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~A little Advice for the broken hearts~
You are afraid and hurt and you dont know what to do. You feel empty and alone, like the whole world has just ended. You have a hole in your heart one that feels like it can never be repaired, but just know that in time that hole will be gone. Getting your heart broken is like getting a deep cut. It hurts really bad, and no matter what you do you cant stop thinking about it because you know its there and its hurting, but with a few stitches and a little tlc (friends and family helping you through) and some antibiotic ointment (ice cream) soon that cut will only be a scar (a memory) it will always be there but it wont hurt anymore, you are strong and you can make it through this!!
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18/f
My boyfriend's parents/family just doesn't like me. The reason for that is because last semester I was taking 27 credit hours and I worked 24 hours... His parents thought that I was a bad influence because they thought that I didn't want to spend time with his family or get to know them. Instead, they just saw what they saw. They saw him go out everyday, and he started disobeying his parents... Because that was the moment where the excitement of dating me, I was his first priority. (That's what he told me) He said that they understood part was his fault because it was his choice to go out and everything. The reason why I didn't go see them as often was for a couple of reasons, I didn't have much time. Because his family goes to sleep at 9 during that time... And that was when I usually got off work so I thought it would be disrespectful to stop by their house so late. I did want to see them, but I was also very nervous. I never really spoke to them because I was scared I would make a bad impression. So what made it even worse... Was that whenever his parents or family is gone, he brings me over to his house because he knows that his parents started to think badly of me. So that made it even worse, because they found out that I slept over once when I wasn't there. (The reason was because it was late at night, and I had a fever so he didn't want me to drive home sick) And they really disliked that. So the point is... I have a really bad impression on his parents, and I understand why. So we broke up once, and his parents were really happy about it. And later on we got back together, and he said that everything is different now and his parents said that they'll give me another chance. So I've been asking to see them, but he won't let me. He told me that he can see the change, but he doesn't think his parents will. I want to make things better even though things were really bad before. I even thought about what to do, go to his house with some gifts, talk to them, especially since I quit my job I would be able to see them more often. I was to make things better and less stressful for him (especially since he's family oriented), but he still won't let me see his parents. I remember even when I was next to him to tell his mom that I said hi on the phone... She never said hi back, she just said "okay" and hung up the phone with him. Now, he just thinks it's best for them not to hear about me at all. It gets me really frustrated because while his family and parents think the worse of me, he never defends me or tries to explain what's going on. So I'm sitting here wondering what I should do. My mom says that there's not much I can do because it's his choice to have me go see them. But we're both very stubborn... I want to still try to make a better impression on his parents, but he doesn't want me to get near them... Which makes me think it's making it worse because I don't want them to think that I don't want to associate with them at all.
He told me that when he moves out, he doesn't care about what his parents think because it'll be his decision then. (He was raised in a traditional, strict, Japanese family) But I still don't want to live this way. I want his parents to accept me.
What should I do if he allows me to go see them? How can I finally convince him to take me to see his family?
Sometimes there is nothing you can do to make someone like you trust me I know just how you are feeling. My inlaws hate me with a passion. And I have never done anything to them. My husband defends me though and tells them to leave me alone because I am nothing but respectful and nice to them and they still treat me like crap and call me horrible things and it gets depressing at times. My mother in law even came to me on my wedding day and told me that she will get her son away from me. But I have just decided to give up they dont have to like me all that matters is that he does.
I dont understand why some parents are like this when it comes to their childrens relationships especially when the person is nice and respectful. I know that I feel no one will ever be good enough for my babies, but if they are happy I will be. And I think thats how all parents should feel. They always think that no one is good enough for their babies, but they should be happy if their child is happy.
You can try to get them to like you but if its anything like my inlaws, its not going to happen. Just accept it.
But if you really want to make an effort sit down with your boyfriend and tell him how important this is to you and then when you get to see them tell them I know you dont think I am good enough for him but I love him and I am going to do my best to be all that he needs. And I am not going to come in between you and him. Let them know that you are not taking him away you are just simply asking to love him too good luck and best wishes
Hello,
I am a 17 year old girl and i have had alot of advice on this site about my self esteem problem with my vagina. I feel 50 pounds lighter now that i know its not abnormal to have a longer labia, infact people like it. Now that i can feel alittle better about i want things in the bedroom to change. Me and my Boyfriend are very boring becase he knows how i felt about myself so i would never try new things or let him do oral on me, now i know its less attractive for a woman to be unhappy with herself. I want to make things more exciting and i want him and i to both get used to and embrase my large labia. Its hard to do that when we havnt talked about it at all, so i need to find a way to make him love it, and always want it, without it being ackward.. i know it will involve stepping COMPLETLY out of my comfort zone but i feel like its the only way to save our sex life... and i dont want my security issues to affect the way it feels to be either, becuase it does.
So I talked to a couple guys and asked them a few questions. I asked if it mattered to them what size the labia is. They all said no and that no matter the size extra small or extra large its all beautiful and they like them. It doesnt take much to impress a man when it comes to sex. A few of the guys I talked to actually said they prefer larger labias because it gives them something to "play with" and "explore" so looks like your not having a problem at all when it comes to this. As for your boyfriend loving it and having fun with it and wanting it. Let him "explore" and touch.. It will drive him crazy ;) every one I questioned said they love to touch see and "play" with everything and you have nothing to worry about
Well basically life is pointless for me all i do is live in a world full of People who can't see outside the box. And push me around because i do. I have no friends really and I don't really care to live anymore. I plan on an OD on pain killers. But I just am scared I will live and have to explain to my parents (who have caught me cutting twice) any suggestions?
Please dont hurt yourself. I know what you are going through. Trust me I have been there. I felt like the whole world was against me and I would be better off dead. But that was until I met the man of my dreams. He showed me what love was really like. I planned to commit suicide the day we met. If I didnt meet him first I probably wouldnt be here. And I am so thankful I didnt do it. And please stop cutting. I am terrified of the day one of my children come up and say "Mommy how did you get the scars?" Dont hurt yourself. It will get better. I know it seems like it wont, trust me I thought that too at one point, but it is. Some day your life will be so wonderful and you will be so happy and you will look back and think oh my God what was I thinking thank God I didnt kill myself I would have never known how wonderful my life was going to be. I think that every day. I am so happy with my life now and you will be feeling this way too dont give up. If you need any one to talk to who can relate email me stephiesadvice@aol.com any time Goog luck and Best wishes
How do you stop yourself from having a mental breakdown, All i want to do is cry. How do i harden up and deal with it. I can't do anything!!Please help. Thanks
You pretty much need to talk about what is making you feel so upset. Its not bad I know sometimes I need a friend that I can talk to about anything and know that that friend wont tell a soul. I am so sorry you are feeling this way. You can go to counceling and learn some coping skills and ways to let out your anger and depression in a healthy way. I wish you all the best
17/F
I'm a very restless sleeper and it takes me at least an hour or two for me to actually get sleepy when I lie down in bed. I try and clear my mind, taking calm breathes, but it just doesn't work! I end up rolling around, flailing, even having trouble breathing. I normally sleep with light, classical music. Nothing hard core or with any singing. Just basic, gentle music, but I still can't sleep. I tried no music, it made it worse because I'm naturally a paranoid person. Every little noise, scratch or tap I hear in my room and I freak out, especially now that it's summer vacation and spiders seem to show up a lot in my room and I'm deathly terrified of them. I already know I have a nervous personality, I can't help it! Is there any natural way I can try and calm myself down so I can sleep? Does tea really work? (Also, I'm lactose intolerant, so warm milk wouldn't be very helpful...)
Lavendar. It is so relaxing. Get some lavendar scented bubble bath or incense and trust me it will make you relaxed and sleepy and yes you can actually buy tea called sleepytime tea my hubby uses it and he sleeps like a baby :)
I need dorm bedding! I've been searching high and low for the perfect bedding, and its been very difficult. I've looked on the popular store websites and the stuff is either too immature for my tastes or too expensive.
The bedding has to fit a Twin XL bed and I don't want to spend over $250. I would really love a blue/brown combination or just something thats really stylish but not too bright or obnoxious (like tye dye or crazy zebra stripes)
If you have ANY suggestions, I would really appreciate it! Thanks SO much!
here is a link to a page with a love of awesome blue and brown beddings... most are within your budget http://bed-and-bath.bedbathstore.com/homeware/blue%20and%20brown%20bedding
i've been with this guy for almost a year now,i love him a lot but i feel like i'm not the right person for him,he wants a lot & at times i feel like i'm incompetent.
we fight about small things,things that don't really matter,things like him not being able to reach me because my phone is off,reason-network problems,& he knows that...
we fought yesterday morning & the day before,i have a boil at the mouth of my virgina & i told him about it,he said to me my blood is dirty.i then asked him if my blood is dirty how can the SANBS let me donate blood if my blood was dirty, then he said to me i have an sti...
ican't take it any more..what should i do?
If you love him you have to talk to him and let him know how you feel about all the negatiity and try to work things out. Every relationship has their bad times. But the bad times make the relationship stronger. If you are not happy with the way you are being treated then move on and find someone else. Good luck
i lied to a friend about some messages that were sent to me about him by his friends.they werent anything but negativity.was it bad me for prevent him from seeing what people had to say about him?..because apparently,now im the BAD GUY.
Maybe you lied to protect his feelings. That doesnt make you a bad person but you should tell him that you lied and why
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Seems like this guy may be taking this a little far, there was nothing negative said about him as you said above so he should be worried. And People cursing you is not right. If someone is treating you like that then maybe you should just drop them like a bad habit. You do not deserve that You are better than that. And maybe it is time to get better friend who see that. You said what should your response be.. mine would be you know what you are supposed to be my friend yet you are cursing me like that, so you go on with your life and leave me alone or you be a real friend and treat me with some respect... good luck and best wishes! :)
My mom told me that if you let someone play with your boobs, that the tingling feelig keeps them from growing. Is this true?
14/f
No this is not true. Trust me my hubby plays with mine a lot and honestly that leads to other things and other things lead to pregnancy and pregnancy leads to major growth. I am 3 cup sizes bigger than I was when we met
what do you do if your best friends steals your crush what do you do or tell her ????
Talk to her and tell her how you feel. Let her know that you feel hurt by what she did. And hopefully as a friend she will try to make things right.
It has been hurting for weeks and I was constipated for a long time. Then when I tried to poop it hurts, stings and starts bleeding. It feels like theres a cut in my butt, but I don't think so. When I wipe its blood. It hurts really bad. If I go to the doctor will they have to look in my butt? I dont want a doctor looking in my butt. I tried taking a laxative and that didnt work and I tried green tea and that didnt work. It hurts. I do drink water
You may have hemrroids. If you dont want to go to the doctor then go to the pharmacy and get hemrroid cream. Yes the doctor will check you out and I understand how uncomfortable that is. Trust me I have two children I had doctors lookin at me and touching me for nine months not fun but its over before you know it and it will be better if you went good luck
Hi, im Gracie and Im 13 and my question is...
Do you hit your kids to punish them? My dad never hits me; he grabs me and shakes me sometimes lol or he yells but he never hit me. But the other day I went to a friends house and her mom slapped her for rolling her eyes. I thought that was kinda harsh and unfair. So I was just wondering if lots of parents hit their kids and why? Isnt that like abuse? What if it makes your kids hate you?
Here's a link to a website me and my sis found when we were looking up stuff like this. It's kinda funny but mostly harsh, I think it's suppose to be taken as a joke. Anyhow I thought I'd share it. (it's has alot if swear words too).
http://www.thebestpageintheuniverse.net/c.cgi?u=beat
I have two beautiful children and I love them so very much. I was abused by my mother. I didnt just get spanked, my mom would beat me with anythings she could get her hands on. She fractured a bone in my skull by hitting me with a board. I would never ever hit my children in any type of way. When my kids do something bad they get a time out. That means they sit on a chair for 1 minute for each year old they are (my son is 3 so he sits for 3 minutes) this gives him time to relax and think about what he did. As for your friend I dont believe that even deserves time out let alone a smack. I do think that hitting a child in any way is abuse. And as for shaking a child that is abuse in my eyes too. No one should ever get agressive like that with their child. Hope This helps you :)
What do you call it when you shave everything?
um... bald :)
hey, i am 13 turning 14 and i want to loss belly fat! is there any foods that i can eat to help loss weight??? i would like to go on a diet but i have no idea what type i should go on. please help! thanks!
here is a link with information on how to lose belly fat good luck and best wishes
http://www.webmd.com/diet/features/the-truth-about-belly-fat
and always remember you are beautiful no matter how you look on the outside
i keep haven doubts on my relationship i really like this gut ut i jus dont know because he seems to show me no affection or anything and i like this other guy and he likes me alot but im just not sure what i should do because the guy im daten we always break up n then either i or him regrets it can some please give me some advise (:
If you are not happy then you need to get out of the relationship. The reason you keep going back is not because you regret leaving its because you are afraid of that heartbreak stage. You dont want to feel lonly and hurt and upset. So you go back even if it means you wont be happy. You dont want to feel trapped in a loveless relationship. If you are not happy, then leave good luck
so there are these guys that i flirt with alot and they are brothers, but they dont know that im flirting with both of them, i let it get outta hand, like lead them both on and now they both tell me that they like me and i have feelings for both of them too now i dont know what i should do they are both really nice guys. one is a year older than me and one is a year younger... im 16......please help!!
If you keep doing this you are going to cause problems not just for yourself but for them. You are going to tear their relationship with eachother apart. My advice pick one or none. Its not right or fair for you to lead them both on.
My boyfriend suffers from multi-personality disorder. We almost broke up last night but finally he told me what was going on even after he told me I deserve so much better than him. But somehow I just couldn't bring myself to do it.
He told me his disorder causes him to have different personalities. When we first started dating, he was all over me and complimenting me and showering me with love even when we weren't with each other in person. And then just suddenly he changed and I felt like he lost interest in me. But he told me this person he is right now "doesn't feel like talking, doesn't feel like fixing things" and if he isn't accepted as he is then we're not going to work out, and eventually if I give him time and space he'll be back to normal and he loves me very much. I thought it'd be wrong to break up with someone for something they can't help. He didn't asked to have this disorder. At first I thought it was just an excuse but I know now it took a lot to fess up and tell me. I know now he really trusts me. So I have decided to give him time and space and see where it goes.
Still, I don't know if I made the right decision... What do you think?
Youre right he didnt ask for this problem. But if you are not happy its not fair to you to feel trapped in a relationship. You could go to couples counseling and see what it is that can help you cope with his problem and what he can do to make it easier on you if you want to stay with him. But if you cant handle it and you are not happy it will not be wrong for you to step out. good luck and best wishes
I just recently started college for the summer term and live in suite style living,and I already met a really great guy. At first, i was kinda shy around him but then we became really great friends. We talk and hangout all the time, if anything he talks to me as if i'm one of the guys. I've always been the type to get along good with guys ,talk about sex and curse a lot so guys think i'm pretty chill. As we talked more, he kinda said how he believes relationships start off as like best friends, which is exactly how i feel. Normally when i like a guy, they like me at first and then they put me in the friend zone. but in this case, since he said that, I guess I'm starting it off with the friend zone. It took me a while to figure this out but he actually has a girlfriend. She lives a while away but he texts and talks to her often. He never really mentions her to me unless we are in a group where someone brings her up. I don't quite know what to do because ive been down this road before and have always liked guys with girlfriends. I feel as though he may like me too but then again he could just be being extra friendly. He would never cheat on her and I would never expect him to. I feel as though if i give up,i may be missing out on a good chance because this is the nicest guy i've ever liked. It seems as though i would have a chance since we go to the same school and she's going to another college. I may be jumping to conclusions to fast but I'm very confused on what to do. I like him a lot and we hangout all the time. If anything he's my best friend here so far.Help!
The best advice I can give is to sit down with him and tell him how you feel. Let him know that you will be his friend no matter what he choses. But if he choses to stay with the other girl you have to accept that and just be his friend. Who knows maybe in the future he will be single and come looking for you. But until then you have to respect the fact that he is in a relationship and take a step back good luck and best wishes
Can a yeast infection go away on there own ? And how do you get ride of it and help ease the pain?
Dont let it go untreated... Go to your doctor and get meds for it. here is a website with some information good luck
http://women.webmd.com/tc/vaginal-yeast-infections-home-treatment
I'm a nineteen year old girl from South Africa and tomorrow's my one year anniversary. I should really be happy about it but I'm not. The thing is I still love my ex-boyfriend, whom I've been dating while I was dating my current boyfriend, so technically speaking I've been dating two guys at the same time and they had no idea. Anyway I broke up with my ex a few months ago because I was leaving for Ireland and now that I'm back in South Africa, I really miss him a lot! I still love him. My boyfriend and I have been through a lot, he wants to get married and all and that's not what i want anymore. I want to be with my ex but I can't because a few weeks ago he called me and told me that he's getting married next year and that his girlfriend might be pregnant. That really hurt but i don't know if i should believe him , because we broke up in April and he told me that last month(June) so technically speaking he met this girl in May , and got engaged in that same month and also got her pregnant! Is it possible? Or is he trying to make me jealous? Because it's working. I really don't know what to do about all this, I need to get over him and be happy with my boyfriend :(
It seems like things are moving fast with you ex. And if it is true. You just have to move on. He is getting married. And he is having a baby. You cant get in between them and break up a family it isnt right. Maybe he is telling the truth, it happened fast, but sometimes when people meet they just know they found that special one. Also you never know just think of what you were doing with the two guys... He could have been doing the same, he could have had two girls at the same time you and her. And you couldnt really get angry with him for it because you did it too. I suggest you just forget the relationship with him and be happy with the one you have. good luck and best wishes