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I Think Im Being Abused.
Ok so i have this boyfriend and we get into aguements alot. He tells me that im stupid and retarted. sometimes he even calles me a stupid bitch, dumb ass bitch, or jus plain bitch. he says that im tha problem and that im always getting him mad. Im only 15 and my friends and familly say leave him but some say dnt if ur happy. Im tired of heareing that hole "theres more fish in tha sea" cuz thers really not im in love with him not anyone else. I dont know wat to do anymore im in love with him and want to spend tha rest of my life with him but not like this..
Please someone help me wat do i do????
-shawttii
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This boy doesn't love you at all if he's abusing you. you really need to get out of this relationship im telling you. because one day he's going to hurt you really badly. and you should report him for abuse if he's doing this. and tell your parents that he's abusing you. and also your friends and family are right there are a lot of other fish in the sea. i know your tired of hearing that but its true. so please end the relationship and report him for your sake. and if you need anymore help email me. tulips979@yahoo.com
love always,
nikita♥
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get out of this relationship. he doesn't respect you or value you from what you're saying. it's not love... anyone that abuses you doesn't love you. you just really like/are infatuated with this guy. you can do better & there ARE other guys out there..really, there are. you want to spend the rest of your life with him... but not like this.. reality is that you can't change him. he won't suddenly stop calling your degrading names and live happily ever after and live up to all your hope & dreams of how great of a lover he could be. just get out of the relationship... he might cry and try to get you back but don't fall back.. just move on, you are better than that. <3
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im sorry to say this. but i dont think its love. i think its an infatuation.
you "love" him now, but thats only because you either havent met someone better, or you havent broadened your horizons. by thinking you cant find anyone else, you WONT find anyone else. and i think that in your situation you should be open to all possibilities.
i was in teh same situation once, and it did turn to physical abuse. and i thought the same way you did, and he ended up dumping me and breaking my heart.
i dont know who you are, but i really dont want you to go through the same thing, no one deserves that.
if you argue that much, then it just isnt meant to be. you cant change someone, especially not someone as stubborn and asshol-y as he sounds. you have to love people for who they are. and he doesnt seem to love ou the way YOU are, if he treats you like that. and you dont love him teh way he is, because you stated you wanted him to change.
im sure one day hell learn how to treat a lady, and maybe breaking up with him would make him realize he was wrong. but you need to move on, because this relationship doesnt do anything good for you.
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OK. i know you think that its all your fault and you make him mad. but maybe he is just abusing you verbally but it will soon turn in physically. and no women deserves that. i know you think that he is the only one for you but hun he isnt you should be happy without be abused! And if you do say whatever i love him i am just gonna deal with all this then you marry him and have children and he starts physically abusing you do you want your children to see that?
hope i helped.
Graciee<33
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it definitely sounds like he's verbally abusing you. i know you don't want to hear this but you need to leave him. you're only fifteen so if there isn't any one else then he'll probably still be there. but also, maybe he'll find someone else anyway, whether you break up or not. if someone treats you like that, they shouldnt have the privilage of being your boyfriend. i know its not what you want to hear but you really need to leave. if you were older i would tell you counseling, and you can, but you are still really young. maybe your really desperate and its worth a shot.
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wow.Ok the problem with you and your guy here is that when the relationship started you guys didnt show eachother respect.Love is like a building if not built on a strong foundation and stable ground will collapse on who built it,MEANING that loves gotta be built on its BASES,what are its bases you ask,RESPECT,trust,affection...and your problem coulda been that in the beggining you allowed him to call you small things like...stupid,crazy and that stuff,it might not have seemed like a big deal but small curses get bigger if you allow the person to call you that.Its like when you first make a new freind,when you joke around at first,shes not gonna say"you crazy ass bitch" but start off with something smaller then eventually shell get to that hahaha
what you need to do is tell him that if he doesnt show you some respect then youll break up with him cuz why the hell would you be my guy if im a bitch??guys dont like bitches,well,being in a relationship with them.and make sure that if you curse at him,to STOP.because you need to treat people the way you like to be treated.
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It is only a small step until he starts beating on you. For the moment words are all that he needs to keep you in line. Once the effect of those wear off, he will need to start using his fists. Do you really want it to get that far? Yes you may be crazy about him for the moment and dating a loud mouth, if you can put up with it, is okay, but please think about the future. He will not change to please you, he will continue to abuse you verbally because he can. Listen to the people that love you for yourself. Take care.
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I been the same place you are now. It's not good and your confused, people are telling you so many different things you don't know what to do. Listen to yourself, and go off what you want not anyone else. What he is showing you.. isn't love, it is abuse. It's verbal. No one should be talked to like that. I delt with being talk to like that for 3 years, it doesn't get better it only gets worse. He doesn't change, no matter how bad you think he will. You are 15 years old, you may love him yes, but there are TONS of other guys out there that would treat you the right way. You may think there is no one else out there for you, but there is. This guy isn't treating you the right way, and things are only going to get worse to the point where he may start being physicaly abusive. You can't be happy if he says that stuff to you, it has to hurt you and effect your feelings. Leave him, he's not doing you any favor. There are guys out there that are amazing and you won't know unless you try and find one. You're 15 years old, who says you have to find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.. now ? You have so much ahead of you, dont waste your time on someone who doesnt care about your feelings and only hurts them...
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What he's showing you is NOT love. No matter how you feel about him, he is not giving you love. I don't think you should break up with him because there are other fish in the sea. Yes, there are, and yes, you may eventually be happy with one later, but for right now, you should feel free to be yourself and you should feel happy about it. What he is saying to you IS abuse and it could escalate into physical abuse.
I don't think you're destined to spend the rest of your life with him. If you are, then he's going to have to go through some major changes in order to keep you because you need to get out of this situation. You should absolutely not put up with this.
You are in my thoughts.
Sabine
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I'm sorry for being so blunt but he doesn't love you. No-one can do what he does to you and actually be in love with you. Sorry :(
But, there are plenty of other fish in the sea. You are only 15 you say? You don't really have a concept of what love is yet. You may think you do, but you aren't old enough to actually know.
Also, you say that you want to spend the rest of your life with him. Honey, your only 15. There is no way you can possibly know what you want to do with the rest of your life.
The fact is, he makes you feel bad about yourself. I'm sure that you are a lovely person and you dont deserve this kind of treatement. If you break up with him, you will find someone else. It's the way the world works.
Sorry for being so blunt, but i'm not going to lie to you. This guy doesn't love you, and you will find someone else.
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