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Ok so Ive known this guy about a month in a half and we just started dating like a week ago. Things sorta went fast, maybe I little too fast for my comfort, but nothing I can do now. Anyways, we recently had sex and he was my first; we did it 3 times. I cried while driving myself home from his house, he lives 30 min away from my house; I had to pull over 2 times because I was crying so hard. I came home and talked to my best guy friend who I love dearly, he was trying his best to calm me down and everything. He kept saying it was normal to feel like this: empty, almost wishing you hadn't, just cold.... like someone just did the most rotten thing to you but worse. My best friend is away for a week and I cant talk to her and I need to talk to someone other than a guy. Is this normal??? HELP ME PLEASE!! (link)
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This is normal.
But if you feel that you regret it, maybe you should wait. Don't have sex again until you are ready for it. If your boyfriend won't wait, dump the bastard.
Sorrty if I seem a bit harsh...
If you ever want to talk, feel free to inbox me. ^^
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my dad has never told me he's loved me until last week when we were on the phone. I said it first, but i am glad he said it back. it is awkward to say it again. My question is...is it normal for dads not to say he loves his daughtor and should i keep on saying i love him when i see him or talk to him on the phone? (link)
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Yeah, sometimes dads have a hard time saying things like that. It is probably normal. They may feel awkward. If he tries to show love without saying it, then it is perfectly normal. ^^
Be happy about the fact that he is finally saying it! Tell him you love him often, and he may tell you the same more often! ^^
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I'm on the cusp of girls sizes and junior sizes. The thing is, I don't like any of the girls styles anymore. I love the stuff at american eagle but I just can't fit into it. I can't even wear abercrombie jeans becaus I have a large butt and a small waist so the waist is always big and the butt fits. What do I do?? I found a pair of really nice tractor pants at Bloomingdales, but thats just ONE pair!!! (link)
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Hmm...
This may sound odd, but try a store that sells black or latina clothing styles. They are usually made for bigger hips and butts. ^^
Or try hipster jeans. They may fit better.
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I have a summer project to do and I'm not sure how to use the MLA format to document these articles I had to read. They're compiled in a book, from other places. Do I need to recognize the book in my documenting? The book has the articles documented but it doesn't include the book. An answer or a place where I could go to find the answer would help! Thanks so much!
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Try easybib.com if you need an MLA works cited.
Do cite your sources, Otherwise you could be accused of plagarism.
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OK... i babysit 2 boys... 5 and 8 years old.. they are crazy!!!! and when i tell them sumthing, they just ignore me and keep on doing whatever they r doing... how do i get these kids to listen to me!?!?
*ignored babysitter* (link)
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Be a little rough with them. Just pick them up off the ground, plop them in a chair, and tell them No. You need to make them respect you, and sometimes you need to show you are physically stronger first. But don't hurt them. Be sure they are okay. Just play with them, and show them who's boss.
The main thing is to gain their respect though.
Or you can kinda bribe them. Put them on time outs for bad behavior, and give them little rewards for good behaviors, like an extra 10 minutes before bedtime, or a candy, or being able to play with a cool toy.
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Ok, I'm 13 (14 next week), 5'1", and 161 pounds. I'm very overweight. Embarrasing, but it's the truth. I need to lose weight. I really want to lose like 50 pounds by Christmas possibly sooner. My mom was going to order the Nutrisystem foods for me but it has been delayed(probably cancelled) cuz we just can't afford spening 300 dollars on something like that right now. Is there anything else out there that can help me?! I don't want diet pills or ebooks but maybe some type of prepackaged food meals that maybe are a little cheaper. Or like a diet plan just for me that doesn't cost much!!! (link)
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Basically eat right and exercise
Learn to cook! Then, you know exactly what goes into your food, and you have the pride of being able to cook. Plus people love to date someone who can cook well, lol.
Find a sport you enjoy! Any sort of physical activity is good. I personally play DDR. ^^
Remember: all things in moderation. A scoop of icecream every once in a while (say, once a week or less) won't hurt you, but one every day will.
Also, look for tasty, healthy alternatives. Try sorbets and fresh fruits when you crave sweets. Yogurts are also good. Smoothies help too. Tofu is great as a meat substitute in stirfry.
But remember this: NEVER GO BELOW 1000 CALORIES A DAY! NEVER!!!! Try to eat 1500 calories per day.
EDIT: DDR is Dance Dance Revolution.
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okay this guy his name is charlie! well people think he is known for wanting to get in girls pants and then breaking up with them. But, i have heard some stories about how he is really sweet to his girlfriends and is not like that. Well, i like him alot an he said he likes me! should i try it with him and if thats all he wants dump him or what?! i really want to try it i mean he calls me alot! and he acts like he likes me!and he takes care of me (link)
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If you want to, go for it.
But stay wary. Don't get too involved if you suspect he just wants it.
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i wrote poems and entered them in conests and the companys are willing to publish them but i should copyright them first and i want to know if there is a website that i can go to to copyright my poems FOR FREE because i am only 14 and dont have that kind of money (link)
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I believe that Deviantart copyrights your work to you...
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Ok well im a 17/f and me and my boyfriend have sexand everything but like 4 months ago his condom broke and we didnt know it and now im pregnant. Well i want to keep the baby and my parents are all for me and any choice i make about the baby. Well my boyfriend and me are decieding if we should keep the baby and he wants to help raise the child if we decide to keep it. well i dont know if i should keep the baby. you see i will be able too because i act very mature for my age, i already moved out of my house when i was 16 because of family issues and i already have 1 child( i was raped when i 14 and i didnt give her up for adoption) what should i do should i keep the baby or give it up? (link)
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If you think you can, then do it. You seem to have support for the child, and you said you can manage. You are lucky in that you have the support of your parents and the father.
But if you are not sure, consider putting the child up for adoption.
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Recently I was given a box of sweet potatoes from a friends garden. Does anyone have any recipes ideas for dishes I could prepare to use them. NO SWEET POTATOE CASSEROLE RECIPES PLEASE! Also, any recipes that could be prepared and frozen for later would be a big help.
I'll rate 5 for good answer! (link)
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I usually just bake them with a little butter. They make a tasty substitute for baked potatoes.
I've also had sweet potatoe fries before.
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so my friend is like super hott and i am not a lezbo and she doesnt think so but she tries to kill herself and i have tried to like help her out but i am running out of ideas and i dont know what to do but telll her i am there for her and her friends are too but she wont belive me and i am kinda going through some of the same things like her away message is like i am going to draw a picture on my wrists i will do it with a razor and after all of my problems will go away i used to do the same thing after my dads accident but i dont any more nd i think she will do something she willl regret........................HELP (link)
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Tell someone.
I had a friend who was suicidal. I never had the guts to tell, but luckily, another friend did. Now my friend is recovering, and she and the other girl are closer than ever.
You have to get help. She may hate you for a while, but she'll forgive you.
If you still think you can talk to her, though, give her a dose of tough love.
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okay well in the past week my forehead and cheeks started breaking out (that area is like really oily and ive been washing my face like 2-3 times a day!!)... i usually never get pimples or zitz or anythin like that.. except for one everyonce in a while... well i was wondering what works best?! i dont have anymoney to go spend on proactive or whatever... but i have these facewash things and i was wondering which ones work the best? (any at home remedys would be great too!!) if your not sure what it is, i put a link next to it so you could figure out what the box looks like or whatever...
-pHisoderm 4 way facial wash::
http://www.mapdistribution.com/images/phisoderm.jpg
-clearasil (sensitive skin daily face wash)::
http://www.walgreens.com/dbimagecache/111983.gif
-clearasil total control:: http://www.clearasil.us/photo/full_size/WebColumnItem77.jpg
-dove::
http://images.amazon.com/images/P/B0002FC7OU.01.TZZZZZZZ.jpg
-stridex pads (alcohol free)::
http://www.acne.org/images/products/stridex-pads-sa-max-large.jpg
i hope this helps you out!! but pleasee help! thanks so much.. if you want to be rated--ask!!
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Personally, I use St. Ives Medicated Apricot Scrub, which I get at walmart, along with a normal face wash. Ocasionally, I also use an alcohol-based toner.
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Ok, I'm trying to lose weight but I get bored often and I've found that I eat when I get bored, even if I'm not hungry at all. What are some things to do when I get bored?? I mean, I live in a place where you have to drive 15 minutes to the nearest mall or movie place so shopping isnt an option. And I'm only 13 so I can't drive...What are some fun, random things to do around the house? (link)
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Try exercising when you get bored! DDR is a great thing. It is a fun, semi-addictive game that makes you exercise. Works for me! ^^
Or exercise your creativity! Write stories, draw, take pictures.
You can surf the web too!
Or find a project. Build something, learn about something, anything that gives you something to do.
Or, if you can't help but munch, get healthier snacks. Mini rice cakes are good.
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School is coming up soon, and im not sure where to shop for my school clothes every year i go to the mall and shop but i want something different.. (link)
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If you want something really different, go and buy some plain-ish clothing. Then stop at walmart, or a crafts store, or something. Buy fabrics, thread, ribbon, sequins, whatever. Then have fun! You can get some cool results.
Another recommendation: try a different style. For example, if you always wear tshirts and jeans, kick things up a notch! Get a nice shirt and some pinstriped slacks. Or do the opposite. Just try something new, something fun!
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LONG BUT i'LL LOVE YOU FOREVER=/. i'm not a total idiot, and i usually don't need advice i just give it. me and my ex- [we will call danny] were going out since Nov. 7, 2004, yeah but broke up 4 times. the second to last time it was for a month because i liked another boy [we will call him cody] and i wanted to give him a 2nd chance, yes... i already had gone out with him. so it ended and with a little struggle started going back out, everything back to normal... felt good. i was always comfortable with being with danny. last friday, i'm dissapointed to admit, i cheated on him with cody. danny hadn't been calling me, and when he did VERY RARELY. so i called him yesterday, he doesn't know i cheated, and we argued & he said he didn't know if he wanted to go out with me. so i just said it's over & he said he wasn`t happy but was going to go. i haven't talked to danny since. cody REALLY likes me and everything and he's a really good boyfriend, but i always end up just wanting danny. please just give me .. SOMETHING, anything. my friends are too dumb for this stuff. (link)
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You need to pick one and stop leading them on. If you have feelings for Danny, it is cruel to Cody to stay with him. And why are you with Danny when you cheated on him?
You left Danny for a reason. Remember that. You can live without him, and another guy has come along.
Go with Cody. But if you can't give him your love and attention, leave both Cody and Danny behind. Take some time to yourself to get over it.
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iim tryinq to eat healthiier ..i eat alot of fruit cause i feel like its not really eatinq at all.. is it fatteninq wen it addz up? (link)
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Yeah, it is. But it takes longer to add up. Three pieces of fruit equal about one candy bar.
Try more filling healthy foods.
Or make smoothies! They are much more filling than fruit alone.
Or make a fruit salad. Sitting down and eating the fruit prepared may help you feel full.
Or add some filling toppings, like peanut butter.
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Hey.............my older sister is having a baby but she doesn't kno yet if it's a boy or girl and she needs some cute names!! (Don't worry she's married and like 29 years old!!) Thanx!! (link)
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Babynames.com is a great site.
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I had my period since I was 11 (5th grade) and now I'm 15 (10th grade) and my period STILL isn't regular. However I get it usually every 21 days/3 weeks instead of the normal woman's cycle - 28 days/4 weeks. But this time my period never came and it's been OVER 28 days which is unusual for me and probably other women too. Is it normal to get a period like over 28 days cause it's been 30 days since my last period. There's no way I'm pregnant, I did't change my diet and exercise, and I'm not stressed out. And say I go to the doctor/gyno. What can they do for me? (link)
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The doctors can help figure out what is wrong. It may just be hormones, it may not. It is better to be safe.
Periods may not be regular for some time! You're still a teenager, and hormones are still running wild. And the cycle changes for each person. Yours may be shorter or longer than the average.
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Hey- Im about 5'4 and i weigh about 175 lbs. i need to lose 20 pounds by september 1st. Is there anyway i can without taking pills or anything..or can i just lose it by running for 30 mins everynight?
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Running may help...
Diet pills don't work.
Just eat healthy and exercise.
Create a small calorie deficit. If counting calories helps, do that. DON'T GO UNDER 1000 CALORIES A DAY!!! Your bpdy needs at least that much to live, more if you are working out. I suggest 1500 calories a day as a relatively safe number when you exercise.
Find healtier alternatives to things you like to eat. For example, frozen yogurt or sorbet instead of icecream. Sorbet is awesome. Or try mini rice cakes instead of your usual munchies. The mini ones are more flavorful than the large ricecakes.
As to exercise, running and swimming are the best, as they provide a full body work out. I personally don't like either. I generally opt to play DDR for exercise. It is a fun, addictive dance game (imagine, being addicted to exercise!), and gives you a good aerobic workout. You can buy it for Playstation (one or two), play it in the arcades, or download Stepmaina free online, and play off of your computer(still have to buy pad and adapters, unless you don't mind using the floor instead).
Best of luck, and hope I helped!
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Hey All!
Homecoming is a way away, but I am currious. I have never gone to a dance before. My boyfriend and I are going to most of the dances at both of our schools this year, because it is his senior year. I already have a dress for Prom. and it is floor length. I wore it in a wedding.
So, is homecoming like prom at all? Do you get an almost to the floor dress? a knee length? what? What are good colors?
Is it a huge deal? How much should one spend on a homecoming dress.
What about shoes?
its in September or October. (I cannot remember!)
thanks so much in advance.
I'll rate and leave feedback!
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Homecoming, ah yes...
Homecoming dress doesn't have to be all that fancy. It can be floor length, and up to knee length. No shorter.
Colors can be anything. Mine was black, but I just like black. But if it is fall, maybe earthy tones? Meh, just have fun. We had the whole spectrum of colors.
Don't spend a fortune on it. Find something enjoyable and affordable. Mine was on a huge sale, though, so I got a steal.
Shoes should match the dress, thats about it. Strappy sandals are the most common though.
Get a purse large enough to hold necesities (cell phone, possibly money, contact stuff, makeup, etc etc.), but not bulky. I recommend bringing a little money, a cell phone, and possibly makeup if you feel the need for touchups.
If it helps, I had a floorlength black velvet dress that had a a slit with a short train of sheer fabric in the back, and a bit of sheer fabric around the neck and backline (neckline was a bit below the collar, back was v-shaped). I had a small silver purse, and black satin sandals. Very pretty, I liked it.
On the other hand, my dear friend wore her favorite cocktail dress.
So, basically, almost anything goes!
Just have good time!
Hope It helps,
~Vix
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