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16/f. This year, I am taking very hard classes and I'm trying my hardest to do very well in them. This puts a lot of pressure on me- and I've noticed that much of the time I seem very anxious. I can't relax about anything- I can't sleep well, and randomly my heart starts pounding. It's not to the point of racing, and it's not like a medical condition, it's just like the "butterflies in the stomach" thing. The problem is, I don't have butterflies in my stomach... I'm just really stressed out all the time. I eat right, exercise, and I look and feel very healthy. Yet whenever I have a lot of homework to do or anything, when I think about it I start to feel really weird, uncomfortable, and sometimes even shaky, as if I had just chugged an energy drink. Any help? Suggestions on how to calm down? (link)
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You are more than likely having panic attacks. I've had them and it is scary and frustrating. Everyone is different but I'll say what helped for me. I found that I had to totally stay away from caffeine. I didn't drink coffee but soft drinks with caffeine would make it worse. Eliminating them helped alot. I also used a ginseng supplement ( Ginsanna Gold). It gives a calming effect and makes the mind think more clearly. I had added exercise but i'd also do something slow enough that I could think and clear out my head like almost talk myself through my all of my problems. Stress is powerful. It's normal to want to do well in your classes. Maybe looking at your schedule and how you go about your classes would help. If you can find a way to be more efficient, you will get more down and probably do better. It may make you more comfortable with your standing. I hope I was of some help.
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how do you really get to know a guy that you're interested in? what topics can you talk about so that after some time you really feel like you know them and they know you? (link)
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I don't know how well you know this guy. I will assume you never spoke at all. First you have to start just saying hello to him. A smile and a hello goes a very long way. But you need to have a few conversation pieces. You'd probably be too uncomfortable to comment on his smile or anything. In that case, you want to comment on a possession of his most likely. For example: "I really like your necklace. What is the story behind it?" You don't want to just ask "Where did you get that necklace?" He'll say "the mall" and then the conversation is over. If you have a class with him maybe tell him how funny one of his jokes was and how he always cracks you up. Little things like this are nice but you aren't throwing yourself at him. It may help you both getting used to talk to one another. You want to take this to where you talk to each other when you see each other. If you don't know what to say to him, ask him questions. This will keep conversation going plus he has to think what to say while you can think of the next question. But ask questions to the answers he just gives you. Asking questions shows that you are interested in what he thinks or things about him. Just don't ask yes or no questions. You want to ask questions which force him to give longer answers. It really helps conversation. Now lets say you two begin talking routinely. You will want to take things up a notch. I'm assuming you are still in school. But maybe one day while talking say something like " this is too much to talk about at this moment, why don't you tell me over lunch?" You can also just be talking about maybe movies or some activity that you both like and use it to be closer. Like if you both say you want to see the same movie that is on dvd. You can say something like "I never saw it either, why don't you come over so we can both see it together." Girls normally don't ask guys out on official dates, but you can ask him out to hang out. That way he can be around you and maybe think of you in new ways. That's how I would suggest getting to know on another. But you did ask about topics to discuss. In the early stages keep things light. Topics like movies, sports, music, tv shows are generally safe ones and can help find common ground. But talking about family can be a good topic. It is if you find similar things in your own family relationship and show how you both have similarities. Like if he says his dad is a bad cook, you may say "mine is too,...this one time my dad made..." and tell your funny story. It will help you have a bond and shared experiences. Normally you want to stay away from topics like religion, politics, the death penalty, and abortion. People need to be pretty good friends before those things can be talked about. You have to respect the other person before you accept that they have a different opinion. So stay away from that. Normally though, it doesn't matter what you talk about. You just have to have a flowing conversation. Plus it's fun knowing you can talk about anything and not get stuck. So no yes or no questions. Say "what are your thoughts on football?" instead of "do you like football?" You should be fine. All you need to do is have the courage to talk. If you do that you can't go wrong. He may not ever feel like you want him to but you can get to know each other. I hope I was some help.
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ok i need help asap! this guy that i really really really like well we've been talking for like forever now about doing stuff. and i already promised him i would. like promised for sure. but now i'm getting really nervous about it.. like i'm scared to death, but i really want to do stuff, stuff as in i'm going to give him a blow job and he's going to finger me. i've never done any of this so please help me! any tips on what to do?, how to make it not awkward?, and how to not be so nervous? thanks a ton! (link)
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You are at a difficult stage of life and it's normal to be nervous about such things. I do say to step back a moment though. You do need to decide if you are nervous just because you don't know what to do or if you aren't sure if you are ready. If you aren't ready then wait. Only you will be able to know that though.
Let's say you have decided you are ready. If you google "how to give a blowjob" there would be numerous sites devoted to answer that. Check out a few and take in what you can. The thing is, it's your first time. It will be new and awkward. That won't always be the case. You don't have to be perfect. To a large extent, when it comes to this, it's the thought that counts.
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Either I have very boring friends, or I'm a really boring person. Either way good conversation doesnt come easily for me. How do I get quiet people to talk, and keep a conversation going well? I'm going into high school in 3 days, so I want to make more friends and be popular, but after I introduce myself, theres a big gap in the conversation, and its awkward. (link)
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Asking people questions about themself is a good idea, because most people like talking about themself. Also, what topic do they know better than themself? One thing that is very effective is to ask open ended questions. (they aren't necessarily questions though) But instead of asking "do you get along well with your parents?" say "tell me about the relationship with your parents". If you say the first example the answer will be yes or no. That creates a lull in the conversation. The lulls and quiet moments are what kill conversation. If you need to, think of the questions you would like to ask but tweak them so they aren't yes or no questions. If need be have set questions you ask people. Even if you ask everyone you meet the same things, it is only an old question to you. These things are sales techniques but they are used to create rapport and that is exactly what you want. Good luck and if you need any more detail feel free to ask.
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I started working at this place, and gave one of my co-workers my number. we text everyday & he calls me, we talk online, etc. & at work we're always flirting. the only thing he is he's 5 years older then I am (making it illegal) he turns 21 about two months before I turn 17. We're of different cultures & religions, but I can't help falling for him.
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I don't know what state or country you live in. You really should look up the age of consent where you live. There are charts online that will answer this for you. In the United States someone 16 or 17 could date a 20 year old in most states. If memory serves me right, even a 21 old could be dated. The laws are normally set up so someone in high school couldn't date a teacher. Since most starting teachers are 22 or 23, I'd think the situation may not be as bad as you currently believe.
here is the link to wikipedia.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ages_of_consent_in_North_America
according to it the age of consent in new york is 17. laws always change though, so it wouldnt be bad if you research it on your own. I hope i was help.
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my friend (we'll call her B) really likes this boy (we'll call him C) but he doesn't like her. like at all. B hasn't exactly been the best friend in the world right now (quite frankly she's been a total bitch) and she's backstabbed me before. the other day she used one of her s/n's to try to get C's out of one of his friends. the bad part of this: she said she was ME. without my permission. i, naturally, got totally pissed off && wanted to punch her in the face. now, i kinda sorta like C. so, should i date him if he were to ask me? not as payback at B but b/c i actually like the kid. he's funny, who wouldn't? so, the question is, should i date him and watch B crash && burn (and quite frankly not care at all) or let her go on trying to get him when he doesn't like her && let her find that out for herself. please help! (link)
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Is the friendship you have with the girl worth keeping? If you really want to keep it then you can't go after the boy. Otherwise, sure go for it. Do keep this in mind though. Since she is/was your friend, she can make your life a living hell. She already knows your s/n's. She probably knows things about you that you don't want to get out. You can expect these things to be known if you go out with him. There is a cost to going out with him. You don't really seem to have any emotional ties to the girl though. Which in that case, I say sure go out with him.
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Well my friend gets mad extremely easy and at school on thursday morning she thought I was mad at her so she avoided me and told a lot of people that I was mad at her( I wasn't though) Then at lunch I went up and asked her if something was wrong and she told me that everything was fine but the rest of the day she was very rude to me and she began acting like she was mad so I was very concerned. So Friday I assumed she was mad at me and I avoided her at all costs and I talked to ONE friend about what she was doing. This friend went and talked to her about it and tried to get information to see if she was really mad or not. I was bound to ask her myself at one point but she knew that I had put this other girl up to asking her. So this girl came back and told me that she said she wanted ME to talk to her about it. So I did and that same thing has happened before where I have asked someone else to find out for me...but two days ago she had doen the same thing. She accused me of talking about people behind her back and she said that if I am going to do that then she doesn't want to be friends with me. We have been avoiding each other since and its really hard because we are with each other most of the time. We go to the same church, we have many classes and extra curricular activities together, so pretty much I need to smooth things over, but I don't know what to do and how to do it? Can you please help me?
Sincerely,
Alli
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Is it really worth all of the bother? If what you say is accurate, she is just being a baby over nothing. It is very stressful to be around people like that and this won't be the last time. If she was wrong, she knows she was. She will come to her senses. If you go running to her and wanting to make it all better each time she is like this, she's going to guilt trip you every time she wants her way. If you did nothing wrong and she still wants to behave like this you shouldn't do all of the work. Be pleasant but keep your distance. Be just cold enough that she may realize that she has done something wrong. If she is a friend she will wake up. She could get upset of course but perhaps you would get into the argument which seems needed.
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- Sorry its so long
Ok so i have a friend who is like OBSESSED with this guy named ralphy and they used to go out and stuff but they broke up. She says he loves him. Ok so the have sex and i guess this is what she does to try to get him back. I have a feeling they wont EVER get back together because he likes this other girl but isnt dating her because her mom wont let her. Ok so he practically uses her. She doesnt realize it. The gurl he actually likes still hangsout with him and stuff but whithout her mom knowing. My friend constantly tells me she wants to kill herself when she either see's them together or finds out the were together. Im really scared for because he doesnt want her anymore and shes going to end up hurt in the end. Wat should i do to help her out? (link)
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She's definitely foolish for having sex with him still. A guy is more likely to want to get back with someone because of lack of sex. Most guys want sex anyhow. What would possess him to change how things are? He can sleep with your friend anytime he wants and gets to walk away. That is actually a fantasy situation for alot of guys.
Your friend has to see that just because she wants a guy, that doesn't mean she gets to have him. She should stop having sex with him. If she does, i'm sure her phone won't ring for long. Maybe then she will see the real situation.
You are in a bad situation. When a friend is blind to things that are obvious to others it's easy to feel hopeless. I've heard Doctor Phil say this. "The definition of insanity is to repeat the same action and to expect a different outcome." Her having sex with him and expecting him to come back is exactly that.
What you can do is be a good friend. If she needs someone to cry to, try to listen. Be there to hug. Be there to cry with her. If you do that she will at least feel some security. She may also realize what she has here in terms of friends.
I'd think she would probably resent any bad words you use towards her ex. She wouldn't want to hear how she should move on.
When she is rational and talking about negative things, you can talk her up. YOu can tell her how she deserves someone that wants her and loves her and things like that. Say positive things about her and let her be the one to say negative things about him. Hopefully she will come to her senses.
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I just have a feeling that ym best friend hates me now, I don't know why and i know this isn't really helpful information for you guys but that's all I can say. There's nothing really i've been doing much but keep asking her for hlep with my work since she's so smart. Not copying, gettign help like tutoring. Everytiem i see her now or say hi she goes "-.- what do you want.."
Anything i can do? high school teachers arne't that nice for help.. (link)
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There is always the chance that maybe somebody was spreading rumors or just had said something behind your back. Maybe she just wanted a bigger thank you for her help and felt she was slighted. The best way to know is to ask. That doesn't mean she would tell you.
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20/f My little sister died eight months ago and all but one of my friends in college completely failed me. They continued to spend most of our time together talking about and doing things I couldn't participate in. They often played violent video games when I was in the room even though I told them how much it bothered me (and they weren't playing when I eneterd the room). They even criticized how I was grieving and got mad at me for being a killjoy. I have spoken with them over a dozen times about how their behavior often excludes me or just makes me feel worse. I know it's selfish, but I wanted to be the center of attention for a little while, while I healed from my tragic loss- but they refuse.
I am moving away soon, and would really like to forget most of them and never return. Only, two of them are getting married soon and I have been asked to be a bridesmaid. The only other bridesmaid is the bride's 17y/o sister who has no money and is very irresponsible. I would pretty much be on my own for planning the bridal shower and bachelorette party and I would be doing it from far away. This would take a lot of time, energy and money. I really don't feel like putting in any work for her- but I still would like to attend the wedding as I've never been to one and would like to see the one friend who went above and beyond to support me during my time of need.
I'm not normally this selfish. But the bride-to-be has treated me awfully. At this point I don't even care about her. She's getting married because she was pregnant (miscarried though, after knowing about the child for two weeks). She's only dated this guy for six months. And she's annoying and stupid. She doesn't know how much I dislike her because I see no point in intentionally hurting her.
Should I suck it up and help her anyway? Is there a polite way to refuse being a bridesmaid, but still be invited to the wedding? Or should I not go since my only motives are selfish? (link)
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You can always see the one really good friend. Since the Bride was so awful, I'd probably be petty about things. With what you have been through, I'd probably agree to be in the wedding and not fulfill any of the obligations. I see no reason why you should have to make her day wonderful. I think the opposite is in order. Ler her have her bachelorette party in a wal mart parking lot for goodness sakes. lol Seriously, weddings will come. You'll just be bitter through all of this. You're better off not getting involved.
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okaay this might be long.. but here we go.
1st guy- ive been dating him for awhile. hes really sweet and funny and fun to be with. but hes a prep and all so im scared he'll leave me when someone better comes along. he's like the perfect boyfriend. he always assures me that he loves me and sends sweet text messages and tells me every morning to have a good day and that he loves me. and he kisses me 234723 times when we go places. im reaaally comfortable around him. but bad things. but only problem is im really scared hes going to leave me. hes told me himself that he has a commitment problem and we fought about it but now hes saying its fine and he'll never leave me..but he lies..alot.. and thats what happened last time.. he told me he'd never break up with me then he did. but then he came back and i took him back. but i dont know. okay..
next guy.. ive known him since 4th grade.. we've always kinda been friends.. we tried to date last year but it never worked but we stayed friends.. then we tried again in may but it didn't work. okay so now. he likes me again. but he's serious this time. like before we never really talked about it, it was just immature stuff. he's into ALL the same stuff as me. i've been to his house a few times and we get along good but he's just kind of too mature for me. he can cut up and have fun but i dont know.. im scared that if i break up with the other guy for this guy that he'll say he doesn't like me anything.. then the other guy won't take me back because he's just like that. but anyway about this guy. he doesn't date around much, i think thats a good thing. he's sure about me though.. he said he wants something serious with me. he's mature and if it worked we would be together and possibly get married. that's what i'm looking for. i'm done with messing around with guys and stuff. i would rather stay with the first guy.. but i have a feeling im just wasting my time. i mean i love everything about him and it would be so hard for me to leave him..but it might be worth it..omg i dont know what to do.
help.
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It sounds like both of the guys are wrong. The first one lies alot. That's just not a good thing. The 2nd is hot/cold on you. You deserve someone that loves you every day. Don't get me wrong, even the best relationships have bad moments. It just seems you need more than what either guy could ever give you. The second guy talking about marriage just sounds like he is trying to emotionally trap you.
If nothing else, I'd say it's at least right to stay with the first guy. No outside person should be a reason why you leave your current relationship. If it doesn't work and the other one loves you so much, he will be available.
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im dating this guy whos two years younger than me. Is that bad? OPINIONS PLEASE
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If neither of you knew one anothers age, would you be happy? would you connect? In other words, do you have noticeable problems? If you do then it may. But this age difference will always be there. Can you live with that? Can he? If you both can, then it doesn't matter.
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im 14/f
how do you make ur arms less skinny without muscels
i want my arms to be bigger but not like body builder arms
i've tried 2 stuff myself this week but its not workin & after every meal i get so stuffed that i have 2 lay down is there an easier way to make me fatter
i was lookin for weight gaining granola bars but all i found was like weight loss bars where can i fing weight gaining bars (link)
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Don't look to make them bigger by stuffing yourself. That will make you bigger all over. Odds are, you will never have body builder arms. Most girls can't get like that even if they want to. Your best bet is weight training. If you aren't physically there yet, start with pushups. You may need to do pushups from your knees or wall pushups since you are a girl. But they are effective and will give you tone and strength. Once you are used to that, add weight training such as arm curls, tricep extensions and dumbell shoulder presses. These will help more of the upper arms than forearms but that is normally more of a trouble spot.
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16/f
for about a year know ive been staring to develop feelings for some of my friends, but these are my girl friends not the guy friends! ive never told any one this because i wasnt actually sure if it was happening. but now im actually catching myself having sexual fantasies about girls, as well as guys! ive had sex with a guy and im not real interested in having ity with a chic cauz i just dont see how that works but its just the bodily contact that gets me into trouble with my girl friends. i even have a bigger problem cuz i just rescently found out that one of my girl friend crushes is bye and it's taking alot out of me not to tell her how i feel, but then again i dont want to tell her cuz she has a bf and i have a bf!
does anyone think that i might be bye? if i am what shoul i do about it???
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It sounds as if you are bi curious. Only you really know though. Everyone is a little bit gay or bi. For most of us it isn't too confusing though. What you need to do is this. Be honest with yourself. Your mind and body knows exactly what it wants and needs. You have one life and you should do what makes you happy. If you decide that you are interested in girls or in one particular, maybe talk to them about it. Since it's new to you and yuo are embarassed somewhat, i'd suggest to not come on too strong or anything. You wouldn't want your friends who aren't bi to feel awkward. Girls are better with the whole bi thing than guys. Maybe hang out with the bi friend of yours and as her about how she knew she was bi and just tell her that you've recently found yourself wondering about girls. She could probably help you with the thoughts and you would get to experess your thoughts with someone face to face.
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so my boyfriend really wants to do 69. but i don't know if i want to or not? anybody have any experiances with it? please tell me what you think about it. thanks (link)
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Well it's definitely a good thing if both people are into it. Most people like giving and even more people like recieving. Think of it this way. If you like cake and pie, wouldn't you like both cake and pie on the same plate? lol If you are comfortable about sex, then you should give it a shot. The very worst is that you can rule it out for down the road. If you two communicate and listen it more than likely will be a wonderful experience.
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So theres this guy whos kinda my friend. He likes me and i dont like him. I'm sorry but i could never like him. Hes just not doing it for me. Hes sweet, but hes not friends with my friends, and hes like my little brother. Hes going to ask me out. What do i do?
Also, my close girlfriend has a boyfriend who told me he loved me the day after he asked my friend out! i said i didnt like him but he said that he wouldnt give up on me. Its so weird because he didnt break up with his gf! i dont know whether to tell my friend or not.
What should i do about both guys?? (link)
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I'm answering these in reverse order. You have to decide if the boyfriend just meant he liked you or wanted to go out with you instead of the friend. If he wanted to go out with her, you should tell her. You can never date him anyhow and remain friends with her. Plus she should know that his mind is wandering.
Be gentle with the that likes you. Then again, maybe it's a good thing he isn't friends with your friends. You would get to have choices and actually get away from your friends once in awhile. Sometimes it is good to go out with someone totally different than what you are used to. In college people end up in totally different circles and it really opens one's eyes. Different isn't bad necessarily. Try to keep an open mind. But it does seem that this guy isn't a looker. There isn't much you can do about that sadly.
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17/F
So yeah. I'm friends with a lot of boys in my school. Girls have never really liked me, so I surround myself with boys. I have about 20 good guy friends. All of my guy friends and even some guys that I'm not really friends with always make sexual references towards me. Anything that has to do with anything sexual, they'll bring me into it. They call me a slut, a whore, a hooker, whatever. I know they're joking around, but why do they do it? It's always me. It's always been me thats been called the slut or the whore.
The thing is, I am in no way a slut. I've kissed two boys in my life. They know that. I know I'm not skanky. But why do they say all these things to me? They all always watch me eat at lunch too, especially if I have a banana or something haha. Does this mean that they like me? That they think of me in that way a lot? What does it mean because its been confusing me for a year. Any input would help. Just so you know, it doesn't bother me emotionally. They're not taunting me or anything, it can just get annoying. (link)
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It isn't right that they call you a slut or anything. But sometimes people will call attention whores that as well. Possibly it comes across as if you seek attention. If a girl is like that with guys, it may make her seem promiscuous (sp)
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I KNOW THIS IS LONG BUT PLEASE READ!!!
okay so my whole "problem" started in september when my friend gave this fine guy my number his name is edwin rodriguez he called me that night and we talked the whole weekend. then on sunday he asked me out i said yes. He did tell me that him and this other girl just broke up but he said they only went out for 2 weeks and he felt nothonig for her. well the a week and a half while we're going out he told me they kissed. he cheated on me. the first time that ever happened to me. but since he told me i didnt break up with him. but at the end of the week we broke up. because he still had feelings for her. but over the weekend we were still talking. and he asked me back out sunday. but then monday i broke up with him because i knew deep down he still had feelings for her. well we were still casually talking to each other he still walked me to my classes and stuff. well then i went to the homecoming dance. and i must say i looked pretty good. =] laugh out loud. but anyways he was there and yeah he did try to talk to me before he did cindy (that girl he still has feelings for) but i blew him off. just to show him. but thats when he went running to cindy. i was PISSED. so i was all over this other guy. but at the end of the night they were together. crap. well about 2 weeks past and they were stil together. and then they broke up and he I.M.ed me on myspace. saying yeah you were fine as hell at the dance and all this stuff. and he was like DONT TELL CINDY. i didnt. we talked on the phone that night too. I remembered why i fell for him to start with. But i was talking to my ex korrie. like we was gonna get back together. he is a really GREAT guy i should of stuck with him. But i didnt. that weekend i went to the "movies" and got picked up from there by edwin and his friend dra and ingrid was driving. we went to the top of the city. it was all perfect. we cuddled and kissed the whole time he told me he loved me he said all of the sweetest things to me. i believed it. so then were on the ground looking at the stars holding each other. =]. well we were SO close to having sex but i had a promise ring that i wouldnt have sex till marriage. a promise to God a promise to my mom a promise to everyone. and he said i'll wait for you. i wish i could have froze time then because after this all hell broke loose. well i got back to the movies right on time. but i snuck out later that night 3:00 in the morning. once again we were all snuggled up. but this time i gave it up. =[
it wasnt worth it. i wish i could take it back but i can't. we stuck it in about 5 times and then he stopped. he said he didnt feel right. he took off the condom and got up. he said oh my gosh babe i took your virginity. he was pretty much flipping out.it was his first time too. so at first at school we kept it on the dl and i had to btell korrie we couldnt see each other. i told my closest friends what happened but i told the wrong person and every1 in school knew. i guess it was a really big deal because it was me. no one would ever think me. but yeah. so we went out for a week and a half. and he told me he STILL had feeelings for her. i broke down. i gave him my virginity something i can't give anyone else i thought we were really gonna be together. my mom found out to i hurt her so much she wouldnt let me talk to him or anything! she was almost about to switch schools. but she didnt. well we broke up. thats when i relized that was the biggest mistake of my life. he is going out with her now. again. on her myspace is all this stuff with him and her kissing and she said they're in love. it hurts so bad. i dont know what to do. do i let him go. or keep holding on. please someone help me (link)
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It doesn't seem like there is anything to hold on to. It seems that since he took your virginity that you want to be with him in order for it to seem like fate. That's not the way to go.
You made a mistake. We all do. Promise rings are more to give parents hope than anything. People have sex. Most people don't make it to marriage. You're normal. You're human. Waiting until marriage used to be possible, but people were getting married at 15. It's unrealistic to think you are going to be perfect and not give in to tempation.
You did make a promise to God and I know you feel bad about not keeping it. But do you think you would have made this promise without pressure from your family? More than likely you wouldn't have.
You didn't do anything highly wrong. In a perfect world we would all wait until marriage and would only be with one person ever. This isn't a perfect world and you aren't a perfect person. If your worries are with God, then God knows how you feel about it. God forgives all of those that ask.
Since really he only just penetrated and you two didn't complete what you started, I don't even know if I would count it. It is an intimate moment yes and yes penetration but it is gray area in my mind. It's still not quite the same as giving yourself completely to someone and ahve someone do the same for you.
You're going to get through this. But you did learn a lesson on what friends to not tell secrets to. That friend created more problems than you did.
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Once I knew she doesnt feel the same about me I started to feel that knife in my heart. I had in me for 8 years and I still cant get over her...she is my best friend and I see every other weekends. How do I get over her? People say be busy (I go to work and still think of her) People say meet knew people (When I do I feel like I am using others to get over someone)
People say move on (when and how?)
I guess I have to deal with this...
PS I told her I felt and she says she not feel the same. we are still good friends and we do hang out alot with our friends too.
I am basically her only friend she hangs out more often she has other friends too but we hang out more and with my other friends also. I cant just leave and not be her friend it is unfair to her.
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Normally when people get over someone it is because of finding someone new or by hating the former object of their affection. Meeting someone new doesn't seem and option and it's apparent that you don't want to hate this girl. I do think you should cut down your time together. Every time you see her you will relive all of this.
You still want to mourn everything and have emotions to get out. Set a time frame to how much more you will let yourself go through this. "I'm going to mourn for the next 2 weeks and that's it." In that time, write down all of your thoughts, cry, think all that you want to. But have a date set for a new start. This gives you a chance to vent. This gives you a chance to think. Plus it lets you visualize an end to the suffering and a new beginning. People with addictions offer use similar ways to start fresh. It should help with your situation as well. But go through your time of mourning and the last night of it, think of how the next day a fresh start. When you wake, just keep telling yoruself that it's a new beginning and fake it it for awhile if need be. I know it sounds silly but if you can pretend to be positive it makes you positive in time.
You've been through alot. There isn't much worse than having an unrequited love. I've been there and I know you have no easy task. This can be overcome though. It takes time, but you can't keep thinking of what could have been. You took your shot. Alot of people never take it. Alot of people never get to say what they feel or get to have that moment. You did well. Having that kind of courage is going to allow you to find the one for you down the road.
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Me & this boy Michael have been together since summer, and I don't know what to get him for Christmas. He's 17 & likes everything. He's into surfing and guitar if that helps, but he really does like anything! I'm willing to spend about $60. Any suggestions? (link)
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Since he likes guitar, try to find the guitar music (i mean what would be played on guitar) for some of his favorite bands online. You could print out all of the songs that you can find for each. Then maybe make it nice by binding them into a book for him. You can add personal touches to it. It keeps costs down and is personal. Plus, any person playing guitar wants to play songs by their favorite artists.
NOTE-- you would want to go to guitar tablature sites aka guitar tabs. --i play guitar and know that players are picky about strings, picks, and other accessories. So such items are a tricky present and most are expensive.
You could also purchase guitar effects. Danelectro makes several effects of pretty good quality and at affordable pricing. If you wanted a rough idea on pricing and just wanted to see photos of what I mean, go to www.danelectro.com
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