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Lonely Friend
Before I start I'm a sixteen year old girl.
Well I have my first boyfriend now but that's not what this is about. Well you see my friend is feeling left out because both me and our other friend now have boyfriends and she doesn't. She has liked this same boy for three years now but nothing is happening between them. He hardly even looks at her anymore. She doesn't want to give up on him because she knows she won't like any other guy. I keep telling her to go up and talk to him but she is the shy "wait for him to come to me" kind of girl. I feel bad for her but I don't want to break up with my boyfirned just because she is feeling left out. She has met and gets along really well with both my boyfriend and our other friend's boyfriend but she never wants to go anywhere with any of us. I would never put my boyfriend above my friends and my boyfriend understands that. We ask her to come to football games or movies with us all the time but she thinks she'd be getting in the way. What should I do?
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You should have a girls night out more often like at least once a week or something that way she won't feel left out. Also the three of you could have a talk about the boy she likes and how they can become more then friends. I hope that I helped but if not please visit me at my column.
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maybe you should have a girls night out were its just the girls so she wont feel so left out and if she really likes that guy maybe you can start being friends with him that way when you see him at the mall or something you can go and talk to him with her and then she can start feeling less left out.
p.s. i hope everything goes the way you want it to.
*A$hl3y*
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You should try to encourage her and boost her confidence. You need to let her know that she needs to take risks to get anywhere in life, and that she should make a reasonable attempt at getting a boyfriend. Let her know that if she does not try to get a boyfriend, she will never have one.
With her going with you places when you are with your boyfriend, let her know that you honestly do not care if she makes out with him, you just wouldn't mind. (Note: Of course you WOULD care, it would be used in exaggeration...) Invite her to another movie, and if she declines for such a reason, explain to her that you want her to go for her own enjoyment, and that believing she'd become intrusive is no excuse.
-Steven
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Well first off I would suggest having a special "girls night out" You know go see amovie go shopping whatever you guys used to do before you got boyfriends.
Not this may just be me but you should butt in and become a match maker. Talk to the guy she likes or have your boyfriends talk to him. Don't allow either of you to tell or give a hint ot him about your friend liking him because that could mess everything up. Ask him if there is a special girl he is looking at. If he answers yes then ask who is it. But don't say it quiet like that. Do things your own way but get them together if they like each other.
About your friend being shy tell her that she doesn't need a guy to make her happy and that if she wants him to go and get him. Push her teach her.
If you need anymore help them just email me at charmedgirl4sure@yahoo.com Hope my advice has helped. -ask2recieve
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