me ''You fancy me like fuck, don't you?''(see below for what happened*), so at least he knows i really really like him. My friend zoe asked him if he would ever go out with me and he was like ''erm... erm.... erm... maybe''.
It was sports day today and me and my mates were writting stuff on each others arms and he write something on my arm and then i said lemme draw someone on ur arm and while i was writting it he said to me ''you fancy me like fuck dont you*'', i just smiled and walked away then he came up to me and write on my arm ''so wana go...'' then he crossed it out.
WHY was it so easy for me to ask him out?!? (link)
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I think you asked him out cuz you think theres something special about this guy.I dont see that though,he seems to be....i dono,loving the attention your giving him,and that IS normal to love attention but i think he took the fact that you like him get to him TOO much and he can start taking advantage of you if you dont stop showing him TOO much attention.Ok you asked him out,nnow just wait for the answer but dont go running after it anymore,if he keeps you waiting then its a no and he just doesnt want to say no so he can keep you waiting.He seems to have gotten arrogant too when he was like"you fancy me like fuck"...my god...ew
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i have a friend and shes short and cute and everyone calls her cute and i get kinda jealous. but she calls me cute even thought im like 2 inches taller then her. my question is, is it normal to get jealous like this even though i absolutely love her to death? (link)
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It is a normal feeling yeah but when it gets too far its not normal,and jealousy,always gets too far when not stopped.Everyone has their own opinion,some people think shes cute and some people dont.Some people think your cute and some dont.It depends on the person.For example a guy can think im the prettiest girl ever and another one can go EW.It doesnt mean im ugly at ALL,it just depends on everyones opinion.
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Guess I'm not as cool as I used to be...
I'm sitting outside in my back yard, typing on my brother's laptop, taking in the beaming gleam of the sun. it seems like I'm losing all my friends to a number of illegal substances. No one wants to come to my house anymore, because they aren't going to get plastered or toke up a fatty. As if I'm in a competition with drugs to have friends, I don't invite people over anymore, I don't even look foreword to weekends anymore, because my house is a boring place to go all of the sudden. I guess when you grow up to a certain age, you have to start doing drugs and drinking to be fun? How long ago was last summer? No one ever mentioned drugs last summer, what with the change? I guess life is boring without uppers and downers, being sober is being square. My house is a last resort for people to go to have fun. "hey guy, let's just go to my house, there aren't any parties tonight, I guess we'll just have to be sober for once… goddamn.". I only have one friend that hasn't smoked or drank. And we hang out all the time, and have a lot of fun. But I guess it isn't actual fun because we remember it. I guess we're just boring people, it almost makes me want to toke up and get hammered just so that I can hang out with all my friends that have ditched for the shit. But I won't, and I guess that means I have to continue living my boring, sober life alone, with my one friend… in my boring house. Any generic after school special would say "well, those guys aren't your true friends, go find some real ones!" sure thing A.S.S. I'd love to. But I don't know anyone that hasn't been incapacitated. Not only that, but those people ARE MY REAL FRIENDS! Just today Anthony ditched me, at my house, we were all about to leave to go to bowling green, to go to lake malone with my brother; he didn't even say 'bye'. What the hell is that? That sounds like something my brother would do. And it is something my brother has done. I don't care if he went to do drugs, it was still a shitty thing to do] But I'm not here to cuss out my friends, I'm here to query myself, to ponder… I don't do drugs, that makes me a loser, no seriously, it does, I have lost all but two of my friends to drugs, and it kills me. Goddamn it, and people wonder why I play online games? I play them so I can interact with people and have fun! I can't any other way! I don't have any friends! I'm not going to hang around drunken and high people, unless it's Westray, because he's the same sober as he his high! I didn't mean this as an insult, I'm saying that Westray is a cool person to be with no matter what, we can talk to eachother and laugh with eachother, no matter what]
But I guess that's the end of this rant. If I can't have friends while being sober, I guess I won't have friends, maybe I'll find some more real friends like kaleb and nic. But i just gotta live and find out. I know that things won't be the same this summer, I won't have many memories this summer, not without buddies to make them with. and my old buddies that get high and shit, they won't remember the memories that they made. I thought I was cool, but I guess you can't be anymore, not without that shit.
Have any advice for me?
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dude,i really respect you for not being influenced and not taking drugs,thats great.Dont EVER change to the worse just to be like them.Theyre gonna be the ones crying in the end and youll be the healthy one.I dont think they are really your type anymore now that theyre on drugs.Look,theres always a new year,new people to meet.Stick with your two freinds and find different things to do.And nothings wrong with playing online games,it doesnt make you weird or anything,i play games online too...so?Forget about your old freinds man,this school years over anyway and a new ones to come^_^
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well im like the luckiest girl ever because i have the cutest, funniest, sweetest boyfriend in the world and i know he really loves me. the problem is, everyone else likes him too... and he's always telling me about it. every other day he tells me "i think sarah likes me" or "john said ashley wants to go out with me". i know he's not making it up, cuz i hear those things too. and i dont really think he's saying it just to make me jealous, cuz he kinda brags about other stuff too (like how his coach says he's so good at football). i think it just makes him feel good that all these girls like him, and he likes talking about it. but it REALLY makes me mad!! i just want to tell him "i dont want to hear about which girls like you!" but on the other hand, maybe i should be glad that he's so open with me instead of keeping it a secret. should i tell him to quit bragging about his fan club, or should i be thankful he tells me things and try not to let it bug me? (link)
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I think that hes doing that to get you jealous,weather guys like you or not they do that"omg she likes me" to see your reaction,your guy likes the attention and jealousy you feel.But about him bragging about his footabll,he just wants to be a perfect guy in your eyes,thats ok,nothing to be mad about,its only football.I think you should tell him not to brag about girls liking him to you because it gets you mad and thatif a girl likes him,he should be mature enough to do the right thing and ignore that girl if he really loves you.
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