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Q: 13/female

my grandma wont let me have a boyfriend and all of these guys like me and i like one of them but i cant have a boyfriend but the thing is i have gone behind her back and dated like 3 guys (not at the same time) and she didnt find out so should i just go out with him or not and how would i convince her to say yes bc my mom did alot of bad things with guys when she was my age and my grandma thinks i will turn in to her but i wont so can you help i rate 5's

Well if I were you I would try both but try to convince her 1st and explain to her how you're from your mom but you're not her and you promise you wont mess up.Liek my grandma could care less whether I have a boyfriend or not.Then if your grandma says no SNEAK!!!I think think sneaking kinda makes it more exciting!

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Q: i know this is a crazy question...should you curl your eye lashes before or after putting on mascara?

Before because if you curl them after than you mascara will smudge or come off.

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Q: my hair is real thick.. and if i let it air dry it becomes frizzy and wavy. when i blow dry it, it has to be straightened too to look decent.. does anyone know any ways for my hair to stay straighter and smoother?

get a relaxer(a perm).The best realaxers are the ones you need a beauty license for the ones I know of are:Mazani and Lady Velvet and others The ones that anyone can buy that I know of are:Motions and others.And I use australian shampoo (AUSSIE) it make your hair really really smooth and silky and shiny!

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Q: Are you suppose to pop your pimples or not? And the same with Black heads? What are you suppose to do. I use this blackhead scrub stuff and it makes my blackheads bigger. Is that giving me a sign to pop them? I seldum get pimples with white heads. And usually I accident pop them. Is that bad?

No popping your pimples isnt bad at all if it does anything it helps you.IT MAKES YOU LOOK BETTER! But i've never had to pop my pimples because I only get one pimple at a time and they arent really big and they go away in a couple of hours to a day.But my friend gets alot of pimples and zits but she uses concealer if you're worried about the pain then get concealer from REVLON or COVERGIRL. bit get the roll on thats the only kind that really works.

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Q: I am a freshman in high school and i recently lost my virginity and i know to use protection but my question is can you only get pregnant when you are on your period? or only when u are not?

help if you i rate!!!!!!!!

~Blundered blonde~

Dear Blunderes Blonde,
You can get pregnant either time whether you're on youyr period or not and its easier when you're on you period too because your eggs become more easier to fertilize.

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Q: My best friend dated my ex. It was a tough thing for me to see.They are totally over and you would think everything is fine. Wrong. I still like him. At least I think I still like him. I even have a boyfriend who I love very much. But then I read a note from my ex that was about me that was to my best friend when they were together, and now I feel sad. He liked her a lot. And I feel like a bitch. I need to know what is going on! HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!

Well you are just not over your ex and you are so not a bitch, your bestfriend is the bitch.And I think your ex still likes you too.But you have to get over your ex if you know that there is no chance of a next time, Because u have a boyfriend that you love.Like I had a similar situation and my ex boyfriend was like leading me on, like making me think he liked me but then he went out w/ my friend and now I am like over him and lovin it! Because I finally woke up and got over it and now I have a boyfriend and everything.SO U GOTTA GET OVER IT EVEN IF YOU DONT WANT TO, YOU GOT TO!!!
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Q: well see ..i was goin out with this kid (eric) for like 4 months and yeah we had sex.. but then like .. i dont know we got in some kinda fight ish thing .. and then like .. i kissed this kid Jimmy and ended up liking him ..so i broke up with Eric cuz i felt wicked mean .. cuz i cheated on him and then i liked Jimmy so i dumped eric .. and now my bestfriend is goin out with him .. ( im goin out with Jimmy and she started goin out with Eric a week later) and Eric made out with my cuzin 2 days later,and then went out with her and then broke up with her and told me that he was like still in love with me and then went out with my Bestfriend.. i mean is it alright to be kinda mad about this or is it like .. wicked bitchy and stupid to be ?
please help =/

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OH MY GOSH!!!!!! You should be mad at everyone in this situation besides jimmy.Cuz eric made out with YOUR COUSIN!!! thats fuckin down n dirty and your bestfriend is a total bitch for what she did.But about eric you cant really be mad at him I mean if you go out w/ other people shouldnt he be able to too? but youshould be mad at him for going after your Cousin and your bestfriend.But you should be even mor mad at you bestfriend and your cousin than Eric because you trusted them more and they knew about you and Eric.

So no, you're not a bitch you probably are just getting back some emotions and you catch feelings when you hear about stuff like that.It's natural don't worry!.

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Q: hey!well this might be long but here it goes...Ive liked this guy for a year and a couple of months now...but ive never liked someone so much and im quite sure its love. i didnt really talk to him before but now we are good friends..and during thanksgiving 04...i kinda told him i liked him...over aim..i didnt want it to happen that way.. and its a long story but my friend kind of made me. anyhow..i thought i was gonna die..i was so sadd so weak so upset.. i couldnt stop crying.i evn thought of suicide at times..but not anymore. then ive noticed after that we have become even closer and i like that..but we have never talked about the whole thing about me liking him and whenever im about to mention it..i get scared. i dont know wat to do anymore though..because im always thining about him.. and i really do love him. hes usually very sweet to me but there are some days when he just kind of ignores me or he feels upset.i dont kno what to do..its like evrytime im near him theres this feeling i get..and i fall for him over and over. sometimes i even think he likes me but im not sure and i really need help.

Well try going out with him.If you feel the same and yall relationship is good than you are in love.If your feelings sink and you don't feel the same then it wasa probably just a phase.

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Q: Hey guys! i just started going out with this boy who is absolutly amazing... he's perfect for me, and is soooo sweet and increible i love him !lol.. we've only been going out for a month but already i've like fallen for him. But i was wondering, what are some tips to keep it going realy well? becuase i don't want to loose him. He also likes me a lot too, but i just want little things that could make him more attachted or somthing. Thankss

I think that he just needs someone to care for him.Like be a good girlfriend as well as a good friend.Let him know that you're there for him no matter what, and don't get all moody like when you're on your period dont talk to him as much cuz your period fucks up everything!But other than that just be lovers and friends then everything should go smoothly.

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Q: well i havnt been on my period in like a month mostly more then a month..ive already skipped once i havnt did nething..soo what could be wrong how many times can you skip your period please i need some advice

Have you been having sex because maybe you're pregnant.Or you probably just havent developed a habit yet(a normal schedule for your period to come) well that has happened to me before like after my period comes from being skipped it will come early the next time and it keeps switching up.So nothings wrong your habit just isnt stable.

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Q: So there's this boy I used to see at school a lot. Now he works at a grocery store in our town. Only he works early in the morning. I've heard a lot of really good things about him lately. Everyone says how amazingly nice he is. And considering nice guys are hard to find, I want to have a fair chance at this guy. But he also has a girlfriend (so I've heard.. from a boy who likes me..)

So I want a chance at him, but I've never spoken to him before, never had a class with him, and I dont have the slightest idea how to approach him and what to say.

Any help is greatly appreciated.

Well,
First be his friend.then start going places w/ him then ask him if he has a girlfriend then if he does DONT STEAL HIM FROM HER!Cuz all he'll do is go back to her when yall go out.And if he doesnt have a girlfriend then say oh thats nice.then start flirting and let everything happen the way it happens.

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Q: i used to have this friend named stephanie and she thinks she's all that so i stop being her friend.i told her that im not her friend but she can still talk to us but she asked if i can stop talking behind back but like i mean we arent friends anymore so i was like why?!?!then she said because it's not nice!i was like your not that nice either so and she said she didnt talk behind my back but i bet she did a million times and i really wAnt her to leave me alone but i dont know how im afraid i might make her cry!wat do i do?

Well,
First of all you are so shallow and I dont think you dropped heras a friend because she thinks shes all that.I think you dropped her because shes more popular than you and now your getting like jealous.And if she doesnt say shit to or about you don do it to her.And whats the point of talking to her if you're not gonna be her friend and If you're gonna talk shit about her behind her back?Since you big and bad enough to talk shit behind her back talk it in her face!So I have no advice for you except to get a god damn life and grow the fuck up!

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Q: I dont have enough friends in school. how do I make more?

Well,
Maybe you should be nice to people you know like smile at them and start a conversation.Or make new friends through the friends that you have now

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Q: ok well on friday there is this dance at columbus(an all guys school) and my friend told me about it and told me to go w/ her and her b/f who goes to the school. i can't take my b/f because guys that don't go to the school aren't allowed to go. i want to go to the party though because i've been dying to go to one lately but i know that if i tell my b/f i'm going w/o him he'll get PISSED since its an all guys school and i'm going by myself bcuz he's really overprotective. what should i do??

Well,
Wither you lie or you listen to ur b/f.If you lie.LIE GOOD!But honestly if I were you I would say Fuck him I need fun and then I would go to the dance.And if you dont have a date ask your friend to ask her b/f to hook you up with one of his friends.AND THERE YOU GO!

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Q: hey there, some of you know that I answered a LOT of questions in this site. My friend doesnt have internet in her house so she asked me to ask for your opinion.
She likes her best guy friend, a lot, she cant stop thinking about him and she always gets upset when hes around other girls. I know he considers her as his sister, HE TOLD ME!
What she wants to do is let him realise she likes him more than a friend but I told her it would screw up everything! things would get awkward and stuff. So what she's asking is, should she tell him? Personally I dont think she should.
And she also asked why he hangs out and fools around with other girls instead of her?
I told her because you dont have the same interests and he thinks youre too calm (he told me). So do you agree with me or do you have another opinion?

Well,
Maybe she should lighten up and let loose a little.Then tell him I mean either way they'll still be friends right?

Q: I have REALLY horrid discharge..and sumtimes it can stain my panties an off-yellow...does anyy one know how to make it stop...or when im going to NOt have discharge any more?

Well,
I had something like that except my discharge
(cum) and its a result of being sexually active. Mine is like white clear and sometimes clear,but never yellow.But I read somewhere,I think it was in health class, that yellow discharge(cum) is an indication of a yeast infection.So u need to tell your parents to take u to the doctor so they can give you a medicine to make the yeast infection go away.

Q: hey every1
k well i went out with this guy last year, his name is ben. then we broke up over the summer but now for like a month i have liked him again and i found out that he likes me too cause he asked me out tonight online, but as soon as he asked me out and i said yeah he had to go football. im worried that tomorrow at school it will be akward and i really don't want it to be akward cause we have been like really good friends like forever. please tell me good ways to flirt with him tomorrow so it isn't akward! thanks so much I RATE WELL!

WELL,
If he's your he's your boyfriend just be all over him but not too much leave him something to wonder about, something to want. Like say "Hey Baby" and if he's in one of your classes sit on his lap and just start talking.then just let it flow . . . Let what happens happen.

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Q: is it wrong to lose your virginity at 14? whats so wrong about it and will it hurt? im scared to do it cuz i think it will hurt but i really really want to...so will it hurt for my first time??

Well I cant help you on the part about it hurting from personal experience cuz I'm a virgin myself and I'm 14.But i heard that it hurts like hell on your first couple of times and sometimes it(your vagina) bleeds.But I think that you should wait unless you think the boy that you're planning on losing it with is the one.Cuz I used to think that I had the one but then my mind changed and I wisened up. All I'm saying is dont do anything that you'll regret later.OH! make sure u use protection and it will be even better if you get on birth control.

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Q: I just want to know what are some things you can say to a girl to charm her and make her like you. Such what are some things i could say to the girl i like to just slowly make her like me. Are there anythings that girls like to hear that charms them. Thanks any help is pretty much appreciated

Well,
Since I'm a girl I'm gonna tell you how I liek boys to approach me. I like for a boy to be straight up like if he like me i want him to tell me not his friend.I like when they say ay shawty can i talk to u for a second or DAMN! u got a fat ass.Although I dont go to the boys who say "DAMN YOU GOT A FAT ASS" because they approach me rudely but it just feels good to be complemented.

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Q: As a seventeen year old female who is oober tired of stupid highschool guys and would like to move on to more mature ones... how old is too old for me?

Well,
I think that you dont really have that much of a limit because depending on the fact that u r almost legal I would say that ur limit should be 35

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-Janee'(SxyLilPoo47)