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how do i handle this jealousy?
well im like the luckiest girl ever because i have the cutest, funniest, sweetest boyfriend in the world and i know he really loves me. the problem is, everyone else likes him too... and he's always telling me about it. every other day he tells me "i think sarah likes me" or "john said ashley wants to go out with me". i know he's not making it up, cuz i hear those things too. and i dont really think he's saying it just to make me jealous, cuz he kinda brags about other stuff too (like how his coach says he's so good at football). i think it just makes him feel good that all these girls like him, and he likes talking about it. but it REALLY makes me mad!! i just want to tell him "i dont want to hear about which girls like you!" but on the other hand, maybe i should be glad that he's so open with me instead of keeping it a secret. should i tell him to quit bragging about his fan club, or should i be thankful he tells me things and try not to let it bug me?
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I think that hes doing that to get you jealous,weather guys like you or not they do that"omg she likes me" to see your reaction,your guy likes the attention and jealousy you feel.But about him bragging about his footabll,he just wants to be a perfect guy in your eyes,thats ok,nothing to be mad about,its only football.I think you should tell him not to brag about girls liking him to you because it gets you mad and thatif a girl likes him,he should be mature enough to do the right thing and ignore that girl if he really loves you.
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hes probrably just flattered that all these girls like him. Hes prob. not looking to make you jealous or mad. From what your saying he most likely really likes you, seeing that alot of other people like him and he sticks with you. But if it is really bothering you then confront him about it
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You should tell him that you feel mad and frustrated about what is going on. tell him that you are very happy that he is telling you the truth,but you don't really care bout te otha girls you only care about him. he should understand if hge really loves you.
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You and your boyfriend are both "coming of age". He and hopefully you, are both learning about your abilities, your strenghts, and that you are considered "cute" by the opposite sex. It is normal for him to be both flattered and amazed by this. I hope you are getting your share of attention too. This is a normal part of growing up, and it will give you both the confidence to try new and even harder things so that you can both achieve your goals.
Now jealousy, that is all inside you. Jealousy is all about the person who is jealous, and nothing about the person they are jealous about. And it will not serve you well in the future, if you let it take over. It can ruin your relationships and ruin your life. Usually people who are jealous don't think they measure up. They don't think they deserve the attention of anyone nice or "special". It is how you behave that determines what you deserve or what you will end up with. If you continue to have feelings of jealousy that interfer with relationships, you will greatly decrease the number of people who are willing to date you or be your friend.
Relationships are all about trust. You have to learn to trust each other. and you both have to act trust worthy. Believe me, temptation does not only come to those that are considered "hotties" (I know that's an old word now, sorry) We can be tempted by the opposite sex for the rest of our lives. So do we think only about ourselves and give in to the temptation, or do we think about the people we say we care about who will be hurt and dissapointed, if we give in to the temptation.
Is your boyfriend trustworthy? If you say yes, then you should give him the benefit of the doubt and trust him. Be patient with yourself, and start by telling yourself each time you feel that green monster, that jealousy is a wasted emotion. GOod luck to you. I think you have it in you to succeed at this.
Michele
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hmmmm.i dont think hes saying it to make you mad or to brag or anything i think hes saying it because he wants you to care. next time he says so and so likes me be like awww but your all mine baby and give him a kiss. dont let it get to you. if you know he loves you he doesnt care about all those other girls because if he did he wouldnt be with you now would he? hope i helped
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When he says stuff like that just smile and say "Well I know this girl, who claims to be your girlfriend, who really likes you too! Ummm I think her name isssss [enter your name here]." Just make a joke out of it, and be glad he's so open with you.
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"and i know he really loves me." That should be your answer. If you know he truly loves you, what's the problem? You should be glad you know what's going on. That way you won't have any doubts or be suspicious about anything. If he was planning to go off with any of the girls he tells you about & explains how they like him, he wouldn't tell you about them in the first place. Maybe when he mentions another girl liking him or bragging about something, laugh & say "haha really?" & then change the subject. A lot of girls wish they knew which girls like their boyfriend & what he thinks of it. Your boyfriend probably doesn't know it offends you. If it really does bother you, maybe you want to say "Oh I know this guy that likes me" & see his reaction to it. If he gets offended or uncomfortable, talk to him about it. If he doesn't, then you know he doesn't mind you talking about it like he does. Only try that if its really bothering you though. Otherwise I don't see it as a bad thing.
-hope that helped!♥
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