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Do you hit/spank your kids?
Hi, im Gracie and Im 13 and my question is...
Do you hit your kids to punish them? My dad never hits me; he grabs me and shakes me sometimes lol or he yells but he never hit me. But the other day I went to a friends house and her mom slapped her for rolling her eyes. I thought that was kinda harsh and unfair. So I was just wondering if lots of parents hit their kids and why? Isnt that like abuse? What if it makes your kids hate you?
Here's a link to a website me and my sis found when we were looking up stuff like this. It's kinda funny but mostly harsh, I think it's suppose to be taken as a joke. Anyhow I thought I'd share it. (it's has alot if swear words too).
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never ever hit your kids if they misbehave just tell them off but hitting or spanking makes you a bad parent
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to a certain extent. parents spank their kids to teach them a lesson but some parents go overboard and turning a spanking into a beating which is abuse . they are not intentionally trying to abuse their kids, they just want to teach them to never do what they do again.
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I have two beautiful children and I love them so very much. I was abused by my mother. I didnt just get spanked, my mom would beat me with anythings she could get her hands on. She fractured a bone in my skull by hitting me with a board. I would never ever hit my children in any type of way. When my kids do something bad they get a time out. That means they sit on a chair for 1 minute for each year old they are (my son is 3 so he sits for 3 minutes) this gives him time to relax and think about what he did. As for your friend I dont believe that even deserves time out let alone a smack. I do think that hitting a child in any way is abuse. And as for shaking a child that is abuse in my eyes too. No one should ever get agressive like that with their child. Hope This helps you :)
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I am not personally a parent, but I did get spanked as child.
I think it's completely wrong, and should be considered abuse.
It was my mother who would do it, my dad was against it.
I grew up resenting her. I grew up crying quite often because of it. I would often have thoughts of running away and even taking my own life at even the age of six.
I didn't understand why she would hit me, and not just sit me down and talk to me calmly about what I as doing wrong.
She said sorry once. I was three, and crying on my couch after being spanked for god knows what. And that was the only time I ever got a sorry.
I've vowed to never treat my kids the way I was treated. I vowed to be a completely different mother than my own.
It hurts. I eventually learned to fight back around when I was ten or eleven. She realized I was a lot stronger than her, and she wasn't able to hold me down any longer. So it stopped.
To this day, she still makes jokes about it. I don't think she realizes how uncomfortable it makes me. Or how badly it hurts me. But she stills makes jokes, such as, "I should have beat you more when you were a kid." "Sometimes I still wish I could get a good beating in."
It's almost as if she's proud, and I think that is what hurts the most.
I have an okay relationship with my mom now. She's not longer living here, she cheated and left my dad when I was fourteen. She trys to act more like a best friend than a mom.
At times in my life I really did honestly hate her. I still do, when I think back to it.
I don't understand how a parent can put their hands on their children as punishment.
It's just wrong. So, so wrong.
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