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I like someone whos a lot older then me.
So I am friends with this guy he just turned 30 and im 16.. hes not a creeper so don't think that. He doesn't really act 30 he kinda acts like a college student. Anyways I think i am starting to like him and i don't know what to do. And he told me he really wanted ME(he used capitals) to go to one of his shows and gah I don't know what to do about the situation.. I need help.
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He probably looks at you as his little daughter or somethng, but I must say, this IS quite creepy, don't mean to judge or anything, but just be careful and watch what you do. I suggest you maintain crushes on boys around your age, mainly because they are more like you and have the same exoperiences and things like that. Don't throw your youth away too, because you will regret it! So enjoy your time now as a 16 year old dating guys around your age. For obvious reasons and just in case of peadofilia and other things.
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A 30 year old who acts like a college student and pursues 16 year olds IS creepy.
I can state with utter confidence that most normal well-adjusted 30 year old men would run to the nearest psychologist if they ever seriously thought about having that kind of a relationship with a 16 year old.
Of course, that has nothing to with you! I’m sure you are an amazing and desirable young lady, but A 30 year old who would want to be with a young teen has some really unsettling demons lurking around and just waiting to jump out and force you in a terrifying way to realize that mentally healthy 30 year old men don’t troll for dates at the local high school.
I know people will tell you that love conquers all, and that age ain’t nothing but a number.
That is a boldfaced lie.
Again, I’m sure you are a wonderful young lady and very deserving of his affection and you haven’t done anything wrong by liking him. It’s very natural to crush on older guys. It’s biological and it feels good. You just have to remember that it wouldn’t be productive to take it any further then a gentle crush.
If HE tries to take it further then a gentle crush, you should probably call the cops.
A 30 year old who thinks a romantic relationship with a sixteen year old is okay is immature, probably an under-achiever, and damn likely a control freak to boot. A 30 year old who seriously wants to be with a 16 year old IS CREEPY.
So, enjoy your crushing, but realize that to take it any further then a crush wouldn’t be sensible. If he thinks it would be okay to take it further, it is 99.9999% likely that his motivations and mental health are questionable.
Try to connect with people closer to your own age. You’ll learn more that way. You’ll develop confidence and discover yourself with a partner who is your equal in life experience and motivation.
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