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Just a couple of things which everyone should know..
1) A love relationship is a TWO way thing, you BOTH have to be on the SAME page.. Communication is vital. FACT.
2) You don't need negative people in your life to bring you down, you get enough of that as it is. You need positive people, to raise you higher.. FACT.
3) Believe in yourself, if you start to, everyone else will. So focus on the good things, because that is what you will naturally flaunt.. Which makes everyone focus on the good things! TRUTH.
4) You only live once, so don't screw it up! Make the most of this ONE life! FACT.
5) Life's all about making mistakes, forgiving, letting go, falling in love, making friends, and best of all, LAUGHING OUT LOUD!! ;) Laughter IS the best medicine.. Trust me! ;) FACT.

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f 17

now being serious
I think big is beautiful
I look at women like Queen Latifah and Tyra Banks
and they are Thick beautiful women

but then you have the Paris Hilton's and the Nicole Richies
who are dam near a string and thats what america thinks is right.
thats what men think is "Hot"

but to me they have little girl bodies

now i'm a thick girl and i love it
but i still sometimes feel the need to be thin
not because i'm not happy with myself
but because of the way others may look at me
my skinny friends get attention from guys our age
but i get it from men that are 20, 21 ,22

I jus really want to know Is big BEAUTIFUL
or am i just buggin'?

I personally feel big IS beautiful, for some silly reasons too, like when you wear clothes and all, its pretty to see some sort of curve instead of someone's rib-cage! :) And don't let OTHER people's opinions and ideas change you, you could be going through a phase, and you could NOT! So whatever it is, just pick which ever! If you wnat to change, do it simply because YOU want to, but for NO ONE else! If it helps you feel good about yourself, I say, do it! be happy in your skin... which ever way you are!

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So I am friends with this guy he just turned 30 and im 16.. hes not a creeper so don't think that. He doesn't really act 30 he kinda acts like a college student. Anyways I think i am starting to like him and i don't know what to do. And he told me he really wanted ME(he used capitals) to go to one of his shows and gah I don't know what to do about the situation.. I need help.

He probably looks at you as his little daughter or somethng, but I must say, this IS quite creepy, don't mean to judge or anything, but just be careful and watch what you do. I suggest you maintain crushes on boys around your age, mainly because they are more like you and have the same exoperiences and things like that. Don't throw your youth away too, because you will regret it! So enjoy your time now as a 16 year old dating guys around your age. For obvious reasons and just in case of peadofilia and other things.

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17 F

okay so theres this boy. our friends introduced us about 9 months ago. We always had a little thing for eachother. but I thought he was too dorky for me haha. Then there was some controversy bc his GF found a pic of me and him on myspace and flipped so me n her almost fought but i reassured her that we were "just friends". anywayys.. about a month ago we were hangin out at a mutual friends house and that night we went for a walk on the beach. we laid in the sand talking and stuff and he ended up kissing me (very cute). and he tried to go further and i stopped him and thankfully he respected my decision. I called him a couple of weeks ago to talk about the incident and he says "he didnt remember" but i knew he was lying so i was like whatever. then his bestfriend ends up telling me that yes he deffinently lied to me. and i'm hurt about it b.c i look dumb for telling his now "ex" thet we're "Just Friends" and i've developed more feelings for him but 1.idk if he feels the same way 2.idk y he would lie to me 3. should i confront him? 4. is it b.c. of the age diff? (he's 3yrs older) I just dont know what to do

Guys and their ego are just things you can't really escape from. He probably feels embarrassed or stupid because you sort of rejected him, when he wanted to go further, so don't take it as something big and as if he lied to you, but simply, because he didn't want to look stupid, remembering the past and all that.
And it is ok if you have developed feelings for him, it happens, and you told his girlfriend BEFORE the incident took place, so it wasn't your fault, you shouldn't be feeling 'dumb' or anything, only because you and the boy were just friends and still ARE!! With just the slight hint that you two may have feeligns for each other. I suggest you talk to this boy and ask him what is going on, and the reason you stopped him was only because he had a girlfriend, he will understand. If he really wants to be with you then he'll break up with his current girlfriend and be with you, it might cause some friction between you and his ex, but things change and happen after some time, so she should understand and let go, but explain to her just in case!

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So well everytime I start likin a guy... They like me back but after we have sex a few times they fall in love with someone. and its never me. I fall way to hard for guys and I wish I just could stop caring. Im tired of this shit. I want sumthing real. What am I doing wrong ? Please sumone help me out. They tell me how hot I am and beautiful and that Im prefect. BUT WTF dont they stay with me?

Well, could start with not sleeping with them until you reach a year or something close enough, some guys are just really practical and os when they get the 'treasure', they don't find the need to carry on with the same person. Don't get me wrong, there are many guys too, that are the complete opposite, but for now, I think you should just relax with the sex, try not to have sex with your boyfriend until the two of you actually LOVE each other, and want to have sex because of the love, not just because the two of you are in a relationship.
So clear it all up by starting over, be single for a while, this will give you some time to just reflect and see what your goal is, then when you have spoken to a guy for a month or two and you both would like a relationship together, then, take the next step, dating. After you two have dated for... let's say, 8-9 or even longer, which is better, than you can give him the extra mile (sex)! That way, the guy appreciates you more as he understand the reason you are allowing sex is because you love him and not because of anything else. Do it for you and not for him...

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over vacation i met a guy we both liked eachother then became bf gf. then we loved eachother an would say it alot. then outa nowhere he stopped talkin to me an wont answer his phone or a text. then he blocks me on myspace n erases all my comments. hes a jerk an i get hurt to much but i just cant ever get over stuff. im pretty much over him but what can i do. but i did send him a new friend request on myspace with the note sayin what did i do an why are u so pissed please call me. stupid i know, i have no way to talk to him. i know hes a jerk but we both loved eachother soo much, what can i do? he lives to far away

Firstly, get the idea that you both loved each other, YOU did, he NEVER did!! When guys REALLY do love someone, they NEVER do something like that... And it is just real honesty!
So take away that idea, and face a fact, he NEVER loved you and he LIED! The fact that he lied shows that you shouldn't be wasting your time with him because he, firstly, doesn't appreciate you and, secondly, he doesn't care!
So I suggest you be strong, for yourself and go out with your girlfriends, and just force COMPLETE over-him! I feel that you aren't COMPLETELY over him because you still think you two love each other. So go out and hang out and stuff, meet new guys and get flirting or whatever! Forget about him, he isn't worth it! And you definitely aren't worth being treated so ridiculously!
For future, try not to 'please' or use any of those words when someone like this guy has ignored you, if he wants to talk to you, he will go out of his way to, so don't plead or force, it wil happen if it has to. Basically, let him think and feel, this way, you are much stronger and he will be able to see the fact that you aren't someone he can just hurt and leave!

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Okay so my boyfriend had to leave for Mexico because his aunt had a heart attack and he went down there to take care of her... Well we have been talking on the phone and keeping in touch and I was invited to go stay down there for 5 days when his mom goes down there. Well that was our last conversation and he has not called me since. I have no way of getting a hold of him. Im thinking of maybe calling his mom but it may be difficult because she does not speak English very well and I have no idea if he even called and asked if I could ride with her.... So right now im totally stressing out because I have no idea whats going on! what should I do

Hmmm.... Have you tried texting him? If he still doesn't respond, maybe this trip will have to be postponed, or cancelled! Because there is no way in contacting him, so when and if he calls and asks you where and why you're not there, say... You had no idea what was the plan because it wasn't properly organised! :P

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I have a large chest, wide hips, a slim waist and a short torso. Basically, I have a very hourglass body type but my torso is so short that I appear much wider then I actually am!

What kind of tops can I wear to lengthen my torso?
The tops with bands underneath the bust usually fall wide against my round hips making even my waist look large when its not.

Try long tops with a deep cut, if you have a big chest, you got to show it off, plus it looks better! :D Body posture could help, try walking straight with your shoulders back, think tall and lanky... Sounds crazy but it's true, it relly helps! :)

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aside from the title.. i seem to be having some relationship problems... after 8 months of fun..it seems my bf and I get really mad with eachother very easily.. we've both grown very sensitive..and both love eachother.. but summer is here.. he lives about two hours away from me..and i feel this might break our relationship.. we wont get to see eachother often.. until school starts ( late august).. and this whole problem looks like we're growing tired of eachother when in reality Im NOT... do you think he is? he says he's not, but he has a tendancy of not wanting to hurt my feelings sometimes... =/ please help... if i'm going to lose him.. i'd rather not but if i do i'd rather end my misery than be even more devastated. thanks in advance

It is probably a relationship phase, I'm sure of it! The same thing happened to me, and it's been 11 months and we are stil together! :D If it's true love, it will kep you guys strong! If it is infatuation than, you'll know what to do, listen to your heart! My advice is to just try and avoid toics that may lead to an arguement, try kiss and make-up a lil more and just be more loving, it is probably what you may really need right now, the best medicine for the both of you! If you guys have been dating for EIGHT months, it doesn't sound right to just let it all go without fighting to be TOGETHER!

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Age 16- Female- 5'2"
Just wondering what you guys thought a good weight would be to fit that discription?

Also, I know I'm not fat but I have baby fat (i guess?) on my stomach. I'm looking for an easy way to tone it or get rid of it- besides just sit ups and crunches. Any ideas?

Thanks!

About the baby fat on your belly, why don't you try belly-dancing! It is really fun and keeps my belly toned! :D
And why are you worrying about what's guys' description about YOUR body is? Just find out your BMI (Body Mass Index), get a healthy body instead of what guys want you to be! And the BMI makes sure you're HEALTHY, not obese or anorexic!
If interested, google "BMI calculator".

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Okay I have a job with my older sister and we babysit 2 kids. The job is $2.50 an hour when we work together and $5 an hour when we work alone. We babysit an 11 year old girl and a 9 year old boy. They live right by the school and we can walk to go to the playground and stuff. They have a pool and a pretty big yard. No big deal right? Well we babysit from 7:30 AM- 2 PM. and me and my sister get really bored. I know its kinda selfish but it gets really boring. I need some advice on how to keep the kids and my sister and I entertained. Board games weren;t so hot last time and TV... well if you like Pokemon I guess its okay. And my sister and I arent aloud to use the phone unless theres an emergency or we need to talk to our parents. And our mom said we shouldn't be texting. They're a little old for nap time.. but I really need something, and anything will help.
Thanks!

Hmmmmm.... What about homework time? lol. Sounds pretty boring but at least you and your sister can relax and talk about whatever. And then, when they're done, maybe a Chocolate Hunt, since they have a huge yard, get some chocolates and hide them in the yard, time them to find the chocolates which they keep. Just think for the most random BUT fun to you and the lil'uns! :D Something that will really attract them, or have a discussion topic, on what they think about pets and if they want one or what, just get more interractive with the kids and most of all, enjoy your time with them. So do things you and your sister would like too. And try stp with the tv, or just watch tv if there is nothing else to do. Makes them like you more too... :)

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I was studying at a cafe today, when the guy next to me (just for the sake of talking to me), asked if I knew how to fill out information for some computer thing...I said I didn't, and resumed with my work. Less than a minute later, he turned around and asked me, "are you single?" and I replied, "I don't see why that matters." I felt a little awkward, so I got up and left the area, and under his breath he said " it's just a question." Was my answer/reaction a little uncalled for or rude? Now, to clarify, I don't care about how he felt, but I want to know for future reference...I mean, guys/men ask little questions all the time, and sometimes women want to know how to respond. I do not want to be rude, but I don't want to be a pushover either. Anyway, any advice/comments are greatly appreciated! By the way, I am 23/F.

I think you were a wee bit snappy! He probably didn't want to be caught talking to you if your bouyfriend turned up or something and then get beaten up! lol. Maybe he was just being really friendly and asked the wrong things, and the fact that he whispered under his breath "It's just a question", shows he was a bit confused as to why you reacted that way, and getting up and leaving was a bit uncalled for, if you didn't want to be bothered you could've said something more polite, like "Sorry, I am a bit busy."

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I'm fifteen...and female.

This isn't really a problem but all of a sudden...recently, I've been really emotional.

Like I'll cry when a movies sad or when someone says something sweet or something...or even when people are being really bitchy I can just feel the waterworks coming on...

I've never been like that before...just the past week. It bothers me.

Any ideas?

This could be hormones, something SO natural! Maked you SO touchy and stuff, but don't worry, it'll make you stronger emotionally in the long run, hence the reason why women are more emotionally strong than guys! :D
Probably due to periods, or just the common teen phases.

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So i kinda like this guy who is 17 and i am 15 and half almost 16. We met at our riding barn so we see each other a lot. A little back story he and I are very close he always teases me about being prude and stuff . Two weeks after we met he began texting me constantly and instant messaging me everyday. He would even apologize the next morning for falling asleep while we texted. We went to a party and I was late and he kept asking my friend where I was and why I was late. So hence he was giving me all the signs that he was crushing on me. But he made it clear that he would never date a girl that was younger then him because he made that mistake with his ex girlfriend. One night we talked for 2 hours straight and he wanted to go to bed and we were flirting and stuff so hes like text me. And i was like im not gonna do you want me to and hes like if i never wanted you to talk to me i would never answer (= so he says stuff like that and is flirty and he always ask how am feeling when im sick. I am just really confused if he likes me , if he is interested in a relationship or if he thinks im hot and wants to hook up. Because he asked me if i liked him and i was like undecided how bout you. and he was like not as a gf but girls to hook up there are. thanks for reading this.

He SO likes you! If you want to move to the next level because you're tired of flirting and nothing much, then YOU ask him if he likes you.... If there is silence because he is thinking or something, tell him how you feel. To me it sounds like you have some feelings for him. And, ask him if he interetsed in dating YOU, not interested in dating a girl younger than him, but YOU! If he is serious enough, he'll give you a more serious and mature answer than the whole against dating someone younger all because of an ex. Get serious with him and ask him straight up, if he is interested because you don't like wasting your time and getting your feelings crushed after they have developed.

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hii im a f/17 and i have been dating this guy on and off for about three years. i love him very much, and we feel that we will be together through out college. The thing is all we have done is make out, because i originally believed in abstinence. But now i really feel ready. Before we have sex, we want to have oral sex. I need to know how to give a blow job. Is there any website i can go to and learn how? Nothing pornish, but a demonstration would be great. thanks.

Why don't you build up?! AS in, go through all the bases and then, hit home run! lol. :) I don't know if you know the ases but, start off slowly, and get comfortable, and then see where things go.

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So this upcoming fall I will be starting my senior year. In the yearbooks, every senior is allowed to put three quotes. Whatever they want. I was thinking I'd have one quote about life/life lesson/etc and then two funny quotes. Does anyone have any quotes, please don't give me sites because I can just google and I have, but can't find any good ones :/. Even if their not about life or funny quotes, can you think of any good ones?

Thanks

My favourites are usually dorky and silly. lol. But you can pick which ever you want:
~ "Dead fish flow with the stream",
~ "You were born original, don't die a copy!",
~ "Everything happens for a reason." - Really is true!

Here are some my boyfriend gave me:
~ "Learn from the past and own your future",
~ "Talk is cheap and a whisper is priceless."
~ "The hard lessons learned from past mistakes will only build a sturdy path to a better life."
~ "Don't change for the sake of others, only for own, be all you can possibly be, but most importantly, be you..."

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Is it possible to get rid of stretch marks? and if so, how???

Stretch marks occur during puberty and during pregnancies, you can't really get rid of them, but you can either avoid them, or reduce the visibility of them. These marks happen when your skin gets stretched and the middle layer of skin tears, thus a mark is caused. To avoid this, increase the flexibility of your skin by moisturising it frequently and keping it supple, this will also reduce the visibility. You could buy the stretch mark cream by L'oreal, or just get the simple and slightly cheaper one, Bio Oil. You'll notice a slight change after 6-8 weeks. Apply daily, after baths preferably.

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i am completelyyy in love with my boyfriend. i know this for a fact and am not afraid to say it ! so i have a few questions i hope i can get solid honest answers to. i admit to being very unexperienced, but hey, you have to start somewhere.

1) we are both virgins, does this mean we can't get an STD?
2) when giving him head, do i HAVE to swallow?
3) also when giving him head, would a condom be useful?
4) i hate asking this but it has to be asked: wtf do i do with the pubic hair on both me and him?

haha thanks

1) Yes, you both can't get an STD, but just be EXTRA careful and tell him to wear a condom.
2) You don't have to swallow, you can pick to spit or swallow, apparently semen is good for the skin.
3) Yes, I guess a condom would be a good idea, just in case!
4) The pubic hair, well, the guys usually don't do anything about it, some of them trim just to look a little neater, but for girls, I feel it's appropriate to either be waxed or shaved. Why don't you make an appointment to get waxed, it will be sore but it really is much better in the long run. :D

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14/f im going on a movie date tonight, our first one acctual and I need tips :) whats cute, whats attractive. What would be an appropiate movie for us to see tonight. We've hung out alot so a kiss wouldnt be out of the question so all tips and advice would be great!!

I feel being open and totally calm yet excited is the ideal mood you have to be in! ;) With clothing, don't go for something TOO much, because it would seem like you have been waiting forever for this date, showing desperateness! So go for a pair of jeans and a cute, sweet top. Nothing too much or too crazy, jewellery?! Go simple! Basically, dress as simple as possible!
An appropriate movie would be WHATEVER you and your date are interested in, like ANYTHING!!
If you want to kiss him, wait for a calm, quiet moment where the movie is sort of stalling, for example, when the characters are talking and it seems kind of LONG and boring, just lean in.... Half way, go half way because if he doesn't want to, he won't lean it too. But if he does, he'll lean in, making it more like a kiss you BOTH wanted! Good luck!

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Okay so over the summer i met this boy back in my home state, and now im living in a different state. Well i found him on myspace and added him. But there is two things:
1)we was commenting and "his friend" wanted to know if i liked him and the guy was in the room. What does this mean to you?
2)my friend who has never met this guy or even talked to him added him too. And it just really makes me mad for some odd reason. Its not like i care if she talks to him, i just try to keep indiana and everything in it my thing. And i know she dont think he is cute and i know chances are they will probably never meet and he wont date her because he would never see her, but idk im just worried something will happen?? Help!!

Well firstly, you are NOT going mad! It's natural and ok. So, the fact that you are worried and a tad bit annoyed shows me that, you could like this guy, thus making you irritated over the fact that your friend added him, like you wanted him or yourself, jealousy which shows feelings! :D And, the reason the guy that wanted to know if you liked him was in the room, most probably reading your answers and everything, could actually like you, and want to know if you felt the same.

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my girlfriend and I were together for around 4 and a half months. I am just trying to figure out why she randomly is playing mind games in my head for instance flirting or calling me names like honey,sweetie, or baby. Its RARE but she does.
She broke up with me on monday so it wasn't a long time ago or anything. Plus on top of this she isn't even in town and did all this.

She is probably trying to keep you liking her, and this shows me that she isn't over you, but loves the idea of keeping YOU under her wing, if you get what I mean... Like she loves the fact that you still like her, well, she thinks you do. If she carries on, tell her you don't like it and she should move on, because you personally don't appreciate her 'loving' words after the realtionship, and it is hard for you to carry on with life if she keeps stickign around, or making herself stick around.

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