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Last Update: October 24, 2005
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okay..me & my b/f have been together for a year n 7 months..and today i was telling him how i felt about us at this point..and the way i feel is i love him but im kinda getting tired of him..because weve been together for soo long..and i feel trapped..like i HAVE to go with him..then he started crying..and he got pissed AND HE WAS LIKE MAN YOU MUST REALLY NOT KNOW HOW MUCH I LOVE YOU I WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF MY FUCKIN LIFE WITH YOU AND THATS REAL TALK IAND I PUT THAT ON EVERYTHING I OWN & LOVE..AND IM LIKE I LOVE YOU TOO and i started to say that i wanted to spend the rest of my life with him too..then he cut me off & then hes all like NO dont tell me that cuause when you love somebody you dont get tired of them..and i dont want you to feel "trapped"(he said it sarcastically) and im like oh my gosh please dont do this to me..and he just got pissed and hung up on me..and i tried to call him back but he wouldnt answer..i called him like 10 times..literally..but he wouldnt answer..and now im soo saad im crying my eyes out because i think its really over this time..but i dont want it to be..cause i really love him but i had to be honest..and i really dont know what to do..should i keep calling him or give him time to cool off..and call tomorrow..or should i wait until he calls me...or do you have any other suggestions?I AM SOOO CONFUSED..
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Give him some time to be alone. I think you need it to. Now I don't know how much you two actually see each other but if you wanted some time alone he doesn't need to be pissed about that. Your words would hurt anyone. They should of been placed differently. Then again guys are not as dumb as they used to be. (Which is sad. *gestures to the world around her*) Below is a list of things you should try.
1) Call him every ten minutes.
2) Email him every ten minutes.
3) IM him (You didn't guess it) all you can
4) Do all of the above.
5) Make sure he knows you really do love him. A good way to show this would be to make him a nice picnic or something and have it in the park. Or somewhere like that.
6) CALM DOWN!!!
7) Listen to your heart. If he does love you then he wont let something like this get in the way.
8) Be sure to give him space and whenever you need space just tell him that you'd like to do certain things on your own.
9) When you do get a chance to talk to him tell him that you are sorry and that you miss him terribly. (I am assuming you do btw) Ask him if he is willing to give you another chance. After all in the end one of you will come crawling back and I am letting you know that he should not be the one doing the crawling.
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Now I don't know you and only know what Dakota has told me. You should really listen to yourself in this matter. I simply tell others what they allready know. The real answer lies within you and you alone. You have the choice of listening to me or someone else or yourself. For the record it is allways you that makes these decisions not anyone else. There are crossing points in life where one must choose which way to go. You chose this way and now you must deal with the pain. I hope you find my advice to be usefull despite the fact that it is things you allready knew. -ask2receive
P.S. What I am about to say is OTR (Off the record). No matter what path you choose they will all have something bad to them.
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My friend asked this guy what he thought aboout me, and he wouldn't answer her, he just tried to get away from her.
Does this mean he doesn't like me? (link)
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NOt really. It could mean he is afriad of his true feelings. Why don't you talk to him and become friends. You will be able to find out more about him and then eventually if he does like you and you find out you can allways ask him out.
Hope my advice will help you.
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sry about the length but i need help!
ok well my mom and dad are divorced and my dad lives in west virginia and i go see him every other weekend..and i HATE going down there with a passion!
my dad is a very mean person, he cam be obusive at times but not towards me.. towards his ex-wife whcih are now just boyfriend girlfriend. well last weekend i did not want to go and alot happend he said something horrible.
my gram died a little over a year ago and him and my mom were fighting and he said "why dont you go die like ur mother did" and i flipped i dont thinik i've ever cried so much in my life.
well my mom says that i have to go one more time until she can get an attorney and go to court so i dont have to go down.
but i dont want to go down now esspecially now that, that happend. b/c i know he's gonna flip.
so what should i do? (link)
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I am pleased to inform you that you have something called freedom. Now allow me to just say that you and me are both in about the same situation. Except me I just tell my dad "No I am not going to come over to your place." He lives with his girlfriend I believe. My parents are not divorced but I want them to get one. My dad is not abusive but he does hate it when you argue with him. Now unless when they got a divorce they signed something that said you had to go well then that can easily be taken care of. You can either get an attorny or keep going and once your father goes over the edge and abuses you then go to social services. You will never have to go over to his place again.
I hope everything works out for you. I really do. If you ever need someone to talk to you can either email me or contact me over aim. ( charmedgirl4sure@yahoo.com or snicketfanatic (aim
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Ok first i would like to state i am a male 13
And i am in love with my best friend
A little backround info first Okay me and my best friend talk about everything!!! but shes been getting on me a lot about not smiling, looking depreesed, being all moody about what i say and do. now i love her to pieces but im getting really close to not hanging out w/ her anymore, Besides the fact that i like her and she knows and doesnt even eknowledge it. just w/ us being friends she is driving me Crazy
How do i tell her to shut the hell up about all that shit nicely
(i am a really sensative guy but shes on my last nerve.
Sorry i babbled on like this i gave a little too much info (link)
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Ok so you are in love with her and she is getting on your nerves. ... Simple tell her the reason you are like that. I mean if it is just the way you are then tell her that. If it is for a different reason then tell her. ...
I am nosy and stupid so allow me to give you some words of sdivce on the her not ecknowledging it thing. ... Ask her out....or rent her favorite movie (or second favorite or whatever) and then at some point during that movie act all goofey or something....unless if it is a romantic movie then um kiss her.....I am not helping any so I will just leave you with what I allready said.
-ask2recieve
P.S. I am thirteen and have been in a situation just like you...only I am female and um yeah. ^_^;
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okay well my friend is kindof a eater i mean when were at lunch she eats alot plus everyone elses food i dont want to tell her she should stop eating cause shes fat but like how do i tell her cause shes my friend and i dont want her to regret it when she gets older for being a lil big and ya know i dont want to hurt her feelings (link)
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Don't tell her. Simple as that. If she is secure with how she looks then you saying somethign may make her change. You could loose your friendship, make her feel ensecure about herself and make her go on a diet.
If you are worried about her health then ask her to exercise with you. WHether it be at a gym or at your or her house. Now I eat tons but I have a fast matabalism or something. Now it sounds to me like she is the oppisite but still don't tell her!
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okay well theres this guy on my bus and well i think he likes me he told me im pretty and now he always wants to talk to me and he stares at me alot but see he only speaks spanish hes from el salvador and he doesnt know alot of english and well im mexican myself but i only understand it i cant speak it cause when i do it sounds terrible and plus i dont really know how to say some words still (link)
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Learn the langauge and then you can takl to him. He probably does like you and if you like him back then ask him out. Unless your not allowed to date then well ya know. Anyways if he can understand english then there really isn't a problem. Talk to him still and become firends. Only if you want to though.
My advice is probably stupid and you probably wont understand a word of it.
-ask2recieve
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I am 13/m
what does it mean when your best friend who you have a crush on and she knows it falls in love w/ your clone, IM SERIOUS. He literally likes all the same things i do the only thing different is hes a smudge cuter than me
What do i do, do i tell her about it or do i just shut up about it, What do i do (link)
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I am thirteen as well only I am a female but I am sure I can help you out on this.
Now I take your clone is your twin and that he doesn't like her like you like her. Now I have helped out in a situation such as this one before only it was helping a a twin girl and well yeah. ANyways I can't tell you what to do but I can give you advice and suggestions on what would be the best way to do things.
If he likes her back allow them to have a go but never let go of your feelings.
Maybe she is trying to make you jealous by likeing your clone. If you like her like it sounds like you do then ask her out but think it through before you do. I mean if you have ever seen Instant Star then you will probably know that Jamie liked Jude and when he asked her out she let him down but they were still friends. Now unfortunatly that doesn't always happen in real life. Maybe she has some girlfriends you could ask if she likes you or not. Another thing to do is study her and the way she acts around your clone and away you. Her looks her msiles her laughs. Email me about these things and I can help furthur. You can email me at charmedgirl4sure@yahoo.com I would say emailing me would be the best thing because. seeing how I am a girl and all I will be able to read her even if I am not there with her.
I hope I helped though I probably didn't. -ask2recieve
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Before I start I'm a sixteen year old girl.
Well I have my first boyfriend now but that's not what this is about. Well you see my friend is feeling left out because both me and our other friend now have boyfriends and she doesn't. She has liked this same boy for three years now but nothing is happening between them. He hardly even looks at her anymore. She doesn't want to give up on him because she knows she won't like any other guy. I keep telling her to go up and talk to him but she is the shy "wait for him to come to me" kind of girl. I feel bad for her but I don't want to break up with my boyfirned just because she is feeling left out. She has met and gets along really well with both my boyfriend and our other friend's boyfriend but she never wants to go anywhere with any of us. I would never put my boyfriend above my friends and my boyfriend understands that. We ask her to come to football games or movies with us all the time but she thinks she'd be getting in the way. What should I do? (link)
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Well first off I would suggest having a special "girls night out" You know go see amovie go shopping whatever you guys used to do before you got boyfriends.
Not this may just be me but you should butt in and become a match maker. Talk to the guy she likes or have your boyfriends talk to him. Don't allow either of you to tell or give a hint ot him about your friend liking him because that could mess everything up. Ask him if there is a special girl he is looking at. If he answers yes then ask who is it. But don't say it quiet like that. Do things your own way but get them together if they like each other.
About your friend being shy tell her that she doesn't need a guy to make her happy and that if she wants him to go and get him. Push her teach her.
If you need anymore help them just email me at charmedgirl4sure@yahoo.com Hope my advice has helped. -ask2recieve
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ok, i am a female student playing in a university sports team and am 20 years old. We recently went on tour with the new coach who we had not met before. Basically on our last night there we all went out and got really drunk, coaches too. At about 4am the coach (Ben) asked if i wanted to go and find some food. I really fancied chips so said yes and we left. we found that at 4am nowhere is open but kept walking and chatting. He was flirting, making me guess his age etc (he's 35) and i was having fun. It started pouring with rain and he put his arm around me to keep me warm then somehow we were holding hands. we found a bar and were discussing how it was quite inappropriate that we were there together. we ended up kissing and going further, in the bar, in the streets everywhere. it was amazing. had there been a private bed to go to we would have slept together i am sure. anyway, the point is, if anyone finds out on the team he will lose his job coaching and i will not be able to play anymore. that is the last thing i want but it was so exciting and i am really attracted to him. I dont know how to deal with it. also i have a boyfriend. i have always been a bit of a slut, cheating on boyfriends but i really thought i had changed and this one was different. i said if i ever cheated on him i would end it but now it comes to it it is really hard and i dont want to. He is lovely, just quite conventional and everything i did whilst away with Ben is everything i miss with my boyfriend. i know it was stupid but i think i would do it again if the same opportunity was there. I dont know what to do and would really appreciate some advice. (link)
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Don't take anythign furthur with either of them. Sit down and ask yourself this question. Which one do you like more? I would say follow your heart but alot of times the mind confuses and plays with how you really feel.
It sounds like you and your coach had a great time. You said you were drunk which in some cases would lead to making somebody think they liked a certain person in that way. If you still have the same feelings toward your coach then tried to find out who you have stronger feelings for.
Don't under any cerumstances allow your caoch to lose his job. Especially if he loves it. Don't allow your team mates to find out obviously and don't allow your boyfriend ot find out unless you tell him. Think it through and then tell your bofriend about the whole thing. He has a right to know. Now though he may leave you for that if he does then he may not love you. He will probably be mad and upset and leave you but don't just go with your coach after that.
Another thing talk with your coach about this make it seem like it is somehting about the team or whatever and then when you are alone ak him how he feels about it.
Now this probably wont help much and it probably sounds all messed up but I tried to put it as best I could. I mean what more can a thirteen year old girl say to help.
-ask2recieve
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Does anyone know any good books for teens that are kinda like the princess diaries or the sisterhood of the traveling pants series. i have run out of good books to read. help!!!! (link)
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You could try A Series Of Unfortunate Events. They are my favorite books. Now they are about three ophans who are being chased by and evil man named Count Olaf. Visit the site and you will see what I mean. www.lemonysnicket.com Anyways you could also go to a library or go get magazine subsription or something. If you get a subscription to New Moon then you will be able to see a whole new series of books. Well I can't think of any other books unlike you like books on unicorns then you could try the Cronicles of Narnia or you could try Unicorns of Balinor those are some great books. Well I hope my advice will help you even though it wasn't really advice.
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If anyone can give me some real answers to this...
Know the differences between Luthern, Protestant and Catheran views on salvation??
I have to answer it tommorrow for an essay question so I need Help fast!
Ill rate 5 for real answers (link)
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Google it. What more is there to sya. study and google.
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Does any1 kno where i can get sum funnel cake from? dont say a carnival or Ihop... cuz there is no carnival nearby and Ihop doesnt sell it neither does Dennys (link)
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Yeah my mom. lol Sorry had to say that. But really I mean just make it yourself. How hard can that be? If you want to have the recipe I can get it out of my mom.
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friends account again...
im not fat but my stomach is a lil loose if ya know what i mean and i want to make it harfd so what are some exercises i can do to make it un-flabby REALLY FAST!!?
also, i have wide hips and a big butt, i think it looks good, but would guys go for it? (link)
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I am like you! Excersize is the one word you need to do. Stomache crunches and suck it in as well. That is what I am doing. It has helped me a bunch and am most possitive it will help you.
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im like 4'11 or 5'' and im soo tired of everyone telling me how short i am and today someone came up to me today and told me i was shorter than this guy at my school who is like, really short and i thought i was taller than hIM! what do i do to get taller its bugging me pllease help me! (link)
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Don't listen to them be proud of your size. Be glad that you can say "At least I don't have to duck in order to enter a room." They of course will fight back but keep on fighting. Whoop-whoop!
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hey! Im going to homecoming in a little over a week. I want to wear my hair down. Its shoulder length, with layers and its angled.
do you amazing advice givers know of any websites or have any easy instructions on how to do my hair? I want it to be cute, but out of the way. I def. dont want it all up. maybe sides back or something.
Also, i'll be limited on time because I have work until 4 the day of the dance. (i have to get home from work, then shower, make-up, shave, touch up nails, and do hair, including blowdry, straighten or curl.)
anyone have any tips or anything that I can do?
You are the best!
I'll rate and leave feedback!
-Kelsey- (link)
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Curl it amd then to tiny braidshalf way across on both side of your head. e sure to leave the back free of braids or else it wont work wait. Take the braids and twist them around in the back until you make a short of bun. After that you simply leave the back curly and leave a couple strands of curly hair in front of your face. This is an old look that I consider pricless. It is best to use during prom but homecoming you will deffinatyl stand out in a good way.
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ok im 14/f and i have more of a punk look to me (rocker,play drums, black nail polish, etc.). do any guys like that. im the advice columnist flirty if u want to know more bout my personality. my questio n is, do any guys like girls like me? (link)
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Don't change you for boy/guys because they should like you for you. And yes there are guys who go for that sort of stuff. Why anybody would care baout it I don't know. But yeah there was my advice i hopped it helped.
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My boyfriend & I have been together for 2 months. We're very serious. We laugh, we have a great time, we're passionate & have tons in common. We talk about the future alot-- getting married 10 years from now, etc. I just want to know if that's possible, if relationships can last that long & what are some ways to build it so it does? (link)
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There is only one thing that I can say to help you and that is 'Follow your heart'. If you do not follow your heart in this relationship then it will most likly fall apart. It sounds to me like you two are very happy together and if he loves you as much as he says he does then your relationship will last as long as you make it to. Don't try to make yourself seem funner if you think he is getting bored of you just be yourself and make sure to have fun and make the right choices. -ask2recieve
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Ever since cheerleading started back up it's had a new effect on me. I no longer eat three meals, I don't even eat two meals. I do drink lots of fluids though. Most of the time I don't even eat one meal, and if I do eat one meal it's at school because I really don't want my friends to know but yet i'm writing in here telling you all the truth. I do feel bad, But I can't control what's happening to me. I didn't wake up one day and say "Oh i'm going to exercise more and eat less" I never said that, NEVER. This all took place on its own and I wish I knew why but I don't! I think it's a generic trait that got passed onto me from my mom, Because when my mom got out of highschool (18 years old) she was 99lbs and she always told me how she never ate anything so i'm guessing she did have an Eating Disorder. I'm constantly hearing voices in my head, Constantly. That's why i can't sleep at night. That's why I have a hard time concentrating. I lose my train of thought because those voices interupt me. They're all telling me different things but I know they all are talking about the same thing. I've been wearing hoodies and long pants lately, I've been so freezing cold. I don't know why. I rode my bike 10 miles today. It feels great.. I almost passed out on the way home though. My eyes got heavy and my head felt like it was falling. I had a hard time getting up the stairs to my room though my legs couldn't handle it. I feel fine though. On the 5 miles back I cried my eyes out, But I still kept going because I knew it'd be worth it in the end. I knew I would lose a few lbs. I'm the 3rd heaviest flyer on cheerleading and theres about 4-5 flyers who are lighter than me and I want to be one of them. I make up so much excuses just so I can't eat. I've told at least 5 people one of these lines.. "I'm going to have a big dinner when I get home" or "I already ate a ton before I came" You're probably thinking gosh she's a liar. It's not my fault, I can't control this. When I do eat, I feel sick to my stomach and I feel guilty. I don't feel guilty when I don't eat. I currently weigh 97lbs and i'm 5'0 and supposibly i'm already underweight but I really want to weigh 93lbs again. My parents are oblivious to the fact that I hardly eat anything, I'm glad because then they would start making me eat more and more. I have a cold and I hate it.
Am I anorexic? I'm really confused right now! I rate 5's (link)
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I know exactly what you mean. I am thirteen and just a few monthsago I just stopped eating(which by the way is wierd because I eat more than three meals a day). I wieght around 128 and am still not sure why I stopped eating. I prefer to call it Subconxiously Anorexic. I am sure you know what subconsious means so am possitive you can figure out what I mean. I knew I wasn't eating and I hated myself for it. I was the same way you are now. I didn't decide to do it it just happened. I love food terribly but I got sick at it all. My mom asked me one day if I was on a diet and said no even though I knew I was doing it subconsiously. I forced myself to eat three sqaure meals a day and now I am back to my normal eating schedule. I am not fat or chubby I just didn't like me. I am not a cheerleader mainly because I am homeschooled but also because I hate the fact that most of them grade you by your wieght and features. I am a curvey girl and have a nice sized butt. (not to big nor to small) But you need to force yourself to start eating again. You feel so much better trust me. I know from experience. I hope you make the right choice even if it does take you a while. At least you are aware of what is happenning to you and searching for help. -ask2recieve
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I am about 5'5 and weigh about 110 lbs. I plan to eat special k for breakfast everyday and drink plenty of water throughout the day and ocassionaly a diet coke and red bull. If I do this for 3 weeks how much weight do you think I could lose if I also lift weights and do crunches plus run 10-15 minutes a day? (link)
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You are 110 pounds. I am thirteen and wieght around 130. I am not fat either. Why do you think you need to lose wieght exactly? If you just want to be healthy then that is fine but if it is for another reason then I say stop and start anew. But I guess if you have a schedule planned then that is better than making yourself puke and/or taking pills and such. Do as you wish as long as you don't go to drastic measures on it.
-ask2revieve
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13/f is it normal to feel normal looking at some of the same sex naked but feel weird about looking at some naked of the opposite sex? i kno its sonfusing but im really freaked out cause there r pop ups on my computer with naked people and i dont care about the girls but the guys seem kinda grose to me....i am boy crazy tho...plz help me out! i rate high! (link)
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Well, I wouldn't get all worried about it. Looking at the same sex and being normal about it is perfectly fine. It is hard to find the right words to put down. You are female so you are used to those body parts but the body parts on males isn't what you are used to. There is nothing to freak out about really. My advice probably hasn't helped any but I tried my best to help.
-ask2recieve
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